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fluffybaby: I think its stress caused by societal responsibility and expectations of the woman. Women through the ages have been expected to play their roles without complain or break. Many are in bad relationships or marriages the whole turnout of their environment be it home, career, church etc is kind of blamed on them. Even the women lib ones know in their hearts they are not free. If a man has bitching wife, he steps out and has a fling, if he gets tired of staying at home he can leave wife and kids and go on "weekend meetings" if he needs a break from kids or parenting or home keeping he gets it. If he doesn't have kids or can't have, his woman(Nigerian),is blamed hardly him. If he doesn't marry by 35 he is not called old cargo and mocked by people,if he is fat or heavy no big deal. He makes the rules around him in his personal life and they get followed by wife and kids or girlfriends and at an age, even parents. The same cannot be said of women. So stress builds up, a stressed person can be jealous, bitter, and bitchy. Nigerian women are stressed.

Decryptor: Shattaapppp! Who do the men cheat with? Their fellow men or dogs?

dzak: nonesense getout

chic2pimp: Hypocritical Much eh?

alj harem: May I ask what you do for your husband ? The maximum thing you can do for him and is not really for him for you 2 is have a baby for him aka a family, cook for him while cooking for yourself, clean the house for him because you also don't want to live in a dirty house then give him good se.x during your section with him which you also enjoy.

So what exactly do you do for him that is extraordinary ?

But look at what you agreed with the OP in

1. open doors for her

2. cook for her

3. compliment her

4. touch her without expecting more etc

Who has time for that ? on top woman. Your husband might seem loving to you but really to people like me, he is just serving you as in a master slave relationship. Not that my opinion matters

alj harem: May I ask what you do for your husband ? The maximum thing you can do for him and is not really for him for you 2 is have a baby for him aka a family, cook for him while cooking for yourself, clean the house for him because you also don't want to live in a dirty house then give him good se.x during your section with him which you also enjoy.

So what exactly do you do for him that is extraordinary ?

But look at what you agreed with the OP in

1. open doors for her

2. cook for her

3. compliment her

4. touch her without expecting more etc

Who has time for that ? on top woman. Your husband might seem loving to you but really to people like me, he is just serving you as in a master slave relationship. Not that my opinion matters

NEROSKY: story!

acidtalk: I do everything especially number 5.
But human being will always take advantage of those who are too nice and crave for the mean and wicked.

phreakabit: [size=18pt]
How to make Egusi Soup[/size]

Ingredients

Egusi (Melon) seeds - 3 cigar cups | 600g
Red Palm Oil – 2 cooking spoons
Beef – Best cut and Shaki (cow tripe)
Fish – Dry Fish and Stock Fish
Crayfish
Pepper and Salt to taste
Vegetable – Pumpkin leaves or Bitter leaf
Seasoning – 3 Maggi or Knorr cubes
Traditional Seasoning – 1 Okpei (optional)
Tools I used

Cooker: Buy it in USA | in UK
Deep Pot: Buy it in USA | in UK
Spice grinder for grinding egusi (melon) seeds: Buy it in USA | in UK
Spatula: Buy it in USA | in UK
Chopping board: Buy it in USA | in UK
Knives: Buy it in USA | in UK
Before you cook Egusi Soup

Before preparing the soup, soak the dry fish for about half an hour. Boil the stockfish for 20 minutes and leave in the pot with the hot water to soak for about an hour.
Much closer to your cooking time, grind the Egusi with a dry mill. Grind the crayfish and the dry pepper separately and set aside. Wash the vegetable to be used. Cut into tiny pieces.
Boil the shaki, stock fish and dry fish in 1 litre of water till they are well done. First sign of a done shaki is that the cuts will start curling on itself.
Wash the beef to be used for the soup and place in a pot and start steaming at medium heat. There is no need to add water at this stage. When the meat is done, add 3 cubes of Maggi/Knorr. This method makes the meat cook faster while retaining all the taste. Also meat contains lots of water and you will notice that the water content increases as the meat starts to boil.
Cooking Directions

There are two main methods of cooking egusi soup. These we will call oil before egusi and egusi before oil. Confusing? Not.
Oil Before Egusi

Put 2 cooking spoons of red palm oil into a dry pot and set on the stove to heat. As soon as the oil is clearer, add the ground egusi and start frying. This should be done at low heat to avoid burning. Keep frying till you see the egusi getting drier. One sign of this is that it will start sticking to the bottom of the pot.
Now, start adding the shaki/fish stock little by little while still turning the egusi. When the stock is exhausted and you feel that the soup is still too thick, you can add more water. If your choice of vegetable is bitterleaf, it should be added now as well.
Cover the pot and cook for 30 to 45 minutes. The egusi is done when you notice that the oil has risen to the surface of the mix and separated from the mix. If this is the case, add the fish, shaki and meat. Also add pepper and salt to taste. If pumpkin leaves (or any other soft vegetable) is your choice, please add it now.
Cover the pot and leave everything to steam together for 5 minutes.
The egusi soup is ready to be served with amala, Eba (garri), pounded yam or cassava fufu.
Egusi Before Oil

This method produces a healthier egusi soup. This is because there is no frying involved.
In this method, as soon as the shaki, fish and meat are done, remove them from the stock and place in a different pot or plate.
Add the ground egusi to the stock and cook for 40 minutes. You will notice the clear egusi oil coming to the surface of the soup.
Add 2 cooking spoons of red palm oil, the meat, fish, bitter leaves (if it is your choice of vegetable) pepper and salt to taste and cook for another 10 minutes. Now, add the pumpkin leaves if is your choice of vegetables, stir the soup and turn off the heat.
The egusi soup is ready to be served with amala, Eba (garri), pounded yam or cassava fufu.

