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Wisdom

WeNoGoDie:
Please ask him why then is he still remaining in the US.

You have said it all...word!!
Respect

Ok.
Wetin una want make we do?

Ok. We hear!

And this is news, how?

IjeBos:
This. I feel there is more to this story. Has he been physical with her? Is there any veracity to any of her claims? Granted, men and woman can be evil. But generally, in these Nigerian relationships, it's generally the men who haven't "let go" of the idea that they are no longer in Nigeria. Or marry women who are younger and bring them abroad without any thought as to what happens when they are now financially independent and exposed to western thought. This should be a cautionary tale to all men who live or want to live in the West. The courts are equal or tend to favor women. Again, this is not Nigeria, the physical, verbal abuse and need to dominate, won't last. The society favors equality and in divorce, woman can get half of everything and the courts can force you to pay her marital and child support. So, when they are fed up.. they have options.

But, there is so much to know before getting any advice. Are these just civil procedures or are they criminal as well(mean can he go to jail). Does he still want to be married? What does she want from him? Did she get a restraining order on him before his attempt to visit the kids? You should ask him to be 100% honest with you in order to get good wisdom.

If there is a hint at reconciliation(if she is open to it), he should try to find a good church who may offer marriage counseling if he can't afford private marriage counseling. That road would be long and they both have to be open to honesty, growth and change or be able to fake it.

Else he should just move on mentally. Do not attempt to contact her and do not go over the house to "see the children". Ask the courts to set up times that he can visit the kids and if he needs to talk to her do so through and attorney. A move to Nigeria sounds drastic. But, it isn't a terrible idea if he can find a good opportunity, but would he be comfortable leaving his kids? Time heals all and he will get better. He just needs to be honest so he can get good wisdom and not make it worse.

I just thought about it. Does, he want to move to Nigeria because he is scared of going to jail in the UK?

Fact!!

There’s so much information in your write up and at the end of the day, it all boils down to the both of them knowing and understanding what they want and thereafter, respect boundaries.

Marriage no be by force oo!

ASUNDER:
My friend is currently going through a divorce in the UK and having a hell of a time. His wife mounted as many allegations on him as possible during separation - domestic violence, marital rape, child abuse, drugs and alcohol use, adultery, forgery just to name a few. He had to leave the house. He has moved to a room in a shared house and now even struggling to pay the rent. He does not see his kids anymore (not by choice). He is very broke and in debt because of all that is going on. He can no longer afford a lawyer. He feels so powerless, helpless and hopeless that he cannot fight most of what his wife is putting him through in court. He represents himself these days.

He has stopped looking after himself and is always looking sad . He also lost his job due to his arrest and all the drama. He was arrested because he tried to go see his kids at his former home and his wife called the police that she was afraid of him and that he had come to harass her. Police arrested him even without any traces of any harassment. Note that he moved out of the family house voluntarily thinking that the period of separation would ease tension between him and his wife.

I always feel sad seeing him in this state and just wish that he could recover and bounce back. He is considering moving back to Nigeria.

Have you gone through divorce in the UK or do you know anyone who has? What was the experience and what advice would you give someone going through this?

Thank you.

My dear I understand.
Advice your friend to seek for government/public sponsored attorneys...they have them there as they do here in the US. They will help him fight his case.
The major setback is that the system is designed to favor the woman/wife but in some cases the man/husband can be successful.

But here’s the CAVEAT:
If your friend, at any point whatsoever, has physically abused the wife or kids and there’s proof, tell him to RUN AS FAR AWAY AS POSSIBLE.
They will nail his a*ss! For good!!
Because there are always two sides to every story, he should tread carefully.
Wish him all the best...

Ok we see am

Ok

Chai!!
Some people no get conscience at all!!!

Killertune20:
Ever since then, I have tried to move on but I can't, this babe ticks all the boxes for me, for more than 3 years cause we started dating in school while I was in 300L and she 200L, It's been like no other girl existed in the world for me.

I love this babe with all my heart

Bro, if you felt this way about her FOR 3YRS, what stopped you from marrying her?

