₦airaland Forum

Mrs, Chima:
Nairaland has too many secondary school cliques and many of the chatters are old as dirt. However it is refreshing when you have people that are genuinely honest and they are what they say.

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did you steal my thread??

Miss_Ife:
I often complain about my husband but when I read stories here, or when I look around me I thank God for the man He has blessed me with.

Something good out of nairaland at least

REALITY101:
This ground will be aiight if people quit being emotional over strangers and their comments.

True

but you know how 'hard' that is for some. . . even me at times.

Rocktation:
Awww too sad for your friend. But you men are †ђξ luckier kind. Atleast with just this story, you have something τ̅☺ refer τ̅☺ and take precautions. But it'§ not thesame on †ђξ flip side. For us, we just pray hard all year round τ̅☺ keep our men cos flashy/sexy or not, y'all can be quite unstable sometimes.

True.

God help us all.

coogar:
. . . . .but it's risky to be with a sexy woman, right?

That's ur assumption, not mine.

kokoye:
Sure nothing wrong with being fiiine and sexy. Hell, my wife is. But first of all, she is a good, God-fearing woman who respects herself.

LesbianBoy:
Annita19 sweery, can we discuss this over breakfast!

See there Annita . . .

another unserious poster!

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You are missing the point,

I also personally will not ask a lady out on a date if I am not physically attracted to her.

I never said it is wrong to be sexy.

annita19:
In addition to this, Why do NL/Nigerian guys disrespect their women so much? Where is the historical African culture?

Please dont take the posts in this section seriously. A lot of guys are just here to have fun while remaining anonymous.

Concerning your other post,  it depends on mindset, culture and exposure.

Some were raised by both parents (mothers inclusive) to believe how women are supposed to be treated . .and some of these guys will not get out of that mentality easily.

It is the same way with racism here in the US  . . . .some people will never AGREE that a black man is not inferior.


So, basically, it is about upbringing and system, and some are not willing to change.

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that means you looked out for both qualities, not only the outside one.

My advice is for men who ignore those internal qualities . . thank you!

Mr BrownJAY is simply a realistic poster.

chaircover:
I know that many couples live apart for various reasons but lets face it for those peeps that it works out for it is the Grace of God & not by power or might.

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Keyphrase is 'the grace of God'

The Lord's prayer : 'lead us not into temptation'

Not very many people can resist temptation . .no matter how hard they try.

A lot of men or women cheated not because they wanted to, but because they thought they could resist it.

Make every attempt to flee adultery . . cos you st might not be able to resist it.

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As a man, I will authoritatively tell you that a married man who is on heat and wants to cheat will go for what is available. At that point, he's not thinking with his brain but with his d[i]ic[/i]k.

Miss_Ife:
What strucks me is that this man, being married and a father of three, should know how to not get a lady pregnant. Plus, to me it doesn't look like the house help was really enjoying it. If he was a real man at least he would have gone for a real woman out there, not for the teenage house help.

Sorry but you are wrong.

You sound like you subscribe to cheating . . .

A real man will do everthing to avoid cheating on his wife.

Even if he has to go bring her back from 'abroad'

I know a lot of married men who have left the U.S for Nigeria to do 'busines' and get 'contracts' . . .leaving their family back here.

We know what they are doing in Nigeria.

Useless men giving us bad names.

chaircover:
If its a test, then it is a very stuupid one because if he fails (which he has done BTW) she runs the risk of loosing everything.

The man and the housegirl respect madam enough to cover their tracks. Some housegirls will move straight into madams bedroom with their pregnancy and be claiming their right.

Very true.

Talk less of using voodoo against the woman and her kids.

190_@:

She be like who dey carry cement enter shop

Must you delete this thread?

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We try.

But please dont constantly and deliberately push us to temptation . . we are not Jesus Christ.

Some women are always doing stuff to test their husbands . . .always.

That is a big lack of trust.

And then they cant handle it when stuff happens.

@ post.

No. You are not wrong.

And thank you for not wanting to expose your husband to un-necessary temptation.

Your husband may think he can resist it . . .but why risk it?

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Because people equate a man's financial status with his 'manness' (for lack of a better word).[/color]

How right you are.

This is the result of the 'system' we were all raised in. So you can blame the system

A 'responsible' man is one who is able to take care of his family

He becomes irresponsible when he cannot.

The same way a lot of ladies cant handle the fact that they are the breadwinners in the family. Even the phrase 'bread winner' was coined out of the head-tail 'system'

Again, it is the system.

Chaircover, thank you for that prayer.

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Some dont.

Some will not stop until you beat them.

I will not beat a man, talk less of a woman. . . .but I'm old enough to know that some women are devils.

If you refuse to beat them, they call you a punk or bitch.

When you eventually beat them, they call the cops.

You want men to control themselves but you are not willing to do the same.

just saying.

Yea.

The man cheated. right. He deserves the balme.

Wives please, dont leave your men up for temptation.

The fact that he is supposed to be faithful does not mean you should dangle the forbidden fruit all up in his face.

A word for the wise.

Note I am not blaming the wife . . just advicing her.

Wow . . .this is really sad.

You are a good woman . . and God will surely see you through.

Dont know what to say about the man . .honestly.

I cant only talk to you.

Please keep on being the good wife that you are . . and please pray for your family - this guy needs your prayers.

Dont do anything that would aggravate him so he doesnt hurt you. I support separation when there a history of physical abuse when the culprit is not willing to change.

When you feel he is in a good mood, please calmly have a discussion with him. let us hope he will see reason and change for the better.

For your fertility issues, I will suggest you go see a medical specialist about this just to make sure no harm has been done to your organs. See if he can go with you . .nothing wrong with him taking tests as well.

You also need to be in good mental state to get pregnant . . though I know mad people on the streets get pregnant as well.

All will be well.

Please stay strong.

Some girl once told me she taught I was intimidated because her . . because she was light-skinned!

I laughed in mohito.

Amya:
^^ ^ all guys generally. I'm guessing it has alot to do with my height any my domineering personality.

Sorry.

I understand you are trying to feel good about yourself.

But the fact is those guys are not attracted to you . . .may because of your 'height any domineering personality"

They are not necessarily intimidated.

It is not everyone you like that will definately like you in return. Dont mistake that for intimidation.

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good answer! 

wait o.

Are yo saying that igbo people cant even spoke correct engrish??

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middle-age syndrome.

I just shag and leave my feet in a bowl of water . .humming spirituals

Mrs, Chima:
I am not Nigerian.

Really?? what the heck was I thinking

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that was not my post you referenced.

Check it again

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I was going to comment on just that but I decided against it. . . .