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ayobase: Believe me, I know of these happenings.

But you ladies still fail to realise that you are always in the best position to tame a man.

It takes a responsible, respectful, calm, compromising, diligent and not-nagging woman to tame a man, and with prayers of course!

U married this man cos you love him and vice versa. Things wouldn't just have changed overnight if there were not some issues.

Let me tell you a known secret. Never nag a man. When the talk wanna result into nagging or argument, just pulled out to prove maturity.

A man will surely consider his ways if he respects his wife still. The wife must make sure her man respects her, and you all know how respect is earned.

NOTE: I am not talking about a bewitched man. Above all, do put him in prayers!

The prayer of a wife is always respected by God.

Who prays about the wife

ayobase: There is something I cherish about this thread, the fact that he is not replying.

Seeing childishness and immaturity written all over the place....its obvious some of you can't handle marriage....no wonder we can never make a better Nigeria when youths of now can't even pass maritally!

How will some of us manage our official duties, when we can't manage and compromise somethings to make our marriage work out.

U married a man and u later bailed out cos he was always beating you. Didn't u guys COURT for sometimes before WEDDING to knowing each other better.....Ur gez is good as mine, you were blind, but now you can't see!

And this is very common with the ladies. No more respect for men again! "I can't take these bullshits from him"....why did he start bullshitting you in the very place? Go read the primary post of this thread again.


My mother and grandmother are not like the ladies and women I'm seeing these days. Some of them are just UPSIDE DOWN!

I hope when ur wife beats you,you'd understand and just over-look with patience until the day she goes on her knees begging for your forgiveness....That your mother and grandmother licked their hubby's assss and still got beaten up but took it with pride doesn't mean everyone can tolerate that so ma dear,don't begrudge the ladies who refuse to take theur man's bullshit cos their man also won't take it from them.

alanmwene: Cut your b#llshit!There are more whites and mixed-races ministers in 2 Africa countries(south Africa,angola) than black ministers in all European countries put together!Who is insulting and harassing them?Whites will never accept that blacks control 80% of the economy of any of their countries as they do in south Africa.I have been to the south of Italy more than once and Italians are extremely racists.I have no problems with that coz they are defending their interests.It is up to Africans to do the same!The problem with we Africans is that we accommodate other races more than ourselves!Whites,indians,lebaneses,etc.....are let free to do whatever they want in Africa ,and until we change that,blacks will never be respected.Whites,asians,chinese,etc.. are ashamed to mix with blacks,but blacks are so prouds to have mixed-races kids!How can other races respect us when they know that we are needy and desperate?

well,I don't know what ur experience is but if u've been to any of these countries I mentioned then u'd not be talking of this country like this.I know there's racism but not like in most european countries;atleast the ones I've been to.then,about the angolan white public office holders,go ask them and they'll hve stories to tell u.I agree about blacks being too linient with whites,actually,the ass-licking pisses me off big tym.But with blacks wanting mixed race kids,i think its same with whites too especially the women.so they find willing ready patners in black men.And black men like to put down black women a lot in favor of white women,so tell me who should we blameIsn't it the specie of ur kind??

Pennywise: That they have a black African minister doesnt surprise me. Italy has for years been a warm, liberal and open country welcoming of all races. It is looking more like a small America in Europe. Little wonder our own Wole Soyinka singled it out as a country most preferred by him outside Nigeria to live in.

The UK for its pretensions at liberalism doesnt even come close. It is still very much a racist society right from their royal family down the ladder. The most aspiring black candidate for a similar honor in the UK still have to wait another 25yrs at the very least.

the people who are saying italy is a racist country have prolly never been there so they know nothing about the country.When you have been to worse countries like czech,poland,spain(even) etc,u'll know that racism in italy is very very minimal.Italians who could give out their car to these shoroty african immigrants in the good-old-days.Africans are spoiling things for themselves also.Even in adrica,a white minister would experience some racism.

