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@Poster: Wow, you and wifey are among the strongest and bravest in the world.My only pain is the fact that a situation like this could have ended well if it was abroad on a 90% chance.I'm a living testimony cos I would av been dead if I had my 1st child in Nigeria.
I was just shedding tears reading ur story cos I was relieving mine but it is well.You both conquered, a lot of couples couldn't .Your baby is coming!

[quote author=Paddy-Pat]Though it is totally wrong for a mother to abandon her child considering the pains she went through the nine months she carried him/her but that is the moral point of view. There are times one would do things we all consider morally wrong but what happens when that one has no option but do that is wrong?

Men! May God help them. I am a man and I have no apology for saying men are animals. You know this woman is not your standard, she is not worthy to be your wife, why go after her in the first place? No woman is insane, they all cheerish children including the insane ones. Or haven't you seen a mad woman with a child, protecting that child with all she could so that nobody will take that child from her? So this is not about a woman being insaned as assumed by hot-angel. Men are the problem of this world, that woman could have been abandon at the last minute by a man she trusted with her. Or if it is not even so, she might not be able to have an abortion cause in most country it is illegal to have abortion, ot the doctoe might even advised her against it for health reasons, "you might die woman" some will be told. And more worrisome, some men will give it as a condition before she could be employed for a job that no nursing in our establishment and she must work to survive. So tell me what she could do in the face of such situations? Abandoning the child might not be the best option for her but it is one of them.[/color][/quote


God bless your soul.I 'm glad some men are still honest.

Mr man, go and work on your marriage.Ur wife cant leave you because u suggested she should buy 500naira meat instead of the usual 2k.Tender ur own f-up here make we address am...Shikena!!!!!!!!

silibaba: i will continue to forgive her as long as i go dey run my own package too

I think all men who know they can't zip up should let their future spouses know its gonna be an open relationship,so they are better prepared.

ebonyvibe: @ aloy /emaka: mechanically a man can have se, x with anything a man if seduced enough will cheat and that is all men even the best saint.

That is why one night stands dont count but by the time your man start developing feelings for the woman and wants more then you are in trouble and the relationship is definately heading for the rocks.

If you cant deal with this dont head into marriage o see it for what it is.

But most men will not forgive their wives if it were the other way round hey it is a man's world and I hate it

This is the reason why women remain in abusive and health-risky relationships,because its a man's world.I think women are their own problem since a woman like you will justify one-night stand for a guy and adddmit for d woman,it won't be forgiven because its a man's world.Smh

Pls people, I believe she meant before the labour started, or water broke or blood started coming out(whichever came first)and not after the birthing proccess cos no woman will be able to stand being rammed into the day she gave birth.

I think the part about 7/8 times per day is xzaggeration too.Well, OP, goodluck next time u get Married

bookface: No man who's indeed cheating on his wife would wait 30 minutes before opening the door if his wife shows up. what would he be doing in 30 minutes? wearing his trousers? going for a round two? waiting for the girl to dress up and make up?

If you showed up to my office unannounced and i happen to be busy at that hour, then you must be prepared to wait. would you have assumed you husband was gay if you met a guy in the office in the place of a lady?

i suppose you are probably just hyperventilating unnecessarily and this is further worsened by many nairalanders some of whom already foolishly advised you leave your marriage. . .over what? cos your Husband locked his office door? or cos he locked his door with a lady inside?

Should it even take much common sense to reason that anyone who plans to cheat on you will probably not touch you with his "stick" especially while you are pregnant? why can't people just completely trust their partners, even if dumbly?

I pray ur wife does same thing Op husband has done and I hope you trust her that nothing was happening,it was just a meeting.Any man would be doing his wife and his cocubines so don't even go there.

eggy: doubt if cheating has anyfin to do with the rate @which you oblige his sexual needs... as a married man my self I find it quite boring for my wife to wanna make love simply cus i want to on the other hand it a lot more sexy and exhilarating wen she wants me cus shes Hot and all
Before i digress, a man will stray cus he strays not necessary bcus he was denied sex by his spouse.
have considered how much passion you guys share(note sexual intercourse aint passion oh).
I will suggest you consider the encounter a blip and move on to making your home a haven of passion..
wish you all the best.

