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chigator2:
➜I am watching modern Christendom like an owl, just observing. Let them use time to reveal their true colors. I have seen a pattern of family members inheriting "God's pulpit" as if it is were to be family heirloom . ...

Na Buddhism dem dey try copy small small be that.

What Nigerians? Leave me out of it abeg!

Love800:
✓ When he is not actively providing, he is actively sourcing out for other means of making money.
✓ I can't be washing plates or doing mother roles, because am jobless. Never!

Again, actively sourcing is not same as actively providing. An unemployed individual-- not earning any income of benefit -- is not a provider. 🙄

2. The women who accept this as their lot are the ones I blame.

Redoil:
humans are free to believe whatever they choose to believe

Delusions a plenty, right? 👍

lexy2014:
✓ Is every human promiscuous?

Every human has the potential to become promiscuous. It all a matter of choices -- every one freely makes those.

Love800:
➜The man should be up-and-doing(serious) during that period. Showing signs of job-hunting or preparing for business he wish to do. When the wife acknowledge this, she will be willing to continue providing for the family.

Showing signs of job-hunting or preparing for business is not the same as having a job that brings in money. So long as he is not making money, he is not a provider. And OP's question is direct: what should the man's role be towards his family when he is not actively providing?

nowtrending:
➜Pamela is a single mother who still believes in love. Chuks wants love too — but the moment he finds out she has a child, everything changes. He says marriage is a big deal and he’s not sure any Igbo family will accept a single mum. Pamela fires back: at least she was honest, many women would have hidden it. Is it true that in Igbo tradition, a single mother cannot easily marry? Is anything really wrong with marrying a single mum who wants love just like everyone else? If you were in Chuks’ shoes, what would you do? And if you were Pamela, would you even explain yourself? Can you marry a single mum? Or is love supposed to be enough, no matter the past?

The man, like most Nigerians, was obviously making that up instead of honestly declaring that he was not interested in marrying a single mother.

Maeve7:
➜ You all make it about the woman. What is the man to do is the question.

It is a question for the man and woman to decide between themselves.
Whether
⚉ The woman bears 100% of the provider role as well as 100% of the chores on her shoulders alone(while the man does nothing in the meantime)
⚉ The man bears 100% of the chores alone while the woman focuses on handling 100% of the provider role
⚉ The man bears maybe 50% of the chores responsibility while the woman focuses on 100% of the provider role and maybe 50% of the chores
...it is all up to the woman and the man to decide for themselves.

AlexMuhangi:
➜I am a saint of God. I am pure, I am holy. I am not defiled. I have been fighting against the kingdom of darkness long before God thought me what spiritual warfare is all about. I can see spirits, I can see murderers, occult men, idol worshipers and many things words are limited to express. If you are not operating this high spiritually or understand these things I suggest you thread carefully.
➜ From your comment, it is not difficult to point out that you still have a long way to go but since you are a man, if I am you, I will be wise to be careful how I judge matters that is out of my league.

See dem... always spewing their spiricoco delusions with abandon. This na the same person wey talk say him go use fire abi na thunder damage another person's family. Nonsense and eegridient! 😶

Oga, call a professional mental health therapist or psychiatrist immediately. You are completely off your hinges, it seems! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

3. See as it flows freely from you...delusions of grandeur.... yet some of the most wickedly ignorant of beings! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I will repeat my third, abi na fourth advice to you on here too... stay away from women or any kind of intimate relationships with them until you have thoroughly sorted out your mental health there. If say social welfare day that country, I for ask make dem dey check on your kids too whenever they are around you.

AlexMuhangi:
✓ I am not with her and I want to weigh my legal options before divorcing her.
✓ I need to be financially capable to rain fire on that family when I come for my two kids. Ain’t letting no degenerate train my kids to be zombies.

From your writeup you hate for the woman did not begin today or last month yet you haven't made up your mind to divorce and distance yourself from here altogether. 🙄🙄🙄

2. Rain fire? And this is the one earlier spewing spiricoco bullsheet in order to have us believe he is the righteous soul in all of this. It was clearly a ruse to hide wickedness of his own. I do hope this will not end in one of you having to leave in a body bag is all.🙄🙄🙄🙄

AlexMuhangi:
✓ The level of immaturity I am witnessing in this platform is astounding. I don’t know if it has anything to with the fact that this platform is faceless. Honestly it’s been long I met people this irresponsible and childish.
It’s unfortunate there are people like you that are completely immersed in the system. I wonder what you will do after death, finding out that everything you were told was true.
You lack empathy and wisdom, I am not sure you deserve my response in respect to your questions. I know most people don’t use their brain which clearly you are among I would have asked you to ponder why you enjoy sad stories or other people’s pain.
You will see that it is a lame way to justify your miserable life you have. It would interest you to know that even in the midst of this chaos, I have peace that makes no sense. I am a child of God and sooner than I imagine, this too shall pass. Thank you for stopping by.

