So what have you been doing for the past 22 years? .


Social media has been a thing for over a decade now, how come you just suddenly remembered you can actually use social media to find him?

cococandy:


You think it’s only a Muslim man that will do such a thing? You have too much faith if that’s the case.
Just do a small survey of men of other religious leanings and see if they won’t do the same.
Additionally they might even add blame on the wife for “allowing” herself to be raped. Because apparently it’s better for them that she dies than for someone else to have intimate knowledge of her.
Don’t be shocked

I agree .


I for one know that in my culture ,raped or not she will kill a white c0ck or goat and schnapps, kolanut and all that for cleansing. For even allowing a man touch her and spending night (s) outside her matrimonial home , abducted or not.

Some churches will tag it adultery and ask the woman to go for penance.

So either way the woman still gets balmed for a situation that is no fault of hers.

reccy:
The good old days...... Now, what we have is a joint where prostitutes meet and display smelling and disgusting body parts.


I need that old days please

The good old days picture you have in your head was actually influenced by the westerners ,if you really want the good old days take a time machine back to the days before colonization where women walked around bare chested and barely covered their parts or better still just join your ancestors in the grave.

Tinder swindler comes to mind.

Ritual killing has been going on even before the first television came to Nigeria.

From fortification for royalties to politicians to the rich and powerful.

While I dislike divorce, I believe there is no way you can force a grown man to stay married to you.


It's takes two people to make marriage work, a virtuous woman builds her home they say but if a man takes a chisel and starts chipping off the foundation ,that marriage must collapse. The burden of keeping a marriage was at one time resting on the shoulders of women ,they had to "suffer" ,endure , tolerate, compromise ,be the emotionally matured one, while all the man had to do was pay bills .


Anyway,madam op ,you are doing well, you already have your good foot forward in this situation. Some women would have become lean from thinking and doing fasting and prayers to "save" their husbands . Turns out these men are mindless puppets that can be snatched when it comes to cheating but head of the house when they want to assert authority. .


Goodluck madam op.

Lessons to learn;

For any online interview make sure you are already in the zoom meeting atleast 10 mins before the time. Which means you should log in earlier than 10mins to your interview so you can put things together.

check your connection ,data and microphone ,the more reason you should be in on time.

Always factor in means of power as a Nigerian,never put your trust in "NEPA" .

Make sure to have a source of light, if the interview time is not during the day, e.g multiple rechargeable lights .

A matter that his mother, elders and pastors could not settle? That's a strong one, and I think you started off on the wrong foot. What makes you think an ultimatum will settle a matter that his mother, elders and pastors could not settle?


It will be wise of you to know exactly what went down before you ruin your relationship and inherit hatred that is not yours.

Go and find out what happened between them, if he doesn't tell you,ask his mother,if she doesn't tell you ask his father,if no one is willing to tell you ,my dear face your front,nor go carry load wey nor be your own o.

From what I can read here,seems alot of people need therapy,hence they need a fixer,such a burden to carry in a relationship. Because apparently, no matter how interesting a woman is, it is inevitable that these damaged souls will loose interest some day and leave you hanging .


Some are even chronic coward ghosters. .


It's common sense that if you get interested quickly and loose interest quickly that you slow down the momentum and take it slow.

Funny how people want development like the whites but don't want their mentality and outlook.Its their respect for even the tiniest living thing that has put them in a position to take care of their environment,the welfare of their citizens and improve the living conditions of their citizens as well.

You can't cherry pick what and what not to embrace. For a people that still encourage jungle Justice ,I am not surprised at the comments sha.

For a sensible person that knows he is in a place where they take animal cruelty seriously, common sense would have told him to respect himself,but no ,now he wants to play victim.

MufasaLion:


Exactly! It can't get better in the country. So many things are difficult to put in check because the perpetrators are always let off the hook due to connections.

I don't have pity for anyone guilty of law abroad. I feel no remorse for them, especially the rapist. It's so bad we have many rape apologists here on Nairaland and Nigeria. They brag about it like it's a thing of joy.

There seems to be no end to it all,smh.

MufasaLion:


There was one time I would have been employed in a very good place, I wasn't employed because I was a male, not just me but with my fellow males.

Could you believe all the ladies that were interested in sleeping with the top shots got employed? Not only that, they enjoyed cash gifts and luxury gifts also. I'll stop there.

And as a woman if you are not willing to play ball, you won't be employed.

A man once said, if you can't sleep your way to get a job then why sleep with a boyfriend who doesn't know your father's house.


The system and mindset is so messed up bro.This is why I don't feel sorry when they have running with the law when they go abroad. We are so used to alot of abnormalities here and refused to shed it when we get to places where things actually work .

MufasaLion:


"I cant be working my ass off every day and still add my body as bonus."

That's what some people face at work. Sad but true!

My dear, leaving there was one of the most painful thing cos the pay was good even though I was working long hours but I just couldn't see the need for adding my body cos the job on it's own as challenging.

