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Speak to Scopido, real estate surveyor in the house. He may be able to help you. But your budget looks small compared to what I see in his posts.

There are seasons in every relationship. No woman wants to be a full time housewife, but when the children start coming some sacrifices have to be made. Societal and cultural expectations mean that it is mostly women who stay at home at such times and the man remains the breadwinner. It's only on the rare occassion that the man does the school run and with a lot of grumbling too. My sister is a stay at home mum, although she owns a salon which she hardly goes to because of the demands of raising three young boys. I see her husband take her for granted all the time. Jobs are few and far between, so not every woman can have a career or even that family business which is the ideal situation. I see how much my sister does everyday, running up and down in Lagos traffic trying to get one or two other things going so that she can have some of her own money. Her life exhausts me and her husband comes home with a dour attitude and never appreciates anything she does. It's sad, when you are a full time housewife. Everybody takes you for granted. But that's the situation many a woman finds herself.

Visit www.deoluakinyemi.com. I know he advertised something on his site and in the papers about property in Dubai and he just returned from a trip to Dubai. His company is called Generis and it's at 71, Allen Avenue, I think on the second floor.

Mr Man, go post in properties.

Divorced. I haven't met anyone that I've been that keen on since except a couple of married guys and much younger men.

@ Dios

Proverbs 26:4,5. Do not answer a fool according to his folly, lest you also be like him. Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes.

@Dios. Prov 14:13. Even in laughter the heart may be in pain. And the end of mirth may be heaviness and grief.

@ Dios. Pooor you. You sound like a very miserable person and I will not join issues with you. Delusional? That's more on your part than on mine cos I made my point very clear. You are already living in a hell of your own making. Sooo Sorry you feel so bad. You've already been mad at a few people on this thread. Phewwww. You'll have to continue sweating it out cos there's more fire coming your way. Ciao.

@Dios "The bible says, the bible says, the bib>>>>>, >>>>>>>>>   The bible says a bunch of crap that don't make sense. It's a book of fantastic illogical stories written by the equivalent of hollywood screenwriters of the middle ages. "

That's your take and this is my take on the matter. Why are you attacking me. What are you afraid of?

I would still believe in God through my Lord Jesus Christ. I would still do right, I would still aspire to be a better person. I would still believe the bible. I have experienced it. I know the changes it can bring into a persons life. I know joy unspeakable and the peace that passes all understanding in the midst of the adversities of life. I wouldn't trade it for anything else. If there was no afterlife I would still serve the LIVING GOD.

I didn't go to church today cos I was "strong" from medication I had taken, but I watched most of my favourite preachers on TBN. Notable for me today was the message  by Joel Osteen with a reading from Acts 2:26, the Message translation: "I have pitched my tent in the land of hope." I was very encouraged by this great preacher whose messages I listen to weekly because of the encouragement they bring to me. I also receive his daily word in my email. Excerpts from his message:

Today's Word from Joel and Victoria
Where have you pitched your tent today? What are you expecting to happen in your life? What kind of attitude do you have? If you’re focused on what’s wrong, or what’s not working, it’s time to dig up your tent stakes! It’s time to pack up your belongings and move out of the land of discouragement. Move out of the “Not-going-to-happen” sub-division. Move out of “Can’t-do-it-ville.” It’s time to leave “Self-pity Estates.” Get out of those areas and move into the land of hope, faith, and expectation. Maybe you don’t quite know how to get there, but now’s the time to start looking for that new place. Open your heart to the Lord and ask Him to direct your thoughts and expectations. The Bible says that those who hope in the Lord will never be put to shame. You can trust God to order your steps. You can trust Him to move you from the land of disappointment to the land of hope today!

A Prayer for Today

Heavenly Father, thank You for ordering and directing my steps. Thank You for taking me to the land of hope! I release all my past hurts and disappointments to You today and ask that You fill me with Your faith and expectancy for a bright future! In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Being of a certain age, divorced and childless, everyone thinks my immediate priority should be to get laid by the next available man for procreation purposes. So when I turned down the advances of a certain gentleman who saw himself as God sent for that reason, he thought I was mad and proffered to link me with a psychiatrist because of my divergent view on the matter.

"If you get pickin, make you no laugh, if you no get am, make you no cry". Live life to the fullest and with purpose whatever your choice, whether by omission or by commission.

