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Who go hook me up to such sums na. See serious money getting 'lost'. Chai

UnconventionalT:
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"I am a Nigerian student living in Scotland, A Nigerian Christian guy got in touch with me via WhatsApp and asked for a relationship, saying he got my number off a church whatsapp group that I haven't been to for almost a year now. He said he's prayed about me and God has told him we are good to go. He is a student too.
I was single at the time and haven't been with a Christian brother before, so I decided to give it a chance. It's roughly 2 months and I am at the point where I want to quit.

We got talking on the platform and also through calls, about a week into our relationship/talking stage he asked me to come to his place and cook for him so he can have enough food for the coming week. I was surprised because we hadn't even seen each other at that at time. I told him I cannot, he made a big deal out of it and said stuff like it's not a big deal for me to do that as his wife to be. We got over that and arranged to see for the first time, he suggested my house and I said I don't feel comfortable with either of us seeing for the first time in our houses and we finally concluded on a Bugger King outlet which isn't far from my house. This didn't go well with him tho.

We met for the first time and talked, after that he said he wanted to know my place as it isn't far from Burger King. He came to my place and stayed in my bed till around past 10pm, he tried touching and kissing, I told him I wasn't comfortable and he needed to leave because of time. He got annoyed said his intentions was to stay over at my place, he already told his housemate he isn't coming back home and it's so late now to go back. I told him I cannot allow him sleep at my house for the first time we're meeting, I have a small single bed and you intentionally didn't even say you'd sleep over before. He grudgingly left and dropped 3 packs of youghurt and a bag of unfried chips which I later discovered where all expired at the time he dropped them.

I told him about it and he made a mess out of the situation. He attends a pentecostal church and critisizes other churches, he doesn't really believe in adult taking responsibility for their actions as the devil is most likely responsible for everything, we simply have to pray against the devil.
He's asked for sex multiple times in less than 1 month, I stopped talking to him one time for about 2 weeks and we picked up again. He said he doesn't have to penetrate, we can do every other things to satisfy our flesh. He said doing all that with him is the proof of my love for him which I have strongly disagreed. Sex isn't a prove of love, we are adults and can have protected sex with anyone without loving them.
The only single thing I enjoy about him is that we communicate well, he talks a lot too and that makes our communication half argument, he finds fault in any little thing and blows it out of proportion. I have told him I don't have strength for argument in marriage since we won't be arguing over minute things that get him pissed off now.

Both of us have been getting multiple 12 hours night shifts from work and two nights ago, he asked me what he was going to eat when he gets home the following morning, I knew he was up to something. I told him I can't say, we don't live together and I don't know what you currently have at home. I suggested he buys bread on his way back home. He then asked me to cook for him to eat the following morning, I sincerely let him know I have no soup or stew myself. His response changed and he later called me on same subject, citing how I don't care enough about him to be concerned about how he is gonna eat since he's been working few nights now, he compared himself to a married man that always brings food to work at his workplace. Even gave the guy his phone to talk to me, that one too said I should do things in my power to make my man happy.

I tried to make him understand he isn't married and it might be difficult to enjoy what his married frnd is enjoying. Youve never bought me foodstuff, you haven't worked before and sent me 50 pounds or less for groceries, we are both working night shifts and I sort my own food, why are you angry I can't make out time out of my rest period to come cook at your house to stuck your fridge?

I have been in relationship where I cooked, I personally enjoy cooking, but I have never been with a man that feels to entitled to me doing that for him. He says I'm supposed to be the one cooking for him. He also believes in women abroad sharing bills, but he is too traditional to share house chores"

Wow. These are serious red flags. If you don't feel good about it, run. He also sounds like a narcissist with konji problems. It's best you cut lose or redifine the relationship.

Zxcvbnmghtr:
Why?

Is like you live outside Nigeria?

