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jacabi:
I wish you sound health, happiness, prosperity and long life. HBD!!!

msmon:
Islam has nothing to do with their actions, I'm a muslim and I can tell u there is no part in the Quran or any hadiths that support what they are doing (in fact, I can show several verses in the Quran that speak repeatedly against what they do ). They are just useless people hiding under that religion

debolly:
I agree with this 100% even as a single lady. Am always happy when we have to snack out .

ifyalways:
God starts when and where swcience stops. It is well with DJ.

Joavid:
Financially, It's a big burden. especially if you have parents who don't plan and when they retire or maybe loose their job....its a nightmare.

Apart from that, last born or first born, lay a good example and make your siblings and parents proud.

mgbeketoto:
A man with self-respect knows how to handle himself and others. . . . .because he has PRIDE!!!!
Never a LOSER!

Ewuro4:
Aghhh.. Round and around he goes again



You no dey tire ??

EnlightenedSoul:
Mumu = xtupid??

Ewuro4:
They will never get it .... You're just going round in circles. Let them open their Pandora's Box when they eventually "get there" *wink*

dahmie2013:
Thanks o! By d grace of God I'm a chartered accountant. I just wish I cud do my masters.

EnlightenedSoul:
So then what this about the wife's greatest weapon being submission,and the husbands greatest weapon is xtra xtupid submission?

EnlightenedSoul:
I certainly hope not. I wouldn't know as I've never willfully tested it's extremes. We've had challenges, yes, but that's only normal.

dahmie2013:
OP, u're so so right, I'm writing this 4rm experience. My dad retired, but he's not prudent with money so he lost all his money, luckily 4 him I'm d only investment he had by sending me 2 school & nw I'm working. U can imagine d pressure, my mum is a civil servant & her salary isn't much @ all. I have 3 siblings, 2 are in d uni, one studying medicine, d oda studying law & one is currently doing pre-degree. Sincerely I don't have savings, I spend money b4 it even gets 2 my hand. I try 2 give my sisters good amt as pocket money so dey will not feel inferior in school. Wen dey come home, I see d things dey buy 4 dem selves I'm happy dey always look better dan myself, dis is apart 4rm feeding o! I also feed d house, pay 4 utilities and send money 2 my mum @ times wen she's in need. My broda's predegree gulped abt 200k, which I had 2 carve out of my purse. Dats just predegree&not even admission. I have sacrificed a lot, even my friends dat earn less dan me are living better. I can't even say hw much I earn cos I don't even look it. Thank God @ least I don't pay rent. I can hardly go 4 events cos if I go, I'll spend so much on buying dresses and shoes. Its quite complicated, but all d same I thank God, cos he didn't allow my family 2 be beggers. Sometimes I think abt it& I get so angry @ my dad& I tell myself, "I don't have kids& I'm doing dis, when I have what will I do". It is well with us first borns, I have plans 2 further my educatn, but I have 2 wait till @ least my 2 sisters start working b4 I proceed, so dey can support my broda thru skool& I can take a break @ least. 2 God be d glory dey're both in final year, so by August latest dey'll be thru.

Chinum:
First of all, I will congratulate you for taking up such a huge responsibility. Not everyone will agree to do it. But you also have to realise that you have your own life to live. I'm not saying that you should abandon your family but try n create a balance.
How old are you? You can't just remain stagnant Becos you are taking care of your father's responsibilities. I'm sorry to say this but you are being used unfairly by your family.
Take for e.g my family were almost in the same situation as yours some years back. Our first born was d only one working when my dad retired i.e apart from our 2nd born who just got sth doing then. But my dad made sure he still lived up to his responsibilities. Apart from having to train his children, he also saved some amount of money which he used to open a business. Mind you even as he retired he was still looking for a job which he finally got. He did that cos he knew he had responsibilities. He knew that my 29 year old brother had a life of his own and should not be the one take up from where he stopped. To be cntd.

EnlightenedSoul:
This isn't submission per se. It's unconditional love. The type of love OP seems to think men should emulate. Nail in the coffin: no one seems to realize that love, especially unconditional love, involves a great deal of...

*drumroll*

...submission.

jadelyn007:
Nice one lateralmaths, I am a very submissive wife to my husband that loves me unconditionally as christ loved the church.

Its very easy for a woman to submit to a man who loves her as christ loved the church even tho her heart is made of diamonds

On the other hand, the fact that a wife is very submissive doesn't mean that the husband will love her unconditionally. Our ancestral mothers were very submissive but what did they get in return apart from suffering inside and smiling outside, that's why you see bukatyne said the man should love first.

It takes the grace of God to find a man with the love of christ in this 21st century. Christ washed his disciples feet, how many men can even drop their ego to help out their wives in the kitchen.
Christ knew simeon peter would betray him but he prayed for him, christ knew that judas would betray him but he still feed him at the same table all the same, how many men can truly love their wives as christ loved the church?

Women used to be very submissive but they stopped because the men were not keeping their own sides of the bargain. That's why you notice divorce rates are soaring every day.

Modesayo:
All i have to say is when a woman is loved unconditionally,she becomes ten times better than she used to be...the way God created women

EnlightenedSoul:
There is such a thing as unconditional love. It's the xtupidest form of love known to man, and consequently, the most abused.

mgbeketoto:
A man's greatest weapon IS TO RESPECT HIMSELF always!

EnlightenedSoul:
There is such a thing as unconditional love. It's the xtupidest form of love known to man, and consequently, the most abused.

EnlightenedSoul:
Stooping to conquer what?

And why 'stoop'?

bukatyne:
Doe submission mean taking shits?

I think the problem is the definition of 'submission'

5minsmadness:
Your thread on a husband's greatest weapon is still struggling to finish 1st page while this thread has reached page 6,and beyond and you still don't know what a woman's weapon is

pickabeau1:
Its like you are new here

The anathema here is one word that begins with S

ihedinobi2:
I stopped reading at December 2014 and blessed with a beautiful daughter and already have problems.