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Someoneschild2:
... I only see a particular moniker trying to shove an opinion down every other person's throat.


Lmao @ "we are not open minded". Just a mischievous say of saying "you must accept what I say"

Let's stay on course, comrades.

I'm actually hoping for someone to counter this so that I can learn more.

I'm not interested in being right or wrong. I'm interested in seeing people's perspective based on their experiences.

That is how the rich get richer and the poorer get poorer. By looking for knowledge rather than trying to be wise.

ElasmoBranchii:
What is your definition of love?

Love is about fidelity, allegiance, commitment, being there with each other through sickness and in health, and establishing a well fortified bond underneath all that sexual dopamine bullshit.

This is what another redpiller describes as love.

The truth is that, this love we talk about is a social construct. Just the way sexual harrasment is a social construct.

Here is the meaning of social construct

A social construct is something that exists not in objective reality, but as a result of human interaction. It exists because humans agree that it exists.

It is not something natural but something that was born from the West. It is something designed to make life look more beautiful. Because in life, no one wants to be alone, no one wants to be lonely. And love means someone will be there for you always. So humans or white people created this belief of love to make life look more beautiful.

But since there isn't anything like love in nature, the feeling wears off after a while. Just like any other feeling (anger, hate, sadness). The feeling can last long just the same way depression can last long.

When I say the feeling, I refer to the feeling we think that is love. There is no such thing as love, but we as humans have managed to create a feeling that we can be with one woman and one man and hope that it lasts forever.

Remember they say that "true love lasts forever". Remember I say that no one wants to be alone or lonely in this life. This is why so many people are chasing true love.

However, it is not real. That's why you see some men after marriage start cheating with younger women with fresh bodies. But some men will stick to their wives no matter what. These men believe so much in the social construct and will not want to pull out because if you say that there is no love in this world, then the world becomes a dark place with no colour.

Men don't fall in love
Women don't fall in love

The reason why a lot of blue-pilled men provide so much for women is that they see themselves as providers, they have low self esteem, and they think that by providing for her, she will love him back. He want's to her to be his. And he thinks she is worthy of his money. He thinks that by doing this she will see it as a sacrifice, he thinks that it is love. No. it is a Hollywood dream, because women are smarter than that

DEMZEE:
It's our innate biological makeup to provide, protect and give parental investment to the female we wanna have children with.

If u want to fight biology then you will end up at the psychiatric hospital

Men are idealist
Women are opportunist

This is what you wrote

It's our innate biological makeup to provide, protect and give parental investment to the female we wanna have children with.

Exactly just like in the days of old, a man will provide shelter, food, and protection for his wife and children but that was not love. Our forefathers did not describe this as love. This was our natural order.

However, times have changed. We are not animals and we have evolved. Women are now becoming providers just like men. Women are even becoming smarter and they're using the fact that we, men are natural providers to collect money from us.

You see women saying " a real man will take care of his girlfriend or another man will"
A real man will make his girflriend happy.

In fact, no one is talking about marrying a virgin in media these days, because men have been fooled to believing that they love ideally. Men don't demand anything from women like our forefathers did. (Our forefathers demanded virginity and cursed single mothers).

Women are using the fact that in the days of old, they were seen as insignificant babies with fish brains, they are using this to outsmart men today. That's why you see them feign ignorance in some situations and hope that men come to their aid. Because men see women as soft creatures that don't think straight.

But women today are using this to their advantage. They are using the fact that men want to be providers to take their money. The problem is that men think that by giving a woman money is how you show love. What about forefathers that married 4 to 5 wives and took care of all of them. What about Ned Nwoko? Do you want to tell me Ned Nwoko loves Regina Daniels or he just wants a fresh, fair body and he became a provider to secure it. Regina Daniels on the other hand saw that he is a provider who will keep her rich till the end of her life and she accepted it. Both parties win.

The problem with today's men is that they are becoming providers for women all in the name of love without getting anything in return. if men stop providing for women, these ladies will either try to use SIGN langugage (Shame, Insults, Guilt and Need to be right) to bend the man to do their well. If all men stop being providers until they get something from women. Then you will see women returning back to their traditional status.

I mean, why should I be your provider if you're not giving me your virginity.

The problem with men today, is that men think they fall in love. There is no such thing as love. Nigerian men are so fooled by movies and their sex starvation that they think that providing for a woman is a way to show love.