Are you looking for it too? I wonder why the book is so scarce and it's written by a Nigerian preacher. Na waoh!

Humour.
A flat tummy ( too many pregnant men these days)
A guy in uniform.
Strong personality. Someone who takes charge and can handle a crisis.

Where can I get this book, Alone with God by Bishop Francis Wale Oke? It is one of the best christian books I ever read and it really helped me to develop a deeper communion with God by spending regular night times in prayer. I've looked for it in so many bookshops in Lagos.

There is a link to youtube that Seun gave for you to watch the person ranting about leaving Britney alone. Personally though, I think the girl needs to take a break from it all. But how can she when the paparazzi are hounding her? The price of fame!

This is really important to you. It will always come up and cause you friction. Like you said, there's always a but. But can you do without her interest in this matter? Think about it.

"Many waters cannot quench love" Songs of Solomon.

sylvao, you know effuah settled this matter, ehn. I want to respect her. Let's not pour too much fuel on the matter again. I'm sure she has learnt her lesson now. A word is enough for the wise.

sylvao, effuah don settle us. Make we forget.

@zignor. So it's okay to copy other people's work and claim it to be your own research? Interesting. Dada, if you want to laugh, go to the jokes section.

Waste of emotions if he dumped you. Regrets if you dumped him. All not worth losing sleep over. Move on.

Cuteangel, wise words. Peace.

Efuah, so you know that girl, cuteangel? Eeeewwwwwwww. She spews garbage!!! She should just be real. We are not in any contest here. All are welcome, afterall, no one has a monopoly of knowledge, schooled or otherwise.

@jeoy82, I'm enjoying it too, although I got myself in the crossfire cos I expressed a contrary opinion to cuteangel. Something must be going on with her.

Cuteangel, what's gwan with you? You are too angry!!!! Get some counselling for that rage.

Cuteangel, I am saying don't copy other people's work and claim it to be a research you carried out for 2 years. How false can that be? It shows that you are fake. You don't have to go that far. There are no judges here judging anyone's work. Afterall, people are always murdering the queen's language on this forum. It's all part of the fun. Just be real, be yourself OK. And your mouth does really stink. Go wash it, babe!

That's it. My last word on the matter. Case closed.

Cuteangel, sweetheart, I don't think you understand the meaning of words. I simply expressed my opinion about your purported research. What was impolite about that?
@ zignor, no I've not quarelled with her before, why would I? I just saw this and it isn't right for her to claim it to be hers when she obviously copied it from somewhere.

Is CuteAngel a PLAGIARIST?

Someone just accused her in the post, Men are Hard to Please of copying it from somewhere on this site and I have just responded to her post on the Geography of a Woman that I had seen that write up before in my secondary school days and that was in the 80s and she claims to have done her research 2 years ago.

Does she have to go so far to claim other people's work for her own just to get net time? Is there a competition here? Aren't we on this forum to exchange thoughts? If you copy something, tell us where it is from instead of claiming it as yours. You can't grow that way.

I've seen this before, though you've made some modifications. Didn't you just copy this from somewhere? Try and be more original in your research next time and stop taking credit for other people's work. 

I dated a guy who was 10 years older than me and knew that a much older man was not for me. It was like a generational gap existed between us after a while and his friends were old as well. We grew apart because we were no longer interested in the same things. I enjoyed it at the beginning because of his maturity and experience but that paled into insignificance after sometime and I began to long for a guy around my age and even envy my friends who were dating guys their age. A relationship with an older person lacks the energy and spontaneity that one with someone your age has. He has outgrown a lot of things which you are still learning and this can create friction. Also, he may be jealous of your youth and the attention you may be getting from younger men if you are attractive. He may smother you unduly and even begin to act like a father to you. I don't want a father for a partner. This is my personal experience.

Don't be so bent on pleasing a guy. Just be yourself and you'll find a guy who will take you for what you are. There are so many girls out there who lack esteem and work themselves up trying to do this and that to please men. Dress up, do your hair, do your nails, wear sexy this and that. Relax. That's why they take us so much for granted.  Enjoy your life, be yourself, appreciate who you are and you will find someone who will appreciate you for who you are. Above all, God loves you. That should give you some joy.