Wow...@the expecting mom,Please no need to be scared.Try and tell urself frequently that u can do this and believe it.
I have had 3kids in 3countries.1st baby was in Poland.Best experience so far cos I had epidural so no pain.Downside was while delivery was over and baby was sucklin,hubby sitted and admiring(still in d labor room),I started losin conciousness due to xcess loss of blood.The speed @which they removed the babies mouth and wheeled me into a labor emergency room is close to non and if it was in nigeria,I'd be sure dead by now.When I came to,I was so darn tasty and was askin for water.They dipped cotton wool in some substance and kept pressing it in bits into ma mouth.The service was 10daful.In the delivery room,I had a midwife,a pediatrician,the anaesthestiologist,and an oby/gyn.It was a private room and I only paid for epidural(my hubby's insurance covers me).The espisiotmy was painful 1st day but they kept giving me repositories and we went home after 5days(its meant to be 3days but sat and sun dn't count for them).I was assigned a nurse who came to monitor I and baby every 2days for 2weeks.The hospital nurses were super nice,not to mention all the baby gifts from the hospital.They wan kill me with zupa tho...lol
2nd Baby,Italy.Best experience cos no episitomy and labor and delivery took 2hrs.had perdiatrician,nurse and OBY/GYN.I forgot I put to bed,3hrs later.They kept giving me repositories also cos they kept giving me medications to contract the uterus.Nurses and everyone very nice,I have to mention the food,damn we ate breakfast @7:30,served tea and biscotti @11;30,lunch@ 1pm,another round of coffee/tea@ 4pm and coffee/tea with biscuits @6pm,Dinner @8pm and tea again @10pm(these meals are complete with appertizer,main meal and desert) so hubby dint have to cook and bring unlike in Poland where it was Zupa,Zupa,Zupa but with all these,not a single nasty behaviour or frowned faces from the nurses.I still paid nada cos of hubby's insurance but b4 they realised I was covered,they brought a bill of 299euros and I think that was very cheap.Got fewer goodies this time and stayed 5days cos of sat and sunday.
3rd baby in Ghana.Wanted to deliver in US(I liked the idea of 3kids from 3countries@dis point and US seemed a great idea but we weren't living there...lol) cos I was also very scared of doing it in Africa after hearing so many stories and knowing some who died but mehn,school and being the only one caring for the kids at the time forced me to remain in GH.I went to 3hospitals b4 I decided to settle with the one I was mo comfortable with.He is german trained,worked there so long,should be in his 70's,was very pleasant and I saw him instilling the "be nice to ur patient attitude" into his nurses.I know,I'd slap any ill-behaving nurse(no jokes o) and I know hubby would display his "waffi" tendencies to any nurse who didn't respect herself,I decided 2go with this one to avoid "nigerians love making troubles".Service was wonderful throughout pregnancy but I only did 1test which was wierd to me.I was induced cos as usual my babies come down and I feel no serious labor pain,I start dialating from 22weeks and babies come bw 35/37weeks with medications to keep them there and develope vital organs faster.I was the only patient in the hospital,I had 1nurse with me,doctor would come in once in a while.By the time it started,I got to the labor room,started pushing and after 45mins,doctor gave me the WORST EPISIOTOMY EVER! and baby popped out.that was the only downside cos that cut would hurt me for weeks,it was more than 7stitches and the cutting and sowing got me screaming.I couldn't sit for 2weeks,he gave me repositories tho but they worked for only 2hrs and I could only have 4/per day.And he sent us home 18hrs later I don't think its good but I wasn't comfy @d hospital,I love ma house!.So I think I have had beautiful experiences.A few downsides but one thing I ALWAYS DO WHILE PREGNANT B4 AND AFTER DELIVERY IS CONFESSION.there were so many prophesy's abt death but I always told them thats not what I was promised and I dn't believe any other report but the one that promises me "A GOOD AND EXPECTED END".i have been scared at times but I say "He has not given me the spirit of fear but of a BOLD and A SOUND MIND".Say it and believe it and have faith,you would SURELY come out on top.

mayten30: ashawo!!!come ooo what is the meaning of huge cocks that you mentioned that you wanted to see, is it the name of a living thing or the name of a non-living thing

let her be joor,Hypocrite like you.Why dint u call those guys who were screwing and unscrewing vaseline,seeing booby and talking of attentions ashawo.I'm sure u are one urself.

