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It's a very thin line between judging someone and correcting someone in love which is what the bible admonishes us to do. It also says we should correct someone in sin with a spirit of humility and gentleness lest we also fall. Galatians 6:1. What you find in most cases is that the average Christian is generally self-righteous and likes to brodcast the faults of others, this is actually judgement and we are all guilty of it at some point or another in our walk with God. Unless you have fallen as a Christian before, you cannot really understand how to help someone who is struggling in their walk and we all have areas in which God will continue to work on us until we go to be with him. The important thing to do to help you distinguish whether you are judging someone or trying to correct them is to search yourself and ask yourself the exact motives for your seeing the fault in the other person. Is it because you are trying to make yourself look better?

My battery is down and I have to log off now. I'll be back later.

Ifyalways and Olanajim, here are some words for you.

Nyaze - come
Keria - sit down
Ijo - no
Oghale - blessing ( a common name)
Uyoyo - Love ( also a name)
Izuo - soup
Erice - rice
Ebeansi - beans.
Igarri - garri
Emeri - Fish
Ara - Meat ( also used as an abusive word as in animal)

I'll be back with some more. Isoko wadoo!

Olanajim, you have more than one pronounciation like in any other language. So it's the way you say the word that gives the meaning you want. I know Yorubas have these types of words as well.

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ROFL. THIS WOMAN!

Ify, you are the one teaching Olanajim how to speak Isoko? Unbelievable! Olanajim, I hope you don't break your teeth in the process.
Ice_Zik, where are you, you should be here putting people like Olanajim through his paces. I'm ashamed that an Igbo girl has to come and teach my language to a Yoruba man.

@Komekn, I failed to ask if you are Isoko or Urhobo. You seem to be unhappy about the separations? Don't forget that the reason why many people agitate for their own states and local government areas is because of the marginalisations in our society, where the larger tribes tend to dominate the smaller ones. They believe that having their own local governments would expedite development, not that that has made much difference, though.

Ifyalways WADOO
Olanajim WADOO
Ice_Zik WADOO
Komekn WADOO
Ishie gwari ooooiiiiii
WADOOO!!!!!!!!!!
Sly, how is Baghdad?

I don't know if you've read this book, the spirit controlled temperament by tim lahaye. It would help you understand the first guy better. I would think he's of the choleric temperament and it's only by the help of the Holy Spirit that he can learn how to show affection. My ex-hubby was like that and I learned to live with it. But now that I'm single again, I know I can never settle for someone who is not affectionate. And the way he puts your father down, that's typical choleric, opinionated. But for a Nigerian, at least he should show some respect in that regard. They can be very difficult to live with and if you are the emotional type I can assure that it can get very frustrating. If you stay with him expecting him to change, then you will get very frustrated. I agree with Stillwater and 4him, but prayerfully consider the very naked facts before you like Sly said.

omini Real:
Chai, My dear every woman needs care and love but it seems the man you love dosn;t show you much love probably because he knows you love him more. But this one u have not really come to love shows you real love and commitment more. I advise you marry a man that loves you more because the journey is a lengthy one how long shall you continue to show love and he speaks love. If he is not crazy about u now when on earth will he be??

Its not an easy decision but your own emotions in marriage as a womam really matters>. Think about it. Love is good but it goes along with care.

Couldn't agree more.

seemenow, I'm just happy to see the light is already shining through from the other side of the tunnel. It's such a joy when things start looking up and you see that life is not so bad after all. I have also made a new friend through this thread and he's been such a sweetheart. Nigerians indeed have such  large hearts.
Stay blessed, my brother. And to my new friend, thanks for being so patient with me.
GOD BLESS NAIRALAND AND NAIRALNDERS. _{and seun}

@ifyalways, vredo. Babes, I no wan disgrace myself for here . When we meet ehn!
@komekn, I see we have a historian here. Can you enlighten us further? Not that it matters any which way, cos even some towns are now agitating for their own local governement areas as well. That has not solved the problem of development, though.