MufasaLion:


Well, I concur with you. The country don't take sexual harassment case serious. I'm glad you've left that perverted cretin.

I had to o.I cant be working my ass off every day and still add my body as bonus. If na sugar daddy I dey find, na to quit make the 70 years old man dey pay my bills

MufasaLion:


Oh, all right. I hope such men meet their waterloo soon or later.

Cheers!

Lol he won't,he is well connected and moves around with police and all. Such people even with evidence , Nigerians will just simply say you are trying to bring down a big man to make money.

MufasaLion:


You still in that same company?

Nope, started being maltreated and subcharged after I refused the MD, had to leave.

If you know you did nothing wrong why did you block her?

Jaqenhghar:

Look at the Niggerian society. Can you name anyone who made it without having some connection or sleeping with someone. For a man you jave to empliy fraudulent means or become a boy to someone prknow someone. We dont value hard work wveryone is looking for shortcut

If I had accepted to sleep with the MD few years ago,I am sure by now I would be a manager or even general manager.Making it to the top in Nigeria ,you have to embrace the corrupt system and subscribe to the Nigerian factor,else no road for you. You will just keep struggling and struggling.

Beedude:

I do pay before delivery if it is an oversea item.
Moreover, they have a good return and refund policy incaseu dont like what they deliver. Those ones are safer than paying someone u met online for an item.
Even your enemies will laugh at u

The Nigerian "shine ya eye" in me has never allowed me pay before delivery despite their good refund policy, then someone expects me to pay an online vendor ,just like that .

Why not give the park instructions not to give out the goods until you receive payment instead?

Beedude:

No one can trust you with their money when they havent transacted with you before.
Its a 2 way thing. Some people have also sent money and got nothing in the past.
Inasmuch as i dont support what the guy did, its just an experience u have to take.
I would advice u sell to people in lagos and ogun state for now.
When your service is tested and trusted, referals will come and people from other states can send money to u before delivery.
Presently, if u are not jumia, konga, or any reputable vendor, there is no way i will pay u before delivery.

Even jumia ,for me it's pay on delivery or I pick it up at their office.

Seems two psychopaths found a bond on this thread.

Klass99:


I stopped reading at the bolded and started laughing

Nice play of words, I like your writing ability.

Thanks

cococandy:

Because the men are mindless toys that get taken by whomever wants to? No conscious decision or effort on his part. He just sits there and get taken by whomever deems to

And that’s supposed to be the leader of the home too. Is he a mindless puppet or is he a purposeful leader? At some point y’all have to decide which it is. Because this mindset is insulting to men in general but you don’t care

He is a mindless puppet when it suits them to escape being accountable for their lack of self control and a leader when he wants to assert dominance and authority .

Ladyhippolyta88:


Well done for standing up to these losers.

Thanks sis.

Let me collectively address the dogs that have been barking, settle down boys, calm your nerves, I see your spits and heard your loud incoherent noises. Funny how many of you nitwits have encouraged the anti women campaign but now want to turn around and feel some kind of way when women accept that they are not liked.

As for the assumptions on my relationship status and everything related to it, i am even shocked that by now I have not seen "evening newspaper" , . I mean ,I just have to be one bitter old lady no man wants to be saying the facts like this .


And dear women who have seen and gotten the message ,I know most of you don't want to comment and have to deal with rabid dogs in your mention, I see your shares ,I see your likes , stay safe out there lovelies .

CaveAdullam:


At least the counter points made your pvssy drips. Hahahaha!

For the third paragraph, an intelligent person will know the difference between rules and their exceptions. And it is these exceptions---the few men in power and government compared to the majority of men among the masses you all normally draw your points from.

Rules count, not the exceptions. At least from there, solutions can be proffered.

Have a nice day.

Bon voyage!

Men like you are prolly 0.5 seconds na dem dey make noise pass.


Rules count not exceptions . Oga your fellow men are making life miserable for you that's the translation . I am sure when you turn hundred you will still be proffering solutions .

Framed:


Petty and unnecessary. You don't know what happened or why she is asking or if she is asking for a friend or family.

I have made it a point of duty not to stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.

it's sometimes fun to leave people to wallow in their stupid assumptions.If I wanted to clarify ,I would have but these incoseqential nitwits don't deserve it. The answer to my question is more important.

CaveAdullam:
I will benefit you of some of the attention you seek. Deliberating with women on an intellectual level always leads to nothing especially with modern day women and feminists.

I will do this because of one or two readers.


Go check that post again. I missed the word "God" in that sentence... But since you want to capitalize on that lets go.

1. If Eve wasn't myopic in that fictional tale, why didn't she resists the serpent's temptations? She knew everything about the tree of knowledge and good and evil but yet still turned the garden upside down. Who was oppressing Eve at that time?

2. Eve already knew that she has fallen yet she brought her husband to the equation. Why did she lured her husband? Weren't they supposed to look at for each other?

Since it's a fictional tale no need pressing further.


No debate about that, men are the ideal lovers.