Uyi Iredia: Girl, you're strange.

Why!Cause she wants to see the cocks?How many guys up there who are brandishing vaselines did you tell that they are strange??Men and always wanting to tell us how to be,who to be,what to say,what to like etc.....SMDH

byvan: Someone just said that his mother + sisters,equals to a bunch of chickens,can I have for pepper soup??

Roflmao......Mehn,u just sooo on point.Buzz me when the pepper soup is ready....lmao

obitobe: when the eagle take the lamb and the mother turns back and says nothing the eagele should better return the lamp because what the sheep do in revenge will be deadly but if the eagle should take the baby of a chicken and the chicken start shouting and making noise,the eagle should continue because the chicken has done her worse.


this part of the chicken refers to FX and Survey, the chicken baby is Aigbe and the Eagle WUMI ALLEN

that part about the chickens of this thread couldn't be farther from the truth.
Meanwhie,Whats with all these do's and don'ts,Is this Nairaland Primary and Secondary school.Maybe I missed the correct site....

CAMEROONPRIDE: You will spend all your life raising your husband's bastards.
Enjoy your AIDS

Talk to the hand.......
Its Sunday,I can't be doing e-xchange of words.

CAMEROONPRIDE: AIDS awaits you

I'd rather have AIDs and GO to HEAVEN than you who would have AIDS and GO to HELL

CAMEROONPRIDE: ^^^ blah blah blah

My wife won't refuse sex in the first place ...

Yes of course or u'll threaten her with divorce or with cheating on her or even beat her up then rape her.

LADIES BEWARE OF THIS TYPE,Na them they kill their wife and cut into pieces o and then claim insanity.

biolabee: Agree you dont mess with the conjugal duties in marriage but in pregnancy things get different
It does not justify you using it as an excuse to have an affair.

don't mind the lil boy,anything to have an affair,"my wife doesn't finish cooking on time(thats when she gets home from work).Cheat on her!My wife is working.Cheat on her!The kids are not so pretty.Cheat on her! Etc etc....he will find any reason to cheat on his wife.HELL AWAITS HIM!!

CAMEROONPRIDE: Wish u the same x1000 may your husband cheat on you and give you Aids when you refuse him sex. Go read some psychology or ask marriage counselors.they will tell u in marriage you don't mess with sex.period

Sorry,I married a REAL GROWN-UP MAN,who knows and understands what marriage entails.So even if I refuse him intimacy cos of pregnancy,it won't be a big deal.Now go get ready for ur Hiv/aids infection cos ur randy priccck must surely get some as you are using Psychologists as a means to justify ur randiness.While you are at it,Ask an Oby/Gyn if ur wife might get low sex drive while she's pregnant or a lil while after pregnancy.

sultanemerald: That's not a response. Its in her own words. She said all these. Someone who claims her. Husband loves her. How come she brought in career and all. And let me say, if a pregnancy brings sadness to a married woman, something is wrong somewhere. Children at least in our culture are the joys of womanhood.

And who said the pregnancy made her sad??oohooo.NLs learn to read and comprehend before replying.

everyday: Girl,You have nothing to worry about.The worst thing for you to do is to divorce your husband and leave scars in the lives of your children.I will advice you to keep your home in one piece

That is not the wordy she can do, that's actually the best.You want her to remain and risk leaving her child(ren) as orphans when the man contacts HIV/AIDS?And let the children feel that it is ok for you to treat ur spouse like fool and it is ok to be treated like a fool.Incase you don 't know, this is the reason why most men and women are the way they are In marriage and the men love it cos it favors their useless life-style.If it was she cheating on her husband would u be saying the same thing to her hubby?How do you know that kids from divorced homes have scars, are you from one??

