₦airaland Forum

BrotherJapa:
➜So the lady is handicapped and incapable of self-sustenance as a responsible adult? Is that what you do? depend on a man for your finances? No wonder you are always here on NL, 2-4-7

Stop rambling abeg! 🙄

The gal — who wants a man to provide for her financial needs — is OP's choice. If OP wanted a woman who could provide for herself, he would have sought such a woman out but he didn't! This is simple!

kingmeme:
➜how do i spot the pls? av tried and its end up dsame

If that is the case, then it probably means you need to do more work on yourself as an individual. Stop chasing women and focus on developing yourself mentally and your social intelligence. This is 2025, and the best way to attract other partners interested in meaningful long-term relationships— not just leaches or hit-and-runs — is to work on yourself, your self-esteem, intelligence, and discipline. These changes won't cause you to find a girlfriend and wife over night but they will cause you to become better able to spot exactly what you need in a partner and also help you see these things in those who have them. Save you a whole lot of money in the end too.

kingmeme:
➜I'm feeling really down right now and don't know what to say. Generally, I'm a very mentally strong person, but this situation has left me confused. I'm 29 years old and at an age where I'm probably trying to settle down. Normally, I understand women and can read body language and aura quite well.
Recently, I approached three different girls, and coincidentally, all of them just turned 20 last month. During the wooing stage, I sensed certain things, but I kept pushing to satisfy my curiosity. After some back-and-forth, I started thinking the age difference might be the issue.
However, I later noticed a few things. I promised to give them a certain amount of money, and after some pressure, I ended up sleeping with all three of them. To test them further, I used another WhatsApp number to chat with these girls, pretending to be someone else, and they all agreed to meet for sex in exchange for money. These girls appear to be random, non-materialistic, and very responsible on the surface. It's disappointing because I thought their age and demeanor might mean they were different.
➜Guys, how do you find serious and decent girlfriends—women who are genuinely looking for love? I even thought 'catching them young' would make a difference, but I'm utterly disappointed. How do you spot wife material, and what are the techniques?

What exactly is this one rambling on about abeg? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. You met up with 3 gals who would rather collect money and maybe sleep with you than enter a committed relationship with you and that didn't set off flags to let you know that if you want a wife, you would need to find instead gals who would desire to be in a committed relationship with you? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Ndubuisipaul1:
➜Am in love with this lady. She loves me too. But she always ask me for money. If I had enough I will make sure I meet most of her need, due to how much I love her. But the issue is that I don't have enough.
➜So am withdrawing myself from her. anytime she discover that am withdrawing from her she will complain. I love her and it's hurt so much that I can't provide her with her basic needs. Am just asking God, Why can't you give me money to take care of this girl? She loves me I love her too but money no dey

You want to marry a woman who has financial needs and always asks you for money and you came here to tell us these tales why? So we can blame her for wanting to have a man who can provide for her financial needs?

2. If you want to break up with her, then do so by making it clear to her. Stop playing with her emotions already and grow some balls! You obviously know you are too broke for her and the only sensible thing for you to do is to break off completely with her so she can find herself a man who will love and also provide her with what she desires... end of story! 🙄

jaxxy:
➜there is something called bipolar and changes in personality. Lol By all mean call a LovePeddler a virtuous woman or call a man a woman because everybody has their own private ideas. We are all stupid now we don't even know good from bad anymore. Afterall anything can be relative or based of the figment of our personal imaginations.

Kobojunkie:
1. Personality changes how? Are you certain you understand what personality means? In the majority of cases, the only way that can change is in the case of brain/mental trauma or damage. Other than that, what changes and can be changed is a person's behavior and that is what you keep confusing with the other.

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Blackmoran:
➜Facing alcohol addiction too... The truth is nobody can help you... Is up to you... With all the advice people warn me about alcohol I didn't change... Until i decided on my on intent and volution to stop it.... Which was very hard cause once in a while I do relapse... But I can tell you since last year July I haven't tased it even though I have the urge...

Indeed! Adopting self-discipline in other to overcome addiction is never easy and there are no magic bullets. There is only the mind in question making the moment-by-moment decision to quit completely.

suasmablow:
➜The General Overseer of Omega Power Ministries (OPM) , HRM Apostle Chibuzor Gift Chinyere has expressed disappointment at the action of the Lagos State Government to demolish his church and the free school located at Cele.
He threatened to sue the Lagos State Government over the property who he alleged is about N1bn in value.