Are you talking about the modern wife? Like seriously? When the rate of divorce is on the increase. When marriage is on the decline. When the birth rate is falling gradually.

Do you even know that a surveyed was carried out and 1 in 3 women preferred to be stay at home mum. In fact, women are checking out of the workplace to become stay at home mum because they have now seen that the workspace is not sugar and honey. Men catered for them and their offsprings because the nature of the workplace doesn't align perfectly with womanly nature.

By the way, many career wives has nannnies who takes care of the house. And most of these households are being majorly sponsored by the husbands with the women just contributing meagre sums plus boring sex.

Lets not talk about the attitudes of these career women towards their husbands and children. Because once a woman has sensed that she is on the same level with her husband or slightly higher respect towards her husband dwindles. Ditto for care towards their children.


Rather than you women complain about your lapses, why not become as innovative as men and beat men to their game. Yet, day in or out, you all depend on men for everything except for the air you breath.

You mentioned FGM without stating its cultural benefits to the females (of course I did). I mentioned MC while stating its cultural benefits. What you're really targeting in FGM is the severe pains associated with it and same with MC. Both have their underlying cultural benefits but you were myopic to see only FGM as a crime against womanhood.

Right now, FGM is on the low and MC still in vogue...every eyes can see what's happening right now in regards to female promiscuity.

Women and children want freedom but cannot control themselves.



Hey miss, don't shift blame here. I dealt with you on the same level you presented your arguments. You were so concerned about virgin sacrifices, female trafficking and female ritual killings, and I stated that men and children were victims too.

Now, concerning the recent ritual killings in Nigeria involving men, women and children, of which females seems to be the highest victims according to the media, is a result of female greediness, promiscuity and myopic tendency: I gladly reiterate it and will do it again.

Has females not be warned many times about it? Coupled alongside the poor security condition of Nigeria, these women has been warned several times to always be cautious at all times. Nobody even gives men such advice on a steady, but yet men are still careful. Men are blamed too if they aren't cautious!


Please, keep quiet!

Marriage benefits women more than a 100%. It female's ambition and retirement plan. If possible, men would have preferred these factors you are labelling as sufferings to enjoy 50% of what women are benefiting in marriage.

Just for jokes: Religious programs e.g Shiloh, is full of women looking up to their God for a wedding ceremony/marriage.

Loooooool.



You are just talking left and right. You were the one that took up an argument and blamed men for women's deficiencies not I in my response. I never blamed women for anything in my previous post except for what their evolved nature is and the complementarity of both sexes.

What I did there was espousing the pains, challenges, and agony of men which the media never tell us about, which people never talk about, which men still bottle up and carry on with their daily activities.

Now, you can judge between men and women who has the best privilege.

Alright, you now blame men for their jail term as a result crime and school dropouts as a result of fraud. These contatenate with same reasons I blame women for ritual killings as a result of their promiscuity, greediness and myopic tendency.

Ritual killings is a crime! Fraud is a crime! Which all boils down to poor governmental policies. Same with a rise in school dropouts as schools are becoming more feminized.



Women are the biggest casualties of the wars most men lost their lives, homes and properties?

You are really dumb for saying that!

Women were shared as spoils but had the opportunity to become wives of their new masters or slaves to help around. Overall, women still had the opportunity to live and reproduce, an opportunity their husbands, fathers, brothers and sons never had.

Are you somnabulating or what?



Women can never be annihilated because they are a necessary prerequisite in the furthering of the human species through reproduction. That's the reason women are still with men for aeons, and as I said before, both sexes are complementary where the strength of one covers for the weakness of the other.

Men want you women to become aware of your opportunistic inclination, histrionics, entitlement mentality, emotional vituperations, complacency and develop yourselves to become accountable, loyal, responsible, gracious, modest, brave, smart, kind, submissive.

Women should know all of these and remain in their lane rather than envy men or try to gaslight men for their lapses and failures. Men aren't complaining because as leaders the burden of civilization lies on their shoulders, and women and children look up to them, no wonder civilization has the footprint and insignia of men everywhere we go.

You women should become aware of your evolved nature and try as much as possible to work with it and develop yourselves. Ditto for men. And both will return to the garden of Eden.

Men don't hate women and will never do. They are simply just upset with the way you women and the government treats them---badly and with hostility.

I love you Ladycewhy.

Have a nice day.

After all the back and forth of needless counter points ,in your summary;

Men are just upset that women no longer obey , submit, adhere to instructions.
And also men are upset with the government made up of 99% men .

nakotee:
you are just bitter and frustrated, anyway i imagine you in your 80's locked in a room with out a man and a child still spitting trash that men don't like women, your brain needs to be sanitized, honestly you are half mad it takes only very smart people to discover this girl is not fully mad , your madness is growing up and we need to stop you now.

Go and tell that to your misogynistic ancestors.

Victerica:
Very soon now, she go deactivate

Lol ,you wish. .

I'm just getting started bro.No penis wielding misogynistic specie can make me deactivate, except I am banned.