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proclinician:
Hmmm such a loser. Just pass OK. Ighalo is making me proud tonight.

Just so u know, idiocy does not pay.

Get a life before u expire.

lol You should have been the one to pass ,as this thread was created by me . But your leprosy infested fingers couldn't resist .

UyaiIncomparabl:

Dont mind him ,those days a 13 year old girl could bathe outside and a mother will be comfortable letting a young man send her young daughter on an errand but these days you can't even trust a male relative with your child even sons are sodomised but they don't want to have that conversation .


The quality of species of men have declined,and that's a fact.

crackkhaus:
I don't make assumptions, I know you have not found love because you typed it yourself.


Ask your mum how she did it, you tortoise... you will learn a lot from her.

lol ,go way back.

Sorry ,men like my father are extinct in this generation of men so her advice is outdated for the new species of men busy raping babies and impregnating mad women these days

You octopus

crackkhaus:
I don't understand, I didn't realize it was a guy?

How old are you?

you well so? , understanding is far from you.

crackkhaus:
You must as a matter of urgency, try to keep your idiocy down to a minimum and not insult your own mother in public.

With all your so-called modernity and 21st century advice, you are still unable to find love when I'm very sure your mother was already with your father when she was your age.

lol, Another assuming fool ,what next call me evening newspaper ,lol . Now who is the dolt . All this conclusion jumpers , grandpa wey your own? Or you wan reach 60 to dey take your pikin go kindergarten. Be forming sweet 40 there

crackkhaus:
If you weren't a dolt, you would realize that what I look like or what I have, has absolutely nothing to do with my comment about taking your dating advice from your mother.

But you were a dolt not to realize it was a guy giving the advice so shut up there before corona virus kill you

crackkhaus:
Instead of you inexperienced girls to get dating advice from your mothers so you can receive a selfless dose of wisdom, you prefer to learn these things from your equally stvpid friends who haven't been able to hold down any relationship, or through the internet from self-acclaimed relationship experts with no recognizable training in social interactions.

A lot of you young girls are completely upside down, and you don't even know it.
You think just because one díck has entered into you, then you've suddenly become wise.

funny enough its a guy who looks ten times better than you and has it all that is dishing out the advice .


Don't pick and choose what to do away with or keep ,if you want to remain in the 18th century go sit in the grave with your ancestors. Advice from our mothers are outdated for dealing with boys of this generation.

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This is coming from a guy so ladies take it serious.

pocohantas:
I no sure say people wey get sense and CONSCIENCE for Naija reach 17 currently. How does someone think it is VIRTUOUS for a woman to do 99% of the work in a marriage.

You wan kill am?? ?!!!

Even motor wey Mercedes produce dey get TORQUE. No go do pass yourself, come spoil your transmission na.

,nor be small thing o

This country needs to break ,the jihad recruits in the form of repented boko Haram members will be recruited into the Nigerian army and sent to the South to over run the security and support their foots soldiers disguised as herdsmen.


Oh south south,south west and south east ,wake up ,war is loading!

babyfaceafrica:
Most of the men here gyrating on this thread have no integrity ,no transparency,no loyalty ,no consideration to their partners.They move as if their partners are second fiddles yet they want a woman who will kneel down and lick their feet




Don't judge people by their comments, what you just said is very unfortunate......there are lost of good people here

bottom line is if you want a queen be ready to be my king ,this is not the 18th century ,no body is going to kneel and call you Lord and Master . Any man who wants that better go sit in the grave with his ancestors.

pocohantas:
Very lucky. Rare picture of a Nigerian woman after loading 99% of the work on herself. You see those guys on top- na the brother in-laws wey no dey ever go their own house.

lawd this creacked me up ,poko my sister no wonder women dey quick old ,chai see load . Women dey try sha!, Imagine carrying 99% of the load as the op stated ,while oga carried 1% why she nor go quick old

Mizwisdom:
That's a man that has intimidated his wife for Donkey years, there's nothing to emulate here

the woman seems to be exhibiting symptoms of Stockholm syndrome

safarigirl:
No two marriages are the same.

