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Foreign Affairs / Re: Ukraine President Zelensky Involved In Car Accident (photos, video) by like1: 10:03am On Sep 15, 2022
I am a Zelensky fan but I can't believe this. They didn't say as it happened

Not really believable, perhaps this is one of the vehicles in his motorcade, the president of a country in an ongoing war does not move in an armoured, properly bullet-proofed vehicle.

They want to achieve something with this.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Sweden Ends Neutrality, Joins Finland In Seeking NATO Membership by like1: 6:13pm On May 16, 2022
Demolakay:

And day same most powerful military alliance cannot invade a weak Russia, despite it contravening international laws by invading anoda country.All dey could do is covertly send weapons.Lets assume it's anoda country invading a sovereign state,will NATO look on ND just send weapons without putting deir foot on d ground? Russia is nt fighting a war in Ukraine,if Russia want to destroy Ukraine ND take it,it won't take Dem a week,just apply d normal chemical ND biological weapons,ND d rest will b history.Or how did u tink d USA chase out d Taliban in Afghanistan, Killed Saddam Hussein in Libya,ND all Oda wars dey've been involved in,just by hand to hand combat?if Russia tried wat d USA did in Libya in Ukraine,d war won't last one week.pls go do ur research.

This is because they are not stupid and wouldn't want to shoot themselves on the foot like Putin. They know Putin has nukes, eventhough Russia will be annihilated but not at zero cost. The cost and loss will also be huge to some NATO members. So they are not mad, idiotic and dumb like Putin. They are just waiting for the mad dog to go out of hand and use nukes and he will be taught the lesson of his life. Let him try first.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Sweden Ends Neutrality, Joins Finland In Seeking NATO Membership by like1: 5:59pm On May 16, 2022
AldrichAmes:


I don’t remember Russia setting a date for when Ukraine will fall - that was noise from western capitals who thought Russia would replicate American “shock and awe” and use its full military power. And this is the reason why they keep expecting Russia to mobilise, lol.

People need to understand that US and Russian military doctrines are different. US doctrine is mostly Nazi German doctrine with a sprinkle of old Soviet doctrine - with massive air power and heavy bombardment. Russian doctrine is mostly artillery and tank warfare deep in battle with attrition. Two different countries, two different mentalities and doctrines. Russia’s style does cost more lives but once they crush you - you’re crushed for generations.

The whole Sweden and Finland joining NATO is more symbolic than strategic since both have been indirectly part of NATO for over 2 decades. They just made it formality now. And they’re not different from Estonia and Lithuania that are NATO members. Ukraine is much more important due to Sea of Azov - losing that would cripple Russia.

Anyway, there’s a reason why Russians are the best chess players in the world. Russians are slow to react but when they react - it always come with a bigger blow. With the current CSTO meeting going on in Russia and the announcement of a dozen more countries joining the organisation - be on the lookout for Mexico, Cuba, Brazil, Venezuela and Argentina to join the next batch (Argentina is currently in Russia as an observer). Once they join CSTO - the US will cry and throw its toys out of the pram, lol.

Lol, you will just be living on illusion, let Argentina or Cuba try any nonsense with USA and they will see. Russia wey never feed finish, na them want come save them. Lol. You don't know the power of money and technology. Stay there with your wishful thinking. Even Argentina or Cuba won't try that now, they will only wish.

Money speaks. Russia is too broke to be of any influence. Like too broke. Make money first, then technology, then you can start looking for power and troubles. You can't be broke and be looking for trouble, hunger go humble you.

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Religion / Re: Fr. Timothy Ngwuta's Arrest: Statement From The Catholic Diocese Of Abakaliki by like1: 10:09am On Apr 26, 2022
Since the priest was never a shorty for the said Jude Ariom, and if it has been established he didn't participate in the crime and didn't facilitate the disapperance of Jude, why then is he been held.

