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Rearealki:
My major problem has always been communication

. There is a reason behind your inability to communicate. Find out what it is, and you gain even more self-awareness. Go a bit further to love yourself and realize your anxieties and fears are unfounded, and you gain for yourself a measure of self-love that no broken heart or rejection can take away from you. 🥱🥱

Chibuezem:
I agree with you man I personally have not experienced rejection though

Storyland! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Chibuezem:
➜I guess you've been hungry or bored today Do you believe in God ?

Which God? There are over 4000 recognized deities out there, and each individual is capable of conjuring up and worshipping deities of their own making. So, you would need to be more specific when asking this question. 🥱🥱🥱

YourGFsnatcher:
➜What is the meaning of promiscuous?

Society's own definition of the term can be found in the dictionary.

pro·mis·cu·ous
1. having or characterized by many transient sexual relationships.
2. demonstrating or implying an undiscriminating or unselective approach; indiscriminate or casual.

As you can clearly see, it has nothing to do with women carrying only one pregnancy at a time, nor does it have anything to do with the gender of the party. 🥱🥱🥱

YourGFsnatcher:
➜It's wrong, but nature always has natural balance.
The same way we want to advocate for equal gender roles, even though we know that by design, there are things that men or women can do better in natural frequency.
➜ That's why as a married woman, the society by default expects you to keep your purity.
➜ Imagine your dad has a side chick. Now imagine your mom has a side dude. Which one will pain you the most?

1. What are some of these things that men

2. Your logic is not logic-ing at all. Why again does society think it deserves a woman's supposed purity and not a man's purity? 🥱🥱🥱

3. So, because children have at this point been conditioned to accepting their fathers stabbing their mothers in the back by way of adultery—the betrayal hurts all the same, but helpless about it and choosing then to console themselves with the fact that they were probably not even emotionally bonded with their cheating father, children typically resign themselves to accepting him for the douchebag that he is— you think that means their father's adultery hurts them less? 🥱🥱🥱

YourGFsnatcher:
➜Women are not made to be promiscuous

You don't seem to understand the meaning of the word promiscuous, do you? 🥱🥱🥱

nairalanda1:
➜If you are polygamous or monogamous, sleeping with someone outside marriage na ADULTERY...it matters not the gender of the person doing it.
➜Yes, and all those red pill guys who go around saying 'men are polygamous' when a man does the adultery thing, are comedians.
I think every religion is clear about that....but some people self...

Every religion is clear about what people in every religion out there do not abide by? 🥱🥱

2. The redpill individuals are also religious, and many of them utilize religious doctrines in pushing their ideas as well. So, this matter is definitely religious/traditional at its core. And this isn't a some people issue, as the numbers are large enough for all to see that maybe religion is just good at pushing rules that even the religious do not care much for. 🥱🥱

cutecommend:
IFeel free to do whatever you wish. Who is stopping you?

Indeeed.... nothing seems able to stop the wave of married men with their side-chicks and married women with their side-dicks. 🥱🥱🥱

blesdman:
➜The truth the society is not telling Africans is that until women start paying dowries to men, they have no business sleeping out when they have married. Money involvement and contribution is the determinant of evil in relationships. Otherwise, everyone should keep deceiving themselves...

Your own Africa is a place where men pull ridiculous ideas out of their arses whenever it pleases them, abi? Well, guess what? Women also have assholes, and they too can pull ridiculous ideas out of their arsese whenever it pleases them. Good luck! 🥱🥱🥱

Chibuezem:
love what you did there. My daddy has never been quiet. He speaks to his own children and those who are open in the heart. Unfortunately you get olumo rock as heart with no desire to hear from your Daddy .

So, your daddy speaks to his children, and it seems they all don't want to hear from him at all because they all cosigned this way of men are entitled to adultery in marriage age we now live in? And your daddy did absolutely nothing all that while, only now, through the same children who refuse to listen to him, he suddenly wants us to believe women should not follow suit? 🥱🥱🥱

Chibuezem:
let him man up
There are plenty fishes in the ocean here in Akwa Ibom you will see beautiful women everywhere kind-hearted good cooks and very wonderful in the other room
Just reach out

This ain't about plenty of fishes... but about this one urchin presenting himself as being entitled to a woman no matter what she says. 🥱🥱🥱

That is behavior that should be criminalized in this day and age. 🥱🥱🥱

Chibuezem:
➜God (my daddy) has always condemned adultery. It is both ways I've missed your tags lol

The same daddy that has been quiet all the time that it took men to decree adultery their right in marriage, abi? 🥱🥱🥱

GboyegaD:
➜Generally, I don't support anyone writing their job because of the children. I am a proponent of everyone living their lives and be happy. No one should deny any other of their happiness/joy. We all should make the best of the time we have together.

