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MRBrownJ:
i am sorry if I (a man) dont have the same views as you, but this discussion isnt about male vs female, is it?

MRBrownJ:
and my point is very clear n the issue by now...



my point is not about whether cheating is right or wrong, its about WHY people cheat... stick to the issue i raised based on the statement you made.

MRBrownJ:
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again, my whole point is simply about WHY PEOPLE CHEA, but if you do come up with claims/questions that deviate from that school of thought then i will surely reply, as i earlier did.

MRBrownJ:
thats because the act of cheating is VERY simple... you either are strong and respect the r/ship you are in OR you cant respect that r/ship a fall. a strong person would do the RIGHT thing and control their immediate need, a weak one simply falls

MRBrownJ:
men and women do cheat because they cant control themselves and ACT RIGHT (within their r/ship) before going and have sex with another..., what they want afterwards is irrelevant to the point at hand.

MRBrownJ:
[s]you still havent said ANYTHING to counter anything i have wrote so far.. here it is again:
- how can anyone have unflinching love for a person and joyfully DISRESPECT that person and the union they are in?!
- what difference does it make why a person cheat, if the outcome (inability to control themselves aka WEAKNESS) is all the same[/s]?

bukatyne:
I do not think most cheating spouses want to end their marriages; that's why cheating is mostly hidden.

Do you want to carry out a census? There are more instances of an adulterous husband abandoning his family than an adulterous wife.

bukatyne:
@le.zz:

Do you think adulterous wives want to end their marriages?

bukatyne:
Why are more adulterous men eloping with their mistresses/marrying multiple wives than adulterous women?

TV01:
I actually agree with your premise on the whole. The only thing I would question is using the very arbitrary term "love". Outside of religion - Christianity - for me, it is simply impossible to pin down. It can mean so many things, an ddoes not necessarily precipitate or underpin marriage.

TV

MRBrownJ:
this is not a fight bro, relax, we are having a mature discussion. these are just my views on the subject of cheating....

MRBrownJ:
to"cheat" on someone, you need to be in a r/ship or union with someone with whom you have an exclusive sexual r/ship... THAT union.

MRBrownJ:
again, as much as their ego may have gotten in the way of their common sense, its their weakness that led them to say YES and do that wrongful act, instead of acting right and standing by the rules of their r/ship. ego was just the cheap excuse used because if they were NOT weak, they would have called their gf/wife, break up that r/ship FIRST, and then continue with that ego sex you are on about.

MRBrownJ:
i quoted the statement that you made (my post was referring/replying to it solely), if you have any issue understanding it, i will be glad to post it again for you. here is again the statement that you made, focus on what you wrote as this is what my post is about, NOTHING ELSE. if you dont stand for the below post, or believe that such broad statement is ONLY relevant to the question asked then so be it.

joseph1832:
I'll say it all depend on the individual. What applies to you, doesn't necessarily apply to me or someone else.

Happiness, as I've come to know it, doesn't have the same interpretation for many people. Some people might quarrel everyday, and yet, they're happy, while some don't quarrel at all and yet, they're still happy.

So, like I said above, its purely relative.

Cc: pos.tmann, lez.z, is.hilove, mind.fulness.

MRBrownJ:
again, what that cheater feels is IRRELEVANT here as the basis of it is that they couldnt respect the rules of the r/ship they have, due to their WEAKNESSES. if these men indeed had unflinching love for their partner (as if that matters) then they would TELL their spouse about it before doing the unthinkable. you know, love/honesty/trust/respect, right?
how can anyone have unflinching love for a person and joyfully DISRESPECT that person and the union they have?!

MRBrownJ:
YES, because they cant control themselves and respect the r/ship they are in.



again, because they cant control themselves and respect the r/ship they are in. you can call it whatever you like (fun/madness etc) but at the end of the day, its all about a person who cant control themselves, and respect the rules of the r/ship they are in.



read the above answer

MRBrownJ:
and i decided to reply to YOUR failed statement about why men and women cheat, thats why i quoted YOU and not her....

bukatyne:
I quoted them because they did not see anything 'wrong' in a cheated husband killing his adulterous wife.

Wanted their take on if a cheating husband deserved death.

bukatyne:
@le.zz:

A man can cheat and still have unflinching love for his wife?

What is love?

MRBrownJ:
it is all in your head, and the fact that you believe that we should consider the cheater's state of mind, as a worthy reason to cheat, is sad. i guess the idea of BEING FAITHFUL is unimportant

MRBrownJ:
men and women cheat for the exact same reason... because they are WEAK (whether men or women)

MRBrownJ:
this is my view on the subject of cheating, she asked for it and i laid it down.