Threatened to sue? Why threaten?

Darlingme:
➜Have you ever had an experience of a tenant who has refused to evict a house even after the rent expiration? Despite all the notifications and reminders? Someone you told a year before and you kept on reminding him.
➜ What's the best option for such a tenant who is threatened you the house owner that he is free to stay for another period of 6 month after his rent expiration, claiming he is yet to find another house to move to. according to Nigeria law. He has stayed for free for three months already. What would you advise?

According to what Law? What State's tenancy Law are you attempting to reference in this case?

Shedrick:
➜You'd think after 35, people would be past the shallow stuff, right? Wrong! Apparently, a whiff of Decayed teeth or a slightly yellowed tooth is an instant dealbreaker. Newsflash, folks: true love isn't found in a dental clinic! It's about finding someone whose soul doesn't smell like mildew and whose heart isn't filled with cavities.
➜The Tyranny of the Armpit: Let's be honest, the arms pit hair under the arms is a glorious thing. But apparently, some people equate a lack of shaving with some kind of personal hygiene apocalypse. "Oh, you haven't shaved in three months?
➜You monster!" Honey, true love doesn't care if your pits look like a miniature rainforest. It cares if you bring home the bacon or at least, the takeout.
➜The "Jenifa Grammar" Judgment: Bless those Ibadan queens with their unique brand of English. "I go market, I buy bread" is poetry in motion! But apparently, proper grammar is a higher calling than a kind heart and a good laugh. Newsflash: Shakespeare himself probably couldn't order a suya without sounding a bit awkward.

1. There is nothing shallow about bad breath. It is unacceptable to believe, at 35 or above, that it is OK to afflict others with someone as easy to rectify as that. Unless you have a medical or mental condition, it is unacceptable for a grown individual to feel it is OK to walk around with such things. 🙄
2. Who decided that armpit hair is glorious to begin with? Hair that regrows after being cut is considered glorious. Why? Your decision to keep that meaningless lump of hair is yours. No one is required to accommodate you in your private delusion or should have to put up with it. 🙄

3. What exactly do you mean by this true love you speak of? How come it is used by you as some sort of excuse to afflict the one you supposedly love with that which is easily rectified by a mere behavioral change? 🙄

4. Instead make you go back to school— or at least study— to learn how to more properly communicate your thoughts more without causing the other's brain to hurt each time you open your mouth, you think it is best to make excuses for what is a lack of discipline on your part. 🙄🙄

Na women wey dey tolerate all this kain nonsense behavioral problems I dey blame sha! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

officialmario:
➜Good evening Nairalanders I'm writing this with heart full of sorrow because my life is really messed up For the past two years I have been taking hard drugs like tramadol and emzor,
I have lost my memory because of drugs , most times I forget things easily and it's really affecting my life,because I have lost a lot of things during the period of taking drugs.. The most painful part of it is that one of our female colleagues saw sachet of tramadol in my drawer and told my boss which he later fired me even after begging him.
➜ Whenever I want to stop taking drugs I always feel tired, bored and sad if I don't take it. Most times I always sell my things to buy drugs.If I haven't consume 5 doze in a day I won't feel okay and I'm always angry with my family each time i don't take it.
➜ Please I need your advice and opinion on how I can stop taking hard drugs, Please I want anyone that has been in this position before to enlighten me on how to stop taking drugs.. Insults and abuse are welcome. Please help me push to FrontPage for people to share their opinion with me Thanks Officialmario

Wait a second.... your major reason for wanting to quit is not because this habit has gradually stolen your memory and life but because you were caught by a female colleague and then fired for it?

2. It is understandable that you would have withdrawal symptoms and even depression from wanting to give up the pill but are you really better off losing your mind and eventually your life for it?

3. There is no magical way to bring a bad habit to an end. You need to decide for yourself that you are completely done and ready to quit, and the only way to do that is to change your behavior accordingly.

10mobile:
To start with, I believe that this is one of the best solutions to hunger in Naija. So, I am sharing it so that more people can support the poll.A Social Worker’s Research Exposes UN’s Poor Understanding Of Nigeria’s Food Insecurity Situation; Calls For A Poll To Address The Issue*
I'm copying the rest.