I just think the Abakaliki diocese is not strong enough in 'dirty 'politics in the state, try this with Onitsha, Awka, Enugu diocese, in an unjust case like this, the priest won't spend upto a day in police custody, if not top officers would be transferred sooner than later to make way to do their bidding.

If this is actually the story, then there is no strong evidence to hold him.

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Family / Re: My Father Is Dragging My Mom's Property With Me by like1: 2:30pm On Apr 16, 2022
OP you have to come clean with the origin of this problem, or we hear your fathers side. I am ashamed to say that our generation have learnt bad things of not taking care of our parents at old age.

I can bet that this OP's father needs money, barely can afford to feed and take his medications regularly and the OP doesn't take of his father financially, so the old man is resorting to selling properties.

Let us hear from your father. Moreover he has all the rights over you to those properties, na him marry your mum nobi you marry your mum.

OP respect yourself, take of your old man or Bleep off and allow him to fend for himself the way he can.

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Family / Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by like1: 11:58am On Apr 15, 2022
No try am, if you have some cash, find him one-room somewhere and pay for 1 year rent before you leave and make sure he vacates the house like a week before you travel.

Not like your cousin is not a good personor your wife is wayward, but Goat MUST eat yam if they are both left together unsupervised. If you are really a nice guy, don't leave both of them in that situation because we know what the outcome will be.
Foreign Affairs / Re: How Russia Rescued The Ruble by like1: 2:27pm On Apr 08, 2022
InoGetJoy:

lolz......thes Europeans you're hailing miscalculated thoroughly. They never expected things will turn out this way even with their sanctions. Riots are breaking out in European cities around the world, but you wont see it on mainstream media. US of A that is pushing for more and more sanctions are buying Russian gas from the back and selling to Europe at an inflated rate. In the end, Russia will come out stronger
Lolz....learn to read between the lines

No riot is breaking out in any European city, na few people who are of same ideology like you and some mumu Africans especially Nigerians in Europe (they should have stayed back in their country), will just carry flag and enter street to misbehave.

No sane person will support Russia attacking Ukraine in a physical war in this century, as the consequences and set back for all is brutal. No one wins, e go touch everybody. So why not go tactical, political and economical to achieve your aim.

It will touch Ukrainians and, Russians, Europeans, Americans, like virtually everyone.

Russians who are already kind of stigmatised anywhere outside Russia before now, will even get more of it with this.

Even Putin is not even at rest, if he works 12 hours a day before now, now he has to work more than 20 hours a day. He gets more security conscious of his life. And last last, his days as Russian president are numbered. He will definitely not be there in the next four years. He is setting everyone back, many in Europe and Russians wants prosperity to enjoy life, nobody wants the olden days war lifestyle. Even Putin doesn't want war in Russia, why he is also being careful. That war is totally useless, like meaningless and useless.

Nobody gains, it is a lose lose for all, both now and in the future.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Russia Attacks Kramatorsk Train Station In Ukraine, 39 People Killed by like1: 2:03pm On Apr 08, 2022
Johel:



Very good...what sanctions can the western bastards bring up again?...they don't know their sanctions are only provoking Putin into going harder...Las Las, they will beg Putin to stop.

Are you guys nuts or what? For real? So it is about who gets humbled and who begs who. We Africans truly deserve the way everyone in the world sees us, like for real?
Foreign Affairs / Re: Russia Attacks Kramatorsk Train Station In Ukraine, 39 People Killed by like1: 2:00pm On Apr 08, 2022
Topmaike007:
that's what happen during war...zalensky could have stopped it now it would take them years to rebuild and lives lost can not be recovered

No sympathy whatsoever, how would have Zelensky stopped it, how? Russia is the one attacking and Ukraine is defending and you think its Zelensky because he refused to surrender the freedom of Ukraine to Russia.

At this point, it is all clear this is not about joining NATO. Zelensky has made it clear, they want to join the EU for economic prosperity and not NATO for any military gain.
Foreign Affairs / Re: How Russia Rescued The Ruble by like1: 11:11am On Apr 07, 2022
Theknowledge:
I mentioned this to a friend in March.

