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melechpilusof:
✓ My ex girlfriend has been chatting me recently, but now she is fat and robust and unattractive so I told her that No man, especially not me will look at her unless she regains her old shape. I told her how to lose weight in 3 months without going to the gym. when I met her first, she was built like a footballer, she had stamina, very solid build, i even made it known to her that i loved her legs but now she eats too much, belly fat and is now shorter.
✓ Learn to tell your wife what is bothering you, reduce the way you lie so that its easy for her to knowwhenþ, the problem is that many of you talk and play with these women alot, so they don't know when you are serious. Relate with her tge way you relate with a kid if not na see finish go be your case.

1. Wow... You resorted to body shaming her, yet you think yourself better than shs is? Wow ..🥱🥱🥱

2. Well, I am for honesty, but body shaming is a whole nother thing entirely. It is bully behavior. Also, if your so-called love for others is based on what they look like, isn't it ok to say that you should probably stay completely away from marrying any women at all since women's bodies are known to change after marriage, childbirth, abuse, etc,. Basically, the more life is sucked out of a woman, the more her mind is impacted and eventually her body. What I am saying is that if a woman gets with a man who sucks the life out of her, she will be mentally and physically impacted by it. Rather than complain to the woman, ask yourself what you are doing wrong that is caught her to loose her mental composure and eventually her body around you. You are most likely the problem, not the woman. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
✓ You didn't read to understand, you are only here to argue and stir confusion.
1. Everyone should be accorded respect, yes.
But what happens when a woman, a weakling physically and verbally assaults a strong man?
2. What should give any woman the guts to insult or assault a man know fully well that if assaulted back it could lead to permanent bodily damage?
I know a girl who lost an eye for try to fight a man.
3. Seeing that 99% of men and women are damaged, I am okay with disliking them all equally. Your last paragraph is devoid of any evidence, if you doubt it then provide evidence of the study you cited. BTW I can get any girl I want, but it never last because I can't be manipulated, I'm a alpha/sigma, I am very intentional and focused with my life, no woman can just come and tell me anything, for instance "honey buy me the new iPhone 17" even if I have money like Dangote I will not buy, if she really needs a phone then A midrange Samsung will do. If she refuses then ICE BLOCKT! GTFOH

When respect is based, not on creed, gender,age, religious affiliation or status, but on the simple fact that one presents as a member of the species, what do you think that means? It means you respect that person regardless of everything else.

When you base respect instead of shifting goalposts x then what you give is not respect but something more slimy and disgusting like the kind of respect you see among Nigerians who claim they respect the very politicians who ruined their future and of their unborn children. 🥱🥱🥱

2. The same guts a man would think to have to insult a woman is the same guts it requires for a woman to insult a man. That the man can choose to then violently assault the woman for doing that which he too has capability of is absurd and telling, not on her character but on his. A woman is never to blame for a man's lack of emotional regulation skills. 🥱🥱🥱

Also, know that there are just as many women out there capable of inflicting bodily damage on men. But do you know why many of them do not fall that far? The simple reason is that they have better emotional regulation and management abilities than men who let their anger(emotions) get the better of them. 🥱🥱

So, if you came here to brag about being able to beat some women up and expecting we should see that such women should be denied a voice around you, all you do is reveal yourself as a bully and loser. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Rather than leveling up on your emotional and social skills, you take that adopting a posture of hate for all? It's ok. Society won't miss your kind. 🥱🥱🥱

Expanse2020:
➜So the historians know more than the rabbis who are the isrealites 🤣🤣🤣🤣
➜ And so you actually read the 88 Bibles not the 81 or 66 .. and all of it lack the original manuscript which where no where to be found 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Christianity and wasted efforts na 5 &6
➜ Trying to find a justificate your calling of Jesus as a God with Muhammad S.A.W. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 We don't worship him at all. Not like the religion of Paul that call Jesus God🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 wasted effort

