₦airaland Forum

TheFreshVanilla:
It doesn’t make any sense applying market logic to human bonds.
✓ If money justifies choice, then men who abandon their wife for richer ladies are morally correct, right?

Why doesn't it make sense when Relationships are transactional? 🥱🥱🥱

2. Nothing of this has to do with morality which from the onset has been a weapon primarily used against the poor, women and children. Morality means absolutely nothing because relationships have always been transactional. 🥱🥱🥱

Mrexcell:
✓ I don't even think it's the age factor most men who are struggling financially don't find sex all that appealing because of of too much worries in their minds.

Yet no one can outbreed a poor man? 🥱🥱🥱

Offpoint1:
Let the wife release the son to the father

She no wan loose her benefits. And he is probably already homing somewhere with another welfare maid, likely in the area. That child is probably better off with the mother for now. 🥱🥱

43Ronin:
✓ You guys make it seem like child support is 100% the mans responsibility you dont factor in income of both partners. A closed friend of mine went through a divorce and the judged calculated and ruled that expenses from child rearing will require the man pay 55% while the woman with the kids pays 45%. So who come lose? Also thers a case i know off where the naija woman was making an income of £110k from 2 IT jobs while the hubby was a carer making way less, the man paid significantly low child support as the judge ruled that since the ex was in an elite tax bracket she would expect less payments from the man. Let's educate our women on these things so they don't divorce for nothing

Stop projecting your personal confusion around the child support system onto others. 🥱🥱

I have never said child support is to be from only one parent. Anyone who has been paying attention would have also seen that I prefer a situation where shared custody...50/50 becomes the norm.so child support is almost completely off the table except for emergencies and what nots-- hospital payments, school fees, etc. 🥱🥱

emperor4love:
➜Ladies this is reason it should be 50/50, kids know who is trying for them,even if u collect money from his dad and still pays 4 anything,the will be aware of were the money comes as long u did not input,not every bill u should suffocate ur man just because u tot he is the man of the house,try and be a helping hand to ur man nd take some bills nd pay not waiting 4 ur man to do so,kids bills are not made to be paid only by there fathers

Nonsense! My guess is you are the older version of that frustrated and angry boy in the video. 🥱🥱🥱

What that mother did there, quietly enduring that boy's tantrum throwing, making sure she is present and he knows that her attention is on her all of that time, so he could pour out all of the venom inside of him...do you know how much it would cost to hire a professional to do that alone? Do you think your father could have been able to afford it, let alone have time to sit through many more of such tantrums for you when you were a child? 🥱🥱🥱

Yet when your mother did it for you, you believed her an eejiot for it, abi? 🥱🥱🥱

inforesource:
You didn't see all these before you got married to him? You don't enter marriage and begin to complain about your spouse. Just go down on your knees and pray for him and bear that cross until something change in him. And note all the those activities and conditions your hubby is also contribute to his performance.

Crazy peepo. How many of you wey don dey go down on your knees since these pastors began their experience around the 1970s don see your prayers answered? Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

Abbeytoy:
✓ I insisted that you'll understand when you get there.
I know that about 70% of Nigerians over there are doing this. I won't go to details make I no cast people hustling

I know about Nigerians on welfare in the UK, just that I didn't realize they get paid so well even there, too, to be in the system. 🥱🥱

Such shouldn't be the case. Welfare is not meant to provide luxury lifestyle to those on it. 🥱🥱🥱

BRATISLAVA:
LOL.
The more you look, the less you see.
The guy "pays all the bills" though.

Op later insists that the breakup was due to the woman refusing to give a portion of money she gets from the government with the man as if he deserved a share.🥱🥱🥱

My guess is the man may be off with another welfare maid somewhere else , repeating the same pattern, and not telling his family. Some habits are hard to break once one starts. 🥱🥱

Abbeytoy:
✓ When you get there you'll understand

Sorry, but those sort of lies no be my thing. I am at least glad this one over here is finally cutting the purse strings of those on this side who have been taking advantage of the system for so long. 🥱🥱

I don't like it when able bodied individuals think it is OK to game the system while depriving so many others of the opportunity they deserve by it. Yes, there are probably some old folks eating cat food because they can't get money to eat from the same government. 🥱🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
✓ Thank you You have spoken my mind Some mothers are the ones paying family bills but lying to their kids that their father did, just to make the man look good in front of the kids

That tradition and religious nonsense that has women literally playing the villain, propping up deadbeat fathers — cover your husband's shame —while raising and expecting children to grow well is evil. How can they not realize that it confuses the child and leaves him or her angry and ashamed of the mother for the longest? There is absolutely no justification for why a child has to be out through such a useless emotional rollercoaster over a man who took himself out of the picture, hoping the child would come search him out much later in life.

