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Out-dated dating advice
Forget Grandma’s wisdom – the modern dating scene has evolved and some of the most classic Dating Advice is now obsolete. Match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor brings you up to speed

Wait 3 days to call
In the olden days, boy met girl, boy got girl’s phone number, boy waited three days to ring girl, boy looked mysterious and exotic. But those days have gone. In modern times when all of us carry around smart phones that can call, text, email, social-network, and IM, let alone challenge anyone to a game of online Scrabble at any time, waiting three days to get in touch just makes boy look like he ran out of call credit or like he’s trying too hard to be “cool”. Really, just get in touch the next day. Within 24 hours. If you don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard then don’t try too hard – just pick up the phone and say something simple like, “I really enjoyed meeting you and I’d love to go out sometime soon. Fancy it?” Don’t agonise over being funny or clever – the more run-of-the-mill you are in early communications, the more confident and experienced you’ll seem, because it’ll look like you ask people out all the time. And that, believe it or not, is sexy.

Wait 3 dates to get intimate
Fifty years ago, the Pill had only just been invented and it was still the norm for women to wait until at least engagement before they got horizontal with their boyfriend. Time has marched on and these days, some women feel they’re being uncommonly chaste if they wait just until they leave the pub. The three-date rule was therefore invented to bridge the gap – couples were advised to go to bed together on the third date, and not a moment sooner. Good advice? No. While there are indisputably huge benefits to waiting before going to bed with a partner – you both get to know each other’s true personality and character before you take that next step; you don’t risk becoming chemically attached to each other, because you’re not producing Oxytocin, the “bonding hormone”, that gets released during intercourse; dating without sex keeps things very light and fun – three dates simply isn’t long enough to get to know a person beyond what they like to order for dessert. If you want to wait, better to wait three months. If you don’t want to wait, then still don’t stick to an arbitrary three-date curfew, as it removes all the mystery and excitement – better to ambush them at some unexpected time.
Whether you wait or don’t, it’s how you act afterwards that will dictate how the relationship progresses. If you act the same afterwards, there’s a good chance you’ll stay together. But if you become clingy, needy or moody, things will stall or stop. If you know you become emotionally invested afterwards (and many people do, it’s normal and natural!), then wait.

Make your partner jealous
If your partner seems less attentive towards you, less interested, and is taking you for granted, you should make them jealous, right? Wrong! Just pull back and concentrate on YOUR LIFE for a while. Anything else will look desperate and needy. For example, if you take your partner to a party and spend the evening chatting-up somebody else, your partner will feel insulted and offended, not attracted. It’ll look obvious and fake. Instead, take your partner to a party and talk to everyone else – be the life and soul, flit around, have fun. Don’t concentrate on your moody mate, throw yourself into enjoying the evening. Or go to the party with your friends and don’t invite them, wait for them to invite you out somewhere and fit it in along with all the other fun, interesting activities you have planned. That is what attracts people: self-assured, well-rounded people who pursue their own interests, ambitions and goals. If you fear your partner is losing interest in you, lose interest in them for a while and fill up your time with things you love to do. Your partner will either feel the loss of your company and come around again, or they’ll fade away and you’ll be upset but you’ll still have a successful, interesting life to support you.

Girls, play down your accomplishments
It used to be said that women should never try to impress a man with their accomplishments – her “job” was to seem impressed by him. Luckily, this isn’t true today. Recent research by Forbes in the US has shown that men are now more likely than ever before to want a wife with drive and ambition. A long-running study that follows the traits which single Americans want in a spouse revealed earlier this year that “Ambition and industriousness” has risen to enter the top 10 for the first time ever. It’s still only at number 10 but we can be sure it will continue to rise as more and more males see the benefits of having a clever, successful wife who can share the financial burden of supporting a home and family. So girls, don’t be afraid to shine on your date! If you just got a promotion, tell him about it. If there’s a long-term goal you long to achieve, reveal all. Your perfect partner will be one who is keen to help you reach for your personal stars.

Men, use money to impress a girl
Fellas, if you’ve ever thought that the only way to dazzle the ladies was to flash around some cash, read on – your bank-manager will thank you, as will your partner. For years it’s been generally regarded that women are most attracted to men who can afford to shower them with expensive gifts, jewellery and dinners. But the Lovegeist report – the UK’s biggest annual survey into singletons’ attitudes towards love – has consistently found that “thoughtful gestures” mean far more to women than “extravagant gestures”. Budget-conscious babes would rather their partner regularly performed sweet, meaningful actions (like getting rid of spiders, remembering to do household jobs she hates, making thoughtful presents, even just really listening to what she says) than buying occasional expensive presents. It’s just one of the ways that Beta males can out-perform Alphas in the romantic world. Women seek partners who will be good providers, but also who are dependable, safe and reliable. Remembering her favourite flowers is perfect – it will earn you far more love than the largest bunch of something she doesn’t like.



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BABE!:
He is your Fiance, so obviously you guyz have come a long way (I'm guessing you have). So, any break-up now is gonna be hard for you two.

Honestly, I think he's gonna to it again! So, it's up to you to decide!

spot on

i was about to post this. Is this guy exonerating them or what?

I have read a lot of comments on this issue and I have the following to say
1. In as much as we need to move to a cashless environment< i strongly believe Nigeria is not ready (infrastructure, legal framework, policy, security and identity management) to do a sudden change over instead of parallel run arrangement in the change management

In a country where most of the people cannot even put their signature down on a paper, The illiteracy level is so low to the extent that you have more unbanked than the banked and the next thing to do is to introduce epayment.
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EVEN IN THE WESTERN WOrld. SH-IT LIKE THE BELOW IS HAPPENING. To the super power that were even ready regardless of We Nigerians that we cannot even have 24 hours power supply.



