FlamingBulb: Good day my fellow families. Please take a little ride with me You are free to add or remove from how I budget please...I need your assistance. Husband and Wife 3 Kids age 7 to 3 all enrolled in school Feeding Table; SAMPLE Monday; Morning: Golden Morn/ Jellof Rice/ Sweet,Biscuit and Juice. Afternoon: Bread and Pepsi Night: Semo and Soup BREAKDOWNS SNACKS; 30k Monthly House Bills; 27k Monthly Data/ Transportation; 52k Monthly Food; 68k Monthly Total: 198k Monthly Meaning 20k can be left monthly...
It seems to me that with this diet of over 98% Carbohydrates, you are looking to raise children who will remain dependent on you for the bulk of their lives and not rational beings. Good luck! 🥱🥱🥱
FlamingBulb: Thanks..I planned on 1kid from unset but family pressure and advice..Naso God dash me twins hahahaha
Family pressure and advice? Are you kidding? Will the pressure and advice pay for the bills or the future of those children should life happen to you or their mother? You sure say you enter this 2026 wey we dey with the thing between your brain intact? 🥱🥱🥱
ayoncox: What about home schooling your kids, tell your wife to stay at home for 1 to 2 years and home school them. Use the money originally for school fees for starting a side hustle, best option go for real estate agency, you and your wife should learn digital skills. Block all money leaks
. Why can't he do the homeschooling? Why does it have to be the wife doing it? Why are the wife's career goals/aspirations expendable? 🥱🥱🥱
cutecommend: The truth is that all adultery are clear sins before God and God does not give any consideration to any. Stop adultery today whether you are a married man or married woman.
Oh, now that women are finally fixing to embrace their polygamous side, your god wants all adultery to come to a stop? Abegi! 🥱🥱🥱
Antichristian2: Who are the 72? I think they are abstract. Jesus told them to meet him Galilee but met some in Jerusalem or what exactly are you insinuating?
To further pull down your claim that the accounts in Matthew ran counter with that Luke and Acts, we have John 21 specially putting Jesus Christ of Israel in Galilee as the place where He met up and made breakfast with His disciples just before His ascension. 🥱🥱
Here, we have a story coming together through the accounts of all of the writers of the Gospels,not this pick-and-choose approach that religion is notorious for. 🥱🥱🥱
VeryWickedBro: "Get married early, the money will come." "Marriage means responsibility" "Marry early so that you can play with your children" "Children open the floodgates of wealth" "By 30, you should own a car" "By 27 you should be in your husband's house" "A fool at 40 is a fool forever" "Buying a land is the best investment" "Once you reach your 30s, money will flow" "Play with your children while you're young" "You don't want to attend PTA meetings with young girls" Sound familiar? I'm tired of typing...Bottomline, You will continue to struggle if you continue to adopt the 1980/90s advice. Good night
You forgot to include the fact that the "A man is only a provider and protector," delusion no longer applies. Any man who does not bring emotional, mental, and physical energy to the table in addition to financial security literally guarantees himself a life of misery in many marriages/relationships. 🥱🥱🥱
lecowas: You see, she has a plan from the beginning and she has only succeeded in phase 1(sx) and phase 2(stop paying rent). She has started executing phase 3(scatter u and ur fiance) strategically. But the good news is the plan reach phase 6-7.
You mean Op didn't scatter his relationship himself the moment he decided to use the woman in satisfying his urges? Was OP raped by the woman or something? 🥱🥱
Accountability is far from the vast majority of the religious/traditional in Nigeria. 🥱🥱🥱
Lamanii22: ✓ Hello famlanders! So a friend told me her husband is complaining that she doesn’t wash his clothes, so my question is that should a man be considerate enough to give his clothes to dry cleaners instead or it’s a must for the woman to do that? ✓ Here’s my own story: I watched my mom washed my dad’s clothes til my old man passed, I tried to do the same with my husband’s clothes but he complained that I put too much pressure on his clothes lol 😂 ✓ that he would do his laundry by himself… imho if there are kids involved already, the husband should be kind enough to do his own laundry then the wife can wash her own clothes as well as the kids’ thank you.