Worse, the deadbeats being propped up by these foolish women and who played no part in raising the children, go around believing that once the child is grown, it will come around so they can then mine it for labor and money. Most of them are quite confident that at least one of these many words from many baby mamas will be there for them in their old age, all because of this stewpidest of practices by women. 🥱🥱🥱

The practice is a very evil one and needs to end with our mothers and grandmothers. 🥱🥱🥱

ned009:
✓ Smiles...I could have yawned at your response,but it's ur view anyways..
Why not rather dish your advice to her instead?lol

My advice is to her telling her she hitched her youth, dreams and the future of her children to a man who already decided before age 40(now 45) to be a loser in life. Why didn't or couldn' you get that? 🤔

LordReed:
✓ Probably telling some fibs to get government assistance. She'd expose those lies if she reports the correct situation. Had a relative have the same thing happen. The woman refused to get married to him so she could keep getting those benefits for their child.

Wat in the world? How big are those checks that people would prefer them to progress? 🤔

themanderon:
✓ Did you not see where he said the government must never know she has a husband?

Did you also not read where he is that the government knows them simply as partners. Partners can make a baby together. Having a single mother demand child support from her baby daddy does not reveal them as husband and wife. 🤔🤔

Cherryediva:
You are right
I married him as a virgin. After giving birth, I wasn’t satisfied anymore, my sex drive increased.
I loved his personality and was ready to build a life with him. Even though my family was completely against the relationship, I chose to believe in him and hope for the best.
✓ Over the years, I realized he became too comfortable with his situation and stopped pushing himself to grow. Whenever I tried to advise him, he dismissed me he sees me like a small girl instead of a partner

You believed in the delusions you created in your head of him and not in his reality. Now, you have has to experience reality, I hope you now see why it was a very terrible idea that you fell for his lies the way you did. 🤔

2. Wrong! He didn't become too comfortable...that comfort, he already has long before he met you. He performed the much he could in order to get and trap you with him. He has to work hard since your family was against you being with him. Now that he is sure he has you and his hands on your money,he no longer has incentive to continue performing for you. 🤔

You are likely less than half as cunning as he is... remember that. He has lived this two times your lifetime and has likely learned so much more manipulation tactics than you have been able to wrap your mind around in the few years you have been here. 🤔

A 45-year-old man is not a child or your toy. 🤔

nnamdi640:
✓ It is you that knows nothing about that same book. The bible never classified unmarried women that have sexual experience as virgins. You better go and read your bible well and don't come here to mislead people. Men must take this serious, you can't turn yourself to bed to bed midfielder later you will be looking for an innocent guy you will put in trouble. Again, did the bible instructed women to turn their selves to bed to bed midfielder, since you want to use the bible to justify rubbish

Storyland! 🥱🥱🥱

nnamdi640:
He is alright nothing is wrong with him. That is once of sensible questions responsible men should ask, even God that choose Mary as a virgin knows what He was doing. A man should take that serious because you don't know the kind of energy the previous guy carry

. You people are always spewing nonsense!

First, the book you pretend to reference considered unmarried women — regardless of sexual experience— as virgins. Second, the reason why the woman was chosen... it had to be the seed of the woman used in birth—23 of the chromosomes that make up even you came from a woman, while the other 23 probably came from the one whom you refer to as your father — because he had to be a child of God from his birth— that is what the book said it had to be. ( A woman's seeds are set from before her birth and remain intact until she runs out of them in her old age.) These things are beyond your particular delusions with that meat between your legs; you should probably stay away from mentioning topics you have little to no understanding of. 🥱🥱

AntiChristian:
➜When the gospels mentions disciples it is usually restricted to the twelve except otherwise stated.

That is a private delusion of yours and not according to the facts detailed in the books, which instead made clear that there were at least 72 disciples that Jesus Christ of Israel had before his death. 🥱🥱🥱

17 When the 72 followers came back from their trip, they were very happy. They said, “Lord, even the demons obeyed us when we used your name!” - Luke 10 vs 17

AntiChristian:
➜You didn't for once relate Matthew with what Luke wrote. Where is Galilee in Luke/Acts?

Why do you need Galilee mentioned in Luke/Acts for you to see that both write-ups are not in any way disconnected as you pretend? 🥱🥱

AntiChristian:
➜Junkie, the topic is Matthew vs Luke....? Luke wrote Acts and Luke. So you should get the gist! I shouldn't be doing the thinking for you!