MRBrownJ:
thats the HYPOCRISY of human beings i talked about earlier....

MRBrownJ:
what difference the above make?! instead of selfishly focussing on how the cheating person feels at that moment, think of the DAMAGE it causes to their partner instead... and understand that it is the SAME. who cares anyway why people decide to cheat? its WRONG and thats just that!

bukatyne:
Mr. Brown,

We are not discussing adultery here; we are discussing if death (at the hands of the spouse) is a deserving consequence of adultery.

And I 100% agree with you that a woman/man shouldn't stay married if they desire to have other partners. I also believe someone who cheats when the other partner errs is indirectly saying they are done with the marriage.

This now leads to other questions...

1. Is sex = love
2. Do people who cheat no longer interested in their marriages?

firstEVA:

Why the face, darl? If she is fück-cured of her puma-ism she wouldn't be asking such dumb questions.


And who would have thought mamagee3 is a cougar, not me

firstEVA:

be careful there young man, she will come for you

I'll love to whoop her into line.

And your friend needs a correctional fück therapy

firstEVA:
you are right, its just that this particular op's emphasis is most likely on the 'fear' part, her boyfriends have always feared her, now this particular one no longer fears her.

Ah, seems she's either the sugar mommy type and love her boyfriends younger and yielding.

Or a tomboy who has a craving for quasi- pansy men.

I see her with facial beards and chest hairs too

firstEVA:
Le.zz i am sorry i have brought you here,
I really would want to know how you would respond to the op's question.
thanks dear.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]What does it mean when your boyfriend doesn't respect nor fear you anymore?[/color]

Irenyy:
u are among the knight retards
Your oga(bipolar) has been banned and there is nothing you can do about it

Poor child cry me an ocean

Ciao!

Ireneony, you know the KNIGHTS are Romance section's best and one of NL's wittiest -- of all time that is.

The conglomeration of diversely brilliant individuals is unprecedented in Nairaland in the same degree as it is awe-inspiring.

Preach love, baby . Each time I look at your DP, which is often, I still ponder what business hate has dwelling in you.

misspicy:
Go brush

SINXU:
On the internet, a chicken can claim to be a falcon. An abused kid who turned out to be a slowpoke can also brand himself a rebel.

SINXU:
You should know gbadebo by now, he's a depraved kid. He loves to beg and cry. Doesn't mean he'll escape the storm when it comes. It'll come.

SINXU:
You never get rusty.

I've just prepped up The dark troll for slaughter and suddenly the most bruised child in the thread has summoned all Nairaland's hierarchy here

kramfonos:
Look at your picture . You look like a sentient oracle in Okija shrine. You are the most fugly female on Nairaland. You look you bathe with used engine oil. A mechanic beneath a truck looks neater than you.


Your nose was probably smashed with a plank at birth.


Now look at mine, again, like you always have.
You see why I detest your face? I'd never find you attractive. YOU ARE UGLY.

Lolz, fine boy!!! Easy on Joy. I have a hunch she digs you alright.

I see she doesn't interest you in the least!!!

Her boobs remind me of the hard floor I used for pillows when the mod sent me on a 1 month incarceration.

I want to lay my head on those boobs and drive the demons of my incarceration away.

SINXU:
Welcome back from hole, man. I see the curriculum at the correctional facility isn't that liquid. And you aren't so porous afterall.

Comrade, Sinnzu, prison beans didn't obliterate my battle readiness. I'm a little blunt at the edges but still sharp enough to dismember any rebellious limb around!!!

dollyjoy:
i wouldn't deny that Le.zz,it actually funny especially when it all a lie.



Am not asking for it sha oo

You should have told me in clearer terms you love e-spanking!!!

I have the prosodic muscle to deliver hard expletives to moisten the corridors where your thighs meet

kramfonos:
Everyone knows. Where have you been? They were leaked September last year by one of the folks he antagonizes and cheats during rap duels.

Same dude claimed he's a mulatto (half Nigerian and Ukrainian). He votes himself in Rap battles with his alternate monikers. He also created a female moniker (SHARONNNN) to woo himself.

His shenanigans are well-detailed.



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SAINTSAMURAI:
hehehe yeah mimzy all minute, all hour, all day, all week, all month, all year, infact mimzy forever.

dollyjoy:
who is he

I'm beginning to suspect you enjoy his type-lashings in a physical way, Joy.

This is a typical come spank me bidding

TreasurePhoenix:

EzePromoe:
Well, I'll be very foolish to expect objectivity from you. I like Mimzy as a person but the truth must be told. If the truth is joke to you, then you have a higher extent to go in proving it.