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Op this your case sounds familiar to me. A friend of mine who got to his ex engaged lost her to a certain guy approx nine months ago, she went back to her ex to apologise claiming she had quit with the new guy, just this january. Waitoooo are you based in Abj?

Aderola15:
I know it is right

Haha, DM if you can

soath:
Huawei . Hope I'm right

Nope

Electronzeez:
99% sure it's Huawei

Wrong

sunshineV:
tecno s9

Wrong

Here's mine

A few days ago I posted nuggets from my sister Daniella Amba about a deep woman, a guy called her to take it off her page and most of you have been attacking a bit and most men have made very insightful submissions let me take it a bit further, even though I hate typing long notes except am writing a book. You can consider this A deep woman part2

1. A deep woman is a wise woman, a proverb 31 woman and of course a Godly influence, she understands that her influence is not for her to subdue people especially her man or take his place.

2. A deep woman understands order and Authority, she understands that the man is the head of the home no matter her level of influence and affluence.. God instituted the man to be the head of the home then his woman as his support structure, any woman who fights her mans authority is a foolish and a shallow woman. I Am a feminist, I support gender equality but a deep woman doesn't need to shout or protest to get her voice heard, there are strategies you employ to get the needful done..

3. A deep woman is a woman who has the 7 spirits of God operative in her life. That is the spirit of wisdom, understanding, knowledge, fear of the lord, counsel and might and the spirit of the lord. She knows where to allow each of this spirit loose in what situation, she doesn't only resolve to emotional intelligence but uses her spiritual highlights efficiently.

4. A woman understands the power of multiplication, give her money she gives you an empire, give her time she gives you results. Give her a sperm, she will produce Godly, intelligent and independent minded children who can survive anything and anywhere you put them.

she is resourceful and can never waste any resource given to her.
We have 4 times of resources 1. Time 2. money 3. energy and 4. people.
Now understand she is not your slave, care taker or remote control . she can stretch only to the capacity at which you are worth (her man)
If you do not exhault your woman as your queen, she can never enthrone you as her king.
A deep woman has untold abilities and dynamics invested in her by her maker.

so go on tag all the women in your life...
women you can't afford to be shallow, the risk involved is too high. Know your potentials, capabilities and powers and invest them...

Good night.. will talk about avoiding heart breaks soon..

Aderola15:
Op is fine ooo

hahaha, see wetin u go dey look. Anyways thnx...singleness is a good business

majorbravo:
This right here is the best advice for you OP. These kinda girls aint loyal. She is being apologetic now because she feels Karma has caught up with her. Back in the day, I fell for this BS. Trust me it didn't end well, I learnt the hard way that 2nd chance is for losers. She is doing this cos she was betrayed or disappointed by Mr Ministry Man. Try getting back with her and send a super duper rich friend she doesn't know about to ask her out, and watch her dump you like a pack of cards and fly. Concentrate on being a better you bro, date only courageous women who have demonstrated their ability to intelligently make and follow a plan through in other things, these indecisive mofos would only ruin your life. Peace.

spot on bruv

Bnimz:
My humble opinion, this shitt aint real. not the post o.. the apologies. She might be feeling bad now due to some circumstances but that doesnt change the fact that she has the tendency to stray when things go bad or when "brighter" opportunities come around... That tendency will remain within her. Bros, a girl that left once cos she saw a better guy, will leave again or at least stray again under the right circumstances.

No risk am bro. Aint worth it.

Thanx man, I am no fool. I am now very wise

Bnimz:
My humble opinion, this shitt aint real. not the post o.. the apologies. She might be feeling bad now due to some circumstances but that doesnt change the fact that she has the tendency to stray when things go bad or when "brighter" opportunities come around... That tendency will remain within her. Bros, a girl that left once cos she saw a better guy, will leave again or at least stray again under the right circumstances.

No risk am bro. Aint worth it.