You brought in Acts, and I made certain to address the topic as well. And as you clearly see, there is no conflict between what was reported in Matthew and in Luke, not even that collated in Acts. 🥱

Johnisine12:
You said it all …that’s what we call relationships…the good the bad times….pray do some cancelling and stick with your marriage Best Regards

Stop lying to her! What she has is not a relationship but a prison sentence.

Nuklex:
I don't believe that. Besides he was acquitted by a judge not his village chief and a prisoner that broke out will still in hiding.

Which judge? Where did you read that one? 🥱🥱🥱

emmalezy:
➜“You’ve Never Paid School Fees Here” — Boy Boldly Confronts His Mother in Trending Video
A shocking yet hilarious video currently making the rounds on social media has stirred massive reactions. In the viral clip, a young boy is seen fearlessly confronting his mother, boldly telling her that she has no right to caution him because, according to him, she has never contributed financially to his education.
In his words:
> “I don’t blame you. It’s because daddy traveled, that’s why you’re doing this rubbish. Have you ever paid school fees for anybody in this house? You have never contributed shishi, it’s daddy that pays for everything.”
The boy’s confidence and unapologetic tone left many viewers stunned, while others couldn’t help but laugh at his courage. Some social media users described his outburst as “disrespectful,” insisting the child deserved serious discipline, while others argued that he was simply expressing his frustrations in the only way he knew how.
The trending clip has since sparked conversations about parenting, respect, and the growing boldness of children in today’s generation.
What are your thoughts on this? Was the boy out of line, or was he simply speaking his truth?

Nigerian women need to do better when it comes to raising their boys. All these women married to men they keep propping up—awon cover your husband's shame endurance wives out there —, pretending that they do good by reducing their efforts to make the man look good, only to keep hurting their children with these lies. How in the world would these boys understand the true value of their mothers in these relationships if they are constantly seeing their mothers lying on behalf of fathers who may be nowhere in the picture?

I am not certain what transpired, but given that the woman posted the video, it seems she feels her efforts in the home go unappreciated, and something tells me it may have to do with her not telling her children the truth.

That boy's resentment towards his mother did not come out of nowhere. He has probably had it for a long time that the mother is merely a mooch who contributes nothing to his life and development as a whole, and that is a problem that mothers need to pay attention to early in their development.

Nuklex:
so you expect the court or the police to tell you about their wrong doings or how they didn't conduct proper investigations?

The man telling you the story says nothing of judges, courts, or lawyers. It is as simple as that. For all you and I know, the man may have broken out of jail and has this story to cover his truth. Nothing in the story says anyone made attempts to verify his tale.

Abbeytoy:
➜I don't understand please

I mean that the fact they are in the UK should not stop you from keeping in touch with the woman and the child, so you can at least probably be contacted by her if things change regarding her caring for the child.🥱

Preciousgirl:
Guys Be honest Doesn't it disgust you knowing that the woman you wanna sleep with sleeps with another man? That another mans fluid enters her? That should be very disgusting Or?

What in the world is wrong with you? Are you sure you are alright there? 🥱🥱🥱

Abbeytoy:
➜They're in UK

I know, so you have your work cut out for you. It is sad! 🥱🥱🥱

TheWolfen:
seams you obviously knows the law more than the experienced judge and lawyers at the courtroom.

What judge and lawyers? What courtroom?

Abbeytoy:
➜My fear too

Your family should try to maintain contact with the woman and the child. Not on behalf of your brother, but the fact that the child is blood. Call him often and talk to him as often as possible, doing your best to provide for him when possible. That way, even if the woman thinks of giving him up for adoption, she would let you all know out of courtesy.

The instruction was not that they never walk out of Jerusalem from the point when it was given to them. We know this because Jesus Christ of Israel, the one who gave them the instructions, led them out of Jerusalem towards Bethany himself.

45 Then Jesus helped the followers understand these Scriptures about him.
46 Jesus said to them, “It is written that the Messiah would be killed and rise from death on the third day.
47-48 You saw these things happen—you are witnesses. You must go and tell people that they must change and turn to God, which will bring them his forgiveness. You must start from Jerusalem and tell this message in my name to the people of all nations.
49 Remember that I will send you the one my Father promised. Stay in the city until you are given that power from heaven.” - Luke 24 vs 45 - 49

The mission was clearly that they start the work after he was gone from Jerusalem... and he remained in Jerusalem with them for a period before he eventually went out of Jerusalem with them to the point of ascension. 🥱🥱🥱

AntiChristian:
➜Conclusion: Both Incidences Cannot Be True Simultaneously
**The accounts in Matthew and Luke/Acts present mutually exclusive instructions and locations for the disciples' post-resurrection meetings with Jesus.
**Matthew's narrative requires the disciples to leave Jerusalem immediately for Galilee .
**Luke and Acts require the disciples to remain in Jerusalem for 40 days.
**Therefore, both accounts cannot be literally true[/s] [s]at the same time if taken as strict historical chronology .