1. Your religious rabbis are not directly or indirectly linked to the Scriptures. YHWH, by way of the Romans, destroyed and expelled over 2/3rd of the Judeans from Judah leading beginning with the destruction of the temple in the first century. This destruction marked the curse of YHWH on the poeple. The people you refer to as your Rabbis are ordinary people with no power or connection to YHWH of Israel. They are religionists, and YHWH made clear through His prophets that religion is an abomination/a bastardization of truth. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Unlike you, I am not afraid of books. I have also read the quran and some of the hadiths. I am still leveling up on so many more so-called religious books out there, since knowledge is wisdom. 🥱🥱🥱

Original manuscripts? I don't share your obsession with original manuscripts. We have the writings of people like Plato and Homer with us to this day, even though the original manuscripts have been lost for thousands of years. Your particular obsession with an original manuscript is not one shared by us all. 🥱🥱🥱

3. There is no justification needed for the stating of a fact, which is that muslims worship Mohammed. The average muslim, on the other hand, looks to model his life, treatment of women, and others— the killings and cries of victimhood included— after Mohammed... not even Allah's supposed teachings make sense. And even their ideas regarding Mohammed come from the many different interpretations fed to them by their many imams, sheikhs, aka gods of men. (They live by ideas regarding Mohammed as further digested and fed to them by their gods of men.)🥱🥱

Can the same be said of Christians? The answer is no. Yes, Christians claim with their tongues to worship their idol called Jesus Christ, but the fact is the sheer contradiction between what they say with their mouths about their idea of a Jesus Christ and what they do — their actions— reveals a clear contradiction for all those in that religion. Now, is this to say that Christians worship the God of their idea of Jesus Christ? No! Instead, they worship their pastors and their many gods of men. 🥱🥱

Christianity is essentially a religion built on hypocrisy and modeling of life after the various gods of men, while Islam is a religion built on the modeling a one's life after the life of the man called Mohammed, as interpreted by the various imams and sects. Both of them are clear cases of cognitive dissonance. 🥱🥱

P.S. Those referred to as pagans in the Israelite Scriptures are the religious poeple, some israelites adopted religions even in Scripture and were regarded as pagans.🥱🥱

MaxWalter:
I came across this older discussion and wanted to add that talking to someone you trust can make a big difference, whether it’s a friend, a pastor, or even a counsellor. Depression can feel heavy, but you don’t have to deal with it alone. What helped you the most on your tougher days?

A pastor is the worst thing a depressed person can think to talk to. This is because Pastors are predators who prey on the weak and infirm. And this is the same across all religions. 🥱🥱🥱

NEWBIN:
➜My friend's wife has a male friend. In a long night phone interaction, the friend told my friends wife that he could suck her breast but she told him she couldn't do that with him. But they kept the friendship.
One time, this friend told my friend s wife that he wanted to go on a vacation. My friend's wife said "I will go with you." Show repeated it though it sounded like a joke.
Could the woman be interested in the man?

If a person — man or woman — will cheat or break up with you, there is nothing you can do, change, or compromise about yourself that will keep that from happening. The infidelity has nothing to do with one being cheated on— the victim of the abuse —, but everything to do with the person doing the cheating. This applies both to the unmarried and to the married alike. Your friend should focus on being the best partner he can to his wife, and if and when he realizes that she has, in fact, cheated — physically or emotionally — then he should not hesitate to move himself out of the situation for his own peace of mind. 🥱🥱🥱

bloomingpurple:
The Treasure of a Virtuous Woman When Scripture asks, “Who can find?” it reveals something profound. A virtuous woman is rare. She does not just appear by chance. She is sought after like a hidden treasure, and when found, she becomes one of life’s greatest blessings.
But here is an important question: “Do you believe you are that treasure?”
Do you live in a way that reflects your God-given worth so that when someone finds you, they can say, “I am truly blessed”?
Being virtuous and capable means you are valuable beyond measure. God has already equipped you with wisdom, gifts, and strength for every season. You do not need to wait for marriage, motherhood, or a promotion to start preparing. “You live ready” by walking daily in the fullness of who God created you to be. https://thebloomingpurple.com/she-is-more-precious-than-rubies-becoming-a-virtuous-and-capable-woman-of-god-proverbs-3110/

