₦airaland Forum

BreconHills:
■ I like your exalted view of the church and this is certainly the position of the NT. I used to say what passes for church on Sunday is at best a public crusade. I think people mistake the crowds following Jesus for his disciples. The challenge is we have a low entry bar for church and the level of fellowship/collectiveness is also low - because we are bargaining and negotiating with the flesh. It should be high bar, high fellowship/collective. I suggest however that restoration not focus on sounding a clarion call to the world but first building the model that others can be invited into. God will bring those in whom he is working and add them to his kingdom himself.

Jeezuzpick:
■ I'm not too different from you. We just have different experiences. I know of few couples with no children around or at all, but they're waaaaay in the minority. Most childless couples I know are young, like thirties to forties.

ahmedio2017:
■You lacks understanding.... Moses, Aaron, Abraham, Solomon David are all Muslims Judaism believe in ONENESS of God same thing applicable to ISLAM, Jesus Christ PBUH is a MUSLIM and he believed in oneness of God. Jesus Christ PBUH is a word of God now the question is what is the meaning of word of God? Remember God created heaven and the earth with his word.
Now what is the meaning of that word?

obiekunie01:
oga! na where you stand self?? today u r defending abrahamic faith and quoting bible! next you are denouncing it! pls stop confusing thunder!

Jeezuzpick:
■ How do you know they're common?

Abbeytoy:
■ Not because there was no love, but because they can't reach a compromise about the child. Still optimistic there'll be a way out and the reason I brought it here for more people to help

Jeezuzpick:
■ How common are those? If they're common around you, you need to change location.

Abbeytoy:
■ Hmmmm, be like something o

pocohantas:
In a nutshell, na man dey do man.

Abbeytoy:
■ Should he let the lady go or not having anything to do with the boy?

Abbeytoy:
A friend of mine is about to marry a single mother of one. My friend doesn't have any issues with the lady. But he wants to adopt the baby legally before he can spend on him, but it seems the lady doesn't want that and is not taking the adoption seriously.
So this friend of mine is insisting on not allowing the boy to his house or supporting her on anything about him if he won't have any legal authority over the boy. This guy loves the lady, as we all know, but he's considering letting her go if they can't come to terms with the baby. My friend is also a single father of one boy and is doing all his responsibilities. We all also like this lady, and we don't want them to part as it seems they're perfect for each other. Please, how can he handle the situation and how can we helped them.

Toeyota:
@General Ditari. A popular bishop in Edo State has denounced Christianity,burn his Bible and embraced African Traditional Religion. In his words, 'We have been deceiving and lying to people and staging miracles all these years. My conscience wouldn't allow me to continue with these lies. If you claim you can heal any sickness or perform any miracle with the name of Jesus, I challenge you to come forward."

Read rev 10 vs7 and read rev 11 vs 15.

6 The angel made a promise by the power of the one who lives forever and ever. He is the one who made the skies and all that is in them. He made the earth and all that is in it, and he made the sea and all that is in it. The angel said, “There will be no more waiting!
7 In the days when the seventh angel is ready to blow his trumpet, God’s secret plan will be completed—the Good News that God told to his servants, the prophets.” - Revelations 10 vs 6 - 7

15 The seventh angel blew his trumpet. Then there were loud voices in heaven. The voices said,“The kingdom of the world has now become the kingdom of our Lord and of his Messiah. And he will rule forever and ever.”
16 Then the 24 elders bowed down on their faces and worshiped God. These are the elders who sit on their thrones before God.
17 The elders said, “We give thanks to you, Lord God All-Powerful. You are the one who is and who always was. We thank you because you have used your great power and have begun to rule.
18 The people of the world were angry, but now is the time for your anger. Now is the time for the dead to be judged. It is time to reward your servants, the prophets, and to reward your holy people, the people, great and small, who respect you. It is time to destroy those people who destroy the earth!”
19 Then God’s temple in heaven was opened. The Box of the Agreement[b] could be seen in his temple. Then there were flashes of lightning, noises, thunder, an earthquake, and a great hailstorm. - Revelations 11 vs 15 - 19

Uchesis:
■ Jesus didn't marry, neither did his disciples. God doesn't have a wife, neither satan the devil. Angels don't marry, infact all the angels are male. Yet no one is asking them why?

Kukutenla:
■ Quote bible. Na grammar full ground instead. You nor get talk. You just like the sound of your keypad

newbornmacho:
■ Denominations are not church like the op said

truthfulsearch:
■ Understanding spiritual commitment can be challenging. It's about dedicating yourself to a higher purpose, often guided by faith or beliefs. It involves practices like prayer, meditation, and service to others. It's unique to each individual and evolves over time.

Jeezuzpick:
Not so, my sister. I won't tell people who can't have kids to kill themselves, for instance. I have close friends who are childless and really want kids.
However, I can see the old people around me and I know for sure that their grown kids mean a lot in their lives in their old age.

jelel6:
I think to have or not to have children should be a MAJOR decision. Unfortunately, we have been programmed to get a Job, marry, and have children. Me included. So what should have been a major decision to make ends up being trivial.
But there's nothing trivial about birthing, raising, and caring for children. Not every person in the world is going to be able to commit to, and then have the capabilities to shoulder such responsibilities.
Fact is, if Nigeria was a less judgemental society. A few more people would be contented with the happiness and pride they find in other sources besides children.