The Messenger

God, grant me the Serenity to accept the people I cannot change,
the Courage to change the one I can, and the Wisdom to know it's me !!!
The next time you feel like GOD can't use you, just remember . . .
Noah was a drunk, Abraham was too old, Isaac was a daydreamer, Jacob was a liar,
Leah was ugly, Joseph was abused, Moses had a stuttering problem, Gideon was afraid, Samson had long hair and was a womanizer, Rahab was a prostitute, Jeremiah and Timothy were too young, David had an affair and was a murderer, Elijah was suicidal, Isaiah preached naked, Jonah ran from God, Naomi was a widow, Job went bankrupt, John the Baptist ate bugs, Peter denied Christ, The Disciples fell asleep while praying, Martha worried about everything, The Samaritan woman was divorced -more than once, Zaccheus was too small, Paul was too religious, Timothy had an ulcer . . . AND Lazarus was dead!No more excuses now.  God can use you to your full potential. Besides, you aren't the message -- you are the messenger.
1. Dear God, I have a problem - it's me.
2. God wants spiritual fruit, not religious nuts.
3. Growing old is inevitable . . . growing UP is optional.
4. There is no key to happiness. The door is always open.
5. Silence is often misinterpreted but never misquoted.
6. Do the math. Count your blessings.
7. Faith is the ability to not panic.
8. Laugh every day, it's like inner jogging.
9. If you worry, you didn't pray. If you pray, don't worry.
10. As a child of God, prayer is kind of like calling home everyday.
11. Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be bent out of shape.
12. The most important things in your house are the people.
13. He who dies with the most toys is still dead.
14. A grudge is a heavy thing to carry.
15. When we get tangled up in our problems,
be still so God can untangle the mess.

[ Author Unknown -- from Ruthie, via 'Inspired Buffalo' (InspiredBuffalo@lighthouse.net) -- Ed:Anon. ]

ifybabes, i talk say i fit speak, but all this your "meko/beko" when you dey write, na jingle bells for me sha. BTW, how u take know those words? Me too I dey hail you o! Igbo kwenu!!

Heart of Worship by Matt Redman

When the music fades
And all is stripped away
Then I simply come
Longing just to bring
Something that's of worth
That will bless your heart
I'll bring you more than a song
For a song in itself is not what you have required
You search much deeper within
Through the way things appear
You're looking into my heart
I'm coming back to the heart of worship
When it's all about you, it's all about you Jesus
I'm sorry Lord for the thing I've made it
When it's all about you, all about you Jesus.

I'll bring you more than a song
I'll bring you more than a song
You're looking into my heart, into my heart.

zik, leave that town matter. just know say na somewhere near oleh.
ifyalways, i fear you. which kind 'murder' you dey commit with my mother tongue? Na waoh.
olanajim, feel free to visit this thread o, it's not for any kind of gossip. i didn't see any gossip here sha.
Sly, me too I no send you o. No wonder you end up for Baghdad. Watch your back, mate.

I thot this was an Isoko thread? What's nwando, olanajim and ifyalways doing here (ify r u sure you know what you are saying? It looks more urhoboish than isoko to me. please confirm your granny's ethnicity, this one when u just dey murder whatever language for here.)

Ice_zik, unfortunately, isoko being a minority language, is dying quicker than most other languages because many parents are bringing up their children speaking english language. I can speak but can neither read nor write the language, which really pains me because I see my yoruba friends who can read their yoruba bibles and pray fluently in yoruba and say the grace in yoruba, which i cannot do. Imagine only being able to read and write in English when I no be oyinbo. I feel sad about it.

We commonly say 'you can't eat your cake and have it', but i've heard the English people say 'you can't have your cake and eat'. Are they both correct?
People always say "off the light"  or "off it" instead of "put off the light" or "put it off". This is gradually becoming a common parlance.

i'm from isoko south.
@tpia, we have similarities with the urhobos in our language, so "wadoo" is one of those words.

