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Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by lekpalicious(f): 2:49pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Truckpusher: All the feminists in Nairaland will have a field day taking jabs at guys that dare to come here and say otherwiseWhat has feminism have to do with this? I really do not understand some men really. So if a man beats you and you don't like it FEMINISM. If a man cheats and you don't like it Feminism. Wow 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Joshthefirst(m): 2:51pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Ishilove: Chai 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 2:52pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
bukatyne: Random Adam? I laugh in Spanish May God not give you a Random man. Say Amen |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 2:54pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Mz Vox: My fellow unmarried women, it’s not that I have a You r only being pessimistic and discouraging 2 urself & other unmarried ladies. A marriage that'll crash or b in abuse 'll surely crash or b in abuse. Av u ever heard dat there's no perfect marriage in d world? So why givin urself unnecessary burden of tryng 2 pick a non-abusive partner wch can incidentally jeopardise ur chances of gettin married. Look, there's so surplus of women in d society compare to men.Becos of this, there's no time 4 men to try to kill demselvs over a single lady. Once a lady tries to cajole his man too much, he walks away and picks another lady. I've seen many ladies in thier 40s and 50s now who r regrettin refusin to get married to one man or d other during thier young age. All over d world, marriage is considered 'endurance' and not 'enjoyment'. Why not go into one 2day hoping to manage & endure it while u put ur trust in God instead of suffering urself waiting for a perfect angel. You may regret it later in life if u allow men pass u cos u craving 4 mr. perfect. Just an advice! 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by UjSizzle(f): 2:55pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
eddiebruk:I'm starting to think you a misogynist 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by hollypagan: 2:55pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Red_Card: And Rita Dominic will be feeling proud after reading this write up. I hope Madam Ogugua88 has read it as well. Marriage is a matter of choice......getting a child is all that matters. Now all the old single ladies.......start consoling yourselves and hustle for children.why callng Rita Dominic on this matter surpose i propose her tommorrow after all i am a good man |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 3:00pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
uj_sizzle: @Bolded This is the only thing I have learnt from you Freedom Seeking Spinsters today. |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by wasak(m): 3:02pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
I was passing buy before finally deciding to drop a comment @ okija juju, redbenson ً, truck pusher...I c u guys.... men and women are equal. Yes! a guy has no right to control his wife!!! yes It is not compulsory she cooks for her husband!!!! yes! women aren't slaves!!!! yes ......,...........,................................+--+--*******++++++++++++ like I said earlier I was just passing by... wish me safe journey pls!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by CleftEvents: 3:06pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Some ladies are not ready to work sha,they just want ready made. Am not saying dat u shud accept rubbish but with dis kind of attitude u will remain single and divorce will be on d increase. If U don't want to end up tasting all d guys then note dat Marriage/relationship is all about give and take/compromise. No guy will beat u if u do d right thing(pls am not supporting abusers) just do d right thing and be ready to always give and give at all times. Also I will beg u to stop spreading dis attitude because its not everybody dat can extract d right message from it,some girls/ladies will only pick d wrong ideas and start sending defiant signals to their partners. Remember our mothers were able to sustain their relationships/marriage because they were submissive,try it,it doesn't hurt. It will save a lot of proceedings in court due to divorce. We always quote d bible but it seems ladies of dis days skip dat part. And for d guys out there,wots happening,u guys shud step up,some of u need to change your attitudes towards us. Remember one only accepts defeat by punching and if u know u are too powerful pls try punching men like u. People respect u more because of d way u treat your wife and I have found out dat spiritually u gain more by treating her right because u get an additional person to pray for u,remember d saying dat whoever finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from d LORD. Or would u like it if u find your father beating your mother or another man beating your sister all in d seek of marriage. Give your woman her space if dats wot she wants. Always give and give until she gets tired of receiving believe me if u do dat u will be among d happiest men, a lady's attitude towards u is a reflection of how u treat her. God Bless. 2 Likes |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by bukatyne(f): 3:06pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
ariseandshine: Dude, follow the trail |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Truckpusher(m): 3:06pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Unfortunately most of these she-boons typing trash here right now is being ravaged by theses same guys they love to hate but love to get into their inner pockets......what a confused set of people....smh Has anyone noticed that ladies do say one thing and go for/accept something entirely different and out place when it comes to their bf or husbands Naturally you ladies will complain and yell like hell ,but as soon as the guy shows up with plenty good attitude ,gifts ,probably some crocodile tears you'll be all over the unrepentant he-goat and the next thing he does is to plunge his pipe into those hollow cylinders with no alignment and the rest is history.......give him three months he goes back to status quo...smh. 95% of ladies are like this and will remain this way because the society,the govt and the culture of masculine highhandedness is simply tolerated by all and sundry irrespective of who ends up as a victim. |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 3:06pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
uj_sizzle: Okay now let me get my points across to you 1. the OP said and i quote "" When a man makes you stay on a video chat for 24 hours, just so that he can see where you are at all times, he’s an abuser"" This is not true, we all know that this actually is what a female partner is capable of doing, there is no normal working class man that would be so jobless as to do things like this, and also if a man does this while you guys are still dating then you should be wise enough to call it a quit before marriage thereby averting the ABUSE as the OP labelled it. 2. She also made mention of ""When a man makes you take pictures of yourself and send it to him 24 hours a day, so he knows where and who you’re with, my sister you’re in bondage"" This also is done by ladies mostly, but yes some guys still do things like this but the chances are very slim, and i can tell you that i dont even have time for that, because i am the kind of person that can get any information about my gf's were-about without even calling her phone, both parties should be transparent, if you are not doing anything bad why is this a big deal for you to do....? 3. And also she said ""When a man flings objects at you during an argument, throws and breaks his phone against the wall and says “Look what you made me do,” he will one day throw you and blame you for it. You’d better run away and from that far distance"" I have a friend who is in 9ja, Last year