1. You can wash it only if he will pay you for the work and you are in need of the pay. He washed his clothes before he married you, so he should be able to continue washing his clothes even after marriage. 🥱🥱
As far back as the 80s, we had neighbors whose husbands did their own laundry so it has never been q matter of age but a matter for individual couples to decide for themselves. Basically , individual couples decide who gets to handle what chores, how often and when. 🥱🥱🥱
3. With washing machines now in many homes, you will find that some husbands are literally in charge of doing all of the laundry in the home. 🥱🥱🥱
MatrixCircle: ✓ I bought a three bedroom 3 bedroom apartment in the UK 🇬🇧. Then I rented one of the room to a lady who happened to be a student from Nigeria. She will at times put on short , sexy wear walking around the apartment. I am a committed Christian and a leader in the church. One thing led to the other one faithful night after work I came back and she was lying on the couch almost half naked, after taken my bath , she got up and before you know it we started having S£x. After that day it became routine and I have a fiancé at same church. My problem now is she has stopped paying rent, she doesn't pay bills again, even when my fiance told her to look for alternative accommodation, she has refused and I am reluctant to tell her to pack out because of emotional attachment. Now what do I do ??
You so-called church people are some of the worst people out there as far as accountability is concerned. You chose to begin a situationship with your roommate and you didn't know you would need to pay in some way for the knacking you were getting yourself? 🥱🥱🥱
2. I would suggest you open up and tell your fiancé the truth, but like I already pointed out, accountability (truthfulness) is far from religious folks. 🥱🥱🥱
Anyways, yeah...like the other said, seek legal recourse; however, don't expect the girl to go down without a fight. 🥱🥱🥱
TOPCRUISE: True talk. Most women on dating apps, and even codedruns are not there searching for love. They are there for survival where everything is transactional
Are most men on dating apps searching for love or for free hookup? 🥱🥱🥱
Mrkc: Just clocked 46, no wife , no job , no connection . All my efforts to live a succesful life is ending in futility
Why is it ending? 🥱🥱
A wife is not a measure of success. There are literally jobless addicts out there with wives -- addicts are like ultimate vampires who suck the life out of their victims/wives. Does that mean they are successful? 🥱🥱
dollytino4real: not everyone likes separation dat is y we try to stay
So, to such people, if is better to be literally married to your enemy than to live alone,vahi? Then congratulations remain in order... to you and your friend.👍👍
Julibet: ✓ Who says? I've heard some ladies say that if their guy don't beat them, they can never regard him as a real man. I'm not reporting this, I'm saying this like I've heard 3 ladies say this. Just exactly like the Op, they said the makeup sex after the beating is always explosive. ✓ Why do you think they remain with an abusive partner instead of finding their way after the first slap? Bros you can never fully understand that gender.
Where can we go find these women? 🥱🥱🥱
2. The reason why women remain with their abusers have been studied and realized. That ain't the issue Most of them are too afraid that they won't fond better out there so they remain with what they know and that is abuse.🥱🥱
The question is why else would a man remain abusive to a woman other than he maybe also feels he can't make a woman status with him unless he inflicts abuse on her to cause her to. 🥱🥱🥱
bukatyne: ➜Single Nigerian mum of 10! In today's Nigeria? ➜She should be evaluated mentally except if she had a child or 2 kids and 8 at the 3rd birth or she adopted some of them.
Her husband abandoned her with the 10 kids. 🥱🥱🥱
2. No one can be mentally OK with a diet that consists almost 100% of carbohydrates, day in and day out. She herself was probably raised on such a wicked diet, leading to her reasoning that it is OK to have 10 kids with a deadbeat as their father. Now the cycle is bound to repeat with her own children. 🥱🥱🥱
Chimex002: Single Nigerian mom of 10 children share how she survives with her children.
Women need to stop doing this to their own flesh and blood. Imagine her declaring she is feeding those kids well by loading them up with nothing but carbohydrates?🥱🥱🥱
Rhymesy: Sometimes, as a Christian, I pause and ask some pertinent questions. A lady might fast in the morning, but in the evening she goes and has sex with a man, then the following morning she resumes fasting. A man might lie to someone in the evening, but the next morning he is fasting. Someone might be quarreling with their neighbor and seem not to forgive, yet still be fasting. My question is: does God really answer all these prayers?
Your gods of men, all of men, all sin in broad daylight, and when caught have mouths full of excuses and reasons why you, their followers, ought not to prosecute them for their criminal offenses, and should instead forgive them. Na your gods dey answer all their prayers abi na una? 🥱🥱
mmadu4: ➜It's never easy to let go. We have tried ,at this point just need some mature advice on how to avoid being violent
. An abuser declaring it is never easy to let go of his abuse victim? Where have we not heard that before? Kidnappers and co say the very same. 🥱🥱🥱
It is almost never the abused coming to tell us she enjoys being abused ; Almost always it is the abuser coming to beat his chest about how his victim loves being abused by him.