When a man provides for a woman, he will hope that she falls in love with him too. That's what the man wants. If you provide and she doesn't fall in love with you, you will try harder to win her love and do more. This is what men thinks will keep a woman loyal . That's why you see them crying after they spent on a girl and she broke up with them. You will hear him crying that after all he has spent. This is the sunk cost fallacy that Ubunja talks about. When the man spends so much it is harder for him to pull out. Not because he is in love but because of how much he has given. He can't believe that he will lose everything. It is the same thing with businesses. When you invest so much in a business idea. Even though the ship starts sinking, you will want to hold on for as long as possible. Is it because you love the business? No. It is because you've invested so much and you don't want to accept reality just yet.

Many Nigerian men will have sleepless nights if a woman spends on them and they don't have enough money to spend on her. If she tells him that she is going to pay for the marriage. He will get scared that people will hear that she is the one paying for the relationship and he is not man enough to hustle. Does this sound like love?

There is a story on nairaland of a man that was worried that his girlfriend earned more than him. He even posted it on nairaland asking if he should double his hustle or end the relationship. Men see themselves as providers and when they're not providing for a girl, they feel worthless.

That's why you see men sacrificing for a girl. That's why you see them writing exam for their girlfriend. If he doesn't do it, it will look as if he can't help his girl in her time of need. He takes his problem solver position and helps her out. This is not love, but because he sees himself as the provider and if he doesn't do it, she might break up with him or go somewhere else. He is not doing it for love.

There is no love anywhere.

There is also the issue of low self esteem. A lot of blue-pilled men have low-self esteem.

When they look at a girl, they see pussy, breast and a soft voice of an angel. They calculate this as a woman's worth. That's why when they see a beautiful woman that doesn't ABC, they are ready to get on their knees and beg her. He is ready to be her provider to ensure that this beautiful woman he saw belongs to him. Is that love?

luminouz:
We have seen them all mudafucker!!!

The females who wouldn't give up, the blue-toothed saurus niggas who try so hard to get us down, the so-called 'woke' mudafuckin slugs who start off as redpill then morph into green pill before sloughing into bluepill and revealing themselves. The whiners who always scream no one likes them even after they troll others and act tough....the arguments, the debates, the pseudo-wars and the tete-a-tete sessions.

We have seen them all and we still stand strong. Because it's not about US, it's about the redpill.

So mudafucking troll, YOU TOO SHALL PASS!!!


Have a nice day brothers!!!

the rage

Men don't fall in love. Men don't love sacrificially

Mentholated:
Men love either opportunistically or ignorantly never sacrificially.

What we term sacrificially is opportunistically plus ignorance.

This is absolute genius.

Men are ignorant of women nature and follow the fantasy of love from media and love quotes..

Men wake up... please

This is why they think that, when they sacrifice for women, that women will love them, but women have their own choices.

They will use this urge to prove themselves, the urge for sex, the urge to be a provider.

Women use it to enrich themselves while providing nothing in return

Fiscus105:
This is to tell you the bunch of urchins that full here belong to sect, they are indoctrinated base on the frustrations few of their slave masters encountered in real world.

Theories they are giving out on hourly basis, which are just figments of imaginations and as a result of rejection and disappointment they met in real world. That's why they are persuading their blindly foot soldiers (zombies) not to explain their own theories for debate. Empirically theory will fail when subjected to real practices (realistic)

The redpill is real but it is never absolute

I'm here to learn . Winnerly

I agree with the redpill but I refuse that men fall in love

Because I disagree you say I'm a lady.... Please be open minded.. stay redpill

heartofcity12:
Female nature is already cruel, our simp brothers still happily add fuel to the furnace.

Female nature is not cruel. It is the same way patriarchy gave men the upper hand. Now feminism and technology is giving women the upper hand. The same way patriarchy made women look like nothing without redpill, feminism and media is making men look like nothing if they don't provide for a women or treat her with respect whether or not she deserves.

Men, you have to evolve if you want to win this game..

Legionx:
I can't answer him, because I actually agree with him and this is from experience.

I remember my first love (just listen). She was beautiful, but she gave me a hard time when I tried to get her number. I got it and it took months to start the relationship. During that time, I spent on her.

Now I look back and ask myself... Why was I spending on her. I thought I was doing so to make her happy, but actually, I was providing other needs to make her like me. My heart aches whenever I see her hugging another guy. Because I want her to hug only me.

While we dated, I took over the provider position because I did everything to make her smile. Bought a new phone, bought foodstuff and expensive pots, shoes and birthday gifts. I thought I was in love. I accepted her flaws (anger and insults). She was a great cook by the way and could keep my room sparkling clean. Gosh. I thought that I was in love. Accepting her insults and apologizing so that peace will reign.

But when I read what Lightway posted. I understand that, I was not in love. I viewed women as some beautiful creatures with a good heart. I had watched so many romantic movies and I saw the way these men respected and loved women. I actually had low-self esteem so whenever I see her with other guys I get scared. Providing for her was the only way I thought I could keep her. So I started spending.