This is how we know them.If you caught ur wife in Op's situation,will u jus call it a blip and move on??MOTHERFUCKING HYPOCRITE.People like you disgust me.

My apologies for the insult,but would you give this kind of advice if it were a guy?People should learn to be sincere.

OP,I say bring down the roof if it will make u better.That way,ur hubby will realise u are hurt and ask him,if he would be finding it funny if he caught you in same scenario. If you take it lying low,then he'll think u don't mind so he'll continue in his sin more comfortably.Next tym might be ur matrimonial bed..

Its jealousy that makes a black guy unhappy with seeing a black girl with a white guy.I hate when black guys open their gutter mouth to call black girls with white guys names.Those guys would run after white girls who would be slapping them and they won't do jack.Meanwhile,white guys treat blacks girls better than black guys treat black girls(more than 60% of the time)
I have always held the belief that Black guys should marry White girls and White guys marry Black girls cos white men and black women are the most badly treated by their spouses of like colour(not in all cases,I must state) so they make a more perfect couple.So guys stop hating on black gurls and white dudes whether they are in it for the money,the shagging,the love,the papers,the kids or the status,its not your business!!!!

Men should grow up,there is nothing like an african marriage and responsibilities.The BIBLE also talked about loving your wife and if you love her,your thought should be with calming her anger not with her dishing ur food.Meanwhile,why can't most nigerian be domestic?My hubby dishes his food when he wants to eat and doesn't want to disturb me.I can even ask him to help me boil rice or cook something when I have to rush to somewhere or He gets home before I do and I might take some time to get back and he doesn't complain,he sees it as division of labour since we are both adults and he didn't employ a househelp instead he married a helpmate,a partner.He would even shower one kid while I dress the other.Someone would say its because he's been living abroad for a while but truth is African men need to change their mentality of thinking their wife is their housegirl and assume some responsibility in their home,its also his home.I cant punish my hubby by not dishing food for him cos I know he'll do it himself.Anyway,to his their own.

She should have upgraded you cos I think you need ur dreads upgraded.It looks very rough and unkept.Apart from that,as a dread carrier maself,I think a girl should be able to take home a neat looking,responsible guy with dreads.

[quote author=tpia@]bobby brown has about four or five other kids.[/quote]you see,Whitney darling was just making sure hers doesn't suffer when daddy has shared his money into 4 or 5.And some people want Whitney to include him in the will so he can use her money to be carrying girls,doing drugs and taking care of his baby-momma's. Hell to the NO!!!

Maybe this is another case of Delta state government taking people's land and making it government land.It might even be the New Era school that the little girl who was staying with me was attending.It looks like someone's land and house.In Asaba,a commissioner can decide he wants a paticular land,they'll come up with one story or the other and then at the end of the day,they allocate it to themself.And same goes with most of the govt officials.I won't be surprised that property belongs to the man.Nigeria & its mad people in power.

Maybe this is another case of Delta state government taking people's land and making it government land.It might even be the New Era school that the little girl who was staying with me was attending.It looks like someone's land and house.In Asaba,a commissioner can decide he wants a paticular land,they'll come up with one story or the other and then at the end of the day,they allocate it to themself.And same goes with most of the govt officials.I won't be surprised that property belongs to the man.Nigeria & its mad people in power.

@Sam Milla.

Bobby Brown would definately not leave his estate to Whit if he died first cos they are divorced and mind you,the woman saw something coming that was why she didn't include him in her will.As for BK,You don't know what she's been through with her dad.I always said I'll include my maiden name - my husbands surname when I get married,unfortunately,I don't think the man who is called my father deserves it,so I threw it away.

Lol....Y'all,a female who knows her right,knows her right.Wether she's a lawyer,dentist,housewife,accountant,secretary,undergraduate,whatever.So you can only pray to marry a wife or be a female who doesn't know her right.

Are you kidding?Patriotic?Tried already even against all odds,left europe with the family to go touch lives in 'our beloved' country only to be robbed twice in 9months,threatened with kidnapping which was the last straw.We went to the police to seek help,an outrageous bill was thrown at us to station 2mopol to us.We had to hurriedly leave the country cos those ones are also thieves,as we backed out from the deal,they might send their people to us just to make sure we come back to them.Imagine being in your country and you can't sleep.In one of those incidents,I was almost raped in front of our 2kids.Thank God for the car that seemed to be approaching our gate and the rogues fled thinking,it was the patrol van.You are forced to act normal in the face operation mettted out to people they have nobody.You talk and everyone lashes out at you,the people act like abnormal beings.Pls when you guys have made the change then we'd think of patriotism.Goodluck with that tho.