December he bought his 6th Blackberry because his GF was an example of this, she slams his phone on the concrete whenever she sees his conversation with a female, and he doesnt do anything about it, this is not something in general with men, it is ones personal altitude and a woman is supposed to know that her man has such temper ans so should learn how to handle issues with him if she wants to consider him as her husband for life. 4. When a man tells you that once you get married, because his mother did it, you too will pound yam for him while you’re nine months pregnant, wash his car, feed your three children and drop them off at school, clean the house, do the family laundry, go shopping etc. I will say it is very obvious that as a woman if such thing is happening to you, then you didnt start well with the man, every lady and her man are supposed to know what they are capable of doing at any particular time, as for me, i do not even wait for any lady to prepare me food before i eat, i can pretty much vacuum my house by myself and make my bed, i can even remember making breakfast sometimes before she wakes up from bed, so it is how you start that determines what happens when you are married, but nowadays so many ladies do not set these Standards, all they want is a man with a comfortable home where they can just relax and enjoy the rest of their life, without setting these standards, and when things doesnt go the way they want, they will label the man as being an Abusive husband. ask yourself, how many men are ABUSIVE out there and how have you handled the few you have come across...? |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by crackhaus: 3:07pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
lekpalicious:I know you don't mean this. |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by bukatyne(f): 3:07pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Cleft Events: Some ladies are not ready to work sha,they just want ready made. Am not saying dat u shud accept rubbish but with dis kind of attitude u will remain single and divorce will be on d increase. If U don't want to end up tasting all d guys then note dat Marriage/relationship is all about give and take/compromise. No guy will beat u if u do d right thing(pls am not supporting abusers) just do d right thing and be ready to always give and give at all times. Are you sure you read the OP at all? 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by princeonx: 3:09pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Okija_juju: Lol! More like 1 Like
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Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by demelza: 3:11pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
ariseandshine:You have been throwing the word spinster as if its a bad thing. Whats wrong in wanting freedom? |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Policewoman(f): 3:11pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Any advise for us the married ones? |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by pinkshell(f): 3:12pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
[color=#000099][/color] Society isn't makin easier for single ladies. Wen u are rich n unmarried dey term it as pride. Society az made it seem lik addin a 'MRS' to ur name is wat makes life fulfilling. 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Aklofs: 3:12pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Roseey0: They all know,but can't help it, they say they are in love and love is blind.Is d@ y u paint ur whole face in ur DP? |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 3:15pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Policewoman: Any advise for us the married ones? If your marriage is loving and successful, then you should be the one giving advice. We're discussing unmarried women after all. 2 Likes |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by dabrake(m): 3:15pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Cleft Events: Some ladies are not ready to work sha,they just want ready made. Am not saying dat u shud accept rubbish but with dis kind of attitude u will remain single and divorce will be on d increase. If U don't want to end up tasting all d guys then note dat Marriage/relationship is all about give and take/compromise. No guy will beat u if u do d right thing(pls am not supporting abusers) just do d right thing and be ready to always give and give at all times. Alright, 1 like from me. I agree with this post especially the highlighted part. Guys wey go soon marry, read this post again and again and again. |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Truckpusher(m): 3:15pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
lekpalicious: What has feminism have to do with this? I really do not understand some men really. So if a man beats you and you don't like it FEMINISM. If a man cheats and you don't like it Feminism. WowThat comment was simply a relative one and should not be taken out of contest by your overzealous self jare.......abi i call your name join am ni? |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Rogo: 3:17pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Remember we are African not American. U cant change the Nigeria man with these statement |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 3:18pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
pinkshell: [color=#000099][/color] As your papa name sweet you to answer am continue, it is when they call for Family reunion and people are contributing that is when you will shed tears when someone from the crowd ask you to shut up and go and marry 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by lekpalicious(f): 3:19pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Lmao at some of the comments. This has nothing to do with whether a woman should cook or be submissive etc. When you get married and you love your spouse you will do everything to make them happy. Cooking etc is not the problem here. The problem is the desperation of unmarried women. I think probably only women will understand this as we have seen this happen a lot and the outcome. Why get into a marriage that will make you unhappy? perhaps divorced or even dead. Makes no sense to me. It seems the men who do all of the above are taking offense to this topic because i really do not see what the whole bruhaha is about. 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 3:19pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
@tjololade: I don't think the Bible intends for any woman to remain married when her husband is subjecting her to physical abuse and/or cheating. 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 3:19pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
demelza: You have been throwing the word spinster as if its a bad thing. Whats wrong in wanting freedom? Why should you be a spinster at 30 years when over 10 guys have shown interest? |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by lekpalicious(f): 3:20pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Truckpusher: That comment was simply a relative one and should not be taken out of contest by your overzealous self jare.......abi i call your name join am ni?Lmao no vex |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by UjSizzle(f): 3:23pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
ariseandshine:Oh good. Let me teach you the American pronounciation too: mi-saw-ji-nist British mai-so-gi-nist Can't use the normal consonant and vowel sounds 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by dabrake(m): 3:24pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
ariseandshine:**DIES** I need spinsters. You know, you give me kids, nurture them thill they are grown and then I pay you off. #GodBlessTheSpinsters |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by demelza: 3:24pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
ariseandshine:What if those 10 guys exhibit traits mentioned by the Op? And who says you must be married before 30? |
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