Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

This is what happens when you rub your virginity so hard in a man's face.

Even if he had seen a couple of blood drops, he would still have complained. He probably would be expecting a 'bucket-full'.
You painted your virginity so loftily that the man began to nurture unreasonable expectations.

I'm happy for you though. The experience has sure made you a better person

missjenna:
I am not really a firm believer in dreams but what i believe is that dreams are a reflection of our subconscious

Perhaps your desire to fall in love is so much that it was boldly inscribed on the walls of your subconscious and hence, the dream.

But don't worry op, you will definitely meet someone that you would fall deeply in love with

Not when you dream witches are feeding you, and you wake up with a morsel of eba in your mouth...lol

My dear, dreams are more than 'reflections of the subconscious' o

changes1:


Almost 29 years old

OK.
That puts you between 25 and 30 and Mr B between 18 and 24...hope I'm right.

My point is, you guys are young and belong to the same age group so there shouldn't be any fear of confrontation whatsoever.

Report to the girl's parents and brother (after getting proof- voice or video recording of some sort) and let the right thing be done.
The young girl's life is on the path of destruction...trust me.

She will most likely grow into a needy and low 'self-esteemed' woman. I know people who have been there

Please save her. Damn the consequences.
You'll be grateful you did.

God help you.

In standardised work environment, contract staff generally earn more. I am referring to European and American multinationals, even in Nigeria.
This however does not happen at all levels and in all sectors.

My sincere opinion is, working as contract staff is a very good platform to build technical competence. In the process of doing the dirty work, one garners experience and grooming for the dream place.

The major and perhaps, only shortfall is the second-class, mediocre feeling many contract staff develop. No thanks to the full-term employees.
Yet, you only have yourself to blame if you indulge in this. It is the only thing that can keep you down.

Cheers!

kristiana888:
I'm beautiful, yet All my ugly friends have. .. why don't I have a boyfriend?

No offense but...How old are you?

I believe you'll get over all these when you grow up.

sincerenigerian:
Amaechi was right after all.

Oh! Na so e easy to convince you??
OK. I am Dangote.

Look, about 50% of the stories we here these days are nothing but lies and propaganda!
And that applies to both sides the divide - APC or PDP.

God help us.

OliverQuinny:


Thank u so much. You may not believe me, but I feel relieved a little with ur post. Ur right, cos if she didnt get preg, I wudnt hav thot of marryg her. Thanks again

I have said it before and I am saying it again:
Never marry someone because he/she has a 'hold' (e.g. Pregnancy) on you.
Please don't!

It's OK if you want to marry her because you are convinced she's a changed person, and want to live with and love her having totally put the past behind you.

But please, DO NOT marry her out of compulsion or a feeling of 'strandedness'.
If you do, you'll regret it. People who do ALWAYS regret.
Ask those that have been there.

kowema:
I hope he finds the solution to his problems in the after life........Some people just think they av seen worse predicaments, enof to make them put an end to a life with at least hope......Wait till u hear the stories from people in Isis or Mubi , people who av seen worse days , yet still long for one more day.......Suicide will never be the answer.....I just hope I helped someone change their mind

I'm sure you did.

edwife:


No,i disagree because when a woman reach her thirties and is unmarried,she needs to concentrate in building herself financially and psychologically.She will only meet gold diggers if she hang around useless and jobless men.Your environment determines who you meet.

If she only spend time doing business,going to business dinner and meeting business men,she will meet the right guy.

@ highlighted:

This is very untrue.

I don't know how old you are but I doubt you will say this if you have even the minutest idea what you're talking about, no offense please.

Husband hunting in business meetings and dinners with business men? Where most of the men are either already married or in relationships and are just looking for flings?

Where the average man in attendance is a die-hard 'flexer' and will stop at nothing to get 'that young lady' in bed?

Are you kidding?

I see these things happen everyday!

Please stop this if it's a joke.


Well, maybe one in fifty cases will turn out in the woman's favour.

What can't God do?

edwife:
Revenge mission gone wrong because of the stinginess of the boy;serves them right.

At 32 years old,you will not concentrate on your business and development so that a better man will come your way but still chasing a past that has no meaning whatsoever

@ highlighted

My dear, this is so untrue. When you do that, only gold diggers - the likes of Murphy, will come your way.

No matter how old you are - Male or Female, you need to be willing to invest time and energy into meeting and staying with the right person.

Sunnycliff:
This political propaganda strong pass Adolf Hitler. Nazi Army

I dey tell you! Propaganda everywhere! Strategy upon strategy, just to ascend to power.

To think that Nigerian politicians have this much skill in strategy and implementation, and Nigeria is still one of the most under-developed states in the world is indeed appalling.

If half as much energy, focus and innovation as have been put in this campaign by our politicians had been vested in the Nigerian state, then we all will have an Eldorado of a country.

God help us.

Hmm...I think I should share my experience.


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I really appreciate your sincerity on this matter.