Given the actual content of the writings in the books of Matthew and Luke, this conclusion of yours is flawed. It is based on unfounded assumptions made by you.

AntiChristian:
➜1. Matthew 28:7, 10 (Jesus instructs the women to tell the disciples to meet him in Galilee)
Context: After Jesus's resurrection, an angel appears to the women at the tomb.
Realted Verses:
Matthew 28:7 (ESV): "Then go quickly and tell his disciples that he has risen from the dead, and behold, he is going before you to Galilee; there you will see him. See, I have told you."
Matthew 28:10 (ESV): "Then Jesus said to them, 'Do not be afraid; go and tell my brothers to go to Galilee, and there they will see me.'"
Note: Jesus instructs the women to inform the disciples to meet him in Galilee, where he will appear to them.
➜ 2. Luke 24:36-43 (Jesus appears to the disciples in Jerusalem on the same day)
Context: On the day of resurrection, Jesus appears to the disciples in Jerusalem.
Realted Verses:
Luke 24:36-39 (ESV): "As they were talking about these things, Jesus himself stood among them and said to them, 'Peace to you!' But they were startled and frightened and thought they saw a spirit. And he said to them, 'Why are you troubled, and why do doubts arise in your hearts? See my hands and my feet, that it is I myself. Touch me, and see. For a spirit does not have flesh and bones as you see that I have.'"
Luke 24:49 (ESV): "And behold, I am sending the promise of my Father upon you. But stay in the city until you are clothed with power from on high."
Note: Jesus appears to the disciples in Jerusalem, invites them to touch him, and instructs them to stay in the city (Jerusalem) until they receive the Holy Spirit.

According to the Gospels, Jesus Christ had at least 72 followers before he went to his death.

8 So the women left the tomb quickly. They were afraid, but they were also very happy. They ran to tell his followers what happened.
9 Suddenly, Jesus was there in front of them. He said, “Hello!” The women went to him and, holding on to his feet, worshiped him.
10 Then Jesus said to them, “Don’t be afraid. Go tell my followers to go to Galilee. They will see me there.” - Matthew 28 vs 8-10

The account in Matthew focuses on 11 of his followers, not on all of them, needing to meet up with him at a mountain in Galilee.🤔

16 The eleven followers went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus told them to go.
17 On the mountain, the followers saw Jesus. They worshiped him. But some of the followers did not believe that it was really Jesus.
18 So he came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth is given to me.
19 So go and make followers of all people in the world. Baptize them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.
20 Teach them to obey everything that I have told you to do. You can be sure that I will be with you always. I will continue with you until the end of time.” - Matthew 28 vs 16 - 20

Of note is the fact that the account does not indicate that it was on the same day of Jesus Christ's resurrection that they met up with him on the mount in question.
2. Luke's account of events records Jesus Christ leading a group of other followers out of Jerusalem, towards the location where His ascension happened.

50 Jesus led his followers out of Jerusalem almost to Bethany. He raised his hands and blessed his followers.
51 While he was blessing them, he was separated from them and carried into heaven.
52 They worshiped him and went back to Jerusalem very happy.
53 They stayed at the Temple all the time, praising God. - Luke 24 vs 50 - 52

Also of note is the fact that neither did Luke suggest that the trip made by Jesus Christ of Israel and His followers from Jerusalem to Bethany took place on the same day that he was raised from the dead.

The only same-day connection here seems to be Jesus Christ giving instructions to the women to go tell his disciples to meet up with him in Galilee, and his running into the 2 followers on the way to the town called Emmaus.🥱🥱

tete7000:
➜Where is my evidence? What a question? Ask the OP now or you didn't read the post? Why asked me a dumb question?

The OP only contains the man claiming he was cleared.

nlfpmod:
➜Lagos Man Cleared of Child Molestation Charge After Seven Years in Custody
An elderly man, Idowu Fashola, has shared his experience after being accused of raping a young girl who had lived with his family from the age of three. He explained that the girl was brought to his home by his wife for care and training and remained with them until she reached secondary school age before returning to her parents.
He said the family later arrived with the police and accused him of rape, leading to a prolonged court case and his detention. The man said he was eventually found not guilty and discharged after the court determined he had no case to answer.

Nothing about courts clearing him of wrongdoing. You obviously didn't read the OP. 🥱🥱