Due to my low self esteem, I accepted her flaws easily and tried to avoid correcting her too many times.

I get it now.

It was all because of all the movies I watched. it was because of all I heard "that real men do provide for their girlfriend or another man will"

Nna eh, I'm already typing too much, my fingers ache abeg! Onye ọ bụla zuru ike wee mụta ihe

I love the way he is open-minded and asking questions rather than shutting off like some redpillers here.

But I'm not here to judge abeg.

If you want to learn, you can open your mind and ask him.

Amamihe na-abịara naanị ndị na-achọ ya

Amụtara m ọtụtụ ihe na thread a ka anyị gaa n'ihu na-amụta

That's my own... Sorry for the Igbo, but I'm an Nigerian man abeg

This is actually nice.

All the feelings of providing for a woman to see her happy comes from Hollywood and media. The provider part also comes from out forefathers. It is not love. It is simply our natural place. If you see a woman feeding a man with her money. It looks weird, because it doesn't look natural.

That's why men do their best to make money and pick a broke girl and raise her up to great heights by investing in her. These men think they are in love and they accept insults due to sex starvation and the belief that women are soft creatures with a beautiful voice. But where does this view come from. Just like you said, it comes from movies, from our friends, it is western culture.

I think this is enough to send my point home. If no one is interested in learning more about how women easily manipulate men with their provider status, then its okay by me. if you stop being a provider to any woman, she can never manipulate you. Not even with sex.

Women use sex as a weapon to get you to provide. Your resources, but since women no longer offer virginity, since they struggle to cook, insult, and disrespect, why not stop being a provider.

Men nowadays are still providing for women, but women are no longer offering virginity, women are now single mothers. Women are now smarter, they will tell you to accept them for who they are, with STDs, and many children and men will run after them.. But men are still providers and they think they are in love. The person that created women. E finish work.

Legionx:
I've been a silent reader of this thread and I think you're in red pill rage mode. This thread needs to stay alive

How can you say females don't have IQ when the likes of Okonjo Iweala and Dora is there

The redpill doesn't teach you to hate women but to understand them.

I understand the message the lightway guy is trying to pass and it makes a lot of sense. I have read all his evidences and I think Martinez39s did a poor job with his reply. He didn't even counter his post with facts but kept using "if".

But the matter has gone on for too long.

Let's move ahead, please..

I would like some memes... Thanks

It's a simple question

When you say men love ideally, idealistically? Or men fall love women for who they are...

Can you please describe what these men think women are?

What does the man think women are that makes him to love?

Can you answer this?

Martinez39s:
@DEMZEE

Don't entertain lightwáy. I can see that the dude/broad is mischievous.

I thought the redpill was all about learning.

Why are you trying to stop demzee from explaining when there are a lot of guys here willing to learn.

You said agree to disagree and you left the chat so ignored you.

Why are you trying to stop others.

DEMZEE, you might refuse to answer the question but I believe that the redpill is all about accepting the bitter truth.

If you say men fall in love... I'm okay with it but I would like an explanation. That's all.

A wise man doesn't hide behind the curtains when he is call upon to share knowledge.

Martinez39s... I hope you find peace

DEMZEE:
Men love women for who they are

Women love men for Wat they can provide to them

Simple!!!

Don't be angry. I'm trying to learn here.

When you say men love women for who they are.

Can you please describe what these men think women are?

What does the man think women are that makes him to love?

DEMZEE:
Women are incapable of loving men idealistically. They love opportunistically

Men however love idealistically

If u can't get this point then u must b daft!

What is loving someone idealistically.

Please explain

DEMZEE:
Men and women love. They just express it differently.

That's redpill 001 for fvcks sake

I thought you guys said that woken are not capable of love

I thought you guys said only men can feel true love.

This redpiller above is already confused

Enlighten him...


I think the best thing is to discuss this matter in a civilized way and end up a conclusion that everyone will understand. I'm ready to have a personal private conversation so that we can help out brothers.

Some are saying I'm a lady. Funny.

Its unbelievable that redpillers are not open-minded.

Cc
Martinez39, Cave Addulum, skepticus, emmadoet, luminous and other members

luminouz:
Will y'all stop quoting that melodramatic moniker up there?

It's changing the flow of the thread. She/he/it can create a damn new thread and argue about LOVE till eternity.

The Same guy that a Yahoo boy told him that he does have any money to give him probably because you looked hungry.