Johnnyessence:
the plateau state governorship election tribunal has delivered their judgement on Tuesday, the current governor of plateau won his case. Kano State , Kaduna and Nasarawa States governorship Election tribunal will pronounced their judgement on the petitions before it this week. Stay tuned for more updates

Wow. Plateau governor try sha.

Yes

Especially if there's reason to believe you're not one and the same person.

List of people to invite or place a bounty on:

1 Sam Larry
2 Naira Marley
3 Every individual in Marian Music

APC are masters of planting fake news everywhere. Remember how Thuvb, Rufai, Soyinka, and Co used the media against Jonathan to force bubu on us? They're still using the media against us. Who the hell is AMODA YEKINI?

E don reach like that?

I hope insecurities will pipe low so that investors can come in their numbers.

The Fraudian theory of survival.

Jman06:
It is possible that guy is a medical doctor!

When Nigerian medical doctors are caught up in malpractices like this, the first reaction of NMA is to deny them in a bid to save face.

Many more Kekeres are operating freely in Nigeria and NMA and Nigerian ministry of health are complicit directly or indirectly.

You're right. That's another angle.

Watch ladies go gaga on 3...2.....1.....

Wealthoptulent:
Like you joined Those claiming Tinubu no go CSU or na Female, yekini amuda, na xo e easy for media too.
One step at Time.

Even you, are you confident in him? Is his alias yekini or not? Let the US courts clarify that with the documents.

IjebuWarrior:
Mr. Deducer... wellu donu.

Mr man

Too bad. From your writeup I deduced one central theme. Caring too deeply about what people say, especially from the opposite sex.

So if your current girlfriend says you legs are too thin, you go begin do legwork for gym?

Get a grip of yourself and do things because YOU want to. Not because you have people to impress.

"Our records don't show that he's a medical doctor" - NMA

When it rains, it pours. Some people go about their evil business and inclinations thinking the world revolves around them, and that they'll never be caught. But just one day, a deluge of problems and karma rains on them. That's what has happened to this man.

How can you, a non-medical 'expert' take out a patient's kidney. Haba. For what!? Investigation must be full, open, and conclusive on this matter. Patients might have died on his table or after weeks of being operated on.

The police must rise up to the occasion!

Kobojunkie:
Answer the question. You observe the same behavior in the animal kingdom where animals are ruled by their hormones and brain chemicals due to their lack of self-control and self-discipline, so why do you blame the devil in the case of humans? Why refuse to put responsibility where it belongs desiring instead to put blame on some phantom? Even Jesus Christ never did that — John 8 vs 31 - 44 — so why do you do it so boldly?

You're way, way, out of the purpose this thread was mean to achieve.

Kobojunkie:
Explain what exactly? I simply answer the question posed by the OP.

2. Humans are ruled by their hormones and brain chemicals like animals are. Look in the animal Kingdom and you will see the exact same things you see going on in the human kingdom. Are animals that way because of spirits or the devil? Please try to dey borrow sense abeg!

Sorry o. I didn't know you were prominent in the animal kingdom.

aQUINandmore:
I feel like posting my nudes on nairaland so I can go viral.

OK

Issorite.

Like someone said up there, you have a terrible combination of problems. Betting and sex addiction among others.

Omoh, that's a recipe for disaster already. They'll drain your pockets and leave permanent holes in them for a long time.

Turn Christ. One step at a time. Don't stop because you are broke. Stop because you hate the effects these problems have attached to your life.

Take care!

Kobojunkie:
There is absolutely no truth to the claim that sexual sin is the devil's most powerful weapon. That idea came from the mouths of men like you to deceive and control your lives and minds. Look at how they have gone ahead to convince you that it is instead when you have sex to procreate and increase the population in their church business that you are rewarded. When in fact God put a curse on your marriages and even on childbearing in Genesis 3 vs 16 .

