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patrickcollins:
➜That's why many end up in prayer houses in their mid and late thirties seeking for life partners.

Wrong! Even the married ones who settled for the lowest bidder among them boku for prayer houses, since they also have to spend their married life praying against their husband's cheating and/or abuse while battling poverty. 🥱🥱🥱

So, it is more rational to settle with the highest bidder, at least avoid the daily battles with poverty, and proceed to enjoy the loot while the man cheats or until she becomes tired of the abuse and is ready to move on from the fixation altogether. 🥱🥱

FaAbData:
➜It's mostly the opposite bro. This Sunday (if you're a church goer) ask 20 random kids in your church who bought their fine clothes for them . The answer will shock you. It's the parent that didn't pay for it that they'll call for you.
➜ If a woman buys a pen for her child, the child will know it the her that bought. Women are good at that

. That is not the truth. With so many traditional and religious women told to cover their husbands' shame out there, and with almost 50% of married women living as breadwinners in their marriages, it is likely th case. 🥱🥱🥱

2. That means you don't know the length many women go to cover their husband's shame. 🥱🥱🥱

Idaytesj29:
➜See the way men are defending the integrity and respect of the mother. Let's flip the page, let's assume the child is saying the same thing about his father. No woman will condemn the boy or demand respect from him to his father. Infact, they will hail him that he has done the right thing to his irresponsible father who couldn't pay school fee.

The boy in the video is likely saying all of those things to his mother because the mother covered her husband's shame with lies that he is a providing father. Yes, tradition and religion do not mind telling women to lie through their teeth to their own children in the name of covering the husband's shame. 🥱🥱🥱

KobolanderSegun:
➜Sadly this is rather true

Nigerian men are not the sharpest tools in the shed.🥱🥱🥱

They go around beating their chests that a woman tried to come back to them, convincing themsleves that when a woman wants them back after dumping them, it means they were the best she had, all this while completely forgetting that when they themselves circle back to the woman they abandoned in the past, they do so, not from a place of love or honesty but a place of manipulation/taking advantage of their gulliblity and naivety. 🥱🥱🥱

But somehow they are unable to put two and two together to realize that the same applies when a woman does it. (She sees they are the gullible low-hanging fruit that would take her back with minimal effort from her end.) 🥱🥱🥱

BRATISLAVA:
➜Is cat food that cheap? Or tasty?

Cheap yes, but tasty... I don't think so.

patrickcollins:
➜She shouldn't be broke while looking for the highest bidder

Wrong! That she is broke is a you problem, not a she problem. You are the bidder, so the power is on you to ensure you only bid on non-broke women if you don't want to bid on broke women.

Basically, if you go out there to bid on a broke woman and then turn around to complain that she is broke, that means you have some serious mental problem going on up there in your head. 🥱🥱🥱

Every woman, regardless of circumstances —whether broke or not broke— has the right to look for the highest bidder.🥱🥱🥱

larion:
➜You did not have to insult, please let's be civil, PLEASE. You can't call someone you dont know unreasonable.

I didn't insult you. You did when you disregarded the subject to post that which in no way relates to the conversation, all because your ego feels bruised by the statements that reflect reality. 🥱🥱🥱

correctguy101:
➜No descendant of mine would dare treat my woman like that. Even if I do everything, how e come use concern am? When me and my woman started whatever it is we had, was the silly kid there to know what his old man agreed to live with?
I once had a woman I simply wanted to be at home for me, she refused but I insisted and we later had a compromise. She was managing a business instead... My child no go fit get the mind as I no dey use the women in my circle play with anybody.

This isn't about you but the reality of most so-called Nigerian women out there — the single-married women brigade— many of whom are forced to pay the bills, take care of the households, and also tolerate the tantrums from their frustrated children, who they also lie to about how their wonderful absent fathers are the ones responsible for it all. 🥱🥱🥱

larion:
1) NO! you are refusing to get the point, men bid for S*X not marriage. Please Check Shilloh and other churches; you can see it there.
2) What studies, the one that is manipulated to project false strength for women so that the family can be destroyed, continue to deceive youself, again, go to Shiloh and see the numbers. Also ask the 43 years old unmarried single lady in your street how far.
3) Your point 3 doesn't address the fact that men who want to marry are NOT bidding, i dont know what you mean by "yapping." Be civil, not insulting.
4) There is no tiny ego anywhere; facts are facts. 23 to 30 years, ladies can afford to play around. How many 40+ single women do you see flaunting it, ask aunty Twa Savage, again go to Shiloh. There is not information anywhere; young women are just being deceived by large corporations who do not want the family together for their own selfish reasons. Older women in their 40s get it, and they mostly regret it.
Ask Aunty Tiwa Savage and her cohorts who are not l*sbians. Men and women need each other, don't be misinformed
NB: I won't be one to go front and back with you on NL, so for now it's goodbye.