I see that in your world, everyone else is wrong but you. A simple question asking why you choose to remain in a marriage you particularly seem to hate causes you to begin convulsing in my direction. My suggestion to you again is that you get professional mental health counseling as soon as possible and at the same time take a long break away from religion, as it seems to be having some terrible effects on your ability to reason about reality. Also, consider staying away from women altogether until you attain mental maturity and are at least able to realize that you are 100% responsible for your successes and failures as an adult human.

See how this one dey try to use spiritcoco bullsheet to cover up what is clearly a blatant assault against his own wife, abeg? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

AlexMuhangi:
➜I have been engaging in serious fasting and prayers and my life has taken a remarkable turn. I began to notice that I can see in the spirit. God began to restore my abilities but I was still weak because of her continuous abuse and chaos.
➜ She provoked me to slap her one day after she refused to go to bank with me to print her statement of account. This was after we had a fight in the house when I realized she was selling goods I bought for the family business without my knowledge.
➜ This lady have really been used by darkness against me. I don’t even know what to type or leave out. I have met her with other men in fact I have been mocked by a young man who probably was sleeping with her. I am trying to put my life together but sincerely wish I could turn back the hand of time. I am soliciting for advice because this lady came with her relatives to beat me in my apartment and carried everything that was used to marry her back to her father’s house. She was pregnant with our second child which she kept regretting why she got pregnant. Honestly I have never witnessed this level of wickedness in my life. I am completely ignorant that someone can hate those that love them this much. She also connived with her family to liquidate the business I opened for her to manage to help sustain our family since because of her careless spending, stealing and witchcraft my business has been under serious attack.
➜ This morning I went to pick up the fan she left at the shop only to learn that she has sold my shop and packed everything inside. Honestly speaking I must admit that this family have tested me to my limit.
I lost my business worth more than 20m, assets, peace, joy and rest all in the space of two years just because I was unfortunate in marriage.
I am trying to pick my self up again but with this continuous sabotage from this lady and her family I seriously need help. I am about to lose everything I own if God does not intervene soon. I don’t honestly know where to go from here.

If we are to believe this woman is indeed a witch— according to you — and she is as terrible as you are here to inform us, it becomes important to ask you why you have yet to divorce her. Are you waiting until you are reported to have killed her before you realize you should probably be nowhere near marriage at all, to begin with?

This thread is a testament to the devastation that religion causes to the minds of seemingly ordinary people.

AlexMuhangi:
➜I don’t know where to start but I am a believer in Jesus Christ. Made my mistakes but God found me. This lady said she loves God too but as a naive Christian I took her for her words.
During the marriage celebration hell broke loose. A lot of things went wrong but I insisted. Thought I was fighting for the love of my life. It happened that I was set up. Her father tried to get her married to me with beer instead of palm wine. I am realizing today that it was not a mistake. Since I married this lady my life is full of battles. I have been praying since I married her and became more dedicated in the things of God because attacks was coming from everywhere. For a moment I never suspected the woman lying beside me. I have had countless dreams pointing at her but I always try to encourage her to pray with me. I didn’t know she intentionally wants me dead. In fact I have reasons to believe that she poisoned me in one occasion.
➜ She has been manipulating me from day one and abusing me all through the relationship I never had peace.
➜ This led me to study narcissism, only then did I began to realize what I was dealing with. When she saw that I am breaking free from her witchcraft she set me up with her father to take me to a witch doctor to bind me again but I am too conscious then to agree to such.
➜ She began to insult me and manipulate me to beat her so that she will have excuse to end the relationship. It important to note that I am an orphan and have been doing this life alone. This marriage have taught me lessons and have put me in a financial difficulty because she kept stealing my money.

The woman is not a witch; rather, it seems your mind is slowly going south, and you probably need to get professional mental health therapy soon.

2. If you believe the relationship is an abusive one, why are you still married to her? Why not simply divorce her and move on with your life, which you believe is better off without her?

3. Narcissism and witchcraft? You should probably get yourself an appointment immediately with a professional mental health care therapist.😂😂😂😂

4. Your being an orphan is not of importance at all. If you feel you are in a toxic marriage, immediately seek a divorce. If you believe you are in a situation that could potentially jeopardize your civil freedom, I suggest, again, that you seek an immediate end to the marriage. So, the more important question is, "Why do you choose to remain in this marriage which you hate?"