Joel Osteen made an error, albeit a grave error, for which he sincerely apologised and repented of. I think it's unfair to continue to bring it up against him. I believe we as Christians will do more for one another by praying for one another rather than holding up our mistakes for all to see. Yes, people need to be accountable for their actions but what really is our motive when we demand that accountability?

What are you looking for?_{some people sef. hiss}

Yea, the Tim and Beverly LaHaye book will sort you out. And have you read The Spirit Controlled Temperament by Tim? It will also help you work out your contradictions. But yours is a strange combination. Are you sure you are not more of a melancholy, cos I had a friend who was a melancholy who used to have extreme highs and extreme lows. Melancholies tend to be that way; I am one so I know, although, I am more of a spirit controlled one now. Just read more about your temperament, you'll understand yourself better. Best of luck.

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Having just recently gone through a broken marriage which I would gladly have stayed put in, I just want to share a few things with you.
There is no getting over the relationship overnight, never mind what anyone says. You will have moments and difficult days. But learn to take one day at a time. The memories will begin to fade over time and you will begin to live and appreciate things in a new light because you would have undergone some circumcision of some sort. Don't be hard on yourself whatever you did or didn't do. I went through a lot of books on emotional healing and particularly found Joyce Meyer's Beauty for Ashes a real balm. I read through a thousand and one articles on emotional healing and forgiveness; and in those times of my deepest despair, I would cry to God in prayer and those were the times he said the most comforting words to me that I hold on to today and encourage myself with whenever I begin to feel down. Journaling also helped a lot. And I cried a lot too(I'm a woman) and let out much of the pent up anger through that. If I was not a Christian, I know I would have harmed myself because of the sheer intensity of the pain I felt. I had high moments and extremely low ones too when I didn't just want to get out of bed. And thank God for family, and good friends who never stopped calling. Honestly, heartbreak is never pleasant and I would not wish it on my worst enemy; but I have come out on the other side better, stronger and more aware of my humanity and my need for the Almighty. Do I look forward to a better marriage in future? You bet I do. And that is the hope that keeps me going. God is your strength. You will get through, my brother.

The guy is asking how to pay off a lady after a 7 year relationship. This question alone makes me suspect the real motive. Besides we have only heard his own side of the story and I'm taking the whole story at face value. What sane woman would not want to go for fertility test at 37? That sounds very farfetched and makes the whole tale fishy to me.

Could you give her back 7 years of her life?

jandbaby:
Na wa O!
Abeg @poster, what kind of test did you go for to know you are OK? Abi you don give woman belle?

That must be it.

Hmm. A war is brewing. I'll definitely be monitoring this one.

Very sad story indeed. The more people get caught, the more people try. Tomorrow, we will hear of a worse case. Too sad.

Is this some kind of pity party? My freedom was forced on me and I've learned to accommodate the extra time I have by learning a new language and traveling quite a lot without having to take permission from anyone. I also spend my time reading which is something I thoroughly enjoy. For those who lament being single, everything has it's purpose and you can enjoy it if you set your mind on it and see the positives rather than the negatives.

michelin89:
32 year old virgin my foot. 

I am sure she is a typical lack of opportunity case.

Definite lack of opportunity, my dear.

almondjoy:
business!!!!

Real 32 year-old virgin! From "Deeper Yansh Life Church"! I bet you she was a "born again too"

Oloshi!

ROFL

My sisters, I tire for all these please your man nonsense o. Nigerian women.

I go to CCC. I am absolutely chuffed by his preaching, he's so different from the usual, very intellectual, sometimes I wonder how many people actually understand him. I sort of wandered there when I returned to the country and got hooked on his messages. I'm hoping to join a group soon.

@ uspry, this is belated but I do apologise as I was indeed new to nairaland at the time I made the comment I made and I never checked your reply neither did I check your profile. So my heartfelt and sincere apologies.

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Mr Man, leave that little girl alone. Find someone your own age.