What Nigeria needs at this point is a concerted effort to accurately record and report on the problem. The UN and World Bank figures seem to base some of their reports on the information collected from the Nigerian government's own sources, sources which we all know can not and should not be relied on for any reason or purpose.

grandstar:
➜Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon, the world's second richest man was raised by his stepfather. That's even his stepfather's surname.
Shaquille O'Neal was raised by his stepfather. He actually thought he was his real father. He only found out he was not his bio bad when he was around 11. He later met his biological father but he considers his stapfather as his real dad.
If you want to marry her, you should be ready to accept her son as yours. Oyinbo says: "Love me, love my dog."

No mind these folks who would rather bask in their various delusions... delusions that continue to reveal them incompetent beings. 😩😩😩😩

Chemlite:
➜My point is taking the child as his, shouldn't be a criteria, it should be he should maltreat the child. Most ladies will tell you to take the child as yours only when the time for fees and care arise but you dear not correct/ discipline the so called your child when s/he misbehave.
➜Like I said, it is not his child, there are certain decisions he can't take due to that, therefore they (the single mum & guy) should discuss & maintain that boundary, simple.

If disciplining the child means assaulting it then of course, the woman has every reason to ensure that never happens. After all, it is her fault that the child has to have a step-parent in the picture.

2. It can be your child too if you would overcome your ego and accept that every child deserves love the very same as even that which comes out from your own loins.

MadeMan01:
➜Hello house, happy New year. I experienced something like this in my last couple of years. The single mom if one told me, the husband has not set eyes in the child since birth and the child is now 6years. She claimed they were married but the man misled her and was previously married. What do you think will make a man marry a woman, and leave her when his kid is born without setting eyes on the kid even for a second for over six years.
➜The story does not gel and she says she does not know the husband family because the wedding was abroad and the introduction was to be made when they arrived Naija. Guys , what will make you leave a woman who gave birth for you assuming you married her without setting eyes in the kid. For me it's paternity fraud.
➜Also if a woman cheat on me after marriage, the marriage is over, I will be in kids life but she return to her father house. I want peoples opinion on why this could happen if it did happen as she narrated

1. Where you born yesterday that you would ask such a ridiculous question? Some men would after having many kids up abandon them to die yet desire to have us believe that this particular scenario of yours is the worst and most nonsensical there could be.

2. Nothing!

3. Good for you but we have many more cases out there of men abandoning their children and marriages than your sob story here to work with. The millions of children who litter the streets of your Nigeria every day and not all orphans as many of them have fathers and some even mothers out somewhere who refuse to care for them.

Lonestar124:
I see nothing there, did the pastor point gun on her head in the first place, I think it is called restitution that is for religious people Sha..

What literally amounts to public shaming is considered restitution? If not for the fact that the gal in question is of age, this would have easily been a criminal offense right there. 😂😂😂😂😂😂

This religion invents ideas on the fly ehn... no wonder there are over 45,000 different denominations/cults associated with the religion of Christianity alone. 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Michaelladi1:
na lie man is going through a lot in his marriage tho. His wife cheat on him with their driver. Full story coming soon

Be sure to include any mentions of the man also cheating on his wife as well. Let's start getting away from telling half-baked stories in the year 2025.

EmperorCaesar:
➜Everyone is automatically a scammer just because they believe and act differently. ➜And na you dey always quick to quote constitution if matter sup, Hypocrite!

Wrong! They are scammers because they claim they have experience and belief in a God who explicitly said His one and only people are the people of Israel. That is what makes them scammers-in-the-lords. They are, all of them, fraudsters who lie and deceive people for a living! 🤔

2. According to Jesus Christ of Israel, asserting His Truth does not make one a hypocrite. Rather, it is those who ignore His Truth as stated, only to assert their lie in its place that are considered hypocrites.

lije:
A family that watches DSTV is not poor home

That is not necessarily true. Having cable TV in a home should be a norm, particularly in this century.

Ernesthugo:
i still wish it to you bro,cracks junkie keep wallowing in pains and sorrows

I see you are an eejit since you believe, in the year 2025, that you can wish such things on people. Make I waka pass abeg!

Gerrard59:
➜As black men cannot develop functioning societies, isn't it better to nack around rather than hope these foreign women want to marry us? But Ndi TeamForeignWomen no go gree. Collect your share and go home.

