₦airaland Forum

Chilipepper:
Writer Solomon Buchi shares why women should take a career break to be present during their children’s first seven years.

Children equally need their fathers during those first 7 years. Research has shown that children who bond with their fathers during those years tend to do very well later on in life. So, why not give this advice to fathers so they can consider taking a break from their careers to be stay-at-home husbands?

obailala:
✓ So after I work hard and make billions, I should ride around in a wheelbarrow cos
✓ I want to please ... and some other inconsequential fellows who feel triggered by my existense?

You keep trying to sidestep, in vain, the fact that this is, after all, about getting paid right here on earth though. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2. Christianity is a religion where your gods-of-men get what is due them here on earth while you, their members, dream of someplace called heaven. 😂😂😂

obailala:
✓ This should be common sense! A man needs money to survive here on earth, whether he's a pastor or a devil.

Ah! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

So, this money he needs to survive on earth is money for the latest jeep and the sort. Una many formats no dey disappointed! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

BItt:
✓ It's a way to guide them in such a way they will b able to interpret the truth in the future. For instance, Example is 16

How can lying enable ability to recognize or even interpret truth? How does that work when the facts on ground is that a majority who were raised in lies never ever recover to recognize truth from all of the lies they have been surrounded with all of their lives?

How has 16 ever helped in actually curbing the girl pregnancy rate which remains at an all time high to this very day?

seunayantokun:
✓ Wisdom is justified by her children, that's what Jesus Christ told me.
For the pure, all godly things are pure, but for the reprobates, nothing is pure.
Change today, therefore, by faith in Christ and live by God's word— not your perverted form of it— so that God can show you His mercy.

Stop spewing unnecessary bullsheet when cornered.

muyico:
Some were safety 🦺 measure, they using it to scared us from be greedy, cleaness,

Lies as safety measures? Sounds so much like manipulative tactics, same as that employed by politicians against the people... how has that worked out for anyone?

Druss:
➜If anyone doesn't want number 3, they shouldn't get married. There must be someone in the family who gives direction on spending money else house won't grow.

So, you would readily marry someone who would tell you how to spend your own money and when, without your agreeing to that person becoming your financial advisor or manager?

Reflect7:
✓ Aaah, ...
Why are you insulting the man for posting images of the Black Jesus and Mary and the apostles?
It seems you don’t actually worship God or Jesus.
You worship the white man. That’s so sad. When will you worship ‘in truth’ as your bible directs?

I didn't insult him. I simply pointed out that he is an adherent of the black-jesus myth, whose genesis is actually traced to mostly African American roots -- most likely 20th century beginnings.

I don't worship a white Jesus Christ; I am not religious. However, the fixation on the skin color of a man who was of Israelite decent and insistence that his skin matched one's simply because, speaks volumes of ones private insecurities.

Rossikk:
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This notorious inferiority-complex-laden tale bearer is back with his many tales again! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Wimkeh:
➜I just finished eating garri and egusi soup, just like that my head start paining me.
It happened before when I ate garri with draw soup. Anybody with similar experience?

What brand of garri? What manufacturer? Surely, you realize that there are 10s of 1000s of garri makers in Nigeria alone? How can eating just one of those many brands amount to eating all of Nigeria's garri?

nowtrending:
➜Pamela is a single mother who still believes in love. Chuks wants love too — but the moment he finds out she has a child, everything changes. He says marriage is a big deal and he’s not sure any Igbo family will accept a single mum. Pamela fires back: at least she was honest, many women would have hidden it. Is it true that in Igbo tradition, a single mother cannot easily marry? Is anything really wrong with marrying a single mum who wants love just like everyone else? If you were in Chuks’ shoes, what would you do? And if you were Pamela, would you even explain yourself? Can you marry a single mum? Or is love supposed to be enough, no matter the past?

The man, like most Nigerians, was obviously making that up instead of honestly declaring that he was not interested in marrying a single mother.

Achor1111:
➜Shift pls

Unable to reason that through, are you?

February30:
➜But, tell me why my husband would not tell me if my female friends are bad 😔? Her ideas needs balance.

If a woman told her husband his friends were bad... what would you think in that situation?

Achor1111:
➜And these gibberish ...?

Gibberish because to you, manipulation— the opposite of all listed— is instead your idea of what marriage is all about?

@Magnolia, you really should find time to read the book. It is a very interesting read
http://faculty.sgc.edu/rkelley/SYMPOSIUM.pdf

Kaczynski:
➜soul mates starts with friendship first. a lot of men are looking to smàsh not to be in the friend zone to find genuine people hard like f maths
➜ because a lot of women have been used and discarded, even men are not left alone in this

There are no such things as soulmates, to begin with. That makes this search for these "genuine people" a futile venture.

2. The damage inflicted by life on individuals hits men and women equally— both are equally used and discarded by others. So, harping on the supposed damage is meaningless in itself.

pastorarynzay:
➜No one should listen to her, any counsel that makes one the gender more important in carefulness in pick a partner is disastrous.