Yet, a comment ago, or so, you were certain that it had to be the woman doing the leaving of her job to take care of matters that concerned the children? 🥱🥱

Antichristian2:
➜I think you know you are not with a novice nor an ignoramus! Show us where Jesus condemned any religion? Even in Christianity there are many doctrines! Show us where Jesus condemned religion?
What religion exactly did Jesus condemned in Israel? Were the Sadducees and Pharisees on a particular religion or were they preaching what they don't follow?

You are told that ALL TRADITIONS AND DOCTRINES OF MEN ARE AN ABOMINATION TO YHWH. Yet, your comeback is that even Christianity has many doctrines? Are you certain you are OK at all? 😂😂😂

DiamondJude:
I'm feel I'm cursed because why will I continue to kill and harm myself and my family.

Stop thinking stewpid! You are not cursed... You simply lack basic self-control and self-discipline when it comes to handling your finances and your desires. 🥱🥱🥱

Since you do not have any money at this time to pay for a therapist, I would recommend you consider giving yourself what you need. Begin now by becoming more self-aware— monitor your thoughts and actions. Get a journal and begin recording your thoughts and emotions throughout your day to understand what causes you to believe that money is being wasted the way you do. Also, document all the possible reasons why alcohol and sex seem to be your place of deluded safety whenever money falls into your hands. adopting those simple skills again, where you are. Choose to become more intentional about everything you think and do. And before long, you will start to see areas where you can make small, consistent changes that will ultimately lead you towards correctly addressing a good part of your problem on your own. If you are fortunate, by then you would be better able to handle your money and get yourself professional therapy with what you have.

Antichristian2:
➜I don't know why you can't even speak clearly! Are you speaking in parables or tongues? Where did the disciples first met Jesus? Galilee or Jerusalem?

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Antichristian2:
➜Where exactly did Jesus condemned religion?
➜ Which religion (s) did he condemn in the Bible?

Ah! I see you have never, in fact, read the Gospels where Jesus Christ of Israel condemned all of the doctrines and traditions of men as lies, an abomination to His Father, in addition to the Pharisees and Sadducees of even His time? Mind you, Jesus Christ of Israel, was by this repeating the teachings of His Father, YHWH, before Him who condemned the traditions of the priests who twisted His Words to form their own interpretations, and traditions, which they then fed the people in place of His exact Laws to them all.

2. Which religion? Is that a joke? 🤣🤣🤣

Again, Jesus Christ of Israel condemned all doctrines and traditions of men— not some but all — an abomination to YHWH, His Father. So, your question does not even enter at all. 🤣🤣🤣

LongwayGone2021:
✓ What are the odds of a great marriage experience if one gets married to a broken piece like the person is?
Here's the scenario: both partners have similar growing up experiences, which involves physical and mental abuses, neglect and disappointments. Physical restriction and what look like 'enslavement' in disguise of avuncular care. Like both lived with uncles because of their own immediate families' inability to provide and because of some limitations, e.g both parents deaths which led to being moved to an uncle.
While in this 'enslavement' and servitude, they witnessed their uncles' children being given utmost care while they are being subjected to domestic services.
Both have grown up now with bitterness filled up their hearts. Hatred for the families they grew up in. They badly want freedom. Because of many years of servitudes, they seem to have both lost self confidence, self worth, have no capacity to make personal decisions and fears lock down in their heads— fears of not being enough.
They both 'managed' literally to have university degrees but jobs ain't forthcoming for both...making them to continue to live under such conditions. The courses they both studied ain't such that are on high demand.
Both are of age for marriage. M: 35, F: 27. The guy is out trying to secure a room apartment while the lady still staying with the uncle but looks desperately to leave.
They both seem to want to be with eachother; But the similarities in their stories is big concern for the guy—for the fear of what the 'similarity' in growing up patterns could mean in marriage.
What would be an idea advice for each of them..and perhaps both?

Both of them should first consider getting professional mental health therapy to help them heal from past wounds and traumas. 🤔🤔

reallifegospel:
✓ If you read the post forensically, you'll observe that I didn't talk about the religious perceptions of the personality of God, but the definite and fine tuned perceptions of the personality of God which cannot be seen clearly or seen at all via the spectacles of religion.