Stop lying to women!🥱🥱🥱

The Proverbs 31 woman is described as a woman who has been married to a generous multimillionaire/billionaire. The woman is a married woman who can accomplish all that is described by virtue of having a husband who provides abundantly for her to accomplish all of what is described and more by way of having very good project management skills and lots of househelps/laborers in her company. 🥱🥱🥱

The numerous poor household Operating Systems your churches create for these poor men out there are not Proverbs 31 women because they are married to poor men who can't even afford to pay the market cost of having even a cook, let alone a housemaid. 🥱🥱

dollytino4real:
I am one, but follow, wen Bible says iron sharpeth iron nur be lie o

You cannot be such a woman unless you are currently married to a multimillionaire—by today's standard, the man should be a worth at least $100 million—who provides you with all that is then needed to do exactly all that the woman in the chapter was able to accomplish. 🥱🥱🥱

Expanse2020:
✓ With all the true will present to you guys you still fail heed warning, don't die as a pagan óò
[b]Islam is the true religion... No others prophets brought religion rather than worship the true one God (Allah) and prophets Muhammad S.A.W. was the last prophet who collective unified the olders prophets work which is Islam...

If I asked you what a true religion is or what peace really means, you would begin foaming in the mouth the same as most other religious folks are notorious for. 🥱🥱🥱

TVTM2023:
➜You are partly right but note that the church is also a Hospital.
➜ Many.single ladies who have lived adulterous and toxic lives of promiscuity from age 15 to 30 and misbehaved now run back to the church looking for husbands.
➜ A lot of christian single men noticd this trend so they are scared to marry. Its not a one sided affair also,but its a fantasy on the part of the female gender.. You cant take it away from them,many have messed up.
➜ Look at the normal church population and see that women make almost 80 percent of a congregation. Ask why they are not married and you will under stand what a man sows he will reap ,God cannot be mocked

1. A hospital that covers — it treats literally nothing—many of the problems it helps create, you mean? 🥱🥱🥱

2. You cleverly forgot to mention that many of those ladies ended up in that state while chasing after the brainwashing your church's brainwashing suggested that their lives were nothing, meant nothing, unless they had a man romantically attached to them from as early as possible. Many of these women can come from a background of neglect and abandonment, and were pumped full of propaganda from your religious houses —mosques and churches— that they need to be married to find peace, love, value for their hurts and pains from their abuse-riddled background. 🥱🥱🥱

3. And let's not forget the fact that once a woman finally gets married, her life literally becomes a shell as she then has to spend the rest of her days praying in your churches for your gods to help her or give her the formulae to keep the man, make the man treat her better, make the man stay faithful to her, make sure the man takes care of her, etc. All their anxieties and fears are never resolved.... no peace or joy to be found even in marriage. 🥱🥱

These are the lives of your women caught in religion. And you dare to say your religious houses are hospitals, and not in fact the mental prisons that they truly are to women?🥱🥱

Zanzibar1:
➜The modern world revolve around finances. In the early period, it was about power.

Your ancestors bid on the women and never failed to remind those women of how much they had to pay to own their lives. And when your ancestors were done using said women, they did not forget to demand their money back right after sending those women packing(many a times with the children those women had for those men) with literally nothing but shame and humiliation as their reward. 🥱🥱

Even the old world you pine for was always about finances, the power your ancestors had during their days. That reality is what remains to this day.🥱🥱

Merry100:
➜Prenups don't stop people from breaking obligations, but they set the rules for what happens when they do.

Another thing prenups do is help filter out the potential red flags even before marriage. Any person who refuses to sign a prenup should instinctively be a red flag to women out there. 🥱🥱

Women need all the protection they can get when it comes to relationships and marriage. And a prenup/postnup is the easiest way to get one. 🥱🥱🥱

Merry100:
➜Prenups are legal agreements, not vows. I'm actually a fan of prenups.
➜They aren't just about protecting money; they let you set clauses that must not be breached.