Rather than looking for a great flow, maybe you should be open minded

SOZINN:
@Lightway

Affection burgeons in humans for different reasons encompassing physical attraction. This can include wealth, physique, physiological patterns etc. Some cases are poles apart from what I described, like that of parent and children and in my opinion, they are the anomaly.

From my own research the love between man and woman is caused by the misfiring of some neuromodulators (oxytocin, dopamine) in our brains which have been set off or stimulated by one of the possible catalysts I've listed. If said catalysts don't pass the test of time the affection begins to loose its grip.

This goes a long way to explain the reason for series of divorces, breakups and what have you. Yes, marriage is a scam to me. Although when the affection wears off, some of them continue pushing for reasons best know to them.

I can't define what I've written above as love because I know what love entails. Love is about fidelity, allegiance, commitment, being there with each other through sickness and in health, and establishing a well fortified bond underneath all that sexual dopamine bullshit.

Too bad, the word love is been vitiated by this generation anytime they feel like having sex. I know the love you speak of brother and it does not exist. I see your message, crystal clear.
Well done.

Exactly. Emotions change with time. They don't last forever.

Men don't love
Women don't love

I can believe that redpillers that are supposed to be open minded are refusing the simple truth.

CaveAdullam:
Stop confusing yourself!

Martinez39s has done a good justice to whatever you're portraying. You have a point though, a scattered one at that, which he helped in refurbishing. You should be thankful to him.

What I just did what to give a little backup because redpill is based on observation, patterns, and not only that, brings evidences from the field of science and social science which includes evolutionary biology, psychology, neurology, anatomy, physiology, anthropology, history etc.

I know we learn everyday due to the complexity of life(the matrix). And I also know that what has been shared is a straightforward rebuttal or correction to whatever you're portraying!

Unlike Martinez39s, I don't agree to disagree! I know all knowledge is provisional as there is always room for more improvement. But until that time, the approximate(provisional) knowledge closest to the truth is accepted.

You don't need to like it and can continue to argue it, I don't care! It is what it is and I have done my part in enlightening.

Those that want their emotions and experiences to come before the truth will only continue to convulse wherever the truth beams.

Au revoir!

what is this nonsense

Oyin2212:
Thanks for the breakdown bro. You did well to counter the arguement logically.

Bro, I know you're a hardcore redpiller but if you really want to understand life, then you should open your mind.

Men don't fall in love

CaveAdullam:
Romantic love is instinctual both in male and female! However, the mode of expression differs.

It is what it is.

Excerpt from The Ape That Understood The Universe by Steve Stewart Williams.


Cc. Lightway, Martinez39s...and others that are interested.

Our forefathera never fell in love. In fact, there is no word Igbo language to pronounce love.

Men think that providing for a woman is how they show love. Tell a man to prove his love to a woman without spending a dime and he will go dumb..

Men don't fall in love. Men see themselves as providers and that's why women manipulate them with ease.

I can't believe redpillers are fighting to prove that men fall in love.

Check this out

Martinez39s:
Lol. Why hastily conclude that she was in love? You didn't consider the possibility that it could be a case of a cunning and calculative investor getting scammed big time. Scammed to an extent that plunged her into a hopeless financial situation or in way that rendered her time, energy and huge money a waste. If she has mental issues, such occurrence could have exacerbated it and led to suicide. It could be that she thought she saw another guy in love who happened to have a business plan or set up whose success would greatly benefit her since she was in a relationship with the owner; she then smartly invested to fatten her cow before slaughter, not knowing that the boy was not in love like the typical man and was getting her invested for nothing. Unfortunately, the plan did not work and the smart and calculative investor was scammed. The guy was not a lover boy like the rest.

Haven't you seen people that killed themselves when they lost huge money to an elaborate scam or gambling? Some get very depressed. Were they in love? It wasn't a selfless sacrifice, it was calculated self-interest gone wrong. Who knows what lies the boy might have told the girl about the prospect of the business and its progress and connections?

It is natural that huge investment losses cause sadness and depression, regardless of whether you loved or not. The enormity of the sadness and depression depends on what was lost, the situation of person after the loss, and the person. Such is natural and doesn't say anything about whether they loved or not.

Typing... ;

I don't think you wrote this with a clear mind because this is totally rubbish. Girls have killed themselves with sniper and hung themselves when a man they love cheats on them

Men have done the same.

Yet you say the men were in love
But the women were not in love.



You said men love ideally, to the point where a man can love a woman without expecting anything in return which is a big lie. Show me a man that loves a woman without expecting her love in return, without expecting her feminity. I'm not going to talk much on this because they say men are not as emotional as women when in reality, men are the bigger fools...

They keep telling themselves that they fall in love..... LMAO and women use that stupidity to their gain.

