Reincarnated:

na me just get badluck for this nl sha

Yes her name is Itsmodella

ToyinDipo:
Lady please don't scare me, I'm not Ochon

lol i know am just teasing. I have not seen him on hear in ages and he was one of my fav posters that's why i ask. Nothing is going on between us

ToyinDipo:
Even Ochon self run, who wan die? Lekpa come dey chase am come here

Ochon is that you

njokusboy:

Lekpa, u have killed ochon with hotness... U don suffocate the guy... Lord have mercy

If only, however he likes another girl

For wetin nah?:


On point Sis..some men don't just have respect for women, they expect women to do all the work (emotional and physical) while they sit back as Demi gods and Nag. Most men end up marrying informal housegirls (Not for love), while they flex outside with sophisticated ones..rubbish

GBAM!!

Reincarnated:

I thought he was with you? hmm that's weird

He was but he disappeared now i cant find him

btw where is Ochongonoko?

This is so childish

This is not true. Was it just yesterday i think i saw an article about Nadia dumping Jim . It's just a rumour. If they did not say it themselves then i do not believe it.

sadeiyare:

The grass is alwa¥s greener in ¥our neighbor's back¥ard ; And I mean this litrearil¥

But you have to leave some for your Neighbour na, you cant take all but then again also women like different things.

Hardniola so you wont talk

The place Nigerians and Ghanaians get along is South Africa.

Here we are very close and a lot of times the people call us all the same. I guess maybe when you are in a foreign land which a lot of people do not like foreigners then it's easier to mix well i guess plus we have a lot in common.

Naija men and women lol. In South Africa the men say they are stealing their women(they are not happy about it)

Cleft Events:

My dear they r not desperate,they only saw a rich pocket

Well not all of those desperate women are married to rich men

Truckpusher: Vex ke! I should be telling you guys to take it easy on guys ,after all who will even take any Nigerian home base girl seriously when almost 95% of them are runs girls or involved into some kind of light prostitution only to be running after guys desperately when they realize that their value as a woman has diminished beyond repair.

So , when some eediotic guys notice that your self esteem has been sacrificed on the alter of materialism ,they'll simply make you a perpetual slave mentally fully aware that you can't shut him out completely ,hence the desperation because i'm fully aware that a woman with a high degree of self worth and respect for womanhood always get their respect wherever they find themselves not only in marriages and relationship.



Women should stop chasing the money,blind greed,short-lived enjoyment which i call foolery and should chase the books,skills ,get a job or just start something and always be contented with whatever you have ,then i can assure you that every man will tread softly not to stir the hornets nest.

THE RESPECT FOR ANY MINORITY COMES FROM HOW THEY THEMSELVES TREAT THEMSELVES AND YOUR EN SLAVER WILL NEVER SET YOU FREE UNTIL YOU DEMAND FOR FREEDOM WITH AN EVIDENCE OF STRENGTH

Am not based in Naija but Chei this is so harsh and your statement is filled with a lot of generalizations, if 95% are prostitutes then what do you call such men dating those girls . I agree with the second statement, but you will always get some buffoons who will complain about this still and blame it on feminism then refer to you as a spinster(for chasing your career, phd etc). I believe that you set the tone for how you want to be treated(not always cos some men are beasts) but if you accept bad behavior then continue to expect that same behaviour

eddiebruk:

Your papa house still dey hungry you, make i just tell you, Congos get expiry date oooo

Lol i'm sorry to disappoint you but am not living with my parents. Tufiakwa not mine

ariseandshine:

Why should you be a spinster at 30 years when over 10 guys have shown interest?

So age 30 is a spinster, na wa o. The truth is a lot of women nowadays are not dying to get married or rushing. It is not a competition. Everyone has their time. If those women are not complaining then why should you? Busybody

Truckpusher: That comment was simply a relative one and should not be taken out of contest by your overzealous self jare.......abi i call your name join am ni?

Lmao no vex

Lmao at some of the comments. This has nothing to do with whether a woman should cook or be submissive etc. When you get married and you love your spouse you will do everything to make them happy. Cooking etc is not the problem here. The problem is the desperation of unmarried women.


I think probably only women will understand this as we have seen this happen a lot and the outcome. Why get into a marriage that will make you unhappy? perhaps divorced or even dead. Makes no sense to me.

It seems the men who do all of the above are taking offense to this topic because i really do not see what the whole bruhaha is about.

Truckpusher: All the feminists in Nairaland will have a field day taking jabs at guys that dare to come here and say otherwise


As for me , i'll just pass with my two hands in my pockets watching frustration take a deep final plunge into oblivion.


Abeg ,make una no beat me eh, i dey waka pass jeje

What has feminism have to do with this? I really do not understand some men really. So if a man beats you and you don't like it FEMINISM. If a man cheats and you don't like it Feminism. Wow

crackhaus:
I can't say anything about the men on this site except myself.

I take it only fake and phony women would disagree with the OP abi, and what is this truth you speak of?
Oh well, what you should know is that there are only a few men, and when I say few, I mean really few men who display such behaviour.
I mean, when I should be busy with my job and my hustle, na to dey stalk my girl with incessant IMs and asking for nude pictures or monitoring her every move, or whatever else the OP tried to convince you people of that will be my problem?