dollytino4real: Some men are chicken 🐔 they use all their bodies to scatter their wives struggle so dat they will remain under dem,, I thought my was wicked until my friend of old told me her own
Why is your friend still choosing to remain married to her enemy? Una dey do competition? 🥱🥱🥱
FxMasterz: Understanding the Bible's Core Message from Genesis to Revelation The Bible has an answer for all the questions we ask about life and about the world. I will like to make the Bible plain to you in a simple summary. The Beginning of Evil {b}God is a God of Relationship{/b}. He likes relating with His creations. In fact, He created man for two reasons: 1. Punishment for Satan. 2. Relationship. God created man majorly because He wanted to relate with Him. That man cannot be a zombie or a robot. There's no true relationship with a robot. Hence man must be able to choose his actions and be responsible for them. This is where love and loyalty will be defined. What is a relationship without love and loyalty? For love to exist, there must be a choice to hate. And for loyalty to exist, there must be a choice to rebel. You cannot know if someone loves you if that person has no alternative. You cannot know if someone is disloyal to you if that person never sees an opportunity to rebel. The ability to hate and a decision to love is what makes relationship a sweet thing. The whole world is founded on this principle down to the last family that just formed. This is why evil exists. There's evil because we're not zombies. We can choose an action and the opposite of the action as we please. And that's what makes life meaningful and worth living. The First Evil God didn't create evil directly. Evil is a by-product of sin. To release evil, someone somewhere must sin. Someone somewhere must choose an action that gratifies himself/herself. He must choose to hate instead of loving. Rebel instead of being loyal. The First Sinner Satan was the first to choose an action that gratifies self. An action that destabilized the relationship between him and God. He rebelled. This is what makes Satan the source of all manifest evil. He was in the world before man. And as I earlier said, man was created as an instrument of judgement for Satan. This is the reason why Satan hates man with fervent hatred. (Please read Genesis 1:26 to understand that Satan is symbolically called the serpent - creeping thing). God deliberately gave man (dust) dominion over Satan (the creeping thing) in order to humiliate him for his rebellion. How it all Started Satan was in heaven with God. Called Lucifer, he was a specially created being, and one of the highest ranking archangels in heaven. He was so delicately created - a masterpiece of God's creative expertise. His frame made him proud and arrogant. He began to nurse the thoughts of becoming a king. He then schemed against God and was cast down here to the earth from heaven. Then the "...the earth became without form and void, and darkness was upon the face of the deep." (Genesis 1). God then decided to restore the earth. He then created virtually all things including animals in preparation for the man He wanted to create. This man will be a punishment for Satan, and also be a being God would relate with, coming down to interact with him at the cool of every day. In short, God's purpose for restoring the earth after it was disfigured was to create man from dust, and make that dust rule Satan in eternal humiliation, with God relating with that man like a friend. So, God created man and made him the Sovereign on the same earth where Satan dwelt. Satan couldn't stand the humiliation, so he schemed to snatch the Sovereignty away from man. He tempted Eve to choose an opposite action.. He attempted to make her disloyal. Satan succeeds. Man lost his dignity. The Glory of God that covered him disappeared, and he became naked. Satan quickly sized the opportunity of man's weakened state and became the god of this world. God didn't interfere because man as sovereign had the final say on whatever he does in the world. The earth was man's absolute control (Psalm 115:16). If man has decided to exchange positions with Satan, then, so be it. Did God know that man would fail? Yes, God knew but He still created man anyway because Satan must be punished, and God must have a friend. However, God devised a solution to man's failure ever before man was created - "The lamb slain from the foundation of the world (ever before man or anything was created in the world) for the restoration of man." Revelation 13:8. As a result of man's fall, Satan reigned from a position of authority over the world, and began to multiply evils through sins as he pleased. In short, God knew evil will come because man would fail, but nonetheless, God's purpose for man as His medium of punishment for Satan must be fulfilled. The gains, including God's potential for having a friend far outweighs the losses. However as I said earlier, God also had a rescue plan for man to restore him to his initial position of Sovereignty after giving Satan enough time to repent. Why will God Punish Man for Sins He Knew He'll Commit Even Before Creating Him? God is not punishing man for any evil. This is a misunderstanding brought by religion. Instead, God is punishing Satan for his evils. Man would be exonerated if he comes into God's provision for his exoneration and restoration. Hell was NEVER created for man. It was created for the devil and fallen angels who have vowed never to reconcile with God (Matthew 25:41).