There is no such thing as love.

Hello Guys, Good Morning and a Happy Sunday to you all.

I don't know how concise i can be, but I will try.

I just graduated last 3 months, with my girlfriend who's now my ex, and she's 26yrs of age while I'm 28yr.

We started dating from our 200level till yesterday, (that's approximately 4yrs and counting...).
We were ideal together, we were well known in school, to an extent where her friends and mine kept asking how? And wishing theirs was like ours..

She promised never to leave, and she please everyday that I should never hurt her. At times we jokingly talked about our future kids which is now a never happening fable.

So after we graduated, she travelled to stay with her aunt, we do check on each other everyday.

Last month.. She called, and said her friend needs an advice, that she and her date just graduated, and that another man is asking her out, and she's thinking of dumping her guy since he's not ready, and that the newly known man is ready to pay for her marriage rites.
Immediately I knew she was the one in the story, because I already had several dreams were she left me. I pretended, I told her to tell her friend to "Follow Her Heart".

Last night she called, and said there's something she wants to tell me, I responded, "Is it what I already know?", she asked what? I told her she's getting married soon, and she said yes! I was speechless. I asked her for how long has this been going on, she said it started when she came to stay with her Aunt. We spoke, and I congratulated her, she started crying, I ended the call, sent her a good luck text.

This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me. I was totally down, but I have crazy friends. I WhatsApp a friend, told him what just happened, his words boosted me up. He said, " Support her, we move, no be God leave you". That was enough, but it's hard, really hard to move on without her, and she said the same thing and kept pleading I shouldn't leave her.
Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story? That I used her and dumped her, because this has always been used against the guys.
Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria.

Women are smarter than you think

Women want more than money. But no one will reject free money

Nigerian guys see themselves as nothing but a provider and they want to use this to get women and sex...

The problem is that women are smarter than you think. They can take your money and not give you sex

Tenshades:
Having a digital marketing hub where young and enthusiastic minds will get trained and be well equipped to STAND TALL in the economy.

This is rubbish

Martinez39s:
Since you asked, I will answer. I hope it is not too late. This is my take on YOUR POST.

There is an adage "men love ideally, women love opportunistically." Men have the capacity to fall in love in its true and ideal sense, and they do fall in love. As a wise mathematician once put it, and I concur, "to love is to be delighted by the happiness of someone, or to experience pleasure upon the happiness of another. I define this as true love." I will also add that the evidence and language of true love are sacrifices; the greater your love is for a person, the more you are willing to make sacrifices for that person. All these and great solicitude have men showered on women for generations.

On the other hand, women don't have this capacity towards men; nature formed them differently. Don't let any man or woman beguile you into thinking otherwise. Women only romantically associate with you based what they can benefit from you and how you make them feel, they are unapologetically all about their best interests. Your past sacrifices mean absolutely nothing, and they will readily jump on to a better, available option or leave when you have totally outlived your usefulness to them; even if you had donated a kidney or lost an arm for your spouse (gf, wife, etc), this is still valid. Female nature sees men as expendable utilises. Many men don't know this since they are blue pill folks. Mutual true love that men think they have in their relationships are only in their heads; the mutual true love is blue pill lie. The inherent capacity for true love in men doesn't exist from a woman's end. Women are fully aware of this and they don't usually reveal this for obvious reasons, hence such blue pill lie is only swallowed by men.



Sometimes, when you see a man training a woman in school or providing for his girlfriend in prodigious amounts, it is not necessarily because of pùssy. Some of these things are done genuinely out of love and care, out of kindness of heart. True love wants to see the beloved happy, prosperous and growing. Most redpillers have been in this boat before during their blue pill years. Regardless of why a blue pill man chooses a woman for committed relationships, his capacity for true love will assert itself in many instances. I am not saying men don't do simpish stuff and display all sorts of foolery just to get laid; obviously that biological urge for sex has put a lot of men in trouble and embarrassing situations. Nevertheless, observation and experience show that men do love in its true sense.

The problem is that the blue pill and the ignorance of the red pill do a great job from birth in hijacking and preying upon this inherent capacity and our biological urges in order to lead us to blue pill fantasies and unrealistic goals and expectations, I CAN EXPLAIN FURTHER IF YOU WANT. These fantasies and delusions exist but they do not invalidate that men do genuinely love.

I will like you to explain it further, but I'll also reply to this.

Men do not fall in love.

A man that trains a girl through school has money. He goes for a girl that is below his status and tries to build her. Why does he do this? Because he sees himself as a provider. The man that does this chooses an average girl and tries to build her not because of love, but because he sees himself as the provider and doing so will make the girl loyal to him. That is what he thinks, but women are smarter.

