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ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
na Obi cubana bn day give us motivational speach asking us to work hard, now it has been established by NDLEA that huge amount of money was paid into his account from drug dealers, is that the definition of hard work?

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

Mancrossfire:
From what I read up there all red flags were shown but ignored. The man is a SIMP right from his name down to his behaviour and to make matter worse he have a bitter vindictive divorced mother in law.
I dated a very beautiful girl years back that turns head. All my sisters love this girl because of how beautiful she was and they wanted me to marry her. I stylishly ghost out of the relationship for two reasons...
1... she was short tempered
2... her mother had three failed marriages and as far as life is concerned her mother is her bestie.

So mr vivian please enjoy your predicament with Italian delicacies biko...no come nairaland come dey disturb us

Femi8586:
Simping is bad... Kai

A woman has been denying you sex since you married her

She has made your life so miserable..

She is even cheating on you on top that.

She even manipulated you to the extent of changing the names of all your properties to include hers

She's now filing for divorce so that she can take over all of your properties.

She petitioning Italian government to relieve you of your job and also deport you.

She frustrated all your mum's effort to see her grandchildren till the innocent woman died.



Simping is so bad..

ayatt:
Vivian? He must be a SIMPle man

Mrporanir:
Davido is broke , baba use style dey indirectly beg for funds. Don't be fooled.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

like1:
I really had a nice guy as a PhD supervisor. I remember my first ever first author publication, I was a PhD student (so not a staff of the University). The topic was given to me by my supervisor (idea his), he guided me on what and what calculations to do, he followed me up. So I was only doing the calculations and reporting to him. He drafted the manuscript, I prepared some figures which he later totally changed. I was the first author of the publication, his name was the last+corresponding author, another Professor and senior researcher who were part of the discussions were also authors in the paper. This is how it should be.

Stop treating young researchers and students badly. Yes the student cannot draft up and submit the article on his own, that is why there is a supervisor. Even though the idea of the work was yours, but no one forced you to accept the student, you should have been independent and do the so called 'grunt' work yourself and publish yourself.

It is academically unethical (check meaning of unethical as you were asking where the rules are written/authority) if a student principally did the so called 'grunt =(lab/field/computer)' work under your supervision and he/she gets 'shortchanged'.

Saying the University needs a staff bla bla, can be sorted out with email correspondence in the article and is not enough reason for the student who did the 'grunt' work not to be the first author.

We all know publications are not just about doing the lab work, more time is spent on writing, editing and analysing results and going through the publication review process which actually is the work of the supervisor for a 'fresh' student. But then these are not enough reasons to shortchange students. Stop academic maltreatment.

ivolt:
Try to argue without sentiments.
It makes your contribution more credible.
You declared the OP wrong with no reason.


What makes it unethical?
The "research" is part of grading for a particular degree in which a student publication is not required
since the OP would have stated otherwise if it were the case.
The work belongs to the university.
The lecturer isn't required to publish the paper.
Now that he reached out to the student, the student could outrightly reject the publication
without any reason or negotiate a new arrangement.
One thing is clear, it is almost certain that he can never get the work published on his own that
is if he understands the work in the first place. Which reputable journal will accept a submission from a
random student who could have cooked up all the data in his room?


Which ethics make the demand and on whose authority are you making these claims


You still don't get it.
The fact that he did the grunt work doesn't make him an author.
Publication and grunt work are entirely separate discipline.
You would know better if you understand how research works gets published.

deadie:
I have supervised an MSc project that lead to a publication. I was the first author.

I supervised another MSc student and gave her the condition that I will write the manuscript and be the first author. She rejected as she wanted to write it and be the first author. I told her to go ahead. She couldn't write the paper and nothing was ever published. By the way, I am based in Germany. Supervisor being the first author is normal, depending on the input.

hilltop007:
My final year project supervisor called me to summarize my research work of 2 years for publication. He sent me a copy of one of his ex-student work that he published. It was only his ex student who did the work with guidance from my supervisor, but the published paper has two authors; my supervisor (main author) and his ex student. Only my supervisor's contact was also in the paper.

I strongly believe that's what he will also do with mine. Should I give him the go ahead? If I don't publish it, it will probably rot. Or is there a way for me to publish it myself?

KillMNKnow:
So those every other criminals. The business is to wash the ill gotten money. The Bratva, Sinaloa cartels, MS 13, COSA nostra, triads, Yakuza, D company, Camorra, hells angels, they all have clubs using it to push drugs, guns, assassinations, robberies, prostitutions, pornos, just about any crimes you can think of.

This one Cubana have added advantage, operating in lawless, corrupt environment with archaic security system, borderless country. With his shrine engaging in Juju it's makes them more dangerous than D company and MS13

doyinisaac:
How do you people reason like this??your own case is totally different entirely...you dated the person...in her own case she did not date the guy and she said she was not interested in him...is a different case entirely..

Ikinternational:
Look at people celebrating failure.
Are you people even from Anambra sef
A blind man can see Maduka was the best choice.

Absolutely nothing democratic happened in those voting booths

Africans behaving like Africans.
What else is new

OtemAtum:
If NIN and database of your sim registration showing your picture and fingerprints are not enough to get your sim card back, then the sim registration exercise and the time-wasting NIN registration processes are just wasted efforts. This is why young and well-schooled youths are needed in power, not these very old goons.