Enjoy. . . .

babaowo: yeah she is..... not like our black bitches.

NNBB2012: Have you thought of travelling abroad on skilled migration scheme such as Australia and Canada? You have good experience, qualification and age is still on your side, so you could give it a trial.

If you are interested, you could read more about the immigration scheme on the website-www.immi.gov.au. You don't need any intermediary for the process except if you wish. It takes time but at least you will eventually get it. You just need to follow the due process. You need to score good band in IELTS, prepare your documents for assessment and your credentials. As a permanent residence, you are entitled to live, work and school. Your kids can access free education up to Secondary school in Public schools, Medicare and your citizenship after 4yrs etc. As a citizen, you and your family members could access education in University to any level on scholarship.


God will settle you.

PStylish: @1st bolded

That's why men need to carry out these DNA tests as quick as possible to forestall the break-in-tears scenario.

We really have to adopt it into our married and reproductive lives as a matter of urgency.

Men must make it a point of duty to carry out due diligence (DNA test) on every child born to them whether at home or outside without delay.

@2nd bolded

That is beyond the scope of this topic. There will always be sterile men and women. Sterile men as you mentioned in the bolded above are well in the know as regards true paternity of the children they are siring. Hence, those children can no longer be referred to as bastards since there is a gentleman's agreement between the husband and wife that he acts as their foster father.That's ok.

@3rs bolded

Ahn ahn.Madam Efemena! Must every man's concubine be another man's wife? In fact, more often than not,the woman bearing the 'outside' children is 'single' and usually faithful to her lover.

Even then, I've said all men should carry out due diligence (DNA test) as regards the true paternity of their children. So, if any man foolishly leans back and shirks from this responsibility thereby siring another man's children, then that's his business.

Like I said, if all men carried out DNA tests on their supposed children (home or outside), all cheating women will have no hiding place.

My point remains that women need to shape up and stop trying to compete with men. Commit your cheating husband to God.That's the best you can do.

Men can cheat and go scot free.

Women can cheat but may have to face the dire consequences via DNA revelation

RocksQueen: I have waited long for a baby so I don't know if this will ever apply to me

REPOST

Being a parent changes everything. But being a parent also changes with each baby. Here are some of the ways having a second and third child is different from having your first.
Your Clothes
1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB/GYN confirms your pregnancy.
2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible.
3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes.
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Preparing for the Birth
1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously.
2nd baby: You don't bother practicing because you remember that last time, breathing didn't do a thing.
3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your 8th month.
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The Layette
1st baby: You pre-wash your newborn's clothes, color-coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby's little bureau.
2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains.
3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can't they?
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Worries
1st baby: At the first sign of distress - a whimper, a frown-you pick up the baby.
2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn.
3rd baby: You teach your 3-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing.
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Pacifier
1st baby: If the pacifier falls on the floor, you put it away until you can go home and wash and boil it.
2nd baby: When the pacifier falls on the floor, you squirt it off with some juice from the baby's bottle.
3rd baby: You wipe it off on your shirt and pop it back in.
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Diapering
1st baby: You change your baby's diapers every hour, whether they need it or not.
2nd baby: You change their diaper every 2 to 3 hours, if needed.
3rd baby: You try to change their diaper before others start to complain about the smell or you see it sagging to their knees.
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Activities
1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, BabySwing, and Baby Story Hour.
2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics.
3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner.
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Going Out
1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home 5 times.
2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached.
3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood.
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At Home
1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby.
2nd baby: You spend a bit of everyday watching to be sure your older child isn't squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby.
3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children.
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Swallowing Coins
1st child: when first child swallows a coin, you rush the child to the hospital and demand x-rays.
2nd child: when 2nd child swallows a coin, you carefully watch for coin to pass.
3rd child: when 3rd child swallows a coin you deduct it from his allowance!

Black Kenichi: Jealous of what? White man's small d*ck and recessive genes! Not likely. You need to learn history a lot more. I'll start you off. Transatlantic slavery and rape.
Typical Ghettogagger!

Black Kenichi: Ghettogaggers is an abusive porn website where white men degrade black women in the most disgusting ways. Have black women spoken against this website? No, not really.


Then African men should be prepared for the nastiness that comes from women that believe in feminism. I warn you no good has come from feminism.


The same can be said about how black women treat black men!


Yet none of you black women have stated how white men treat black women better apart from worshipping them. White men routinely pick black women last for romantic relationships. Yet black women delude themselves constantly about how great the white man, his pink d*ck and his recessive gene pool are.


Nope. The shame is the fact that most white men don't give 2 s***s about black women. Yet black women continue to delude themselves about white men. White men are falling (economically) and they are going to hit the ground hard. Without money propping the propaganda of the superior white man; what does the white man have? Nothing, that's what. You want to know why? Because in the end Men are Men regardless. Why can't women of whatever race and ethnicity figure that out.

lefulefu: yes na because of ur sister marry oyibo man na europe u don land so.smart guy