You talk about sacrifices. There is a story of a girl that killed herself after she found out that the boy she set up a business for was cheating= on her. This was a young girl of 23. Since you say women love opportunistically, why would a woman spend her all to make a man happy to the point that the man cheating on her caused her to kill herself. This means that she was in love. But Redpill says that women don't fall in love.

The truth is that she fell for a bad boy and wanted to make him happy. He gave her the feeling of love, the fantasy of it (because love does not exist). The same way a man wants to sacrifice for a woman to make her happy. When a man sees a woman smile after he provides for her, he will be glad. That is not love. The man sees himself as the provider and providing for his girl gives him value. That's how men see themselves and that's why they are ready to sacrifice for women.

There is a story on nairaland of a guy that is struggling, but still providing for his girlfriend who is in school. The same man is still in school and sacrificing to feed her. Why does he do this? Because he sees himself as the provider. This is not love.

Providing for a woman and seeing her happy, makes a man happy. He thinks that providing for a woman is how he shows his love.

Ask a man to show love to a woman without providing for a woman and he can't. That's why you see men wail when a woman breaks their heart. That after all he spent on her. It is always after all he has spent

Men see themselves as providers and believe that by providing for a woman, they are showing love and hope that the woman will love them back.

Take note, these men hope that the women love them back. These men are also average with low self esteem and their money is their confidence. That's why you see them spending heavily on women that don't value them. It is one reason I love bad boys. They make women feel great without spending a dime These bad boys know that what men call love, is a fool's dream. It is the fantasy of love from Hollywood.

You hardly see a man that loves a women but won't spend heavily on her. In a man's mind, spending on her is how he shows his love. Which is just a fantasy in this generation. The world of old required men to be providers and protectors but never said that, "This is how a man loves a woman". The same way our grandfathers never used the word "love". In fact, many languages like Igbo don't have a word for "love".

Men don't love women. Blue-pilled men that spend on women have low-self esteem and think that by providing for a woman is the only way they can feel worthy. A woman is born with pussy, soft breasts, and a delicious mouth that can do wonders on your dick. A woman can give you kids, cook great food, and take care of your family. What does this blue-pilled man have? Nothing, so he gets money and assumes his provider position. Spending on this woman, hoping that she will give him (love) back. But women are not so straightforward.

There was a story posted here by a nairalander of his ex-girlfriend who he turned into his FWB and sleeps with her. He said she came for a round of sex and she told him of the four guys she is dating. These men are sending her money claiming they love her. One called her and talked about sex starvation but she shouted at him and he begged her. According to the poster, the girl is average in looks and curves

You can see that, this man is sacrificing his money for this girl and that's not because of love. The man chose this average girl because he has low self esteem and doesn't think that the high-class girls will want him. Those beautiful girls are being chased by guys with Range Rovers and Benz, so he is not close to their league. He goes for the average girl and tries to entice her with money. But since AWALT, she can see through his low self esteem.

When it comes to marriage, it is almost the same. Nowadays, men have fantasies of marriage rather than the reality. Men dream of playing with their kids, helping their wives with the dishes, and all that shit they see on TV. They think that, this is love. That's how love works. The reason they do this is because they believe that by making her happy, helping her out, she will love him or care for him which is not the case because women don't think that way.

I can go on and on with many examples of how a man's mind works. A man will look for an average girl to date or marry so that he can assume his provider position. This is why you see a girl will be rude to a guy but he will still go ahead to provide for her. Not just because he sees himself as a provider but also because he has low self esteem and feels worthless if he can't help his girl. He is also being drawn by his need for sex. He invests in her and can't pull out anymore. Women are smart.

Men don't love ideally. I deeply respect women because they're becoming smarter than men. They are seeing through a man's self esteem and a man's constant need to prove himself. A man wants to always show a woman that he can provide for her and he also wants sex. A woman doesn't want all men based on her preferences but she can take advantage of his urges to be a provider and need for sex and use it to enrich herself. Just like Mercy, Tasha, Erica, Nengi, Destiny Eitko, Tiwa Savage, Maria, Tonto Dikeh, Mercy Aigbe

Men need to understand that they are fooling themselves thinking that they love women. Love is just a word created from English language to make life look beautiful.

Mentholated:
All human relationships are transactional. Women realise this earlier than men.

By all, I mean 100%. Love does not exist.

Anyone you see that is deeply in love is either ignorant or insecure.

Wise and experienced people "fall in love" when they have established themselves in a relationship that will be beneficial in a meaningful way over a long period of time.

Nobody falls in love.