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descarado:
➜They never mature, do they? Always sad to see adults with low level reasoning in this age and time

I find it quite disturbing actually! 😩😩😩

jaxxy:
➜Haven't u heard of bipolar people?
2. I don't give a damn about ur private idea or opinion on virtues or morals. I'm talking about what is generally acceptable by basic standards.
When u meet a LovePeddler confused her for a good girl na u sabi. its ur choice

1. Stop with the many attempts to deviate from the subject. 🙄

2. Again, carry your virtue and enter the gutter somewhere if you have not realized by now that everyone has their private idea of virtue as well. Suggesting that all have to be weighed according to yours is indicative of your maturity level as an individual.

jaxxy:
➜Some have dual personality traits.
2. wild people or easy virtue.

Did you insert the dual personality traits in them yourself or what?

According to the American Psychological Association, personality refers to the enduring characteristics and behavior that comprise a person’s unique adjustment to life, including major traits, interests, drives, values, self-concept, abilities, and emotional patterns. And DID - dissociated identity disorder— remains a rare mental disorder.

2. Carry your virtue and enter the gutter somewhere if you have not realized by now that everyone has their private idea of virtue as well. Suggesting that all have to be weighed according to yours is indicative of your maturity level as an individual.

jaxxy:
➜Personality can also change but fairly constant.
➜and yes some people want loose people who they carry out there perverse acts. It's not a criminal offence so fa it's lawful.

1. Personality changes how? Are you certain you understand what personality means? In the majority of the cases, the only way that can change is in the case of brain trauma or damage. Other than that, what changes and can be changed is a person's behavior and that is what you keep confusing with the other.

2. Loose people? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

TOPCRUISE:
➜https://punchng.com/uproar-as-us-pastor-makes-lady-apologise-to-congregation-for-pregnancy/

This scammer-in-the-lords too wan use social media shine! Why else would anyone engage in all of this nonsense in 2025?🙄🙄🙄🙄

Kingsempires:
like what I meant was "the story was so disappointing to experience" 🥺

It was disgusting to behold and to imagine that this is the same nonsense that is repeated by the man and his troop across every location makes me wonder whether it is not better to consider that Nigeria will not get better until a different generation comes to age. Of course, this same pattern is observed across every other religious convention out there, a pattern no different from what I recall taking place when my mother also dragged me around as a child. We are talking of millions of people spending a ridiculous amount of money each year only to show up for hours upon hours and then go home disappointed every time. Now these days, you hear people in the religious crowds say things like it is as it is meant to be and I wonder what sort of drugged-up delusion one has to be high on to believe such nonsense.

jaxxy:
✓ Good manners and self control is part of personality. The word self control doesn't mean perfect why are u guys getting worked up about the word??
✓ if u want someone loose that's fine and ur prerogative.

No, they are not since they are both learned behaviors which can be abandoned or unlearned whenever the party in question chooses to. 😩😩😩

2. Nonsense statement as expected! 🙄🙄🙄

This scam reloaded already? 😩😩😩😩😩

jaxxy:
✓ So what matters abroad? The sub zero weather automatically turns everybody to a LovePeddler?
✓ These are just excuses for people with character flaws and who refuse to work on themselves.

Stop lying! In the same abroad with subzero temperatures there are equally many asexual individuals who live and enjoy life there. Let's stop these need to color everyone abroad with our own private problems.

2. I have never met anyone here --- except for may e a bunch of still delusional/religious Africans--- going around thinking to find partners primarily with good manners and self control. People here look for way more than such superficial nonsense. Most of those out seeking partners typically look for personalities that complement theirs and someone they can live with. Good manners and self control in a partner are considered a plus where it is available, not a requirement. .

IfyAwazie:
Abeg, make una do quick travel out fast make we wey remain see food chop

No one has been keeping you from seeing food chop up until naw.🤔

KingEarnest:
✓ All these Japa Crew you people are funny .
So if you travel out and start earning in dollars or the higest currency in the world, do you think you will spend in naira or that same currency? Is that not the same as staying in Nigeria?
✓ Y'all think there are jobs waiting for you over there that will pay you $5000 per month, Lol .

1. No it isn't the same as staying in Nigeria.🤔

2. Yes, there are! Since his leaving would depend on whether he gets a job elsewhere or not then it is safe to conclude that he can would be able to leave if and when there is a job waiting for him on the other side.

jaxxy:
I hate to admit it but the op is right especially in the UK and not just Nigerian girls but all except for girl with good manners and self control.

Good manners and self control? Now I know for sure you are spitting tales... Good manners and self control means absolutely nothing abroad.. Stop telling people this useless lie!