Than man, I am no fool. I am now very wise

gmacnoms:
Op, with the few chat I saw, I think u need to be wise o. Jst now she has started making some kinda statements *like u care*. She knows u r weak, and wants to exploit u

IGAF, dats y I commented

Bro I know, I used to be weak, guess what?God found me... Am stronger now

seunny4lif:
I always say it that girls don't know what they want
They are just confused set of human being
Love them na wahala and don't love them na problem

I even asked her, what do you want from me..she said 'I don't know what to say'

I suffered with this girl, I loved her so much that I denied myself some privileges. We were engaged to get married last yr. Out of no where she broke-up with me. A yr+ now, suddenly I got this from her with strange no. She told me openly she was in love with a certain federal min of water resources worker in Abj. I was so hurt that I relocated from Abj just to start all over. Thing. Is I healed, though still single, I don't have an ounce of love left in me anymore
Ladies build that guy, don't look down on him, you never knew tomorrow
Pls refer to my story!
https://www.nairaland.com/3532949/cry-sos-continues

Xaddy:
The other day, Obama called me and said he was coming for me. I knew the number was strange because my phone went dark when I received the call. I could also hear Joe Biden grunting in the background, it was so eerie... I sha told Obama that IDGAF he could come and get me... Next thing I knew, I woke up inside gutter

That was the day I stopped drinking HERO....

Dude, you laughing out and jerking off....bro I finally I have that f**k to give

Spot on, it worked for me. She came back apologising after 1yr+...too bad she had already turned me into a bad guy....no love left in me

If you agree hit like. Imagine atiku + Donal duke combo or kwankwaso

bezimo:
All these frustrated women, who no reasonable guy is interested in wifing, they are forming we don't want marriage, deceiving themselves.As if anybody is interested.

How did they get there?
Step 1
Typical at a younger age, those girls are arrogant like I don't care, they feel they have lots of admirers and those interested in them.So they treat potential interested husband with disrespect and disdain.

Step 2
As they grow older, the folks interested declines significantly, they observe that the reasonable guys have turned their atttention away to possible younger ones, then they become nicer to folks and start taking steps of desperation and facing pressure from family and to some extent society, they realise the options are not much. When it's not working

Step 3
They conclude, that marriage is not for everyone and why they don't want to marry , they console and deceive themselves in pain and regrets.

...and come to naira land to open thread as if giving a f**k is pensinable

sweetilicious:
I must say i am a lucky and hard working girl.I finished my Bsc dec 2014,took my cert 2015.I got a job after an interview with an electricity distribution company in 2016 with the help of my aunt who happens to have the power as the HR.Am not upto 6months in the company.Which is the due time for our comfirmation.Now,i have another job offer from a commercial bank in Nigeria to be paid up to 80k.Now am confused cos i have alot of plans i need money to execute.Working in a financial institution will hasten my plans of travelling out of the country with work permit as an accountant.It will also get me more experience. Leaving this current job that pays lesser,my aunt's dissappointment,and the pressure employees of commercial banks faces recently is worrying.Although my aunt promised me a better position with accounting dept after 6months.I need constuctive advice.I dont want to make mistake thinking am wise.

private chat me for a professional advise.
first off;
from your write-up its is clear you're already rooting for the bank job, coz it seems to fit into your long term plans of hastening your travelling out (more like a career projection)
have you asked yourself...what are my motives?
pls don't let your ex know about your breakthrough....thank me later
what are the hurdles/challenges associated with either of your choices?
what are the financial burden/career pitfalls you may likely encounter?
does it fit into my personae now and later ?
does it fit into my passion as a person?

Pureheart91:
When you think you have hit the rocks, behold dere lies in wait a river behind those gaint rocks....
Am not a motivational speaker or so, i may not be so much advanced as you are in everytin, i may even suck @ giving advice....
Yet i just cant read your heart touching experience and leave widout a comment.

I just want you to know that GOD created you for a purpose in this life, perhaps ur purpose in life may not go in lue with what you think u are pursuing.

My honest Advice, Channel your heart to God(not church,nor mosque) and seek him deligently on the path you should go... I believe he would direct you accordingly, just BELIEVE and ASK HUMBLY...


Am soory for the long epistle, just want you knowing am not a SAINT neida, but would try my best to help the way i can.

I am revived by your kind words. Bless you sir

delishpot:
Eiyaaa, at the moment, I can only pray with you and wish you the best that next year Feb you would be satisfied in life and look unto even better things to come.
Keep faith, it shall get better bro. Oya smile a little for us your well wishers

Just let me know when the good news comes.

Thanks much

UHello house,
Permit me start by introducing myself. I am Efiok joseph, I hold Bachelors of Science Degree in Marine chemistry(2008), Masters of Science Degree in Chemistry(materials science and explosives-NDA:Distinction :4.4-2016). I may not be the best brain around but I am humble, teachable and versatile. I am putting up this thread because at this stage in my life, I am having a great pressure within and outside my sphere of influence. I have done everything I think is worthwhile to have a descent life. I Am almost feeling frustrated and depressed, this is due to the fact that at 30+ and still living in my parents house (insult me if you like), I feel I am just alone in this entire world. I can barely afford basic need of life. Before you crucify and blame everything on my laziness, let me give a bit of what I have been up to lately.