I have been with a couple of women that belong in this category and i must say your points are 100% correct.

However, i will like to lend a masculine perspective to two of the points you've highlighted. Essentially, these are things you have stated in your other thread:

1. Many women in this category are hardly able to give their all:
They usually have a lot of baggage from past (failed) relationships which consequently makes them keep a lot of 'friends' - the guy she dated in final year, the one with whom she once did introduction, some dude that proposed marriage whom she turned down because she was in a relationship she believed would end in marriage (and later did not...and now she's hoping the guy would propose again), the ones that trilled her the most in bed...
It takes a awful lot for them to not keep 'options/reserves'

This lack of focus (many even see it as unfaithfulness), i must say almost always adversely affect their relationships.
Very few serious men (if any at all) will tie the knot with this kind of woman.

2. Undue/Unfair Pressure:
You are a 30-year old Nigerian female and there's much pressure on you from society to get married. Remember, your 31 - 35 year old boyfriend is under much less pressure and will want to do all the knowing he needs before proposing to you.
A few weeks down the line, you're beginning to re-evaluate your other options, thinking your time is being wasted.
Now, i think that is unfair on the man. It is almost like the man is expected to not think before getting married to you.

The guy needs to take his time! Simple!
Maturity in age does not guarantee a good marriage. Hence, regardless of age, you both need to properly consider what you're getting into.

I understand the lady does not have time to waste so i will suggest she properly and prayerfully considers the guy before accepting to date him in the first place.
You need to be sure it is a relationship you can invest time in. That's the only way to not waste time and also take your time

I have seen cases where the lady breaks up with her guy and in a matter of weeks, takes one of the other 'benchers' to her parents as the 'new' guy...and what results from the 'new' relationship? Your guess is as good as mine...(I'm talking about ladies in their 30s here)

Summarily, in a bid to save time, ladies in this age category end up wasting more time. The guy soon begins to think he is been pressured into marriage and starts getting a lot of crazy ideas.

These two points are in my own opinion/experience the most pertinent.

jerseyboy:
Both sides of the mouth Pastor.

That is what matured people call 'Not taking sides'.

Got it?

emiye:
He claimed to have lived in Lagos for 38 years , yet cant speak the yoruba the native language of the soil , obviously, he has refused to assimilate with the land, he still has a biafran mentality, he wants to govern Lagos with biafran ideology. My biggest grouse with typical ibos in Lagos is they dont assimilate with the Language of the land, yet start asking for leadrship positions in the land

Simply put, majority of igbos in Lagos only STAY in Lagos. They don't LIVE in Lagos.

You're from anambra, you live in Mazamaza, attend Assemblies of God, have a shop in Alaba, have no single Yoruba/non-igbo acquaintance...You're no Lagosian my dear.


Note: This concept applies everywhere in the world. Many immigrants merely stay in their host countries, they don't live there.

This largely explains why after more than 2 decades in Lagos/Ekiti/Ijebu-igbo, an igbo/Hausa/Edo person still can't communicate in their host community's language.

dunkem21:


He is one of the robots that donate likes if you say "sai buhari"

ROTFL

itetemi:


http://www.punchng.com/opinion/viewpoint/why-is-buhari-rising-in-popularity/

Finally, it's getting obvious you're a paid APC media person.

Registered this handle in Dec. 16, 2014 and have been doing valiantly for your employers.


I just hope you're doing it out of conviction and not just for the money.
Long live Nigeria!

Naijasinglegirl:

I could marry your brain. Or better still, you.

iseleiyanu:


Yes I had sex with her.
yes her family and mine are aware of d relationship, Even we are planning introduction at Jan ending
She is claiming I'm responsible

Very simple! Put the introduction on hold till she gives birth. Then conduct a paternity test.

Many people will say a lot of things to dissuade you from doing this but please, put down your feet. They'll say things like what if the child is yours, how would the relationship continue? Won't it result in bitterness?

Bros, those are all sentiments! You're the man around here and although you have your own faults, do what you have to!

domwas2:
If u were working in a company as a contract staff & u saw another opportunity in a company to work as same contract staff on an MTN project which they will pay 5times d salary u earn at d present place what will u do?

To be specific Remember the MTN project is for a limited time 200k & d present place job is on as d company moving & managing with 40k...

What will be u stand, pls urgent thanks guys

I sent you a PM.

coogar:


i don't joke with charity.....
it's just that its beneath me to be listing what i did here or there. trust me, i have done a lot.



abeg o.....
i don't have CCIE. read my comments again before you start taxing me like you are apostle matthew.



you are a big boy!
where do you intend writing the exam? belgium, usa or dubai?

Lol. Na only God big o!
I'm hoping cisco will have mobile lab sessions next year in Nigeria. If not, I'll consider going wherever...

So, do you still work with Networks?

baby124:

So you are confirming that Coogar has money.

Money nor dey talk na.

coogar:


are you prepping for CCIE?