Michael547:
■ So mixing with followers of christ means I don't know Jesus? Definitely Jesus disciples were not true followers then since they mixed with themselves.

truthfulsearch:
■ I understand your questions about sharing in the suffering of Jesus Christ. It's a complex topic with various interpretations. Some Christians believe it involves sacrificial living, empathy, and enduring hardships in alignment with Jesus' teachings. However, i think comprehension is quite important as we read articles about Christ. But, i understand your stance still. It's about spiritual commitment rather than an exact replication of Jesus' earthly circumstances.

Michael547:
∆Na so so story full your mouth.
Common to identify a true follower of christ apart from yourself is difficult for you to do and a feat you might never accomplish throughout your lifetime if you continue to have this mentality.

Irreplaceable01:
What about staying together. We were not cohabiting cause she's the religious type.

LordIsaac:
John 3:16. You have been told!

4 The Israelites left Mount Hor and traveled on the road that goes to the Red Sea. They did this to go around the country of Edom. But the people became impatient.
5 They began complaining against God and Moses. The people said, “Why did you bring us out of Egypt? We will die here in the desert! There is no bread and no water! And we hate this terrible food!”
6 So the Lord sent poisonous snakes among the people. The snakes bit the people, and many of the Israelites died.
7 The people came to Moses and said, “We know that we sinned when we spoke against the Lord and against you. Pray to the Lord. Ask him to take away these snakes.” So Moses prayed for them.
8 The Lord said to Moses, “Make a bronze snake and put it on a pole. If anyone is bitten by a snake, that person should look at the bronze snake on the pole. Then that person will not die.”
9 So Moses made a bronze snake and put it on a pole. Then when a snake bit anyone, that person looked at the bronze snake on the pole and lived. - Numbers 21 vs 4 - 9

14 “Moses lifted up the snake in the desert. It is the same with the Son of Man. He must be lifted too.
15 Then everyone who believes in him can have eternal life.”
16 Yes, God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son so that everyone who believes in him would not be lost but have eternal life.
17 God sent his Son into the world. He did not send him to judge the world guilty but to save the world through him. - John 3 vs 14-16

Blacklion3:
∆ E fit even bring am 4 more times if e like. Wetin consign me

kkins25:
∆ Given all he's said, the OP's story makes sense to me.
1) He had already approached the family for marriage. And they appeared to welcome him.
2) by his actions, he had made it known to her that they were to settle down. All that was left was for the girl to play her part, which she didn't. They dragged out the date to make the whole ordeal formal.
3) The girl is the one who denied the OP access to her parents, knowing that they disapproved of the inter-tribal marriage.
4) If the girl hadn't succumbed to pressure, she'd have kept the baby, which would have forced the parents' hands, just like my mom did in my situation.
5) She hid the fact that her parents weren't okay with the marriage, yet continued to be intimate with him while rekindling old flames with another lover.
6) I understand the lady and her action, but being pretentious to that extent trumps whatever dragging she had to endure from the OP.
7) Unfortunately for the old lover, he was the second choice....ehyaaa....
Without a doubt, the real dubious person here is no other than the girl. What we have here is a girl without the stomach-to-face stigma and a dubious individual who continued to lead the Op on knowing she wasn't going to marry him. She even made him build a baby-bed..
I think OP dodged a bullet because if things go south, she'll blame her woes on all of him. And the marriage would be a living hell.

LordIsaac:
∆ Therein lies the problem. You think it’s by power or might. Allow God to help you. For anything that is not of faith is sin. Accept Jesus today!

10 The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”
11 But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given.
12 For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.” - Matthew 19 vs 10 - 12

27 A large crowd followed Jesus. Some of the women were sad and crying. They felt sorry for him.
28 But Jesus turned and said to the women, “Women of Jerusalem, don’t cry for me. Cry for yourselves and for your children too.
29 The time is coming when people will say, ‘The women who cannot have babies are the ones God has blessed. It’s really a blessing that they have no children to care for.’ [/size]
30 Then the people will say to the mountains, ‘Fall on us!’ They will say to the hills, ‘Cover us!’
31 If this can happen to someone who is good, what will happen to those who are guilty? ” - Luke 23 vs 27 - 31

34 [size=12pt]Jesus said to the Sadducees, “On earth, people marry each other.
35 Some people will be worthy to be raised from death and live again after this life. In that life they will not marry.
36 In that life people are like angels and cannot die. They are children of God, because they have been raised from death. - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36

For those completely without eyes, Jesus Christ made it clear that His followers are in this world but are NOT of the world.

kkins25:
∆ ah, I think I get your point. But, that can't happen especially if the girl in question is scared of the family. This is quite a difficult feat in our part of the world. The girl becomes isolated and is left almost at the mercy of her husband. So, if things go south, there's no one she can run to.
∆ Plus, there's the whole stigma against marrying without the blessings of the parents(like as if people can't get married if the parents are late).
Since the girl didn't inform him of the issue on ground, the OP is absolved of all faults.

Plus1234:
I will continue to attack you online and spiritually until you stop twisting the Word Of God and confusing Christians.

29 “Right after the trouble of those days, this will happen:‘The sun will become dark, and the moon will not give light.The stars will fall from the sky, and everything in the sky will be changed.’[c]
30 “Then there will be something in the sky that shows the Son of Man is coming. All the people of the world will cry. Everyone will see the Son of Man coming on the clouds in the sky. He will come with power and great glory.
31 He will use a loud trumpet to send his angels all aroun
32 “The fig tree teaches us a lesson: When its branches become green and soft, and new leaves begin to grow, then you know that summer is very near.
33 In the same way, when you see ALL these things happening, you will know that the time[d] is very near, already present.
34 I assure you that ALL these things will happen while some of the people of this time are still living.
35 The whole world, earth and sky, will be destroyed, but my words will last forever. - Matthew 24 vs 32 - 35