However, God wants to cleanse the earth and restore it. He'll remove Satan and stop all evils. The earth would then continue eternally as was originally planned - evil free. But, man needs to be cleansed so that the evils of that old world would not be carried over into the reordered world by human carriers. So, cleansed humans who are of no threat to the new world would pass over into the new and refurbished world where Satan is completely absent. God has devised a new form of punishment for him - everlasting fire (Mathew 25:41). In the absence of Satan and human carriers of evil, Good and righteousness continue forever in the new world. No one to deceive anybody to choose wrong actions. Man continues to reign with the guidance of Jesus, the man-God who abolishes evil by guiding man to choose righteousness forever. God is not punishing man for any evil in the world, otherwise, God wouldn't make provision for his exoneration. God loves man so much, He doesn't want him punished. That's why He put Himself in the position of the man to redeem his sovereignty which Satan stole by subtlety. Since only man must redeem man, no one can do it for him. But man was weak. He couldn't help himself. He was doomed forever to be oppressed by Satan in his own world. God couldn't bear to see man in that condition for all eternity. He had to clothe Himself as man, and come to the world to do for man what man could not do for himself. Jesus came and redeemed man's sovereignty. After accomplishing that task, He left the world to give opportunity for men to cleanse themselves from evil in order to be able to inhabit the world once refurbished. Because, as for that new world "Nothing impure will ever enter it, nor will anyone who does what is shameful or deceitful, but only those whose names are written in the Lamb’s book of life.." (Revelation 21:27). Those who purge themselves of evil by taking advantage of God's provision for their purging immediately have their names written in the Book of Life as citizens of the refurbished world that is coming. Men who reject the cleansing are considered a threat to the new world God is establishing, and must therefore be ridded out by quarantining them in the same place where all evils are quarantined. The innate evil in a man must be purged out so he would not carry evil into that 'eviless' world. If you understand this plan of God, you'll begin to see the reason why many religions missed it, and why there's so much evil in the world. Satan hates man so much because man was actually created for his humiliation. You'll also understand why Satan has to deny that Jesus died. Jesus's death is for man's cleansing which is a huge threat to Satan. It was the very price Jesus paid to redeem man's sovereignty from Satan. Satan has to deny it because that's the only way he can stop men from being cleansed or liberated from his grip.. God intentionally created the world. The world would continue as planned but Satan must be out and all evils. Men must be cleansed. Then, righteousness reigns forever and ever. Is your name written in the Book of Life? [b]Come to Jesus today for your cleansing.[/b
Hogwash! 🥱🥱🥱🥱
I am with China on this. Religion is some sort of mental illness that strips individuals of the ability to comprehend all things, including life as it presents itself. 🥱🥱🥱
mmadu4: ➜I was seeking for some advice sir no need for the insults
Oh! So, you physically assaulted your girlfriend, and meant for us to consider that as some understandable eejiocy, but my insisting that the police should give you the same treatment... You take it to be an insult? 🥱🥱🥱
mmadu4: ➜So I have been worried lately with the ongoing craziness in my relationship with my babe . I noticed that anytime we are having a good moment or peaceful time she doesn't seem to be happy . She might just provoke me or try to insult me or say and do things that might make me beat her not serious beating but very low edge she will fall into depression afterwards and ignore me for as long as it takes she will won't even near me then I will have to beg her forgiveness before everything returns to normal of course with some love making . But this has happening for over a year now I'm becoming worried. ➜ What can I do in this situation pls need some advice
So, you physically assault the woman you are dating, and then try to make us believe it is all for a good cause? Nigeria is f-cked up. That there is no way to report your arse to the police who would, in turn, relatively assault you is what infuriates me the most in all of this. 🙄🙄🙄
2. Common sense would have been to abandon the relationship entirely. The girl trauma trauma-bonded with her abuser, and you think coming here to boast of such brain damage makes you a better person? 🥱🥱🥱
melechpilusof: ➜From the way you write it is easy to tell that you are either a female, a teenager or an effeminate man.
All this because I pointed out that a man who thinks brute force is the way to win arguments over women is nothing but a bully, a coward, and a loser. Heck, try the same with women who can literally pound you down. Try to use the same brute force argument against men who disagree with you? 🥱🥱
melechpilusof: ➜I mentioned drug addiction, kindly throw more light on that too.
You didn't read, did you?
Kobojunkie: ...Addictions on the other hand are mental illnesses of the burdensome kind for those affected and so would be something everyone should do well to avoid. 🥱🥱🥱
What is the need for all of these useless postulations of yours when reality on the ground is that in Nigerian society, both men and women are encouraged daily to choose survival over love? If a man is settling for a woman, why should he expect that the woman would have some magical love for him, knowing this fact? 🥱🥱🥱
Talkisneeded: ➜Because that’s the truth you’ve been running from… I don’t know what to tell you,but women are very hard to please ooo
You can never please a woman the exact same way you can never please a man. Ultimately, the problem isn't the person—man or woman—you seek to please with your efforts, but rather you, the people-pleaser in the mix. 🥱🥱🥱
kingthreat: If my wife were to keep a male bestie, I have to confirm that he's either gay or impotent. If the male bestie doesn't seduce her, she will seduce him.
