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Alwaysachick:
Thats not enough screenshot for me.

Well you should have noticed her ability to manage or misuse finances when you people were dating, takes us back to the faulty foundation.

Alwaysachick:
Did you come here for advice or looking for where to boost your ego


Send us more screen shots I really want to see your part of the chats.

Alwaysachick:
Na them.......one sided story. Know when to press the stop button? Why start it? Knowing fully well you are very absent in the marriage.


Op we need more screen shots showing your own side of the chats.

dingbang:
she won't kill you before your time Allah... Young men are slumping and dying these days due to family pressures and stress. Please leave while you can.. Life at sea is far better than a stressful marriage on land.

dingbang:
You see, finance is always my issue in relationships. All the ladies I have dated never got it right with financial issues.

AfroKnight:
From the WhatsApp chat, I can see that she complains about the way you explain things to her. Do not be condescending when explaining things to another adult, especially your wife. Try not to make her look stupid because you have a better idea on something.

I don’t think this is the end of the road. You can still mend things. Being offshore is very challenging. It puts a lot of pressure on relationships. Just hang in there. When next you’re around, try to settle with her.

Your brother in-law is a fôol though. Never forget that.

TrollKiller:
Mr Man, this woman will dump you for a better guy the first chance she gets!
All I see up there is a man suffering from a nagging and unsupporting lady. It seems she dislikes working for something and prefers "ready made"
I am suspecting the aunty cause she may be behind this change of character. Who knows, she might be looking outside the marriage for her "benefits" (hence her telling you that some people marriage is better than yours)
How can your husband lose 2 fvxking million and all you could deduce from the situation is a request for wage increment?? Shows the kind of human she is.
Be a papa to your child, love her and shield her (though I fear for the influence the mum will have on her), do all your necessary duties, but be wary of that lady.
Stop updating her on what is going on, take back the reigns of your financial life and march forward. Since she doesn't appreciate how your toiling for her, she should have no problem in handing over.
Don't sign anything in her name. The issues you put forward to her saw no solutions from her so don't bother telling her about them again!
I won't recommend a divorce, but give her some distance, give her space
Let her think on her own and make her own decision.

AfroKnight:
This one don marry typical nairaland babe.

Either of two things:

1. She is truly dumb and a spendthrift

2. She is secretly investing the money and one day she’ll tell you about the house she just completed in the next street.

lefulefu:
this is what u get when u marry a slayqueen.all the money she is spending it on makeups,clothes,bags,shoes and what have u

nlPoster:
What a stupid comment.

nlPoster:
Op, if you're referring to considering yourself all that, carry on, let's see how far.

lifenajeje:
That's a tiger ..

There are no tigers in Africa ...


So the post is not amotekun related .

Larryfest:
I guess that's why the people from that side have been foaming from the mouth since Amotekun came to life..They are just scared as pant shit scared.

IOStanley:
Op, you're shouting!

BSF:
Real Volume. If you understand the times and seasons!

Businext:
#TableShaker

Redberyl:
Good day oga koife. I understand what you are going through because my husband does exactly the job you do under NSML. He is usually gone for 6 months or more at times. Despite that, we have figured out a way to keep our marriage drama free and interesting.

From your chats, you sounded quite harsh talking to her. I know it can be annoying when sjhe isn't reachable because I know your job is run on shifts so you can only be free for a specific period of time to chat her.Also the time zone difference doesn't help sometimes. What you should do as a loving husband is tell her your work schedule everytime so you guys can set out time to chat.

When I started dating my husband, he was always updating me of his break times and when he would end his work shift and the time zone difference for anywhere he is in the world . That way I already know that by so so time, I need to be free to talk to him. In most places like Asia, I have to set alarm to wake up at night(then it's morning there and he is almost getting ready for work), so I can be able to talk to him a bit. It messes up with my sleep pattern, but it's the sacrifice we vowed to make right from when we started dating to keep our marriage going strong.

It's not an issue of quarel, you need to make her crave for your conversations.Your tone alone is enough to make her detest talking to you. As a sailor it's so easy to have a strained marriage cos of the distance and absence for months. You need to talk to her, pet her and let her know that you love her and would like to hear from her daily.

I jokingly tell my husband that he is a lot more romantic when he is at work, than when he comes home . He finds a way to ask about my day, how am faring, organize surprises for me. We talk about everything, I mean everything. It's lonely at sea, so it's best you make your wife your best friend.

Draw her closer especially as she is pregnant. It's not easy dealing with all she is going through now (trust me, I know), especially without her man at home. This isn't the time to quarell over how u can't reach her. U need to toast her all over again,show her love, care and attention.

Being a sailors wife isn't easy. The fact is most women are wired to be faithful no matter what, while some can be pushed into the arms of another man because of lack of communication and friendship in their marriage. While you are at sea, don't slack o.. Chase your wife, pamper her and try to be a part of her life. It's not all about placing her on salary. You need to be her best friend, else your marriage may start to have issues because of this lack of communication.

My husband told me of a philippino man that tried committing suicide by jumping into the sea because someone sent him picture of his wife kissing another man at a coffee spot in Phillipine. So, except you don't love her o, else anything that happens like that will mess with your head at work which you don't need.

My husband talks to me a lot about how things are run on board, you need to be happy emotionally to excel at work, a little mistake or oversight may cost you your job which won't be good.

So Oga, find a way to draw your wife close.
Send her pictures.. My husband sends me pictures of himself a lot and I do same. He asks about my day even before it starts, we talk about future plans, gossip about celebs and stuffs, most times we talk into late at night. I have to drive him to go sleep because of work the next day. Most times his colleagues even tease him saying "you sure say na your wife you dey chat like this so".



Forget those girls chatting you, they have nothing to offer. Focus on your wife and marriage, those girjs are just after your money.Then it's your wife that would even be leaving you romantic messages before you get to your cabin after the close of your shift. All the best!