Some Guys Are Really A Disgrace To Manhood by Sopies: 11:14am

One of my ex gf turned FWB just visited me for the weekend, and from my observation I could only marvel at the level of simping from guys out there. This is a girl I quietly broke up with when I observed that she's this kind of girl that likes keeping guys around for monetary gains without really being sexually involved with them, she leads them on under the guise of being in a relationship with them promising them sex when she's ready. Of course the sex never comes till the scales falls off the magas eyes.

I just kept her for knacks and other financial perks since mumu guys is always loading her with money. She stumbled on my real gf one day in my house which led to a bitter breakup between us. Some months later we reconciled but based on FWB levels.

Now to the real gist, this girl is dating about four guys, the one she came to my house from his place already paid her school fees and other expenses. She even came with 15k that the guy gave her which we of course squandered together. The painful part was when she was on call with the guy, oga was sounding so clingy and needy, asking the girl to promise him that he won't share her with someone else. Person wey dey stroke my preek in readiness for another round of sex.

The guy brought up the issue of sex starvation and the babe immediately used reverse psychology on him by feigning anger and accusing him of being after her body. Oga started begging.....chain. This is an average looking girl with just small small curves here and there.

The next one called and it was still the same story, that one is based in Lagos and had sent her tp to visit him but she kept spending the money with excuses, Oga sent 22k in my presence for another tp with a promise of giving her 150k for business if she comes. Babe change am for am o, that if her coming is a prerequisite for the 150k that oga should keep his money. Oga started begging that she should give him time to gather the money.....Smh.....of course he hasn't even seen color of tight.

Another one called in the middle of a romance and the phone would occasionally fall of her hand while she's moaning, oga was on the line shouting hello.....hello....baby are you okay??....what are you doing....hello pls talk naa.....what's that sound..... Babe go pick up tell am say she dey experience mensuration cramp hence the sound......chai

I can go on and on, I've advised her to quit that lifestyle cos she might meet a guy that she won't scam and get away with it but she said she's doing nothing wrong.

Who do men this thing abeg I'm just so unhappy what my fellow guys are going through. One of them maga even has my number, I don't even know how he got it , each time dey have issue he would call me and I would tell him how to handle the girl so she will be loyal, the ode go carry every thing go tell the girl.

She's laying on my bed naked while one guy has been calling for like forever, she would pick the call and be rubbing the mouth piece on her hair, oga go dey shout hello hello. When she manage talk na tear she tear for the guy cut call, oga just dey drop text like rainfall, calling himself all kinds of derogatory name like idiot, foolish etc.

Honestly I'm sad, she's been touching me but I'm not just feeling her again

[size=16pt]Some Guys Are Really A Disgrace To Manhood by Sopies: 11:14am[/size]

One of my ex gf turned FWB just visited me for the weekend, and from my observation I could only marvel at the level of simping from guys out there. This is a girl I quietly broke up with when I observed that she's this kind of girl that likes keeping guys around for monetary gains without really being sexually involved with them, she leads them on under the guise of being in a relationship with them promising them sex when she's ready. Of course the sex never comes till the scales falls off the magas eyes.

I just kept her for knacks and other financial perks since mumu guys is always loading her with money. She stumbled on my real gf one day in my house which led to a bitter breakup between us. Some months later we reconciled but based on FWB levels.

Now to the real gist, this girl is dating about four guys, the one she came to my house from his place already paid her school fees and other expenses. She even came with 15k that the guy gave her which we of course squandered together. The painful part was when she was on call with the guy, oga was sounding so clingy and needy, asking the girl to promise him that he won't share her with someone else. Person wey dey stroke my preek in readiness for another round of sex.

The guy brought up the issue of sex starvation and the babe immediately used reverse psychology on him by feigning anger and accusing him of being after her body. Oga started begging.....chain. This is an average looking girl with just small small curves here and there.

The next one called and it was still the same story, that one is based in Lagos and had sent her tp to visit him but she kept spending the money with excuses, Oga sent 22k in my presence for another tp with a promise of giving her 150k for business if she comes. Babe change am for am o, that if her coming is a prerequisite for the 150k that oga should keep his money. Oga started begging that she should give him time to gather the money.....Smh.....of course he hasn't even seen color of tight.

Another one called in the middle of a romance and the phone would occasionally fall of her hand while she's moaning, oga was on the line shouting hello.....hello....baby are you okay??....what are you doing....hello pls talk naa.....what's that sound..... Babe go pick up tell am say she dey experience mensuration cramp hence the sound......chai

I can go on and on, I've advised her to quit that lifestyle cos she might meet a guy that she won't scam and get away with it but she said she's doing nothing wrong.