Rewind to 2008/2009- I had a job with a hotel..was paid seven thousand as start up, I took up the job not even considering my academic status, I believed in God, while I was there, I was able to save money and I enroled in many trainings and seminars. Some include basic safety course, customer service relationship, I also obtained a diploma in basic ict/computer appreciation, oil tanker farmilirization, LNG HSSEQ and other related oil and gas certificate courses. I saved enough money to buy a car and registered business name as a logistic enterprise, I was able to get an office space for that but some how high taxing and unfriendly business environment made me close down the office and returned to taxi (town drop) services. I had an accident and was forced to sale the car instead of total loss, i could no longer afford my rent and moved in with my parents, i was devasted. As the saying goes that quitters never win and winners never quit, I picked up my pieces, swallowed my pride and enrolled in sure-p, luckily I made it through the selection process and I was placed as an intern with an entertainment company with 15k take home after all sortings.

I simultaneously ran this alongside my MSc program which I almost single handedly sponsored myself till late last year..well, I had a further knock when in lost my 4yrs+ relationship, my fiancee who was hitherto very supportive left without any sign, I went bipolar, I hated life and depression set in. I sometimes wonder if there is anyone out there with my kind of experience....as I write this I am sited on the road side, I am confused, I am tired, I am teary...I sometimes think I have offended God so much that he has forgotten about me. I have updated my CV, I have applied for countless jobs, adjusting my CV accordingly. I have tried my hands on all sort of things, from marketing job, phone call business, laundry services trust me, have hustled. Many times I have contemplated suicide but I know its not the best option coz I would break the heart of my parents and all those who believed and invested in me and most importantly, God. I have listened to lost of motivational/inspirational CD to stir my faith, but trust me its as if its taking forever, I am losing it BIG TIME. I bought PhD form this year but on a second thought I considered I need a stable source of cash flow to to balance my life in whatever endeavour going forward and my parents are aging, so I dropped the idea.

I have read of stories here on Nairaland about people who carried placard and some how were lucky, while others give testimonies on how God visited them. i am using this opportunity to beg you all for your assistance for a JOB or a loan.....I have written my proposals for companies telling them about the ideas I have but some of them end up hijacking them. I seriously need an urgent help, even if as PA, voluntary, paid, partial paid...anything' I am ready to relocate if need be.
Thank you and God bless you.
Kindly reach me through
08030972730,08078661082 cry cry
Mod please help me push out there!

Nma27:
At last, sheen you are searching for a decent partner to marry huh; I have one sweet caring lady to hook you up with. Holla at me to match you guys up. P.S she's based in Abuja

am here

guiddoti:
Neither gold nor silver do I have, but by the mystery of divine connection, he shall raise your helper to connect you before 2016 end. It is well

Amen, thank you for your prayers. I am humbled!

FUCKmeHARD:
:-D mr. Ass not everyone has the mind to join monstar truck bomb squad team ..boko boys era...
OP Pls dont worry forget about all the past, most especially that your ex. Oneday soon before feb next year she will sit infront of her second hand TV and watch you mingle with dollars. Keep the faith

Thank you sir

wunmi590:
I just don't know what to say, it really touched my heart to the extent of crying.

You have really gone through alot, my prayer for you is that, the God of Pope Francis and and our Mother Mary will visit you, lift you up and change your story before this year runs out.

Please pray, pray and pray, prayer is the key, and never loose hope and don't stop believing in yourself.

Amen sir!

Tiny23:
God will surely send an helper to you soon...believe.

Amen

Ifakiland:
Wish u sef well and even borehole....nigger be gone abeg.

Have you noticed that in all of your direct abuses, I remain calm? This is what I have learnt to give back to people who are needlessly complicated.

moscobabs:
I just don't know what to say.

God visit this op bfre the year end and show yourself as Lord.

mods should please push this to front page.

Amen sir!

AssLeeKar:
Lalasticlala oya come & take this your Towns man to meet CoAS Buratai for Ordinance Recruitment. Ahooh monstar Truck!

Please pray for me

Emmaesty:
This is really sad. I pray 2016 ends with you smiling

Amen,thank you

Ifakiland:
My Frnd get missing pls...wasn't talking to u.

I take full responsibilities concerning my thread. I knew people like you would show up. So I won't join issues with you and go off road. Wish you well!