Yes...been a while tho. Not easy combining with other stuff.

coogar:


they just studied it. practice equipments & loads of books. i stopped at CCNP many years ago. my attention span is too short to be going through that nonsense. besides, it's too expensive. the estimate is about $10,000 to be fully prepared for the exam.

CCNA & CCNP are still very good. CCIE itself na overkill. in the whole world, i doubt there are up to 10,000 people that can boast of it. the number of nigerians that have it can't be more than 12. it's a very difficult exam.

even after you manage to cop the certificate, there's a written exam you have to be taking every 2 years to retain it. if you take the exam without passing it after one year, they will revoke the certificate & you have to start again from the scratch!

Just stumbled on this thread.

Good to have an old timer like you talk about the CCIE

A lot have since changed though. It's getting tougher by the day and recently, with the upgrade to version 5 (CCIE R&S v5), it just added a lot more value than ever.

And the attention span thing, I think it's something all CCIEs have had to overcome during their respective journeys.

Cheers bros.

babyfun:
Sleep on brave soldier!
Soldiers don't die

Rather rare and, commendable. Especially coming from a woman...if you really are

mogadet:
hmmm
most times, the base of the lantern or candle is always dark, while it gives light to its surrounding. Yet, the purpose of the lamp is not defeated. But when the lamp gets to the midst of other lamps, its base gets lighted up & there is more light for the surrounding & dat is the glory of the light.

Bottom line: you're a light bro, keep shining, surround urself with people of likeminds, who can intercede for u. very soon, u will see changes. Iron shapens Iron.

Deep one there. More grace!

koife:
I have noticed with a bit of pains that prayer works
on people and not me!

I have had the opportunity to pray and intercede for
people and it comes out positive, but one surprising
fact
is that I hardly get answers when I pray for
myself...

It all started during my degree years; I will teach and even help people during examination but often time their result comes out better than mine.

Fast forward to 2days ago. I prayed for someone who was
koboless, to have a surprise gift to the tune of
hundred
of thousands for a project she scrambled for. Less
than 56 hours later, she got it.

I personally dropped someone's CV to be considered for
bank job and less than 20hours letter the person
received a call for interview.

And today I prayed and
my kid sis was given a visa....where as I have tried
severally without succeeding.

This, amongst other
bizzare
experiences have become a cause for concern.

Matured advice only please!

Many times, we pray for opportunities that we are not ripe for.
I'm convinced one of the reasons you don't get answers to your prayers is because you are not yet matured enough for the things you ask for.

Most of the time, what we need isn't more prayer but 'more growing'.

Seek advancement in your chosen profession, learn to do things better, seek relevant information, build relationships, then prayerfully 'grow into the answers'

I perceive that the reason those people you pray for get quick answers is because they have done all the growing they should in the process of toiling and, your prayers just causes their heavens to open and breaks the barriers (diabolical forces) holding what has been rightfully theirs.

Life is more spiritual than physical and should be treated as such. Deep calls unto deep.

Cheers bro.

I've also said this same thing many times before and I get a lot of criticisms whenever I do (that only reflects how unprincipled and unrealistic many Nigerians are) but truth is, there are only two reasons people are jobless in Lagos- Laziness and Ignorance (Lack of the right information).

It had never taken me more than 10 minutes to diagnose why any particular person is jobless in Lagos, and advise on a way forward if they're willing to listen.

femidejulius:
I strongly believe that this Obasanjo's new book contains little truth, more perceptions and much falsehood (wc I agree even Obasanjo may not know).

Baba Femo has spoken!
In due course, you should give an account of the intricacies of Nigerian politics.
I'll be at the launching.

My prayers are with you. Get well soon sister.

Prettypreshy:
. Its true...this place is not making sense at all

Happy birthday!

Seems like no 22 has just been fulfilled.

RIP Dr. Myles Munroe

Reiyvinn:
Prominent Pastor & Preacher Myles Monroe Is Dead

Oh dear, sorry to wake you up with such sad news but it's as true as it is sad. Our mentor, pastor, preacher and figure, Pastor Myles Monroe is dead.

He and his wife died in a plane crash yesterday (November 9, 2014) and it has already been updated on Wikipedia

And if you're having troubles remembering who Myles Monroe is, this face should jog your memory




At the moment, heart-felt condolences avalanche his Facebook and Twitter pages. It's indeed a great loss and not only Christians alone feel this pain. He died aged 60.

Bye bye Mentor, it was an honour having you dwell with us.

Sources: http://www.nbcnews.com/#/news/world/prominent-preacher-myles-munroe-killed-small-plane-crash-bahamas-n244831

http://www.forbes.com/sites/faraigundan/2014/11/09/internationally-renowned-preacher-and-transformational-leader-dr-myles-munroe-killed-in-bahamas-plane-crash/

http://www.al.com/news/index.ssf/2014/11/myles_munroe_said_to_be_among.html

Although painful, we know they have gone to be with the Lord. The world will miss you!


@OP: It's 'MUNROE' not Monroe
Please correct.