Each marriage is different

You cannot use one formula to give a general review of marriage. I watched an interracial couple that have been married over 60 years and when they were asked the secret of their marriage, the man responded "I do whatever she tells me to do and everyone is happy". They have been together 60 years, with a formula opposite of your perfect couple's formula.

Two people make a marriage work, not one person

Submissive women have been cheated on and been divorced by men who never appreciated them

Good men have been cheated on and divorced by women who never appreciated them

Longevity is not a sign of goodness, it could also be a sign of continued abuse.

Slavery existed for over 100 years, OP, if that was marriage, would you say it was a successful marriage, just because one party (the slaves), did 99% work and allowed their masters make all the decisions?

Pray that you never have to roll over for someone who will step on you all the days of your life, and that you find someone who will appreciate you all the time.

And never forget, similar symptoms don't always mean the same sickness.

I wish everyone the partner they deserve.

couldn't have said it any better. Co-signed.

Femsyn:
To buttress the OP's views...

I read this story and i laughed... i laughed hard because marriage is complex and is often more that what meets the eye.

Do you know the couple's story? They alone, know why they act in the manner they do. Look! how a woman or wife react in marriage is borne more of the input of the husband. What you see is what you get.

Let me ask you a question? Do you think the woman would've reacted the same way, if the man is often of the habit of squandering family cash on irrelevant things, stays away from the house with girlfriends, ignores the wife, does not carry the wife along in major decisions and does not take care of the home?

Young men, don't read hastily. The man the OP depicted up there is a responsible man. Most women align with their husbands easily, when the man is doing the needful.

The man has done enough for the reward you saw for few moments. Men, that reward doesn't come automatically. You work for it!!!

My response is not for the OP, because s/he has done justice with the points given thereafter. My response is for men who might read hastily, and assume the wife's behaviour is follow-come.

thank you o. I will not hold sway for other women but I will speak for myself. I am this type that serves the hand I am dealt .

Most of the men here gyrating on this thread have no integrity ,no transparency,no loyalty ,no consideration to their partners.They move as if their partners are second fiddles yet they want a woman who will kneel down and lick their feet . Yeye dey smell

vickydevoka:
Make sure u don't marry ur type. Marry a man u could take ur shits n excesses. If not feminism no go let u stay long with anybody.

lol ,soon una go accuse feminism of starting Corona virus

LagosBoi2:
Please ma, don't get it mixed up, I wasn't jumping from one lady to another, During our relationship I had one or two other ladies I was dating at one period or another, just like when a young man has two girlfriends and later choose one to marry and settle down with. I am not a Casanova o. I was the careful type who uses protection. Btw we dated for 4yrs before having our first child which led to our marriage. My sins was one of my ex I couldn't let go easily. I am not justifying my mistakes but just clarifying the type of sinner I was. Its all in the past.

oh ok,wishing you continuous bliss in your home.

vickydevoka:
Some ladies nagging will make u think life is full of distraction n frustrations.
It's just lyk a gal expecting u to b calling her all de tym buh she will never call u for one day.
This cliche is meant for this story. That's the lesson learnt

if this is what it takes to be a virtuous woman ,oga keep it in your pocket. She is lucky he didn't give her STDs or even HIV during his 8 years of phillandering. Raise your daughters to marry men like the op and be virtuous to men like the op.


This is how you people reward men for bad behavior so because she decided to stay put and take rubbish it makes her more better than others who decided to walk for their peace and sanity? Your head dey touch.
I don't envy the op's wife , and certainly don't wish to be in her shoes. Virtuous ko virtual ni

crackkhaus:
I am not your friend, and you must never quote me again to rant about your insecurities when no one is talking to you.

Reptile...

I will quote you when I like,if you don't want, deactivate.

Aquatic animal

crackkhaus:
Don't be dense.

