₦airaland Forum

Mosesbutez:
For a 20 years old girl to get married, is it right? .......... According the her parents, the guy came when she who just 18 years and still in secondary school but was rejected by the parents bcoz she was underaged and still in ss3 .

Then after 2 years the guy came back again and still begs the parents to marry her but she had wrote jamb this year and is still waiting for the screening and admission to commence. The only reason that guy wanted to get married to the girl is because he said that he like natural fair skin ladies, intelligent and from the same village ( home town ). He had promised her that he would take care of her education when married to her . From the parents view, the guy is from a very good home.

They asks my opinion on the matter and what I thought is that the girl has not matured enough. I hadn't reply to the parents so I seek to get information first before replying. .

The girl in question is my little sister. .. Please I need advice from married or someone that has an experience of it. .. Please

HalimaSadiya:
That is not my problem

HalimaSadiya:
Go back to school lol

okosodo:
After he has vandalised her intestine

ajepako:
Exactly bros.. That is one of the knowledge I took with me in Geography class a long time ago..

That Nigeria is not an earthquake-prone region because of our dormant plate..

I wonder which one be this now

Tocheagle:
sacrifice needed

henryanna36:
Source: http://www.trezzyhelm.com/2016/09/fayose-distributes-rams-urges-muslims.html

farano:


Wife: You're smelling woman's perfume. Where did you get it?

Husband: From the woman I was squeezed with in a taxi.

Wife: What about the lipstick on your mouth?

Husband: Oh that one? I got it from sandra who I was congratulating for passing her exams.

Wife: What about the used condoms in your pocket?

Husband: Hey leave me alone don't ask silly questions. I want to sleep!!

Wife: (crying) This is not fair cuz when I used them I don't bring them home.

Husband: (Waking up angry). What did you say?

Wife: Leave me alone I want to sleep.


https://www.instagram.com/p/BKL_jekjwig/


The husband no go slp o

LuckyLadolce:
I pity your life.. I pray you get well soon.

4everGod:
[b]The problem i have with believers of today is the fact that they do not follow true scripture but act out of fear. The word of God abhors fear...It declares "Perfect Love casts away fear"...Jesus ate with sinners because he had to identify with them for the sake of the gospel..All these unnecessary walls we build around ourselves as believers are wrong as we have been sent into the world and also equipped to tackle the issues we might encounter in the world while on assignment such as not being hurt when we pick up or drink any deadly thing and nothing by no means being able to hurt us..many of us read these words and hear them being preached but never practice it.

God does not recognize idols so he expects His children not to recognize any idol either so when we are given food offered to idols and we refuse eating it it means we have recognized the idol but when we eat it as children of God we do so to the glory of God almighty. The only reason why God says we should not eat it is when in the presence of a young believer who is still fearful and who believes eating such is wrong so for the sake of his conscience and faith we must not eat but when alone or when they are not there then feel free to feast and break the bone with your teeth and lick your fingers an lips to the glory of God.

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1 Corinthians 8 King James Version (KJV)

8 Now as touching things offered unto idols, we know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edifieth.

2 And if any man think that he knoweth any thing, he knoweth nothing yet as he ought to know.

3 But if any man love God, the same is known of him.

4 As concerning therefore the eating of those things that are offered in sacrifice unto idols, we know that an idol is nothing in the world, and that there is none other God but one.

5 For though there be that are called gods, whether in heaven or in earth, (as there be gods many, and lords many,)

6 But to us there is but one God, the Father, of whom are all things, and we in him; and one Lord Jesus Christ, by whom are all things, and we by him.

7 Howbeit there is not in every man that knowledge: for some with conscience of the idol unto this hour eat it as a thing offered unto an idol; and their conscience being weak is defiled.

8 But meat commendeth us not to God: for neither, if we eat, are we the better; neither, if we eat not, are we the worse.

9 But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours become a stumblingblock to them that are weak.

10 For if any man see thee which hast knowledge sit at meat in the idol's temple, shall not the conscience of him which is weak be emboldened to eat those things which are offered to idols;

11 And through thy knowledge shall the weak brother perish, for whom Christ died?

12 But when ye sin so against the brethren, and wound their weak conscience, ye sin against Christ.

13 Wherefore, if meat make my brother to offend, I will eat no flesh while the world standeth, lest I make my brother to offend.
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Gaddafithe2nd:
Yeye! Show me where it is in your bible where you are to celebrate, Christmas and Easter. You can't find it there. Everything about your religion was fabricated. We don't need people like you to eat our meat.