Putin has been in power for over 20years while other countries that placed sanctions on Russia have government changed every 4-8years.

That the invasion has been well planned and executed from the very onset- as his time in power have been used to gather Intel on this nations

There is no way he planned well, for sure he miscalculated. He didn't see it coming, now he is pausing and halting operations, to save Russia's economy first, save his seat and his country. He didn't calculate well enough. This is actually the game plan of the west, as they wouldn't want any physical war with any one, as everyone looses, even if you win your opponent and he/she surrenders.

So now he will be very busy replanning and rescheduling to save his economy first, then the physical war will be pending.

The west is definitely smarter, they know no one gains in war, this is what Putin should have done, tactically cripple Ukraine and achieve his aim, that any physical war in this century will be frowned at by all, especially in Europe.

Europeans get sense die and they like themselves too. Not like us wey we no even like ourselves and want our own good.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Czech Republic Becomes The First NATO Country To Send Tanks To Ukraine by like1: 9:56am On Apr 07, 2022
DimIsaac10:
Everyone talking about NATO. . Is Russia not even one of the founding fathers of NATO? Are Russia alliances not in NATO? So we all think if they and the allies pulls out it won't weaken NATO?.
The best NATO can do is to help prevent the invasion. No one wants war.. Russia is the largest country in the world and argurably the strongest in military without external bodies.. The Ukraine Russia are invading is the second largest country in Europe.
The west is fighting for her interest..
The east is fighting for her interest..
Africa don't have no interest but to either support Russia or America. ..

You don't know what you are saying, In most situations, having the largest land mass is irrelevant. What matters most is number of inhabitants. Think of China and India.

Russia alliances? in NATO? Even China perceived to be their alliance won't waste time to throw them under the bus so as to take their supposed position in the world power order. Putin over-estimated a lot of things, e don dey clear for him eye. But the assurance is, there is no soft-landing for him at this time, everyone wants him out.

I THINK if Putin has carried the war and destruction to Asia, middle-east or Africa, no one will care so much. what their pain is, what effrontery to stage war in Europe at this time, in this century.

The west we all know are very selfish, they want theirs first before any other thing. The only reason they are much interested in this war, is because condoning war in Ukraine is the same thing as condoning war in Germany or France, they don't want it.

Even Putin can't condone war in Russia, none of them want war in their countries, so they are really mad with him for that. They really know what it takes to build a city, they understand the setback.

Take it to the bank, they won't rest till Putin it destroyed. I think they feel he committed an unforgivable sin.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Ukrainian Forces Recapture Trostyanets, Poltavka And Malyniv From Russian Forces by like1: 8:56am On Mar 27, 2022
The western media propaganda and western media brainwashing crew, oya food don land grin grin

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Russian Tank Regiment Commander Kills Himself Over Unserviceable Vehicles by like1: 7:39am On Mar 27, 2022
obailala:
When I see this question asked repeatedly, I cant help but laugh at the naivety. You must really think the Russians are so jobless to start responding to every fable dropped in the media. You obviously don't understand the meaning of propaganda especially when its being used as a tool of warfare by one side which totally controls the media. Are you aware you're being fed with only one side of the story over and over again? Even if Russia responds, are you aware you wouldn't even be allowed to hear of it?

When last did you hear of the death of a Ukrainian soldier? The media apparently only talks of the death of thousands of Russian soldiers and then the death of hundreds of Ukrainian women and children.

Even this one you are saying is from western media, stop brainwashing yourself with western media propaganda. Carry your bag enter Moscow to get the real news, as western media blocked everything.

Stop listening to western media propaganda. Russia captured all Ukraine within 3 days, they have been holding Zelensky since, western media has refused this to get out. Stop getting brainwashed.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Russian Tank Regiment Commander Kills Himself Over Unserviceable Vehicles by like1: 7:35am On Mar 27, 2022
godliman:
Let's suppose this is another propaganda as many call it, one question is still begin for answer, why has the almighty Russian Army not yet captured kyiv after 5 weeks of fighting?
What about the dreaded 60km long tank convoy?

