kennygee: Some men are not looking for wives, they are looking for baby popping machines, laundry women, cooks and nannies. Once you are married to this type of man, he takes pleasure in younger women, beware of men like this too.

kennygee: Some men are not looking for wives, they are looking for baby popping machines, laundry women, cooks and nannies. Once you are married to this type of man, he takes pleasure in younger women, beware of men like this too.

Bootylicious: Lovely write-up...

Mrs.Chima:
Damn I was in a mood to fight!

Bravo!

ogugua88: Lovely post! Unfortunately, common sense is not common.

It's easy to say these things and hope that unmarried women heed, but the truth is that societal/cultural and family pressures are partly to blame, if not entirely. Also, a lot of women lack the mental and emotional strength required to stand for themselves, or have become complacent with mediocrity and sacrificed self-respect for a husband. It's from a Nigerian woman's mouth that you will hear things like "cheating is the norm; there's nothing you can do about it". Some unluckily marry the wrong man and will still quote the Bible and tell you that under no circumstances, adultery and domestic violence inclusive, can a woman file for divorce. That's disheartening and is setting a very wrong trend for our daughters to follow. I don't know from where the "a woman's pride is her husband/marriage" came, and I don't know how or why it's unofficially compulsory for a woman to marry before a certain age, hence making some women rush and settle for sub-par males, but it's part of the reason why some men see themselves as gods and do as they wish to them.

Nothing could be truer than the last part of your post. Society, culture, tradition, and even family won't change, not fast enough anyway. The change that's so greatly needed as per this topic can only come from women changing their mindsets and loving themselves to the point that they will not settle for less, even if it means waiting a little longer.

A woman should gain more than a man and ring in marriage. She should gain a partner, a teammate, a companion... someone who appreciates her in totality. And guess what? Such men don't come easily, so be patient.

ariseandshine: With this kind of advise your listeners will end up in T.B Joshua's Church at the age of 40 looking for a husband.

eddiebruk: Orisirisi topic, now you will see all the Ada beke's and Olosho popping up to commend the OP, like someone said, so many women are single today because of their pride to be submissive to their husbands, Marriage is not a competition of who owns the best things, some are not married but they are happy, and only their Pillows knows how much pains they feel each night. Nobody should quote me sha

bukatyne:



I did not intend to commend but some posts like the above got to me.

Where are the Op talked about submission or not? where did she even mention competition or owning this?

Are you sure that you are responding to the OP at all?


It is all these Nigerian mindset that makes unmarried women jump at the next available thing in trousers.

Like it is said, if you do not have a destination, anywhere becomes your end point.

If a woman knows her purpose in life and who she is, she will automatically weed out a lot of prospects.

It is well

Buddy dogg: what useful here!

Okija_juju: As at my last count...



10 Lonely women liked the OP's comment...

nyere84: Its useful...!!!

Life does not begin wit husband.!!
Life will not end wit husband..!!

There is more to life to enjoy, to give you happiness and make you fulfilled.

#say no to an abusive man#

eddiebruk:

Thats not true Aunty, the reason why the men go for younger women is because the wives feels like since they are married now she can now do away with those things that caught the eyes of the husband, like baring it all at home, if you bare it all for your husband for 2years he will get tired of seeing those things, so try as much as possible to get him guessing always, be on top notch of your game as a wife like you guys are just some young bf/gf, sexually educate your mind more to be able to arouse his intellect as well as his louins every evening when he gets home, keep him running home to have a taste of your dish during his break period, keep sending him SMS while he is at work, tell him you want him to take you out this weekend, make him buy you gifts. abeg 9ja women always thinks that once they are married their world has now come to an end for the struggle of having a man, failing to understand that keeping him is the most important thing

caramelll: Madam OP "Mz vox",saw dis write-up on FB a month ago,it wont hurt 2give credit 2d original writer•#jst sayin#

eddiebruk:

Thats not true Aunty, the reason why the men go for younger women is because the wives feels like since they are married now she can now do away with those things that caught the eyes of the husband, like baring it all at home, if you bare it all for your husband for 2years he will get tired of seeing those things, so try as much as possible to get him guessing always, be on top notch of your game as a wife like you guys are just some young bf/gf, sexually educate your mind more to be able to arouse his intellect as well as his louins every evening when he gets home, keep him running home to have a taste of your dish during his break period, keep sending him SMS while he is at work, tell him you want him to take you out this weekend, make him buy you gifts. abeg 9ja women always thinks that once they are married their world has now come to an end for the struggle of having a man, failing to understand that keeping him is the most important thing

eddiebruk:


You should know the real reason behind so many unmarried Aunty, i was only telling you some of the real life reason why so many Aunties are still searching even at 42, so abeg carry your wahala go Yaba left

uj_sizzle:
And some men just can't keep their eyes at home.

bukatyne:

You can open a thread to discuss why women are unmarried at 42 if it so affects you.

Don't mix issues on this beautiful thread.

Idowuogbo:
Lolzzz.... Abi o!

prince_onx:
In MJ's voice, you must to be starting something!!