1. Contracts are vows/promises, same as your marriage is. When you don't officially define a clear prenup for your marriage, the government sets up a default contract/vow for you, which, in most cases, denies the woman all rights in marriage. So, it is in your best interest to clearly define and have signed a prenup that states what should take place in the case of infidelity, dissolution, or even the death of one of the parties.🥱🥱

2. Breaches happen, so expect them to be breached as long as you are dating a human being. Prenuptuals/Postnuptuals are meant to protect you in the case of a breach, not keep a breach from taking place. A person who will cheat will cheat... There is nothing you can do to stop or prevent it from happening. 🥱🥱🥱

Expanse2020:
➜Are you sure they didn't rewrite your book...Isreal rabbi even claimed you ppl rewrite Torah and make it 24 books...However the news books out there naw. Some are 66 books, Some are 84 books, Some are in between. The book lack integrity
➜ He attempt to rewrite your history when as if Surat Fatia is in the bible 🤣🤣🤣 So he never claimed to be God rather a messenger and he his not Paul who called Jesus A God for you guys And if you copy your books those that have vast knowledge than you who would have write about it....
➜ The Jews actually knows that you Christianity are just a wayward and lost soul in this life... You have been deceived by Paul

1. The opinions of your so-called Israeli rabbis matter nothing in this, though, as historical evidence points to the bulk of the manuscripts being of Israelite origin, some tracing back to a period before the Romans came into the picture. Yes, many authors wrote different pieces, but not all those pieces were meant to be part of the collection that comprises of Israelite Scriptures. I have personally read all 88 books and more, and I can tell you that the focus of most of those excluded from the collection was something else, not YHWH of Old or anything the Old Prophets declared of Him, so I can understand why those who compiled the collection that is the Bible felt they did not need to be included. But, the books are available for anyone who wishes to learn to read for themselves.

2. A man who is literally worshipped by his followers is a god to his followers. It is as simple as that. Muslims worship Mohammed even though they give the title of deity to their Allah, but Mohammed remains the central figure of worship in the religion. 🥱🥱

3. Judaism, Christianity, and Islam are the same things.... religiopolitical systems set up by humans to manipulate and rule over other humans. None of these religions is recorded in the book as belonging to YHWH of Israel. You are all the same to me. 🥱🥱

SeriouslySense:
➜Women too kill, their methods are more soft through poison, or when the man is asleep or not looking. Men show their own very openly. If a husband threaten to kill his wife that woman better take it seriously. But when a woman has the capacity for violence sometimes she will be more calm.

This response is beneath pathetic. 🥱🥱🥱

Expanse2020:
➜By your statement affirming that the Roman literally wrote the bible change everything to suite themselves and present it to you guys ...

Wrong! There is no doubt that the books of the bible were written, not by the Romans, but by the Israelites... that much we know because history affirms that. What the Romans instead did — what they also did with their attempts to import the Gods of the Greeks as their own— was build a religiopolitical system of the beliefs of the other people — the Jews(the Israelite origins of the Jews were an afterthought to them) to their advantage. 🥱🥱🥱

Mohammed is the only one who went as far as to attempt to rewrite all of history, produce his own book, to set himself up as a god over his own followers. 🥱🥱🥱

SeriouslySense:
➜Women also have anger issues just like men, in my estate I have observed women cause more scenes than men.
➜ Sometimes it due to hormonal effects. The thing is men are stronger than women so when a man has anger issues he may be more scary and dangerous. In this case, the woman could have used wisdom, she could have left without telling him.