2. You resist the temptation to have sex the same way a Buddhist monk or even an asexual who may even be an atheist does, and that is through self-control and self-discipline. If you are not able to work hard in that area of your life, then I suggest you forget about God and His demands and live your life as you will — assuming of course you have never been born of water and born of the Spirit of Eternal Life.

You've written this much but actually explained little. You don't even need a Bible verse to answer this question. Just look around you. What fuels the world and the everyday choices more than half the population makes? SEX. It is the most powerful sin and grip the devil has on mankind.

We live in a society that glorifies fraud and get-rich-quick schemes. Most parents are not bothered to ask how their wards get money. Yahoo will continue to be on the rise.

ELEYIofNigeria:
Why dont male students make so much noise?

You'll hardly find gay lecturers in Nigerian universities. Dem no plenty and dem sabi hide. But you see randy lecturers? They are so many across Nigeria. In one university, you might find about 35 randy dicks.

Woodshot:
These girls are enjoying it reason why an average lecture will keeping demanding for tryst to excel them...

What stops them girls from recording the sexual terrorism exuding from Lecturers and sending it to human rights?

Baba, no nau. Don't say so. While some ladies will agree to such arrangements for grades, many others won't. See one of the examples in the writeup.

She even complained to a female lecturer that said there's nothing she could do. Then multiple petitions. Na who like sex for grades dey write petitions? Haba.

We still have girls that will die before using sex for grades. So don't generalize please.

Lecturers can't seem to keep it in their pants. They come across women of all ages, complexions, and sizes.

Rather than grooming the next generation with their minds, they want to use their hands on the girls. That is a terrible trend that didn't start today, and there's no sign of it changing anytime soon. Some lecturers are even popular for fucking their students.

It's a sorry state really. As a society, we cannot turn a blind eye to such lecturers anymore. If not we'll have students that want to become lecturers in order to feast on women.

Firm polices should be put in place and they should face serious shame. Also, we need a serious sex offenders register, so that these guys don't get jobs anywhere else after been sacked.

Ceasarceasar:
Calm down madam..

How is 80k job equivalent to 400k job in Abuja ..

That's a big lie...I stay in the north

You can imagine. She didn't even say 80k equivalent 120k or at most 130k. We play too much in this country.

aQUINandmore:
Cs or not, the goal is never to loose guard and get preggie for any he goat that's not a politician or multi millionaire.

Like you're dating one. Get wisdom soon.

Some women have been brainwashed. For example, you go to church and you hear things like, "you will deliver like the Hebrew women" and other stuff.

While that's not bad, the peculiar circumstances made God give those privileges to Hebrew women alone, considering their issues in Israel.

Back to the topic. Ignorance is bliss for many women. Meanwhile, some babies are too big to push them through some vaginas. Again, some women lack the strength to push over some time, so their best bet is via CS.

The kind of food we eat in Africa has also undergone dramatic changes, which can decrease the strength our women need to birth without CS.

A child is a child, regardless of how you birthed the child. Don't feel bad or low self esteem. You're a mother. What matters is a healthy child and mother passing through the medical process.

Just this week, we learnt of two mother's that passed after birthing. In all that happened there was no mention of pushing or CS. HEALTH IS PARAMOUNT! Let the doctors help you decide the best method to birth.

How many times will we see this??

ExudeLoveToAll:
It isn't about equality it's about reciprocity. It's not just people we are talking of people who profess to 'love us'

Read before concluding, where did I assert giving must be equal. I only made more meaning to your assertion by bringing in reciprocity, and also punched the fact that it must not be the man that will give more.

Have a good day.

Who said giving shouldn't be equal? Or better put it giving should be reciprocal.

The man must not give more, it is the one with more financial power that should give more, most times the one with more financial power is the man that is why it seems like man gives more. May be that is where you coined that phrase from.

Reciprocity is the watch word, when there is no reciprocity that relationship is a scam. Declare mission impossible ghost protocol mode.

Emphasis on italics. What else did you mean by the question. Or it's a typo where you meant to say 'should?'