Gaddafithe2nd:
If we muslims serve moon God then your Christmas is the celebration of Yule a Dutch god and Easter is the celebration of Ishtar, a babylonian goddess (goddess of fertility).

4everGod:
OP as a believer there is nothing wrong with eating it! The bible says that we can eat even those things offered to idols but we should give thanks to almighty God for it. However this is for a grounded believer who lives by faith and not fear.

A young believer with doubts shouldnt do so and also a mature believer should not eat it in the presence of an immature believer who still believes that its not right to eat it.....this is for the sake of his faith.

Every food or animal comes from God so be they from Native doctors, juju worshippers, muslims etc feel free to eat if you are spiritually matured to do so. Afterall how would they accept you or your message when you reject their hospitality?

God bless you.

Tpave:
Just asking cos somebody asked me this question this morning and I decided to bring it to the forum.

HungerBAD:
http://punchng.com/10-new-tricks-kidnappers-use-lure-victims/

etenyong:
I dey respect u but pls don't be stupid again. see how u show ur level of understanding here. Look at d post again " If On Your Wedding Day, You Discover Your Spouse Lied About His/Her Job?"
What do u understand by His/her? pls use ur brain very well next time.

etenyong:
What kind of irrelevant question is this? pls try elsewhere and don't quote or comment where and when it's not necessary. Thanks

etenyong:
I will be angry for lying to me and still go on with d wedding. Marriage is based on love and not by d spouse's profession. However, it will surely have effect in our marriage cos d trust will not be there again.

olagift:
Please we have a lot of successful women in Nigeria. It is just that most times their success is being attributed to their husbands by the people e.g when you see a woman driving a car, the first thing that comes to the mind of those that see her is that it is a man or the husband that owns or buy it. That is just one out of uncountable examples. On the other hand some husband does not want their woman talking about her success because it makes him feel inferior. Moreso some women doesn't like talking about it because it makes their husbands look inferior to them. Talking from experience.

Mariojane:
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Identify those things that others hesitate to take on. It can be small and simple—it doesn’t matter. Whatever it is, do it well and you will instantly differentiate yourself from the pack.

Then keep going because you never know where it will lead; often, we don’t know what opportunity looks like until we’re closer to it.

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One of my favorite quotes is from St. Ignatius of Loyola: “Pray as if God will take care of all; act as if all is up to you.”

Many people make excuses for themselves by saying luck determines whether they are successful or not. Mentally strong leaders are in control of their own luck because they see success or failure as something over which they are in control. Luck may have had some role in their present circumstances, but they don’t waste mental energy by worrying about what might happen.

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By LaRae Quy

Jimi23:
I feel sorry for you and ur shallow brain. Its people like u that life throws the unexpected at. So in ur myopic mind, it is her wish to be a single mum. Rather than being happy for them, you are here criticisising like say u be saint. Am sure if life throws the unexpected at ur own daughter and she becomes a single mum. U wont open that leaking mouth of urs to pour out trash. Evil soul.

fireforfire:
Abeg carry ur advise go one corner

Walexsammy:
so marrying a single mum is one of the qualities of a matured man bah? ure funny, listen everyone has a choice that someone else cant marry a single mum doesn't make dem less matured

fireforfire:
I'm happy he's marrying a single mom and he's proud of it.
May God bless him for dat. It's only matured men dat can take dis step ........not all dose small boys dat will bang n abandon her as if dey r not worse Dan her

ganaziah:
No one will bash you, it's just simple logic. The gurl told her bf she'll be coming with her friends, she didn't tell the guy he will also pay for her friend's tickets. Anyone can simply respond by telling her to bring them along, it's a date between two people for heaven's sake and not with friends.
That's been real, instead of acting like a gentleman without the gesture coming from your mind. That's being fake.

Israel5:
Perfect! Guys ar manning up now. No more i wan go piss tinz

Keneking:
Amazing, next is rice....
Ban apple as well as the size and cost is no longer commensurate.
Apples have displaced our local products

alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.