You can't do what you pretend above while referencing the religion of Christianity and it's particularly ideas regarding its deity(ies). 🥱🥱🥱

IFuckWell:
✓ Sometimes I wish I was born a girl. Bro women ARE SO DEVIOUS.. there's this fellow Corper I've been chasing in my lodge for over three months now. Now tonight I just discovered her knacking a resident of the town we all are in for our NYSC.
And this was a girl that keeps calling me small boy. I don't even know why. But omoh I feel very heartbroken rn, I can't even explain why.
At times, I wish I was a girl so I'll be the one getting chased by men and breaking the hearts of men.
Nobody should bring that useless rubbish of go find money. Even her roommate is justifying that nobody owes me explanation which is true. I feel super sadddd

Because she doesn't want to date you at this point, and probably never, you take that to mean she is the devious one in this? It no even occur to you say you wey no fit accept her rejection...her no...for what it is, are the one in the wrong here? 😩😩😩

Telltruth123:
➜He has been treated and he is fine now.

Please note, sugar is not the cause of hernia. When it comes to sugar consumption, the average Nigerian child does not come close to consuming even 5% of the amount of sugar(candies, pastries, cakes, etc.) consumed by the average American child, yet American children don't have high occurrences of hernias. Let's kill this idea that sugar is the cause of hernias once and for all. 🥱🥱🥱

Telltruth123:
➜My son had hernia, I could remember whenever he takes sweet or drink one bottle of soft drink, his ball will be swollen and painful. I don't buy one bottle of soft drink for him but whenever he has chance to take it or sweet, it will trigger the hernia so when I got to the hospital, I saw small children even below 3 years of age I don't want to talk much.

You could easily do a simple Google search to realize how wrong you are about the cause of hernias. 🥱🥱🥱

A hernia is caused by a combination of muscle weakness (often present from birth or due to aging/injury) and increased internal pressure, allowing tissue or organs to push through a weak spot in the abdominal or pelvic wall, often triggered by heavy lifting, chronic coughing, straining (constipation/urination), obesity, or previous surgery.
Key Factors & Causes:
➜Muscle Weakness/Defect: A natural weakness present from birth or a spot weakened by aging, injury, or surgery.
➜Increased Pressure:
➜Straining: During bowel movements (constipation) or urination.
➜Chronic Coughing: From conditions like COPD or smoking (smoker's cough).
➜Heavy Lifting: Strenuous activity or sudden, explosive movements.
➜Obesity/Excess Weight: Puts extra strain on abdominal muscles.
➜Pregnancy: Increases abdominal pressure.
➜Fluid Buildup: (Ascites) in the abdomen.

Please take your son to see a doctor so he can receive a proper diagnosis.

davis51:
➜Most of them are kindhearted
➡️ They're the most observant in most situations.
➡️ They love from the bottom of their heart their love is so real they do it with passion
➡️ Don't joke with them you will collect your own a hundred times😂
➡️ There are so caring
➡️ There're very truthful to their partners
➡️ There're very truthful to their partners
➡️ when they dislike you they do it with passion🙆‍♀️
What do you think?

I think this is nothing other than maximum bullsheet! 🥱🥱🥱

If you are a man without emotional regulation skills, you are literally a ticking time bomb. I suggest you immediately seek professional mental health therapy and begin the tedious inner work necessary to help you gain emotional maturity.🥱🥱

We have seen this right before our eyes so many times that we know there is nothing meaningful to come of extolling grown-arsed men prone to throwing tantrums over meaningless things.🥱🥱🥱

Cybersafeparent:
➜ ...Have you noticed changes in your child that didn’t come from school or home? Do you talk to your children about online boundaries, or do you assume they’ll figure it out? Please share your experiences. Not to argue. Not to judge.
But to help other parents recognise signs before they become bigger problems.

I am of the mind that the problem isn't necessarily online, but the information that parents — directly or indirectly —feed their children offline. 🥱🥱

Children learn what to believe and accept from watching those around them... their caregivers. The moment they realize that even their own parents do not respect boundaries, say one thing but do something else, model abusive relationship behaviors instead of good ones by what they condone and accept, children realize that those around them may not have answers they seek to valid questions they have inside of them... that, to me, is when they start looking elsewhere. Back before the internet days, bad influences were in all communities. Internet access has only made access to some of those same bad influences much easier.

brain54:
➜Idi trauma crew...
Would not be able to box again due to trauma. Gather around, come and see something!

Nah! Exercise and work can help with some of the effects of trauma, in addition to intense therapy.🥱🥱🥱

Running away from responsibilities and life is not the way to deal with trauma. Ask your pastors who immediately show up to preach right after a loss of one kind or another.

SpaceX:
The love of money is the root of all evil....

You see this as love of money, and rather, a man needing to manage his trauma the best way he knows to do so, which is to work?

