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Why does she keep picking up his calls & listening to his pleas?
How come she keeps giving him audience?
Has she made it clear in no uncertain terms that she is not interested?

Abeg, find out the true details before you decide on a course of action. She needs to make it absolutly clear that she is not interested in him, so that he will back off.

She should stop picking his calls or responding to his begging. He will lose interest after a while when he gets fed up with her lack of response.

Na wa oh! So this thread is still alive Kai!

Can it fly for =N=1.7 million? Kindly let me know.

Please can you check this VIN number for me? 5N1ED28Y24C653705.

I would really appreciate your help on this.

Friendl, do you have any other Xterras in stock & can you take =N=1.6 million for this car? I need to arrange an inspection today. Please let me know where the car is located.

Please can you check this VIN number for me? 5N1ED28Y24C653705.

Thanks for your help.

Post da pics and let us see di cars! Don't talk too much.

Can dis car go for =N=1 million? Kindly let me know, am really interested.

Omo, dis car na die! Phew!!

Paste di pics here first, so that we can see if it would be worth our while

Di guy no even reply all of una again. Shey una see di thing wey una don cause?

Na crayfish una dey price??

Land am for Naija first make we see am before we talk!

Shey na auto abi na manual? Di picture of dat gear box no dey sharp at all,

Omo, you fit take 800k?? Am interested ooo!

How much??

Please post the pics and lets see what it looks like.

Hamjola,

Can you come down a bit on your price to like say, 1.2 million? Lets know cos am interested.

Brother, go to Kewalrams on Karim Kotun Street in Victoria Island. You will find it there. Or head for Berger Bust-Stop on Oshodi-Apapa Expressway, di thing boku for there. The Mitsubishi Nativa is also known as the Mitsubishi Montero.

Dear Teddy,
If you can take 1 mill, then respond. Can you bring it into town for us to see? Ikorodu is rather too far.
Also post a number on which we can reach you.

Do you have one that has an automatic transmission? Kindly confirm

Na wah o! Lets take this scenario:

Lets assume a babe catches her bloke almost maked with another chic, are you saying if she gives him a piece of her mind she is wrong, abusive or her anger is not justified? Would you expect her to smile, give him a round of appaluse, burst into tears & run or fold her arms & watch? Make una talk true, no lying o! Ehen!

I believe, there is no smoke without fire.

If you don't want your babe to cuss you out, then respect yahself by doing things right.

Same goes for the ladies, if you don't want your man to cuss you out, please don't make him mad.

You can't keep behaving like a jerk by messing up, and expect people to label you as a saint, or treat you like an angel.

Am outta here.

Er. . . .quick question. Just why exactly, did she trash you? Was it for something you did. . . . .or didn't do?

Oya, confess quick quick now, before another person enter here!

Maybe after you have told us the truth, the whole truth & nothing but the truth. . . .of the facts of the case, then we can begin to offer you some advice. Right now, I'm not too keen to take any panadol for anoda man's headache!

Emotional hostage or bondage is a puppy love. It is a sign of a highly manipulative or domineering parter. I wonder how you say you love someone but cannot trust or believe the person. Most men melt like jelly before their so called girlfriends who hold them hostage with the emotional blackmail. I pity the poster because his type might make a good husband. Staying late in office or giving a lift to a female co worker will attract hot slaps from the almighty madam who will never believe him.

Eh? Who said that? Trust like respect, is earned not given. It is not automatic. And once it gets broken, it is difficult to restore the fragile bonds. It is something that is built, and must be nutured to give any relationship true meaning and value.

Distrust can creep in due to a variety of factors. If the chap had a tendency to stray in the past, and this issue suddenly came up, she might feel the phone thing is a pointer to a recurrence of the past.

Making it sound as if a woman must swallow any story her guy tells her, simply because they are in a relationship is carrying things too far. Is the guy infallible? Is he a demi-god whose word is law and must be obeyed at all times? C'mon. . . . .

Secondly, the poster could easily have called his friend who gave him the phone to explain to the girl, how those text messages got into the phone.

Thridly, maybe there are some underlying issues between them that linger from a while back, which haven't been fully resolved. that could explain her current mindset.

Don't blame the girl too much. There are always two sides to a story.

Dis one na simple matter. Next time she calls, tell your girl to pick the phone & calmly let her know that she is the one in the driver's seat! Chikena!

Ol' boy, I admire yah self-control sha o! I hope you were sincere when you said you backed off, before things got too intimate.

But next time, watch out for the warning signs. DON'T invite any chic who fancies you over to yah house. If she insists on dropping by, call the police!

[Quote]@laudate
well,  mayb i deserve the bashing. but let s get somethings straight.

I cheated on Tola. Ok already! She s forgiven me! and i have also decided to move on. It s in the past,  let s leave it there. Sh.t happens and let me stress that there s another angle to this story that i will not discuss on this forum.

I admit I sort of used tina to get over Tola but i told Tina no lies. Anyways like i said ive made up my mind on what to do[/quote]Alright if Tola has forgiven you and you have moved on[i] (in what sense?), [/i] why did you come here to yarn us this 'tory? 

As for your claim that you did not tell Tina any lies, I beg stop deceiving yourself. Because you are certainly not deceiving us.

