Jesuspikin77:
The last thing she wrote on her facebook wall was:

'everything that makes us human is vain'

Just imagine the irony!
This life is nothing but a smoke yet people keep concentrating all their soul, body, energy and mind on things (looks, grades, wealth, jobs etc) that are nothing but a heap of VANITY

Seek the kingdom of God, work out your salvation for JESUS CHRIST IS COMING.

And before someone says Jesus may never come again, remember, Your own rapture happens the moment you die!

DICKtator:


Lol at the countries you mentioned!!.
There are Nigerians you claimed are expatriate there?
Loool!!
Expatriates in which/what field?

Or you mean footballers?

Local content law, my friend

Local content laws

Yes sir. I meant exactly what I said.

Expatriates, not footballers.
In Telecom/ICT, Oil and Gas.

I know what I'm saying.

Cheers

atlwireles:



the typical Nigerian line, I find your story too hard to believe.

Can be true. If you have worked with Asian companies in Nigeria, you'll know what he said is the order of the day. ZTE and Huawei are perfect examples.

musKeeto:

So what's your objective exactly? He made a comment (which is quite true) and you rush to NL to post a screenshot of his picture and other details. I hope you won't mind if I do the same to you. I'm sure all comments on your facebook wall represent who you really are. Good day.

While I agree with the first point which is about us importing fuel, I don't quite agree with the context in which he said the second thing - importing intelligence

Importing intelligence is not necessarily a bad thing
There are Nigerians who are expatriates in the US, Canada, UK, US, Australia etc.
Does that mean those places lack intelligent people?

I understand that hardly happens where he is from (Asia) but it's not because they're smarter or better. It's because of their population. They have too many people for very few jobs so they can't afford to employ foreigners.

And I have worked with Indians, there's nothing so laudable about their country, work ethic or competence: those are essentially individual traits

Debeloved87:
like i said she also is a christian, they found themselves and marry in the church

Maybe your pastor discovered things about the wife that made him doubt if she's genuinely saved.
If that's the case, then I believe he is right. That scripture applies to cases where one of the couple isn't saved.

God help us.

Blizzyblinkzy:
Have u heard 4rm her 2 confirm that she did an abortion ?

What Tell me this comment is a joke.

BeeBeeOoh:
It's true she lied & the fact remains that "Trust" is gone, but if I may Ask; Is It Her Virginity You Loved or Is Is Her That You Loved??

9ja girls deceiving men since the days of David & Goliath..

No offense intended but, comments like this infuriate me:
Trying to downplay the crux of a matter so as to trivialize it.

femidejulius:
And u are still calling her your girl.

It should be your "ex-girlfriend"

Baba Femo! I dey feel you die

mayorkyzo:
This drift board should be used outdoors and maybe on stage...you can't drift inside someone's store or shop...nigerians being abusing stuff since 14BC..soon people would be drifting to toilet...

He didn't say where exactly. No need to make it sound so bad by assuming it's inside someone's shop or store (that would have been ridiculous though).

It was probably outside of the complex or at worst, in the hallway. Still doesn't justify abuse by policemen.

melodies:
If the tables were turned and you were the one needing forgiveness and a listening ear, would you ask these questions? You r not the first man with an older wife in Africa! Don't subject your wife to mockery for nothing. Be kind!

Please in this situation, childbearing could b risky, adoption remains d option. Some biological kids turned out to murder their parents, while some adopted became d cornerstone of the parents. I wish you all d best in your decision.

Smh...
Bros, i don't know what to say you. You have said all of these but have refused to address the crux of the matter; the fact that she lied. Or don't you see that as an issue?
Yes, forgiveness is key i know but this isn't lying about how many boyfriends she's had. This is a lethal lie!

You know the craziest thing?
SHE WOULD PROBABLY NEVER HAVE CONFESSED IF CHILDBEARING HAD NOT BECOME AN ISSUE!
Think about that. You live all your life, married to someone and go to your grave a fool...

@OP
I feel your pain and I also say you forgive her as that is not debatable, but not without making her realize the degree of damage she'd done.

Adopt children and move on. I'm really sorry for you.

Konnektions146:
Nigerian Police is my friend ( so i hear everytime)

these guys can really frustrating, the funny and most annoying is the hyocritical attitude of officers and men.

They show off their power on poor masses and overlook the high and mighty no matter how they act.

Imagine , they get bribed even in the police station

I heard someone say that they earn poorly, and i tell them that this is an attitude issue, even if they earn 500k/month, they will still be messy and shameless.....