GboyegaD:
➜Madam rest......

Why didn't you take your own advice—rest— instead of spewing that bullsheet logic earlier, which suggests that even though nothing stops a man from being able to do exactly what a woman can do, in this case, raise his own child, he should somehow not be expected to do exactly that? 🥱🥱🥱

GboyegaD:
✓ Even here, there are way more stay-at-home moms than stay-at-home dads. I think it is because of the emotional connection mothers have with the children and most times, mothers can juggle more things at a time than men. So, it isn't really sacrificial lamb, it is just looking out for the children. It should be based on their mutual decision and not one sided as the person who suggested it painted it.

Men are able to carry entire companies -- juggling the lives of sometimes thousands of employees -- on their backs but not able to bring themselves down like other men you pointed out have been able to, to emotionally and mentally bond with their own children? Do you hear yourself at all? 🥱🥱

davis51:
Signs a woman shows when she wants Round 2, knaccking but is too shy to say it.
1)She stays close instead of pulling away
2)More eye contact with a soft smile
3)She initiates cuddling or touch again
4)She starts playful or teasing talk
5) She asks “Are you tired?” or “Where are you going?”

Stop raping women...do not touch a woman unless she gives you her consent? No matter how shy you imagine her to be she still has a mouth and a voice you should always default to. 😩😩😩

Telltruth123:
Please reduce sweet to the lowest, it is not good for their health, I didn't know initially until I went to general hospital and saw children with different complains it is not enjoyment at all. Also try to change what they take for lunch to healthier food, you wouldn't like the outcome health wise.

How did you deduce that sweets is the reason behind the problem those kids at the hospital had? 🥱🥱🥱

AntiChristian:
✓ Jesus did upheld the commandments though!
✓ Noah was a righteous man just as Job! They were blameless according to the Bible!
Genesis 6:8-9 (NIV):
"But Noah found favor in the eyes of the Lord. This is the account of Noah and his family. Noah was a righteous man, blameless among the people of his time, and he walked faithfully with God."
✓ You are the one conjuring things up and avoiding the question
So Jesus replied, “Truly, truly, I tell you, the Son can do nothing by Himself, unless He sees the Father doing it. For WHATEVER the Father does, the Son also does.
What does "WHATEVER" means as used above?

1. Jesus Christ of Israel was subject to His Father's Law but he was not a soldier. He came around 700 years after the Israelites had lost their power to rule over themselves as a nation. 🥱🥱

2. You keep about the bush. What has Noah's status as a righteous man to do with anything when nothing in the entire book suggests that this righteousness can be imparted on others even those in ones immediate family? 🥱

3. I think you are just too used to arguing yourself into a hole that you fail to see here that you are meaninglessly sheeting all over the place now. 🥱🥱

AntiChristian:
✓ How is it a personal ignorance? Are you blaming me instead of the Holy Spirit/Yahweh who inspired the killings?
✓ You are wrong! They are not my Muslim terrorists. The spirit of the Bible inspired terrorism as i have proven which you agreed on! I don't support terrorism! And of cos i am okay!
✓ I wonder why Christians don't blame Yahweh/Holy Spirit but blames the so-called Muslim terrorists for doing less than the Biblical masscares!

1. Where is it written in the book that this holy Spirit inspires killings, though? Let's start there. 🥱🥱

2. Where in the Bible is your Muslim terrorism inspired? 🥱🥱

3. We have a constitutional law belonging to a nation called Israel, which gave the nation's army the right to fight against its enemies, particularly those who tried to invade its lands. (I would think you understand why a country has the right to defend itself against invading armies, right?) Now, this nation, like all of the nations of the time and culture took captives and collected spoils of war for themselves after each battle. Again, most of the nations of this time and culture operated by pretty much the same rules. . Almost all of the nations of that time and culture no longer exist, with this particular nation's army ceasing about 2500 years ago. 🥱🥱

Now, what you are trying to tell us is that a bunch of terrorists (not a nation of people) in the year 2026 -- an entirely different time and culture from that which once existed— are going around operating according to laws that once existed for a nation called Israel? You are trying to suggest to us that because the Israelite nation that formerly existed in that region thousands of years ago —its army ceased around 2500 years ago—were able to carry out massacres much like the other nations of the time— the Babylonians, Assyrians, Greeks, Romans, Egyptians, Persians, Ethiopians, etc.,— therefore in 2026, we should laud Muslim terrorists carrying out similar massacres today? 🥱🥱

And you don't see how this thinking of yours is born of the utmost levels of stewpidity? 🥱🥱