It is not true, it is western media propaganda, stop brainwashing yourself with western media. Russia has taken control of the whole of Ukraine within 3 days and captured Zelensky, grin grin
Foreign Affairs / Re: In Reversal, Biden Maintains US Right To Use Nukes In A First-Strike Scenario by like1: 7:18am On Mar 27, 2022
usj:
I would have loved to point out a few publications for you to read yourself but unfortunately I'm so exhausted now. Please don't follow the Western media they would only brain wash you. The have chosen a side which clearly show how bias they are. Abeg another time make I sleep first

Your reply is that I should stop reading western media, It's alright!!!

Western media western media, why did Russia not put effort to make Russian media the popular ones. You think to be world power you will just be one, just because you have nukes.

Don't direct me to go read anything anywhere. Tell me the negotiation efforts and deals Putin has offered to Ukraine before starting the war, since western media would not allow it to get out.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: In Reversal, Biden Maintains US Right To Use Nukes In A First-Strike Scenario by like1: 8:50pm On Mar 26, 2022
usj:


Thanks for this line of argument. I like people like you because you can do some research to back up you argument. But, have your heard of the bio chemical labs in Ukraine? The one USA built with the help of WHO? What's the difference between that and a nuclear plant. USA is so hypocritical they have done worse that the whole combined. When it is America doing the invasion/west then its okay but when its Russia then its evil.

Even Russia has indirectly acknowledged there is no such lab in Ukraine, what are you saying? It was all propaganda. Go and read yesterdays press release from Russia on what they want to achieve in Ukraine.

Did Putin try to make a deal with NATO against Ukraine joining NATO and they refused.?

it is tyranny to just wake up and attack a sovereign nation, without trying to go out for all possible peace making processes first. It is against international law.

There is no invasion ever that can be compared to what Putin is doing, why did he ever deny he was planning to attack Ukraine? It's illegal in all ramifications.

Have you asked yourself why Ukrainians removed their former leader, and chose someone with campaign promises to align more with the west? Putin annexed, Crimea, conducted referendum for separatists groups in Ukraine, against the wish of Ukrainians, so they know if they fold their hands, he will definitely come for them, which he didn't fail to do.

USA is not 100% right with all their decisions, they really go with America first before any other, but the world is in much safer hands with USA as world power than Russia, China, Israel .

Most of major wars is caused by land annexation and these later world power wannabes countries are known for eyeing one land belonging to others.

Personally. one of the reasons I support USA as world power, is the same reason I will rather choose to leave Nigeria for USA instead of any fu*k*ng Russia, China, Israel or North Korea. I remain in Nigeria with Buhari than live in any of these countries.

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Romance / Re: I Suspect My Fianceé Is Cheating On Me With Her Bestie Banker by like1: 2:26pm On Mar 25, 2022
Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

Before taking that bold step do this and see what her reactions are. Tell her that you are no longer comfortable with the guy, that she should cease all communication, seeing and visits what so ever. If she starts that mind games, stand your ground. Let her know that at this point you are ready to call it quits if she doesn't cease all communications with him.

If she does it easily, trust me they have nothing going on but if she refuse, bruh let her go, you have tried and cleared your conscience too.
Travel / Re: Should I Build A House Or Relocate With 7m Naira? by like1: 2:41pm On Mar 22, 2022
Ajakaiye83:
Pls I need your advice. I am loosing it and I need your advice.

I have 7m cash at hand .should I relocate or build a house with it?
I have a land in ikorodu and ijoko axis with foundation done .

As per relocating,I dont want to go through study route.i dont think I can couple with work and schooling.

Pls advice me

Yes, he alsready has foundation done, so 7 million can roof, plaster and put doors in the house, if the house is like 3 to 4 bedroom or so. It won't do the real finishing but atleast you have a house and a roof, which you can always furnish as you want.