That's a very unreasonable thing to say. I get mad when people try to justify the ravaging lawlessness in the Nigerian Police.

A lot of University graduates in Nigeria earn as low as 20,000 naira per month. A whole lot more are even jobless. Does that license them to steal and aid crime?

No police officer, however low in rank earns less that 20,000 naira per month, not even the SSCE holders. Yet, they have proven to be one of the worst sorts of criminals in Nigeria.

It's a shame!

holufemy

Nice one

Mutendiwashe:


Are you married? Do you know what commitment actually means?

You are telling me that 15yrs after separation or divorce i should be able to tell my daughter that i divorced her father because another cooked for him? you think after those years of more growing up to do it will not sound like the most immature reason for a marriage breakdown?

Im already married and i have a better understanding that marriage is not a fairytale but something to work on to get better as you grow old together.

What another inexperienced unmarried person has to say about the way i see my marriage really is not relevant, because at the end of the day the person has zero influence in my life none of my bills get paid by how you view me.

My dear Queen of Assumptions. I guess you're more experienced and mature than everyone else - another classic sign of low self esteem. Well, I'm gonna resist the temptation to put my life all out here in other to prove anything to you.

I don't have to married to know right from left. And with you as an example, being married has very little to do with maturity.

Contrary to what you assummed, i am neither an advocate of divorce nor separation.

Have a field day, Mrs Maturity

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

Problem is, she never loved him. She USED him. Obviously, the guy just found out he's been used hence, the drastic change. Happens all the time.

Mutendiwashe:

So removing a wedding ring that symbolises your union is not total betrayal until your wife does the same abi?

well im not immature enough to call every other thing trivial thing cheating. I have been married for 5yrs now and instead of running up and down my family's house or my in-laws house screaming all manner of childish things, i deal with my marital issues with the person i got married to because im mentally capable of fully understanding that small issues can fixed rather than making tornadoes out of a little wind.

if i ever find out that my husband had someone else cook for him all because i wanted my child to have American papers, i would talk to him about it and make sure next time i as a wife pay more attention to the needs of my family as a whole. If my mother and millions of women still manage to deliver safely in my own country, why wont i do the same for my children? I would rather have the support of my husband when i have my children as opposed to being in a foreign land alone.

I would never turn another woman cooking for my husband into world war 3 because its simply childish. I get angry over it for that little time, calm down and reason rationally, we discuss it and move forward because my marriage and children are far much more important than a meal cooked by another woman. Why will i fight a grown man to the extent of divorce or separation over a meal he probably sh*tted an hour after eating?

Marriage is not for children who fail to see the bigger picture. Why else will you say for better for worse if you are not able to handle to ups and downs any marriage goes through? Here we are not even talking of mid-life crisis or illness but a meal and how a number was saved, can we get any more immature?

No offense sis, but your views to this issue seem very much like that of someone with a fundamentally low self-esteem. This disposition is common among people (particularly women) who grew up experiencing a lot of fear, domination and subjection.

Forgive me if I sound harsh; that is not my intention. I'm only trying to help you see things as they are.

My point however is, your views to marriage (as presented in this discussion, at least) are inspired by necessity and fear - which you call the bigger picture.

Do you just want to remain in the picture or look really good in it?

egobetatoday:


so what do u suggest d 'women of nowadays' to do when their husbands abandon them? pls dont tell me 'keep praying'.

Seriously? So you don't see anything wrong in sleeping around because you've been 'abandoned'?

There are a million other ways to curing headache than cutting off the head.
What happened to talking about it? That way you could find out what's causing the drift and correct it. What about a getaway to go rediscover what you lost?

Separation is even better than sleeping around like a dog.
Yes - If he is still not willing to bulge, leave him for a while, get a counselor/family member/religious leader or something. The list is endless.

The mere fact that a married woman or man considers flirting or sleeping with an ex the moment they feel they've been 'abandoned' for a couple of weeks is EVIL.

Darn!

Does 'not caring anymore' justify cheating? Can two wrongs make a right?

This is an appalling line of thought but sadly, many young women of nowadays think this way. You 'abandon' me, I sleep around.

jacksparrow1207:

God just wanted to use u for her education. Oluranlowo lasan lasan. Ohun elo ayalo

Dude, you're hilarious.

Vickybee:

Well, I can't speak for other ladies.
As for me, it doesn't matter.
Where he works is just an added advantage to me and it's not prerequisite for falling in love with him.

I love you already.

Obiagelli:

He wrote 1.5 trillion not me.

Oh! My bad.

Obiagelli:

And the guy sabi throw insults.