Storyland! All this posturing.... the worst you can do is divorce her and move on to maybe the next woman, who may also do the same thing, since no one lives according to your will. Either that, or you move on to accepting you cannot control or change anyone, no matter how hard you frustrate yourself in the process of trying to achieve the unachievable. So, learn to live and let live, even in marriage. 🥱🥱🥱
Belzdossy: ✓ Hi All. Please how do I help a difficult father change his character. My father is a difficult person who has had issues with everyone around him including his family. Myself, my siblings, my mum, and his family have talked to him but he is always adamant on wanting to do things his way. His actions aren't always well thought out and they end up leading to hatred from people. ✓ His actions even led to my ex treating me badly due to some terrible things my father said to my ex and the unpleasant way my father treated him, e.g. my father refused to speak with him on the phone and when he spoke with him he insulted my ex for not sending him money. ✓ Now, I'm dating someone else who is distancing himself. I noticed my new partner started distancing himself after a call my father had with him. My partner refused to tell me the exact things my father told him, but I know from past experience that they're likely not to be good things. From the things my father said he discussed with my partner, I'm not happy myself. ✓ How do I handle this situation because I've tried my best to forgive and tolerate. I can't take it anymore as it continues to affect my life daily.
1. If your father is such an arsehole to you and your family, why then do you continue to involve him in that which concerns you, assuming you are already an adult? Why have you not taken steps to reduce your engagement with him for the benefit of your peace of mind and sanity? 🥱🥱
2. You blame him for it, but you never mentioned how or why, even with all you've come to know of your father's arseholery, you took it on yourself to introduce your partner to him? What was your goal? 🥱🥱🥱
3. By the way, coming from the background you described and given that you have yet to adequately deal with the scars and trauma from your childhood, added to the fact that you have yet to resolve your relationship with your father, I don't think I would recommend you continuing with any romantic relationships. You have a lot of work to do regarding self-awareness and self-love on your part. You have a long way to go in realizing that using your father as an excuse is not supposed to be a thing at all as an adult. I suggest you get yourself professional mental health counseling, and do the inner work to get you to where you can see yourself rising above this "my father this, my father that..." talk. 🥱🥱🥱🥱
4. The best way is to acquire self-love, greater emotional and social intelligence skills. 🥱🥱🥱
Precious201010: ✓ This one no get sense at all, the real marriage is the traditional marriage, so for her information she's already married to that man... ✓ Why allow the man and his family to waste money and invite guest all over just for her to run away...
The man should arrest her and make her refund for all the expenses.... And if she doesn't have money to pay back, she should be sent to Kaduna prison with hard labour.
That's actually not true at all. If thye traditional marriage has yet to be registered in the customary courts, it is merely a glorified boyfriend/gal friend relationship. 🥱🥱🥱
It is sort of like the Islamic Niqah or your church marriages, they are not legally binding until they are registered in the courts. So many people find this out late too. 🥱🥱🥱
Kingrshd3: There is this my aunt son that he gave birth to he celebrated 3 years yesterday 11th January. But this boy can hear and do what you tell him but he can't really speak even if he does he can't speak clearly like ( I want to eat). Another challenge is that this same boy can't write more than 1 and have this hyperactive muscle ehn 😊 The boy like too much play like too much active in his blood .. Lastly majority of his classmates can write and even recite 1 to 20 But him na just maybe 1 to 5 sha and can even easily forget when you ask him to do it again What do you think could be the problem ⁉️ Your ideas is needed
You are not a pediatrician and the child in question is 3,so let him develop at his pace. Continue to talk to him like you would any respected human being so he builds his confidence and vocabulary until he is able to open his mouth to speak on his own. 🥱🥱🥱
Get him coloring paper and crayons and let him draw instead. 🥱🥱
melechpilusof: ✓ So all you are doing right now is going in circles. ✓ Another red flag to look out for is a woman who smokes, an alcoholic and a drug addict. Can you justify this red flag as a "you" issue? Is it a general red flag or just me trying to project?
Again, your personal issues do not red flags for others.🥱🥱
Smoking is not an addiction but a preference for many people out there. If you don't know that much by now, you should probably stay away from relationships altogether. 🥱🥱
Addictions on the other hand are mental illnesses of the burdensome kind for those affected and so would be something everyone should do well to avoid. 🥱🥱🥱
Family › Re: 220k Budget For Family Of 5 by Kobojunkie: 9:55pm On Jan 14