She never mentioned any particular gender, though. So why do you insist it makes one more important than the other? Or are you attempting to tell us that manipulation of the other gender is your particular love language?

muyico:
Some where true, maybe i put faith

Are you insinuating that your faith makes lies true? And people wonder why I go around revealing that religion is nothing but a scam fashioned against the mental capacities of individuals?

stormborn28:
➜You always come here to yeah nonsense.. there is a saying that history repeats itself. The flaw you mentioned in my wife like a said is not only perculier to her. There are people who learnt and adjusted. Meaning they were able to change such flaws. So writing too much here here in order to argue with me is foolish

It is peculiar to her because not all women are married to men who cook and clean. Stop pretending you are some sort of advisor or savior to other women. Focus on your wife and your problems.

seunayantokun:
Do your own will your own way, please.

Stop going around lying through your teeth to people!

illicit:
➜In Africa, eating more meat is the father or mothers right or your elder siblings or relatives. Those people don't really need the protein as much as the little ones. Yet the little ones get the least meat just because they are the youngest even though they need the protein more...

Actually, everybody in the house needs protein, and that is where the problem at the African meal table exists. Not enough protein is going around for all. Children definitely need to have their protein with every meal, and the adults in the house equally do; the older/fatter ones need more protein because of their weight. So, it is sad that the African meal table deprives some of needed protein, while those who get it still barely get enough of their daily need met.

Kenelekan:
When you get sense, come back and talk to me about marriage. You are repeating the same question I answered you on.

You have yet to answer the simple question I started with, hence the reason why I am breaking it down further to get a response from you. You claimed her list is a dangerous one, and I am simply trying to ascertain what you mean by your claim. Why are you having a hard time honestly responding?

Kenelekan:
What do you know about common sense red flag in marriage?

Common sense when courting is that you choose a partner that best suits you — one with at least only the red flags you can accommodate or endure, yes or no? The person you end up marrying should be that one person you should be able to live happily with and not someone you hope will change or morph for your sake, right?

seunayantokun:
➜That advice could be a poison, because it may not be understood in context.
➜ Marriage is a covenant, not a contract or absolute freedom to do what you like. For Instance, while you are not expected to control your wife or husband, you've got to be in agreement with what you do with your finances and how you relate with the family each of you has come from. More so each of you has become part of each other's extended family.
➜ Everything should be done in love and peace.
➜ That's how you get rest and tranquility. But to give or live by rules and regulations, it's a recipe for disasters.

1. Won ti de! Always hiding their wickedness and ignorance behind spiricoco bullsheet!

1. Ol, boy! A covenant is a type of contract between two people, two nations, etc. Marriage is an agreement, hence a contract between two people — a man and a woman— as recognized by the state. An agreement has to be signed off on by both parties for it to be considered an agreement.

If a husband tells his wife how to eat, drink, live, make friends, or relate to her family, he is attempting to control her. If a woman tells her husband how to eat, drink, live, and make friends, or relate to his family, she is also said to be attempting to control him. If they both agree to this setup in their marriage, then they are said to agree. If, however, they do not both agree to this level of control over each other's lives, then what you have is a manipulative relationship, not love!


3. Control is not love but manipulation.

4. Peace in manipulation is not false peace but rather a storm waiting to happen.

Kenelekan:
➜I cannot say much. As a married man, I know what am saying. Fact is there is no rule book for marriage. Follow her hook line and sinker at your own peril.

This isn't about rule books for marriage, but merely 5 suggestions on who to stay away from when considering marriage — red flags to note. So, are you telling us that those are not common-sense red flags that everyone, including yourself?

Kenelekan:
➜Infact , in all that she said, she gave an impression of someone who would not have a single husband in her lifetime, in hindsight

Huh?

stormborn28:
➜Who ask you all these nonsense...I only drop those two weakness of my wife
➜for any lady who may have such Defficiencies

Your statement was that you were telling girls....when the only girl you need to be talking to is your wife, whose particular character flaw you revealed.

2. Don't because you are not a savior to any lady out there, including your own wife, if you must know. Your woman's red flag is yours to bear since you wifed her regardlesss. Not everyone has the same red flag, and not every man has that particular issue as a red flag. Know this and gain wisdom!

stormborn28:
➜When I married my wife and she saw the way I dress the bed, the shown same jealous.. the reason I keep telling girls that if you don't humble and learn now your marriage may be stress. It is one aspect I don't get in my wife. It is very exhausting. I want my children to learn in a better way. I can cook very well. I learnt all these under my sisters

. You married a woman who is not happy that you know how you make your bed, and the fact that you can cook very well? That has nothing to do with other women but the woman you married. Face her! Work with her to figure out the particular source of her insecurity and how you can both go about resolving it.

Kenelekan:
➜The woman in the video get virus for mouth She sounds reasonable but there is a level of danger in every point she made

Are you telling us here and now that you are more than willing to marry one of those individuals she recommends against?

churro:
➜so quick to conclude and castugate without reading and comprehending. Pity.

There is nothing quick about my conclusion, and it isn't meant to castigate but rather reveal the truth of things as it is based on 1000s of years worth of evidence/facts.

illicit:
It is mandatory to eat meat (protein) as the last thing during a meal...

The eating of protein is good for you. You typically want to eat protein with each meal so you can get your daily protein intake at the end of the day. The average individual is expected to consume about 50 - 80g of protein each day, and if you check well, it is sometimes not easy unless you are intentional about it. Also, Protein is very much missing from the typical African diet.