Lifestone:
✓ Jus believe whatever suits, it's obvious you are just arguing for its sake

Even though you are free to live your particular life in ignorance, you are wrong to prescribe it to others. Some would go as far as to say evil!

Lifestone:
✓ But you will agree with me that her mental health would have been better with another healthy child

I don't agree with you "marriage is the solution to mental health problems" crowd. There are mountains of evidence to suggest that people who are not mentally stable shouldn't even venture into such things as marriage or other complicated relationships until they have first removed the root problems. 🤔

Zocalite:
✓ [code][/code]Your comment is ridiculous
First how does it relate to the story
Secondly because we have multitude of fake pastors in nigeria doesn't mean every pastor is fake
The Bible has wrote about hirelings, calling themselves pastors, it remains for the Christ worship to locate a true pastor and fellowship with him

Every pastor is fake, a scammer hiding his or her fraudulent acts behind the mention of one deity or another. That is what religion is all about.

Lifestone:
➜Maybe you should read my comments again. It's still valid.
Emotions are our biggest problem as human.

How can suggesting remarriage as the solution to the guilt and pain—possibly shame as well —of knowing you are to blame for your child being deathly sick, and the mounting cost of medical expenses and care, be considered valid?

2. Indeed, emotions are, and you should probably work on your emotional intelligence some, so you can better understand how they work and how remarriage cannot possibly be a reasonable solution to emotional and stress-related issues.

bukatyne:
✓ No matter the ruling against the husband, it doesn't bring her back.
✓ Please don't die cheaply.

Justice has never been about bringing back the dead but more about righting a wrong, albeit in the Nigerian situation, it is quite hard to see how anything right can come from a system so turned up on its head. That said, justice should be pursued no matter what.

2. No question that she died cheaply! Even that lady who we heard died because her husband could not pay the bill also died cheaply. But that should never stop the wheels of justice in their tracks, and it should not be reason enough to say, "No!" to justice.

2elliot:
I don't know how my cousin did it, but his SS daughter has stopped falling sick after he was introduced to one traditional and herbal remedy for his daughter.

For how long? When was the last time you laid your eyes on her, and how long has she been symptom-free?

Lifestone:
But she could have remarried in 2006 to birth a non-sickler child. I think it's a multiple of mistakes

I see the meaning in her statement below is lost to you.

uzoka12:
I➜Please, know this before you fall in love, know your genotype. Love is truly a beautiful thing, but it is not strong enough to carry the weight of this sickness called sickle cell. Know your genotype before love blinds you. I lost everything because I didn’t.
- Eucharia Anunobi

GboyegaD:
➜Anyone can manipulate the kids to say anything.
➜ We both don't know the truth and if you want to keep arguing, good for you.

1. Ah! So, someone manipulated the kids into lying against their own father after their mother's death? Are you insinuating the kids were imbe_ciles and so their testimonies in this should not have been trusted? However, the testimony of a complete outsider who never lived in the home with the man and his wife should be, without even any signed report be valued?? 😲😲😲😲😨😨😨😨

2. I don't know anything about what you claim to know, that's why I keep expecting you to let us all in on the reason why you believe this man did not harm that woman at all and did not invariably cause her death by it.

olaolaking:
✓ Because the Christians are the only group that use the Bible as reference. They also insist that I must believe and trust the Bible. They have to explain why I should trust the Bible in this case

The book isn't referenced by them only, however, I do agree that they -- unrelated to the book itself --- make the most unnecessary noises about it.

We4all:
➜The judgement was based on sentiments and nothing was proven.
➜ How could he have been guilty of culpable homicide when she suffered an underlying ailment? In as much as I am against domestic abuse, ➜ Osinachi made the wrong decision by staying in an abusive marriage. The man shouldn't be punished for her stupidity. He should get a good lawyer to appeal the judgement.

Sentiments and not proven because?

2. Enenche reported that the man and woman showed up together, asking for a miracle for chest pains, which she had been having. How do you know the chest pains were not a result of his assaults? Why is the word of a fraudulent miracle monger — yes, Enenche is after all a scammer-in-the-lords—of greater substance in this? Where are the doctors' reports to certify that the chest problems were not a result of beatings?

3. So, because she stayed back in an abusive marriage, a very stewpid decision on her part, she had to die?

GboyegaD:
➜Did he kill her?
➜Was there any report of him beating her or just hearsay?
➜Did her pastor not testify she is sick?
➜Was she obligated to remain in the marriage?

1. What the f-ck am I reading here? Does he literally need to stab her in the heart before we can ascertain that she died as a result of the wounds and assault from his many beatings?