Who do men this thing abeg I'm just so unhappy what my fellow guys are going through. One of them maga even has my number, I don't even know how he got it , each time dey have issue he would call me and I would tell him how to handle the girl so she will be loyal, the ode go carry every thing go tell the girl.

She's laying on my bed naked while one guy has been calling for like forever, she would pick the call and be rubbing the mouth piece on her hair, oga go dey shout hello hello. When she manage talk na tear she tear for the guy cut call, oga just dey drop text like rainfall, calling himself all kinds of derogatory name like idiot, foolish etc.

Honestly I'm sad, she's been touching me but I'm not just feeling her again

Lightway:
Its funny that men can't handle the fact that they don't fall in love. They think all the sacrifices they did for women. The money they spent, the attention they provided, and all they gave was due to love. No. It wasn't. It was due to the fantasy of love.

Men have always been providers and attached their value to providing sustenance. When a man gets to a stage, he takes a woman and gives her his all. In the days of old, the strong men get to choose the best women who offer him her virginity, her womb, pleasure, and build his home.

These days, men are still trying to do the same thinking it is love. No, it is the same path our ancestors followed that we follow. Our ancestors that had so many wives. We follow the same path of providers.

But this time, women aren't second class citizens anymore. Virginity is no longer a priority. Women have a choice, they have a voice. Women can now provide for themselves. Even worse, the media has what they call "real men" and tells you that if you act as such you will get a woman. It tells men that, if you gist a woman and she rejects you or doesn't give a definite answer. Try harder.. In reality, she already knows you're not the best in her list and that she can do better. She will only choose you when there are no other options.

Why does an uneducated driver train a woman through school, provide for her with the hope that she will marry him when she graduates. It is not because of love. It is due to ignorance. He thinks that giving her all she wants will make her stick with him, even though he is uneducated. He thinks providing the world for her will keep her. He wants to have her and he follows the media's definition of a real man which says "a real man should take care of his girlfriend". if he knew how women work, then he will know he made a bad business deal.

That's not love, because love does not exist. Men don't love. The men that sacrifice for women are just ignorant. They are doing all that because it makes sense to give to someone when you have thinking that the person will give to you too. When you give her your all, she will give you her all. But that's not how women work. There is no love here. Just ignorance

Martinez39s, CaveAdullam, Ubunja. What's your response to this?

Its funny that men can't handle the fact that they don't fall in love. They think all the sacrifices they did for women. The money they spent, the attention they provided, and all they gave was due to love. No. It wasn't. It was due to the fantasy of love.

Men have always been providers and attached their value to providing sustenance. When a man gets to a stage, he takes a woman and gives her his all. In the days of old, the strong men get to choose the best women who offer him her virginity, her womb, pleasure, and build his home.

These days, men are still trying to do the same thinking it is love. No, it is the same path our ancestors followed that we follow. Our ancestors that had so many wives. We follow the same path of providers.

But this time, women aren't second class citizens anymore. Virginity is no longer a priority. Women have a choice, they have a voice. Women can now provide for themselves. Even worse, the media has what they call "real men" and tells you that if you act as such you will get a woman. It tells men that, if you gist a woman and she rejects you or doesn't give a definite answer. Try harder.. In reality, she already knows you're not the best in her list and that she can do better. She will only choose you when there are no other options.

Why does an uneducated driver train a woman through school, provide for her with the hope that she will marry him when she graduates. It is not because of love. It is due to ignorance. He thinks that giving her all she wants will make her stick with him, even though he is uneducated. He thinks providing the world for her will keep her. He wants to have her and he follows the media's definition of a real man which says "a real man should take care of his girlfriend". if he knew how women work, then he will know he made a bad business deal.

That's not love, because love does not exist. Men don't love. The men that sacrifice for women are just ignorant. They are doing all that because it makes sense to give to someone when you have thinking that the person will give to you too. When you give her your all, she will give you her all. But that's not how women work. There is no love here. Just ignorance

Joker09:
If you have a father that provides(or provided) food, shelter and other needs for your mom, you and your other siblings, that should open your blind eyes enough to know that men love sacrificially, but if you don't, then I understand where you are coming from.

I wasn't the one that told your father to simp for your mother and get cheated on and gave birth to a bastard like you.. take heart..

Sacrificial love... Because you train a woman through school so that you can marry her.. that's not love.

That's ignorance. A lack of knowledge on how women think and feel.

It's just like putting your money in investment schemes without doing a background check.

You will lose the money due to ignorance. A lack of knowledge on how investment schemes work

Smartb0y:
I refuse to entertain your ignorance

Then mind your business.... Busy body