1. Humans in general cause scenes since not all of us are emotionally intelligent enough to avoid throwing tantrums here and there. However, not every human out there resorts to violent crimes or even murder... the vast majority of recorded cases are, and worse, against females whom they are supposedly meant to protect. Yes, women are more likely to be killed by the men —fathers, brothers, uncles, lovers, husbands, etc. — who are generally believed to be protectors of the females. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Wrong! It is never due to hormonal effects. Violence is violence, and it is almost always— except in rare cases of medically induced mental disconnect— due to a lack of emotional intelligence. 🥱🥱🥱

callmeDDD:
➜In as much you may be right, the guy is very stupid. He quietly went to their neighbours house, a Grampa of around 80 something that is not even strong to stand, poisoned his food with snipers unknown to him, told the house help to run away because he wanted to do something terrible to the man and he doesn't want her to get involved.
He offered the helper some money but she refused, and unknown to her, he has already poisoned their food with snipers he later used to kpai.
When they told the old man about her death, he was crying, saying the lady was very close to him and she used to run an errands for him like a daughter most times. He said even many times, his ATM is always with her.
And that's what caught my attention. The guy is very insecure, weakling and likely jobless. What would an octogenarian do to your wife? Granpa that hardly talk self and very old?
Mind you, neighbours friends said he has been beaten the lady blue black for long and his family would intervene and beg her to stay after trying to pack out. So the guy may be totally useless for himself and the wife too.

What did the old man do to this man? 🥱🥱🥱

ManknowThyself:
➜Nothing compares to life and freedom for me. The man should have walk away better than killing his wife, now the daughter suffer for it forever. That man is wicked, no human empathy and compassion. It's better to have a failed relationship cos of temperament issues than to die in marriage with the red flag of anger you saw during the relationship.
I can't settle for any woman with anger issues, that's a big red flag. My peace and happiness is important to my future, family and generation.
Women never over look how he reacts when angry cos it's says alot sincerely. Wicked man

Every 10 minutes, a female is intentionally killed by either her father, lover, or husband, clearly a problem of men incapable of regulating/managing their emotions. But as expected, you must find a way to blame the irrational behaviours of men on the women. Some of you can't help it at this point.🥱🥱🥱

KobolanderSegun:
➜And I live in Magodo so close to River Valley. When men refuse to now down to Kobojunkie and listen to him

. Every day, we hear tales of how men want legacies. Yet these children have been rendered orphans by their father, who supposedly wanted them. 🥱🥱🥱

MarkNsukkaBread:
My own is that marriage contract should have an expiry date which can be renewed if need be

Marriage does have an expiration date, typically referred to as the date of divorce. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
➜So now that you are married, these are the reasons why you shouldn't cheat or maltreat her;
➜I always wondered why women should be accorded so much respect, in my mind when I see a woman being stubborn or arguing with a man, I always imagine that I can actually cause life threatening damage to her, I can hurt her badly but what gave her the power to stand before me and talk?
➜I still don't have much respect for women but I have learnt that they are a liability we cannot do without as men. In my life I have been with countless women and that has informed my knowledge of them...

1. All human beings should be accorded the same level of respect, regardless of gender, race, age, color, creed. That is why women should be accorded respect, even by you, especially since you desire for them to respect in exactly the same way. Yes, and even children, all of them, deserve respect. 🥱🥱🥱

2. If you think that being able to physically hurt someone means you should not give that person respect, then you are still an immature adult. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Interesting! I think you should stay away from all women... until you learn to respect women the same way you supposedly respect men. If you cannot do that, you will definitely have nothing but regret in your relationships with women, particularly marriage. And no, it ain't the woman's fault that you value them as less than you. It is yours.. 🥱🥱🥱

By the way, study after study have shown that men who don't value other humans equally, end up miserable and unhappy.... blaming others for their folly. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
➜Some dude will say but my wife is "evil and wicked" , my to such dude is; WHY did you marry her?
Didn't you see the signs?
If you didn't see the signs then you are not a real man. You play too much and you aren't focused on the important things of life.
There are many ways to spot redflags in women even without talking to them. The number one thing to look out for is when a woman is complimenting her appearance with artificial attachments, secondly if she follows popular Culture, thirdly if she is overly religious without an understanding of church history... there are many more.

This is your personal red flag, by why are you bent on making it everyone else's red flag? Why do you feel the need to project? That is a you issue that you should probably tackle before you move forward. 🥱🥱🥱

kelechi50:
Hmmm, my brother talks is cheap till you get there. Kindly seek opinion from those that are married for twenty years, because experience is the best teacher.