2. Yes, you mean his four kids did not testify to their father severely beating their mother in front of them? The pastor who kept sending her back into that battlefield did not confess to having known of the many assaults before she eventually died? Where the wounds were reported to have been found all over her body as a result of her falling down a cliff during a mountain climbing incident?
https://www.myjoyonline.com/osinachis-husband-warned-children-against-speaking-about-her-being-abused-nigerias-women-minister/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WFLsTmVGj-g?si=tzGBVWBQ25nHwZKR

3. You mean the same Enenche who tried to disgrace a woman regarding a BSc. Law issue some years back, abi? You actually think the accounts of such a man should be trusted over the accounts of the woman's own kids and relatives?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrfFmJZKvQg?si=cf5fWKQlY4WTtkKd

4. She was not obligated to remain in the marriage, but somehow the man was and so continued to batter her until her end for that, right?

Edoreborn:
This is outright rubbish..let me use myself as an example,,i married a woman that is very manipulative..She was very good outside but she gave me shege when we were alone..The problem started when she started visiting abuja frequently..She started comparing me with others to d extent that i saw numerous chat with men..i kept my cool because i loved her.. Meanwhile she was painting as a demon in front her family to d extent d ones in London would call dt they heard how av being calling them all sort of names..
To cut d whole story short,,d abuja lifestyles changed her n she started seeing other men..Pls,,men tolerate a lot in marriages..my only lucky charms why i didn't take laws into my hands was to relocate back to lag..What u don't see doesn't kill..story long sha.. inshort,,fear women...

So, that gives you the right to physically assault her, abi? You people are some of the worst of mankind in the excuses you fashion for your barbaric behaviors against your supposed partners!

GboyegaD:
➜The usual lopsided judgment in Nigeria. Did he murder her, did he force her to remain in the marriage or she kept trying to save face cos of her believes. Thought her pastor who is also a doctor said she had some liver disease?
To those who count this as the right justice, for me, it is a judgment against a poor man.

😯😯😯😯😯😯

WTF! I am not even certain the judgment was fair, but this statement of yours left me thinking WTF!!!😐😐😐😐

Dogalmighty17:
➜You'd need to know that none of the gospels were actually written by the apostles they were named after. And the earliest of them was written 70 years after the death of Jesus. It is hard remembering in detail incidents that happened decades ago. Even more so when the author didn't witness it but is writing based on narratives that were passed down.
➜The Bible is filled with such contradictions.

That supposition(in bold) is likely invalid given that Jerusalem was destroyed in 70 AD, less than 40 years after the death of Jesus Christ—31-33AD—, and the people either killed or exiled from the country around that same time. Scholars instead state that the time of the writing and the actual writers are unknown to them.

2. Most collections of books written by human authors in human languages are bound to contain contradictory ideas. This is almost a given since not all humans think alike or the same.

Sunnyshinylight:
✓ Sadist totally forgot that Nairaland is a news site accessible to billions of people around the world.

😂😂😂😂😂

Sunnyshinylight:
Please river state government should respond to to this environmental crisis as soon as possible. Cc The sole administrator Cc Minister of environment Cc World health organisation

Are those individuals here on Nairaland? Why not send messages directly to the offices in question or call directly?

FiveFootNinja:
✓ Recently, a game titled "No Mercy" came out on Steam. Long story short, the goal of the game is to force women into non-consensual intercourse.
The game was eventually removed from the platform after 50,000 signatures to a petition demanding it to be removed.
Users from sites like 4chan didn't take kindly to this and called out the hypocrisy of the gaming industry for celebrating games like Grand Theft Auto where innocent civilians can be killed recklessly without any reason. And this made me to ponder on the ethics of rape and what makes it so vile compared to murder. I have my opinions on the subject but I'll like to hear what others think first. It's an age old debate, but I really just want to pick people's brains here and understand their rationale for moral judgements. So in your view, which do you think is worse? Rape or murder? And why?

A game specifically for men, since I don't see women engaging at all -- to force women(and maybe girls too) into nonconsensual rape? And you think this is a broad debate about the ethics of rape vs murder?

MrGerald:
He lived a life of humility, he rejected Vatican apostolic palace for that small rented apartment, I remembered when someone gifted him a Lamborghini worth $800k but he sold it and donated the money to one of Islamic war ravaged country to help in rebuilding homes for the less privilege, he never cared about opulent lifestyle

See lame attempt at whitewashing the man's image, abeg! The internet is filled with tons of evidence to prove everything you said here of no real meaning or value. So, go debate that one with Chatgpt wey go get your time. 🙄🙄🙄🙄