CAMEROONPRIDE: Marriage is not for everyone.

Opening your legs is a duty, esp when your marriage is endangered, your lots can open their legs for BlackBerry or promotions but want to tell us that they can open their legs for their husband? So the dude was supposed to starve during 9months because madam is not in the mood to b intimaten.
Anywayc at least he didn't "rape" her.

Again marriage is not for everyone you can deny me something and except that I won't look for another way to have it.

May Thunder strike you there.You think marrying a wife automatically means you have a intimacy gadget right....Marriage is not for everyone and especially you.With this ur thought process I 'm sure you never think of satisfying hour woman.May ur wife cheat on you a million times since you support this randy goat cheating on his wife because she is carrying their baby and the effect it has on her is loss of sec drive.Girls please you had better start looking well before you leap when it comes to marriage.This one here now will also get married to an unfortunate lady.....ooooh

I almost opened another account to post on how my wife is cheating on me because I live abroad and she in Nigeria or because I 'm stressed at work so I couldn't bring the action she wanted in the bedroom or because I 'm at that point where I can 't seem to bring it up for no just cause and she just up and cheated on me or even I have health issues so I 'm on mess and advised against sexual intercourse for 10months just to see what all these men who are blaming this lady will have to say to the man.I decided not to cos I know the answer.They'd tell him to get a divorce ASAP, they 'll rain abuses on his wife and include all Nigerian women as as they rain the insults.Then, not leaving out the holy nweje female folks who will start a charade of insults on the wife for not caring for her husband in trying times.But here are people telling this lady whose husband is now an non-remorseful serial cheat to pray, dress sexy,respect him, pamper him, be grateful he chose her to Marry among other females etc etc etc.
All I know is that someday, women will wake up and demand from men to either stick to godly marriage(undefiled bed) or they'd engage in that sex game also.

NOW TO ALL MEN WHO ARE READING THIS THREAD OR WHO WILL, I WILL LIKE YO LET YOU ALL KNOW THIS :WHEN YOUR WIFE IS PREGNANT WITH YOUR BABY, THERE IS EVERY POSSIBILITY THAT SHE 'LL LOSE HER SEX DRIVE, EVERY WOMAN IS NOT THE SAME.THAT YOUR FRIEND/BROTHER GETS SOME ACTION WITH HIS PREGGY WIFE DOESN 'T MEAN IT 'LL BE SAME FOR YOU.SOMEONE LIKE ME WAS CLIMBING STAIRS IN 2'S AND 3'S EVEN AT 9MONTHS AND I 'M AGILE AND FIT TILL I PUT TO BED( BUT WHEN I SEE OTHER PREGNANT WOMEN WHO HAVE IT WORSE, I UNDERSTAND AND HELP THEM EVEN WITH MY OWN POTRUDING BELLY.SO IF YOUR WIFE HAS IT WORSE, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS UNDERSTAND AND TRY TO BE THERE FOR HER AND THERE ARE OTHER THINGS YOU CAN SUBTLY ASK HER TO DO TO SATISFY YOU, THAT IS WHAT A REAL MAN SHOULD DO, NOT RUN OFF TO FIND ANOTHER PUUUSCHY.YOU GUYS ARE MEANT TO READ UP ON PREGNANCY ONCE YOU ARE EXPECTING.NOW,I said all these so that no man who passed this thread will say honestly he didn't know his wife could lose her sex drive while preggy or a lil after the the bundle of joy has been realised into his excited arms.If he does,he'll be adding lying to his list.

I rest my case.