I see now that I am trying to argue with a very unreasonable human with a tiny ego situation going on with him. Make I just waka pass so I can focus on tho

Playconsoler101:
➜Really, forget the fear mongering the media has been pushing against Islam for years and not using the actions of fanatics terrorist such as Boko haram, Issi etc...
All that aside, Based on your own very personal experience or contact with Muslims, what do you have against Islam and Muslims?

So, the over 67,000 dead Nigerians in the past 20 years alone at the hands of Islamic terrorists are all fear-mongering pushed by the media? See... this is why people fear Islamists. The way you lot disregard human life as if your lives are more precious than those of all others is why people believe Islam needs to be checked immediately.

Any ideology or religion that disregards the rights of all others to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness should be checked and kept as far away from people as possible. 🥱🥱🥱

Omowale2023:
➜This doesn't make any sense. So as man, I am the highest bidder, should I allow a broke woman to choose me?
➜ Me too will also choose the highest bidder, a rich woman, let's all of us be mád together......mtchwee.....🙄🙄🙄

1. You are the one doing the bidding as the man. So, if your bid is on a broke woman, then that is a you problem, not a she problem.

2. That is your choice to make. You need to want the best woman for your benefit, and she, too, has to want the best man for her benefit. 🥱🥱🥱

patrickcollins:
➜With regards to the topic, she claimed women should chose the highest bidder when it comes to marriage or relationship

And?

Entanglement:
" I will marry the highest bidder are always in Shiloh every year looking for highest bidder

You forgot to mention that Shiloh is also filled to the brim on many of those same days with married women whose low bidding choice has been cheating on and/or abusing them every day since then. 🥱🥱🥱

Shaketable:
➜Women should go for the highest bidder but don't complain when d consequences of their choice manifest

What you are insinuating is that when you decide to take a job with the highest bidder, you have no right to complain when that company you went with abuses you? 🥱🥱🥱

Some of you are really not complete upstairs! 🥱🥱🥱

mecuries:
Marriage is now a poverty alleviation scheme?....

It was your ancestors who offered marriage as a poverty alleviation scheme to the woman's family for the longest. Yes, men back then exchanged their daughters to the highest bidder without even the opinion of the woman being exchanged, and society was OK with it. 🥱🥱

Even today, in religion, it is still considered a poverty alleviation scheme where men sell off their daughters to the highest bidder. So, why are your hairs up on end because women are now taking the power to decide their price in their own hands?

padi94:
➜What are they bidding for?? Your beauty or fine body? If yes make sure you stay that way forever cos you you slip a little they will also. LEAVE you for a more attractive girl.

Always with the pretense, right? Yet, men never seem able to keep away from women and all that they can get from them.

A woman's energy— physical, emotional, and mental labor— is what you are bidding for. Most of you already perceive women as slaves for your benefit, so yes, you are bidding for her energy and attention. 🥱🥱🥱

occfx:
➜You no see 25, 30, 35, you run go 40. Possibly, you thought he has money. All his savings are gone now and you just discover he is struggling. Gold digging no dey pay

Baseless assumptions. A man takes his wife's money to go drink and gamble, yet you accuse the woman of being a gold digger? 🥱🥱🥱

We4all:
➜I blame the mother for exchanging words with him. She should have reset his fish brain with slaps, and any attempt to fight back should follow with a grave punishment: a night in a police cell. I'd prefer not to have any children than have a kid like him. I am certain he talks down on his mom because his father also disrespects her too. The other day in my neighborhood, I overheard a boy outrightly insulting his mom, and even called her a prostitute. Pathetic lots!