As for the choice of relocating or completing the house, it depends on a number of things, how urgent do you or your family need the house and hoe much do you currently make in Nigeria.

Truth is, the easiest way these days to settle abroad via obtaining a long term resident permit, is through studies, marriage/family or entering the country in the first place with a work visa. That said, you are the only one to make the decision, considering the circumstances surrounding.

We don't know the situation around you, so it will be hard to advise for or against. Check your situation and decide.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Sunday Was The Most Difficult For Our Troops, Ukraine Admits by like1: 1:04pm On Mar 01, 2022
excanny:


Its not about justifying. Its about analyzing the strength you have against a powerful enemy. Why take risks when you know in the end you can't win. Why not surrender and save lives and properties?

Lol, surrender to save which life and properties. The owners of the life and properties see surrendering as already losing the life and properties, as living the life after surrendering will be meaningless, so they prefer to fight to finish, and at least not die cowards. People who have self worth don't think like we do in Nigeria, there is no need for the life if you don't have to live the life the way you want. What the Bleep is the need for the fucking life if your can't live it the way you want.

There is a reason Ukrainians prefer to be controlled by NATO instead of being controlled by Russia. Both are evil but then follow the lesser evil with better gains and freedom. Imagine following a country that can't even feed their own, and upon that are very authoritative and very controlling just because they possess a lot of nuclear weapons. Like what is the gain in aligning with them, like what, just so that they will not kill me, imagine!!!. Like I will see who know road and follow who no sabi road.

I personally have same mind like Ukrainians, and this is why they are all backing their leaders. We rather all die than allow Russia dictate for us. At least after we are all dead, they can now dictate for empty lands. Of course Putin doesn't want to dictate to empty lands, he wants to dictate to people, why he doesn't want to doll out the nuclear weapon, why he is not also destroying properties that much. He wants to dictate to Ukrainians but they all rather die than it happen.

So why does Putin want to dictate to Ukrainians, if not just authoritative fantasies and useless lust for power. The war is really useless and out of useless fantasy of one man. One of Putin's plan is to scare the government and they run away or perhaps the people revolt and oust the govt.. But noticing this is not happening, he is replanning and bet me if he gets frustrated so much, he will open up the nuclear weapons randomly to everyone. He is that mad. This is in particular will not be in favour of anyone. We will suffer the consequences together and start building the world again.

So don't be so happy that your favourite hardman is in war, because if he gets frustrated too much, e go touch everybody and of course Russia will never be that which they want simply because they don't have the financial muscle and current technology. Nuclear weapons can scare and destroy but they don't put food on the table. You need both military might, money and current tech to control the world now, which Russia lacks. Even china is in a better position to control the current world than Russia because they are super rich but it won't be easy for them because they are 'openly' authoritative like Russia, USA is also authoritative but at least they are democratic, 'civil', 'cunny' and less deadly about it.

Freewill is what will not be easy to take away from humans.

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Family / Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by like1: 2:25pm On Jan 18, 2022
Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

No take am to heart, when you marry you will understand. Most of Naija ladies are like that, they really like to oppress others. It's in their DNA, that slapping the maid, should have revealed all to you.

If I am you, I will stop going to your brother's house since you have a family house in same city. You guys should just allow her. Relate with your brother outside, on phone or when he comes to the family house.

Na so most naija ladies be when it comes to in-laws, especially if na their husband get the money. There are few though, even though they are angry inside but they get conscience and pretend to accept in-laws.But then it's nice they pretend.

Your bro is not jazzed, he just doesn't want verbal alterations. She will continue like that, till one day your bro is fed up and change it for her.

After you have married, you will understand your bro.
Business / Re: B-lord Acquires New Range Rover (Photo) by like1: 6:00pm On Jan 14, 2022
Reality3080:
it's obvious u haven't been to a club b4,so u pay to d private account of d club owner abi?

So if u buy fuel at forte oil u will pay directly into otedola account Abi?