50calibre: Men don't usually feel the need to get married, women do. A man can have as many girlfriends as possible, if women do they are classified as a who*re. It's beneficial to a man's pocket if he doesn't get married, a man can have kids without a wife and still be looked as as responsible.

You see the difference?

Sorry to disagree, men who have kids without a wife are not looked at as responsible.Maybe mort men like them do but others don't.Ask Tuface.

And someone uses this as an xcuse for men to cheat on their wife.....nothing wen I noo hear for this Africa.Also an xcuse to break their vows to God.Ok oo....

Idowuogbo: Send thugs to d father of her pikin/s? Guy, which level u dey? If dem disable d man nko?

They will do it with care Na, that's why they 'd be settled......lol

Idowuogbo: Lmao! Ara gba ndi aras... No offence, but dat ur friend stu-pid mehn... U don't need to date d husy to spite d wife. The babe for jus shakara d woman mehn.. How she go spread leg for papoose she no like? Dat na fi obo jona levels jare! Dem kon beat on top? Kai! O shi ori Gbe o! Lwkmd!!!

You're right.The girl been dey eye the man before no be say Na spite and the man 's wife noticed it.The girl and the man lucky well well.The woman for send thugs to the man too cos he id the one who decided to cheat on her after wiretap don complain.

Nigerians are so heartless,this is someone's only son,only brother and people are here saying trash.His father and sisters just found out today and from what my mom said,his step-mom doesn't even know yet.I was the one who broke the news to his younger sister after seeing his friend post a RIP on FB.If you guys know what his father would be going through right now,just try and put your parents in that man's shoe and have some compassion.I lost my sister 7months ago and I can imagine what his 2sisters will be going through now.Its hard time for us but comments like the ones on Nairaland make it harder.I pray none of his sisters get to read this thread.RIP big Bro,I still can't believe it.

Mathew joseph: ok ghana is a coun3 in west africa,you can identify them with their colour,they are black like char coal,their women are ugly too even their men dnt knw hw to dress,u c dem wearing packet shirt nd plain trouser with canvass or trainers 2 go with,and when they want 2 eat they use boiled eggs instead of meat or fish in their soup,and also ghanaians do all forms of jobs like,shoe shiners,tailors that carries their sewing merchines on their heads,puff puff and burns sellers,stewards in hotels etc,ghana galz are also cheap 2 get,coz their cedis is worthless 2 our naira,if u go 2 ghana wit #50k u will be worshiped like their king,ashante nene of kumasi,my guy i hope u kan nw recognise a ghanaian if u c one!

Shame on you!!!!!!!!If a Nigerian was described as every criminal,cocain pusher and wanna - be that one comes across how would that make you feel.This is the reason,Nigerians are hated.

Apologies to all Ghanaians that this has offened on behalf of this Ignorant Nigerian.Most Nigerians hate themselves so its only Natural that they'll hate others.

livialives: Don't forget every woman is different. You are probably blessed with an active metabolism .
E.g Jessica Simpson vs Heidi Klum..
Both celebs but admittedly Heidi sheds more weight after birth(4 kids) compared to Jessica two months post partum (1kid). ( these are celebrities with real money to hire the best trainers and dieticians) not Naija celebs whose dont make as much

There are no excuses but I feel certain things should be taken into consideration such as body type, weaning process,etc. I feel 9 months after birth is a fair time to start making judgement calls on a new mother.

maybe,if you check well,Heidi is more disciplined than Jessica....just saying.Good piont tho....

cap28: yeah, just kidnappers and armed robbers.

Thank you very much.I wonder which is worse, bills and peace of mind or societal vices coupled with fear and no bills.

naijababe: Done.

Send to me also, Pleeease! Chickdnoble@gmail.com

micki83: U just sounded as if u hav small breasts,lol.(Do u,tho?)

Moderate.Just the right size for my body size.I just voiced my concern cos of that pic.I can imagine the discomfort she'll be going through.