The whole thing does not even make sense because I am yet to have a friend, relative or acquaintance who does any of that.
But I wonder why you sef like the post when it's obvious you are already taken as with all the other ladies here who claim to have the best bf in the world.

I'm going back to my back seat now to observe, thank you for calling me out.

Just because you are taken does it mean we should sit down and fold our hands because what the op has said it's true.

There are many kinds of desperate women(some may have caused their own downfall). The ones who were waiting for the perfect guy(rich, good looking etc unfortunately a lot of them are players) so she may have refused a lot of marriage proposals and now thinks she is running out of time so will just settle with any man.


There ones who stayed in a relationship for many years and ended up ditched and now they feel they are too old and are desperate for any man to marry( I know a girl who dated a guy for 10years and he left her and 6months later got married to someone else). Honestly if a man does not marry you by a certain time, he will never ever marry you.

Thirdly unfortunately some women have bad luck in relationships, always get the wrong guys, so they keep dating but the men never propose so she gets so old that she now is desperate for any man.

There are all kinds of desperate women(it may have been their fault or not why they are unmarried) but they share the same desperation and are willing to settle.

Lastly i think sometimes some women need to be more open minded. Sometimes we are struck on the idea that the man we must marry must be of this tribe or Nationality but if it is not happening and you feel your "clock" is ticking then give other "men" a chance.
For me personally i will rather be unmarried and single and be desperate enough to marry someone who is an abuser/serial cheater. It's not worth it. IMO

eddiebruk:

Actually i enjoy the Aunties more than the little girls, and i like how they keep disturbing my line, it makes me feel important, No be me send them to waste their youth waiting for submissive husbands when truly what they were waiting for was a husband with Range Rover. of-course they wont tell you to your face.

Did you read the topic? Where did it mention anything about women waiting for rich husbands or wanting submissive husbands. Smdh Some people are always quick to comment at any topic. You have missed the boat completely.

Please refer back to my earlier post about what the topic is about. This topic is about unmarried women being so desperate they go for men they normally won't have settled for such as cheaters, abusers etc.

What is so hard to understand? Would you like your sisters or daughters to be so desperate that they settle with such men. About those Aunties yes those are desperate women indeed. Old or young. A desperate women is a desperate women.

Yoshi-Master:


Good points, I never saw were the OP made points about women being too choosy.

I mean what gal would wanna be with an abusive guy?

Just the same way us guys shouldn't be desperate and end up with the wrong type females.

Being choosy, is not being able to make your mind up when you have many 'suitable' options.

Exactly. So glad you understand

eddiebruk:

Tah common gerraway, who dey find Orisirisi woman like you

I see i struck a nerve. Truth is real men wont have a problem with this topic. Only little boys. Keep being a little boy as you will keep attracting little girls.

eddiebruk:


The fact that you cannot keep a man doesn't mean that all men are bad, what have you been doing since your youth, Or you thought PhD go land you automatic husband...? Pride and over sabi is the main reason so many of you are still hunting for Mr right, dey there dey deceive yourself, na for night we go know how it feels to be cuddled in the warm arms of a loving husband.

Lmao. When did i say that all men are bad. Secondly keeping a man is no problem. I have a good man who loves and respects me and he is type of guy i always wanted and its not out of desperation. The only reason i am unmarried yet is because we are not there financially yet. So dont worry your lil head about me. I am fine. But why you so bitter though lmao. Dont worry no matter what there will always be stupid girls who will be desperate enough for the likes of you.

It seems a lot of men have misunderstood this topic. Its not about preference as every one has a different preference and what works for one will not work for the other. This topic is about unmarried women being so desperate that they settle for someone(who they would not normally have) just for the sake of getting married. When a woman is very desperate, a man can see that and will treat her anyhow as he knows she wont go anywhere. Whether it be cheating, abuse etc. What op is trying to say is women should avoid this. Its not then end of the world if you are not married. Your friends may have gotten married at 23, perhaps your time is 30. This is not about being too picky and refusing good guys. This is about not just settling with a bad guy because of desperation.

eddiebruk:


Dey there dey deceive yourself, your small cousin when dem born which day go soon marry

what is your problem sef? It seems this topic is really getting to you. I am sure you are the type of man the op was warning us about. Why do you care so much about all the women not married? Will you marry them. Dont take panadol for someone elses headache.

Great topic op. Finally a topic that makes sense hits frontpage. Women need to change their way of thinking. Its not the end of the world if you are not married yet(as per the 'norm' age). I always say i will rather end up alone and unmarried than rush into a marriage that will make me miserable for the rest of my life simply because of me settling for rubbish just because of desperation. If you allow a man to treat you a certain way, he will continue to do so. I'd also advice women to try and get educated and earn some form of income because when the going gets tough, you know that no matter what you will be able to take care of yourself and kids.

Sadeiyare are there no Nigerian restaurants in Ghana that you can buy your Moi Moi from?

njokusboy:

Bug chasers... Front page..

thanks dear.

njokusboy:

Ah, iyawo, so u visit dat thread... No be small tin oh, wetin person eye no go see

which thread?

Reincarnated: LMFAOOO! Going through your old posts @lekpa...I just saw that I have had so many clashes with you with my former account Mariarocks. Hahahahah

Lol i just went through them too. You used to get on my nerves. Was like this chic is crazy(before i knew you were male).