I know what I typed, I'm saying that your interpretation of it is not what was written. You can go quote the post again, then highlight where I stated Nigerian women look like smeagol.

my friend you better shut up if you don't know what you wrote then go have your brain checked.

crackkhaus:
I don't remember typing that, but let's assume I did, are you the appointed spokesperson who rants on behalf of all Smeagol-looking women?

you don't remember typing that but the comment is still there na, now it's my turn to ask if you are ok at all?

crackkhaus:
Perhaps you're the one who should go back to read my comment, then tell me exactly what was in there that made you type that incoherent rant-filled response about Nairaland guys, or men who impregnate mad women, or men who you think are feeling themselves.

Are you okay at all?

I should be asking you if you are cos I don't even see why you had to say Nigerian ladies look like smeagol your head dey touch .

crackkhaus:
I have always known you have limited mental abilities because I don't see how this rant of yours is related to my comment to that other guy.

nobody dey agree say e shit dey smell. Go back and read what you wrote.

Chai me sef dey find love o. This is a breathe of fresh air from the toxicity on relationship matters on this forum.

eduman365:
Yea well... I totally get it. Life is an interesting journey, we all live to learn and understand it more as we grow older. Life goes on.

have a blessed day bro.

Apus:
Well, if that would save the ladies from time wasters, I'm in full support. Otherwise all kinds of friendship should be clearly defined from the onset. Our problem is we don't define or set boundaries in relationships.

Good you now get my point.

eduman365:
Well it's all good. She has done what she had to do. The OP will also move on. But there really isn't any crime when someone genuinely likes you. There are good people that you need in your life, just as friends.

A lady friend of mine got married recently, we were so close back then in school but we defined it and she noticed I wasn't emotionally attached to her, but we flowed quite well, she got married and had a kid.

Till today, when she has some personal issues, she still reaches out to me for support (mostly moral) and I do my best because I liked and still like her as a friend.

One thing a lot of ladies fail to understand is that marriage is just the beginning of another journey. If you think you won't need anyone besides your husband, then wait till you get married first. You can't cut off everyone just because of marriage.... It's wrong.

Let me ask you is it every lady then you still talk to? The answer is no. I am sure this lady the op is talking about has other guys she keeps in contact with.

From the ops tone the sounds egotistical and is only here to whine about his bruised ego hence he was admonishing guys to dump their female friends before they do.who needs such a person as a friend?


I have someone like that who went abroad ,he started acting funny ,you know you disapora people always think everyone trying to reach out to you wants to beg for foreign currency or something ,so I decided to cane my lane. Some people are better left alone to avoid see finish especially if they leave to travel abroad.

Emaprince:
If you are sensible, then you will know that loneliness will eventually kill you when depression sets in...since all you think of is potential suitor.

Meanwhile, na your type go still complain if your prospective hubby ask you to cut off all male friends. This shows that you still keep your male friends before and after marriage. So stop being a hypocrite.

But who is here ranting now tho? shey na una wey Dem bruise e ego . If una enter abroad e dey make una head swell when people from here dey reach out ,some of una go even think say Dem wan beg una for foreign currency .


Gone are the days when women used to waste their years waiting for abroad husbands to come back and marry them. You go abroad I find someone else here ,no time for loneliness bro

Emaprince:
She is very childish.
Anyway. Thats how all of you behaves. You all think you are so special that any guy you come close to must be interested in you, hence the bitter attitude you give when a man just want to keep it platonic.

Na SIMPs dey cause am sha...too much attention and validation is the reason a lady can't deal with rejection.

If you are that sensible you will know there is an age where a woman should entertain any form of relationship and there is an age where only potential suitors should be her circle of friends.


A 35 years old should only have potential suitors as male friends.

eduman365:
No, friendship is not by force and I totally understand the lady's position. Stop being emotional over this please... But you lots are selfish sha, just accept it.

Once something isn't tilting towards your area of satisfaction, na wahala!

I fear women ooo.

lol I think you should look in the mirror before you fear women . .


Any woman past 25 that keeps men like the op as friends doesn't know herself.At 34 the op didn't even have a serious relationship with anyone before leaving ,na all this type of "let's see how it goes " boys e be.


So her moving on with her life is wahala to you ,na wah for una o. All this disapora people sef