Like I said in another thread on this site, a man who dates two women at the same time, will end up telling lies to one or both of the girls to cover his tracks, while he would also eventually end up lying to himself, to justify the reasons for the affair.

So kindly admit that as you were[i] playing along [/i] with Tina like you claimed, you were not totally honest with her on key issues. You may have kept mute over those issues, because you deliberately wanted to foster a wrong impression in her mind, and it suited you to let her think that way. That's because am sure you didn't tell Tina that despite your relationship with her, you were definitely still dying for Tola and you would have preffered to have had her in your bed, instead of Tina.

End of story.

Will 1.8 mill be acceptable for this car? 

Is it manual or auto transmission? Let's know.

Reduce it further to 800,000. Then more folks would be interested.

What is your final offer? Someone wants to know if it is possible for you to sell that car at 1.4million.

simeons:
i was the baddy in this story but that does not mean everybody else concerned was an angel.

I ve put my mistake in my past and because i slept with another woman does not mean im a womaniser or whatever! Throw the stone! ye who never hath sinneth before!

You claim others were not angels. . . . .but no one said they were. Even if they were 'devils,' must you sink so low to their own bad level? You also said that sleeping with another woman does not make you a womaniser. Alright, I have heard. What exactly does it make you? An evangelist? Abeg, talk am well, well make we hear am o.

simeons:
I only got involved with Tina when Tolu made it clear to me that she was not interested in a relationship with me anymore and in order to spite me she started dating her ex. i was so badly hurt that i realised getting her off my mind was the healthy thing to do.

Hmmn. . . . .this is the one I find so difficult to understand. Correct me, if am wrong. Wasn't it because you were sleeping with another babe behind Tola's back, that made her dump you? Why were you claiming to have been badly hurt? When you were 'nacking' the other chic, don't forget that you were enjoying yahself oh! Or you didn't expect Tola to have gotten hurt when she saw you in the act?

Tell me, what exactly did you expect Tola to do, when she caught you with this other babe? Clap for you? Give you a standing ovation? Congratulate you? Lower her dignity and beg your 'cheating behind' to stay, despite the discovery that you had no self-control where other other girls were concerned? Pretend it was no big deal, like you are doing? Ah omo, I don't understand you oh!

You felt that jumping into Tina's undies was the best way to get Tola off your mind. No sweat. Now, tell us why are you coming here to seek for advice after you have already done the deed?

simeons:
Tina gave me a shoulder to cry on but of course. she had other designs 4 me. I never wanted to start a relationship with her and i never tried to take advantage of her but she liked me so much she was sort of reckless. I'm human, at that point i was not dating anyone, the person i was in love with hated my guts and so i just sort of played along with her. besides i liked her, i could tell we could build a strong relationship if we tried since we had been friends 4 so long. however, i never counted on Tolu coming back, and that is the source of my present predicament. I ve sort of made up my mind, i ll tell Tolu to let us stick with our earlier decision to stay apart and try and build a relationship with Tina. She doesnt desrve to get hurt

Stop contradicting yourself. In one breath, you claim that Tina had other designs on you & you never wanted to start a relationship with her. Shey, you remember? In another breath, you claim that you just sort of played along with her & you like her. Hehehe. . . . . .you want us to buy into that silly excuse that even a five-year old wouldn't swallow.

Oga Simeons, which one are we to believe? You said you never wanted to date her, yet you ended up doing just that knowing fully well that she had designs on you. You used Tina to get over Tola, and now she has served her purpose, you want to discard her. It is now that you know that she was reckless. See life?

You are merely trying to justify your actions, by laying the blame solely at Tina's doorstep. . . .but it won't wash. You played an active role in starting & sustaining a relationship with Tina. You didn't tell her NO that you were not interested in her, neither did you actively discourage her from getting intimate with you. Period. So stop brandishing cheap excuses by saying "you merely played along." I'm still scratching my head, trying to figure out what it means for a man to merely play along with a woman whom he knows had designs on him.  Maybe you can interprete that part for me.

simeons:
however, i never counted on Tolu coming back, and that is the source of my present predicament. I ve sort of made up my mind, i ll tell Tolu to let us stick with our earlier decision to stay apart and try and build a relationship with Tina. She doesnt desrve to get hurt

In what way did Tola stage a comeback? Are you sure that while you were dating Tina, you never went back to make contact with Tola, neither did you beg her to[i] renew [/i] your relationship?

Are you sure you were not secretly hoping Tola would have a change of mind and come back to you, during your relationship with Tina? And if Tola decided she wanted to come back of her own free will, did you bother to ask her why? Did you bother to find out if her 'hatred' had died down and what made her have a change of heart? Did you ask Tola what would happen to her new relationship with her ex-boyfriend that you claim she started dating again, after you guys broke up? Did you ask her what made her finally decide she could now[i] trust[/i] you again after all what has happened? A relationship without trust, is nothing but an empty shell about to shatter into irreparable fragments.

Ol' boy, you never start your journey o! Trying to swing back & forth between Tola & Tina isn't going to solve your problem. You said you'd stick to Tina. I can bet you would still fool around with a different chic behind Tina's back, even after building a relationship with her. Look inwards for the solution to your situation.  Ah don talk my own finish. Case closed.