You mean those who are married 20 years with wives who are literally a shell of their former selves at this point, right? Wives whose self-esteem, confidence, and self-awareness have been so eroded to the point that they literally have no life of their own left except for that which their husbands have scraped them down to in all that period? 🥱🥱🥱

Yes, experience is the best teacher, but that doesn't mean people learn best from experience.(The vast majority never really learn from their own experiences.) It is usually those who learn from the experience of others who come out at the top every time. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
➜Oga suppose to know that from beginning. He for marry woman wey like kpanshing.
Let's assume you weren't able to detect her lack of interest for sex with you from the beginning, what is stopping you from divorcing her now?

Why should he use common sense in these things? The only way people like him reason they get respect from a woman is by coercing or forcing her to go against her will. It's all about gaining control over the woman, chipping away at her being to carve her into an idol for the man's own egotistical glory.🥱🥱🥱

If your vows do not include a prenuptial or postnuptial contract with an infidelity clause and a financial clause, it remains outdated. 🥱🥱🥱

Expanse2020:
➜So what you view on the councils over the religion matter did they formed the law and the doctrine by thier hands

The same view I have on Mohammed setting himself up in similar fashion as the Romans before him as a council over that which concerned only the Israelites(Jews included), going as far as to entirely rewrite the scripts to include himself in a story that also had absolutely nothing to do with him and his kind. Mohammed did the same thing the Romans did, only on a bigger scale; he took to "usurping"— in his mind— the place of the Israelites, the chosen bloodline of the YHWH of Israel, in his own council, forming a religion in the process to establish this notion among those who would follow him. 🥱🥱🥱

Vyzz:
➜Relax… Why are you trying to make him panic Do you know if there’s money at hand at the moment?
Or will you handle the treatment ?

Ah, I see! Panicking over possibly life-altering (in a bad way, mind you) health issues should be left to those who have money and not those who don't have money? 🥱🥱🥱

dollytino4real:
Too much talk dey bring see finish. Brief and direct is my watch word

That in bold is actually a personal conclusion of yours that really does not impact many who live outside of your mind there. Not opening up to one's thoughts and opinions confidently also opens you up to those who will see you finish and think to impose their own ideas on you. This is not a case of doing it one way is the best way to go, but more a case of choose your own poison and live with the consequences. 🥱🥱

Twenty8:
Why do some people give one-word replies during conversations? Do they think it makes them seem cool or superior, or is it simply poor communication or a lack of interest in the conversation?

More likely to the latter. Don't try to force a conversation when the other party does not seem to be up to it. 🥱🥱

BozzDaddy:
See the meal my wife served me last night for dinner because of economic hardship. Imagine with the good amount of money I give her, to buy meat or chicken is now a problem.
I just want a divorce

I support your right to divorce her for even this, as your ancestors were able to do. All I ask is that you also try to take full custody of the children, while your wife can have visitation rights and eventually begin paying child support as soon as she can get her life together after having to cook and clean up after you all this while without being paid even a regular allowance for all of her contributions towards building your life for you. 🥱🥱

Lilosama:
[size=8pt] ✓A girl has shared a story of what happened to her in Canada. A married man approached her to be a side chick and she said he has to pay her $60,000 school fees. Do you think this is fair? As a married man, the last thing you want to do is cheat and if you know you want to have fun then stay single[size]

She is smart. I mean what else is she to gain from dating such a man? 🥱🥱🥱

Antichristian2:
Jesus Christ lived on earth for approximately 33 years, with about three years dedicated to his public ministry. The religion founded on his teachings was later called Christianity, named after Christ. However, Jesus did not explicitly settle many creedal matters before his death. Even Paul, who was allegedly commissioned by Jesus despite not meeting him during his earthly life, did not resolve these doctrinal issues. As a result, early church councils were convened to address and clarify these important creedal questions.

✓ Jesus Christ of Israel founded no religion and condemned religion beginning with the religious leaders of his time, though. So, your religions and supposed credal matters are removed from Him who instead proclaimed His Word as the final authority in the Kingdom over which He is the eternal ruler. 🥱🥱🥱