What are y'all saying?A husband that left his blood-sapped wife and child to go and throw a party instead of being at their bed-side doing whatever possible to make sure they return to normal health?And y'all are still blaming his inlaws for taking their daughter home.If the girl and child die now,y'all will come on NL and start raining ur fake curses on the man.Haba,Nigerians,think with your head plsssss.

@Ranoscky,pls do this world a favour REMAIN SINGLE UNTIL U'RE MATURED ENOUGH TO BE A HUSBAND.I'm sure you would even slap her and beat the living daylight out of her life cos she expressed her human right which is being offended that her husband,the bone of her bone,flesh of her flesh forgot something so important to her.And then another guy or her ex that doesnt sleep in d same house or bed with her everyday calls her specially on that day just to say happy birthday and wish her well,you'd begin to complain.Men!Pls you guys should just do the right thing and put your swollen egos in ur pocket when it comes to things like this.

@Bukizo,some men are just like dat,what can we do.POOR WOMEN!!, lol

Try being married 7yrs and hubby forgetting ur birthday 4 out of 7,lets see if he remembers this 8th year.It usually feels really bad,kinda leaves a bad taste in one's mouth but I usually get over it albeit after 2weeks and life goes on but I always bring it up.I'm the 'Don't tell me Merry Christmas,Happy New year and the rest but don't forget to tell me HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!'type.@ OP Don't worry,Wifey will come around.
For the record I don't forget anyone's special days unless you aint very close to me.

To all u guys saying he should go get his child,are u listening to urself?Who said its only his child,the wife also has a right to child too.Who breastfeeds the child when he gets the child,the guy?Even if he goes to court,based on the baby's age,custody will be awarded to the wife.
@OP,pls tell us the truth about this whole story,something is amiss

Listen to mpmp,he just gave u d best answer n advice.We the new generation youths are trying to put an end to a lot of these mentalities and culture but it will be around for a while cos it'll only fizzle out as most of d elders die off.Albeit,it won't be wiped off completely.
Goodluck to u.

Sendin money to ones family or relatives(less priviledged ones/ones in difficulty)is an african culture.If u marry from outside ur culture,u have to learn to cope with atleast some parts of d others values,I bet u that there are things that are perculiar to Turks's tradition or values that ur husband isn't fond of.Then the woman's rudeness might nt even be related to d fact that u are foreign but it might just be inborn.Ur mother in-law is even nice compared to mine and I'm full-fledge Nigerian.

you are not alone cos I`m there with u.I can condone just birds.

Nigerians are so stupid and its their stupidity dat kept,still keeps and will continue keeping them where they are today.Tell me why other stable african countries like Ghana won`t make fun of them.Ghana has passed Nigeria and the earlier y`all accept it the better for y`all cos ya`ll will bcome angry with ur government and hold them responsible for lettin these countries to be beta than u.

Tpia,I feel u.The prob lies wif we black women.I would rather we started a thread on dem Latino guys.You kno those guys are drop dead gorgeous,9ja guys cant even hold dis local lantern where dey are.Lets leave d other country`s babe lovers to do their thing while we savour and relish our latino cuties.Maybe only then wud dis ppl know dat we have eyes for other country`s fine dudes.

@Tink_sh:You probably the ignorant one cos you seem not to realize that I asked a question.

i hate wen nigerian men open their mouth and diss nigerian women.thats so bad.the women can diss u guys too or is it because we prefer not to make y`all feel inferior.I`ll soon start a thread dat reads,DEM ITALIAN GUYS,DEM HANDSOME NORTH AFRICANS OR DEM HOT WHITEYS.and believe me,nigerian men wil be on dat thread cursing me out.Y`all shd learn to appreciate ur own or risk forever being intimidated by other nations,people or color.I rest my case but if anyone want to argue abt wot i just said then bring it on,i`ve got points.

Please can someone provide me with info on the best airlines that fly to Enugu or Benin from Lagos.I'll appreciate if the prices are included.