Sad!!

Mann11:
Beg your sense to come back to you sir

The sense has sense and will not even return to him (an empty vessel)

This guy needs to change his medications...it’s not serving him...he needs help!
He is going crazy!!

It’s actually been long overdue.
You can’t spend that much in the transfer market and still be struggling...unacceptable!
The least you can do is compete with the big teams

Politics...

Xscape1993:
You can never become US president. Trump has done far far better for the Americans than any president in the history of Us.

Please name JUST ONE thing that trump did that was good!

Onosode:
He is fooling himself, Swearing in with a bible while campaigning against everything the Bible stands for and pushing every anti christian and anti God agenda possible.

I have just one simple question for you.
Point out one, JUST ONE anti Christian/anti God agenda that he is pushing

BigBashiru:
Its because of texts from the bible. There's a part where it says we should be obedient to church leaders etc and they have also devised clever ways of using the bible to threaten us.

And the same bible, in 2Tim. 2:15 says “study to show thyself approved unto God”
For how long will people continue to let themselves to be deceived by these false pastors?!

TimeTraveler369:
This is what happens when a Pastor has a supplier.

Look at his lips. There is a connection between dark lips and empty brain.

You have said it all!!
And you know the painful part, as useless as these so called pastors and ‘men of God’ are, they still have the foolish enough ones who’d continue to believe and blindly follow their lies and hypocrisy!

Shame!!

Where are the trumpmongers who swore that joe Biden will not be president?!

Oya! Gather here as our next president takes office

MOLOTOVcockTAIL:

Chill Bros. Assuming it's reversed and you were in such life and death situation and you have seen this criminals kill someone who resisted, will you resist too? I bet your answer is NO.
Stop being petty abeg. Go find better thing use your time do before your wife see you finish.

You have said it all!!
Respect

Ovo200:
For those of you that don't know anything about the election fraud I will be giving you some links to read. The election result was full of fraud:
Did you know black voted for trump in 2020 than in 2016, for those of you saying trump is racist. CNN and other mainstream media are scum

Trump’s support among blacks grew by 50%, while Biden’s fell below the important 90%-mark that Democrat candidates need to secure victory.

Did you know President Trump received more votes than any previous incumbent seeking reelection. He got 11 million more votes than in 2016, the third largest rise in support ever for an incumbent. By way of comparison, President Obama was comfortably reelected in 2012 with 3.5 million fewer votes than he received in 2008.

https://www.zerohedge.com/political/20-alleged-election-facts-dont-pass-smell-test

And if you think democrats are better you will see for yourselves should biden be inaugurated. Those guys have crazy and mad ideology.
[i]I'm a Nigerian living in Lagos never been to the airport [/i]before but from history we know these guys (united states) has a lot of influence on our culture, economy -
Just for those that want to quote me on my concern for the election.

Oga, it is obvious you copied this piece because if you didn’t and typed this nonsense, you should’ve seen the magnitude of your ignorance spread all over the place!

Back and forth...everyday new twists. Smh

I hope Liverpool loses

Wow!
This is sad!

His fans, right?
People wey never see enough money and food chop to survive go contribute to buy Benz for someone else, abi?
Ok oo

And they expect them to turn out to be good law enforcement officers after all this maltreatment...?
Smh...

A nation on reverse gear...

And see your abuse of English language!!!

SMH...

englishmart:
Yet you travel abroad for medical check-ups. I laugh in igala.

Hahaha...my brother, the thing no tire you?!
Mehn!!
You really cracked me up...I can’t stop laughing.
And the funny thing is that you will find a whole lot of gullible people falling for his nonsense.

A nation on reverse gear!

SweetJoystick:
Performing his duty as a party member is humility? Una get sense at all? Na so una sell Buhari the chronic fraudster as a man of integrity

You’re in very much in order!
Respect.

Righteousness89:
If the Blues can strike a kind of exchange deal with Athletico Madrid for Oblack, then they are good to go..

The Blues need a Keeper not a Kepa..

You’re in order!
Respect!!