Only God knows how u people always try to defend d obvious, from day 1 everyone knows he's not clean

The report says it was in Cubana's account? Cubana is his business name. His name is Obinna Iyiegbu.

Moreover, there is no rule that says business money should not go to private account.

Another, the question should be, why do you wish so much that he is involved and caught with the drug business. Your drug dey miss, or he took money from you?

We know he is not clean in the sense that he must have bit the system to make money, which is the case in Nigeria for almost all successful businessmen, the typical thing we call hustle. So no one who is in business in Nigeria and successful is clean, these are part of why the system is messed up. We all encourage beating the system.

Also, there is no justification he is doing drugs whatsoever, his business justifies his lifestyle. It is just like saying Dangote is doing drugs.. Maybe he does but then his business justifies why he has the money we know.

So it's better to wait till he is caught or proven so, don't be in a hurry mate. But then looks like you will wait forever grin

So if not envy and hate-pro max, there is no justification why you want him to be roped in so bad, like no justification at all.The working for his lifestyle is clear.

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Business / Re: B-lord Acquires New Range Rover (Photo) by like1: 3:12pm On Jan 14, 2022
ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
you are a thief, no two way about it, criminal minded, those who will investigate you will be smarter than you.

Lol, I am thief because I sold services and goods to a client without asking and verifying their source of income. I gladly agree oo. I be thief and I go dey thief dey go. Leave am for me, it's not ur thief, your thief no dey loss. grin

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Business / Re: B-lord Acquires New Range Rover (Photo) by like1: 3:06pm On Jan 14, 2022
ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
na Obi cubana bn day give us motivational speach asking us to work hard, now it has been established by NDLEA that huge amount of money was paid into his account from drug dealers, is that the definition of hard work?

Story!!! Because you are a drug dealer, you come my club with friends, pop Champagne and cognac, your bill reach 40 milla. I should not collect my money because of NDLEA and EFFC. Story for the gods, all na part of the hustle, we go settle NDLEA and EFFC and still collect the money again if you come my club ball.

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Family / Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart And My Wife Wants To Sabotage My Job. by like1: 9:39pm On Jan 08, 2022
oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!


What worked for me might not work for you.
So this is my story, My wife started such, always shouting, going crazy like a mad market woman on a daily basis, I swear, we dated for 3 years before marriage and for once I never saw such. I tried to stop arguing or exchanging words with her, started buying random gifts here and there, but these acts were very temporary, as the effect last not up to 4 hours and she starts again. I was really frustrated, I didn't want to report to anyone as our marriage was new.

But then out of frustration, I didn't know when I changed it for her, I started my own madness, anytime she starts, I will just start behaving like a tout, and later leave straight to the nearest hotel. On the first time, I stayed there for 3 days. I dropped no money at home while I was staying at the hotel, if she calls I will pick. When she starts ranting of not droppping money at home, I told her I used the money to pay for hotel accommodation. After, the second night, she starts pleading I come home that she has changed. I stayed one more day, returned home. This calmed her down for near a week or so and she started again. I repeated same, this time she had to report me to our parents and hers too. They called I told them straight that they should inform her that if she doesn't behave, next one I will leave the house for her.

On my return, the second time, I now carry problem come and totally changed it, I started shouting and behaving like a tout why she should report me, I did the shouting for days. Till she now resolved that she has finally changed and started advising me that I shouldn't behave that way since I am older than her and the man of the house and should be the one advising and calming her down. She really changed this time, since then when there is an issue, even if we don't agree, she argues and get angry like a normal human being without that rascal shouting and all. Peace have returned for the time and everybody is happy again.

But in any case, I have resolved to look for another accommodation if she continues.

Not sure what will work for you, try a bit the hard way and see if it solves the problem. You really have to fight for your peace. If the hard way doesn't resolve the problem, then true true she is tired of the marriage, just find your way. Leave your daughter with her, she would always be fine.

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Am I the only one who opened this post only to look for ALEX, the multi-award winning award giver? grin

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