This is wrong behavior! How do you teach your child that violence is wrong by way of violence? Think carefully about it! 🥱🥱🥱

larion:
➜You forgot that the man is the one bidding, NOT the woman. Men decide marriage; women decide s*x.
So in this case, men are the ones selecting the premium women, NOT women selecting. Don't get carried away. How many men do you see in churches praying for a wife?
➜ Stop twisting it; this kind of twist is what makes women go unmarried.
➜ Men that want to play around are bidding; men that want to marry are NOT bidding.
➜ They are ready; they go quietly to their selected woman and lock it down. Often times what those women have is other men that are playing around, so it is always easy to go with the serious one even though she doesnt like/want/love him

1. That much is obvious from the post. The men bid, and the woman decides to go with the highest bidder.

2. Studies have more than shown that a woman is much better off unmarried — she lives a healthier, longer, and more fulfilled life —than married. Yes, the numbers back this, and many of these are international studies. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Even married men continue to play around, so what in the world are you yapping among men that want to play around for?

4. Storyland! What is obvious is the fact that your tiny ego seems to have been bruised by OP admitting that relationships have always been transactional, and women, now more informed, are merely playing to get the best hand possible for themselves, too. 🥱🥱🥱

Fiscus105:
➜Does highest bidder always equal to biggest profit? Does highest profit always equivalent to peace of mind. So many highest bidders which have scams underlined.
➜ People invested in MMM that was highest bidder in investment few years ago, we all knew how it was ended.

Highest bidder means highest bidder.... peace of mind, and all the other ideas people trade out there are never guaranteed. So, better to go with the highest bidder in the case described. 🥱🥱

2. What in the world has MMM to do with this discussion?

themanderon:
➜Then she comes back to cry tears of pain because she chased after vanity. We have seen them aplenty.

Stop lying! She never comes back unless she comes back to manipulate a person she regards as a pushover.

SEGLIZ:
➜what are saying? can you clearly separate your right up from marriage? [size=8pt]how does dating, getting married differs from marriage?

It doesn't and shouldn't, however, we all know that in Nigeria, for instance, couples generally shift from how things were between them while they were dating. So, I understand why OP seems focused on establishing that this dynamic exists during the dating period, at least.

imsoftcash:
DO YOU KNOW THAT? A Good Woman Is A Treasure!!! If you are still single, pray you don't just find a wife, but a good treasure in a wife.

Nonsense! I bet if we asked you to define for us what a good woman is, a pushover/people-pleaser you go talk. Yet, you yourself have no intentions of being exactly that to this good woman. 🥱🥱🥱

tunjijones:
Then you will be treated like a commodity

They have ALWAYS been treated as commodities. Now, more and more women are realizing and finally accepting this, and by that, they are also taking charge of setting their own price. 🥱🥱🥱

Gotocourt:
And that is why immorality is high in marriage. My brother, hustle oOoOO

Much of the so-called immorality in marriages is powered by the men in the marriages... not the women. Most women only learn, much later in the marriage, that the morality talk was always bullsheet from the beginning! (Their labors were in vain.)🥱🥱

patrickcollins:
➜Can't she make her own money, it's wrong for a broke lady to admire and want to Mary a rich man

Yes, she can make her own money, and in that case, she will require the man to bring more than just money to the table. He brings emotional, mental, and physical labor — something most men do not bring at all —at least in addition to money to that table. 🥱🥱

RealSolution001:
Nothing is wrong settling for the best but sometimes the best, if you look at the back side of it, it could fastrack your way to the grave untimely or cause you so much emotionally that nothing can fix it.

This is the typical argument made by those who don't ascribe to bringing their best to the table when required to. Always afraid that the best may be too much for them to handle.🥱🥱🥱

Mrexcell:
✓ Am talking reasonable men here.

Reasonable men are unicorns; you and i will probably only ever encounter one or two of those in our entire lives.

So, stop speculating about what is yet to be known or studied and focus instead on what is already known. ,🥱🥱🥱

Offpoint1:
A reason the man don't want to associate cuz he knows she's using the son for her selfish interests

Stop this nonsense about reason and the man or woman here. You speaks of reason yet the same man involved himself in welfare lies or felt his ego bruised because the woman did not share the welfare money she got from government so cut the bullsheet already! 🥱🥱🥱

EBEk101:
✓ People have completely lost it. Honestly, who raised you? It’s like you can’t even define morality anymore. And yet, you keep trying so hard to defend your stupidity.

There is nothing more ambiguous in its definition that what you refer to as morality. It is actually a meaningless concept really. 🥱🥱🥱

EBEk101:
✓ Transactional in for this generation, this wasn’t the norm

Stop telling lies! Your ancestors transacted relationships for physical benefits, for connections(political) in addition to creating labor for their farms. Relationships have always been transactional. 🥱🥱

@Saintbillion, have you been back to check at the bank for your power bank? 🥱🥱