I hope MizMyColi is reading

Isn't this just a show of shame?

77billion IS NOT 1.5 Trillion naira.
77billion IS 15.4 Trillion naira, at 200NGN per USD!

To even think that you're insulting the guy.

Wew!

ozoigbondu:


l don't know why you used me as an example but l am not wishing buhari failure l am just being realistic.l hope for the best but expect the worse

I'm sorry if using you seems derogatory. That was not intended.
You and firstEva just happened to have struck a line of conversation that brought to bare the political situation.

Whether we wish Buhari or had wished GEJ failure or not, has little to do with their performance.
What a man does not possess, he can not give, no matter our 'wishings'

Peace.

firstEVA:


^
These are the true enemies of democracy! Keep wishing for Buhari's failure, instead of hoping for the best you are being negative, you fail to realise that when a govt fails you are affected personally.

Come to think of it:

Just like Northerners wished GEJ failure and with all the negativity they could muster, made true their threat, Easterners (eg. Ozoigbondu) are already doing same.
It's a sad reality but that's the Nigeria we have created for ourselves

I do hope and pray the best for Nigeria.

realborn:
His opening paragraphs were not necessary.

But his closing remarks seem in order.

We should not flog Mr Okupe too much.

May the girls be found!

I beg to defer! The opening paragraphs are extensions/persuasions resulting from his position.

Any Nigerian with the minutest form of sensibility will know there's so much more to the chibok girls/BBOG drama than meets the eye!
So, Okupe is sharing no deep revelation

Only intellectually lazy, ignorant/gullible and probably politically biased folks will fall for all that charade centered around Chibok.

Even half of the story can't be true, if any of it is!

Peace

Ariel20:


One is a clueless thief who foolishly stacks his investment (loot) abroad and has nothing to show for it in his own state,the other is a master strategist and has his investments here in Ngeria thereby creating job opportunities.
Understood?

And this should justify relentless greed and taking what belongs to others with unimaginable impunity?

I can see you purposely avoided calling the things Tinubu stole (and still steals) 'loot'.
Well, they are! Do not abuse the use of the word 'investment'

Your hero is nothing but a thief! He is only a glorified one, and he will be treated as thieves should in due course.

mployer:

That woman Is stylishly begging for political appointment


GEJ Is a héro. Will be remembered on a better note than Buhari.

Y'all can bookmark this...
Come pull out this post when 'Messiah' Buhari starts showing his true color.

abduljabbar4:

Ok. That's how 'a' people behave when they are corrected. Oya leave am like that.

You really do need to go back to school!

klark3:
I was employed as an architect in a medium size architectural firm, my boss happens to be a lady.

I hitched a ride in her car after a meeting with a client on site, It's was even my first time of hitching a ride in her car, as I have always eschewed it, on getting to the office she asked me to carry her hand bag along, but I turned deaf ear to her request and swiftly went straight to the office, but she came to my office and gave me a sullen glare.

I thought the malice won't last long, but unfortunately for me, she fired me this morning for a no cogent reason.

I'm downcast and bewildered, she's just privilege to be the manager because it's her dad firm, she's my contemporary, and I was on the verge of supervising a gigantic project.

Was I wrong?

OK. Let's look at a reverse scenario:

You are the boss and your dad owns the company. Would it be out of place to tell your employee (a lady who happens to be your contemporary) to carry your bag? I guess not.

So, you're wrong. You took offense because she's a lady. That's immature and unprofessional.

Also, if not for anything else but the big opportunities coming up, you should have played the fool.

Knowing when to 'fight' and when not is real virtue.

dealslip:
Please stop opposing army for the sake of your life. They are trigger happy as we speak. Southerners and corpers find your way out of the north. If Buhari wins they will still attack you, if he loses, mayhem may happen. Almajiris don't understand peace accord signing. The fairly peaceful election is not as important as the reactions to the result. Stay alive to see your candidate sworn in. You may never get justice for the people who have lost their lives so far. Change and transformation are synonyms therefore APC and PDP are the same. They will still take you for a ride for the next 4 years knowing our short memory and come to kiss your foot when election is near.

You get sense die!

SeverusSnape:
Sorry sir, Just give them what they want if you like yourself.

Did you listen to yourself? What if he doesn't have? And why should he give a policeman money in the first place?
Soon, you'll be blaming the government.

Smh

soldierdollar:
What's special about these ? How does this increase my Alexa and AdSense earnings ?
Looks like something a nursery school pupil can draw .
#no offence . It's my candid opinion

Please post one of yours here.
Maybe we all can learn from your extraordinary talent and craftsmanship.