Sony to investigate regional hacking

    Middle East: 4 hours, 17 minutes ago

Following the recent breach of its global gaming network, Sony said it is working hard to find out how many of its more than 500,000 Middle East gamers have had their personal and credit card details stolen by hackers, The National has reported. "There is not a high propensity for people in the Middle East to put their details online," Tim Stokes, the sales and marketing director for PlayStation Sony Gulf, said. The company is calculating a breakdown of global network users, he said

TOKYO — Sony will reveal details of its internal probe into a massive theft of personal data from users of its PlayStation Network on Sunday, plus a timetable for bringing the network back into action, it said.

The electronics giant said Saturday it would hold a news conference on the security breach of the online network, which may have involved the theft of credit card details and which it said this week was carried out by hackers.

The PlayStation Network and Qriocity streaming music service were shut down on April 20 after what Sony described as an "external intrusion" and remain offline as the company upgrades security and works with Federal investigators.

The United States, Britain, Australia and Hong Kong are investigating the hacking and theft of personal data from the network, which has 77 million users worldwide.

SONY'S PlayStation hacking incident has affected around 715,000 local consumers, in one of the largest security and privacy breaches ever to hit Australian shores.

With credit card details amongst the information that could have been stolen by hackers, the NSW Police fraud squad advises users to check with their issuing bank before deciding whether to cancel their cards.

The Australian Federal Police has warned that if customers' personal data was hosted offshore, it would not be protected by Commonwealth law.

However, banks have been quick to allay fears, saying customers will be compensated for any "genuine fraud cases".

As reported earlier, Sony Computer Entertainment Australia said personal details such as names, billing and email addresses, and birthdays is among the information that hackers may have acquired during the security breach, which occurred between April 17 and April 19.

congrats

Make i dey quickly increase my post this year be4 dem shenk me again :oo
Which kain birgmi, na london oo

OP , sorry ooo, u sound like a dundeee, a stupid person.
Is he d one dat create you that he is now feeling like a don by making u attached to him.

If truly is ur ex, then put him as a past tense in ur life. It is not easy but detach ur emotions babie, detach urself from any soul tie.
Yes its not easy to go naked in front of another new man but u gotta move on.

dont call him, dont allow him to touch u again, he can't undo anything but want to get you attached to him the more.

Run away from him, stop sulking and move on

From experience, when a good girl has turned bad, she is bad forever.
DO NOT MARRY SOMEBODY THAT YOUR LOVE IS NO LONGER IN HER HEART

If it is not flowing, it is not, you cant force it out.

She will continually compare you to the guy and how can you trust that she had it only once with him.

Move on bruv

Na so so women's response full this space, Where are the men(especially those dat has served in the northern secondary school)?.

Well, I think you owe ur flatmate a call to intimate him of the happenings around.

Then I got ur corp member froend to blame, Though this small northern girls can be coming with their ABUNA to him, In as much as he could not resist them, he knows better to have use condom or withdrawal method or give the girl morning after pills now.

Put yourself in the girls father's position. Imagine your 15 years old girl being impregnated by a corper!!!
what will you do? embrace d dude for taking care of the young girls cervix instead of national service shey?

Call him and tell him of the occurence and he should find a way of taking care of that girl.

My 1 butut

To an average fake nlders, all story are fake. U got ur choice, believe it or discard.

and u don't have to call me a yeye man 'cause I posted a story for others to learn from.

the pennis cannot be at its best after going thru dat trauma and btw its not the size we r interested here but the act of wickedness

the Surgeon has worked on him,

A patient just came in today to the hospital this morning.he is involved in a fight with his wife.the wife grabbed the scrotum and squeezed out the testes.isn't this wickedness of the highest order and abuse of the organ for replication.

I must say well done for updating this regularly. Kudos

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South Africa generates 45,000 MGW with a population of about 45 million while Nigeria generates 3800 MGW with a population of over 150 million

Please where is the proof to back up this claim. Light still goes off in SA

U have to be mindful of the atmosphere and the timing. I would inform him indirectly to watch out.

Genius, which one now, I be man oo,

Unsuregirl,
I have read all ur post and I can't help but laff like OBJ.
Prov 14 v1. Every wise woman builds her house ,
It takes wisdom to build a loving home.

I don't know the school of thought u belong to but the successful women that i have known and remained happilly marrried do stoop low to conquer.
that u are d same age does not imply that u have it as 50/50 thing in ur home.

When the scripture says RESPECT ur husband in the first verse be4 Love ur wife, it means a lot

Do u know what I see here.
i am not sure you love him and I do not think u are matured enuff to know what marriage is. I doubt if both of you are ready for it.
You have gone too far by making him feel uneasy 'cause you want sex when he is tired already. U don't demand it, u earn it.

Its like he is telling u to stop ur heavy menstral flow cause he wants in and he does not want the bed to be stained. What would u do?
I am sure u would have asked him to be patient with u, lets assume he started making you uneasy couple with the fact that u still got menstrual pain to cope with after pleading with him to be patient. How will you react.

One successful advice to young couples like urs is dat no matter what, try to resolve ur differences the day it happened. do not allow 3rd party (inlaws) to be involved and  do not let ur ego ruin it.

If you value that marriage of yours, you have to let go of ur ego and be submissive, learn how to use your power of influence as a woman to have ur way, then u are still massaging his ego and u are busy recording success and scoring points by achieving ur goal.

So pick up ur phone now, send him a text like. [b]Honey, i am so sorry for pushing you to the wall, I was just missing u badly that i wanted u inside, i dont know I was doing it the wrong way, by the way My cheeks are extremely painful, u need to come and massage it for 2 hours and promise me that no matter how naughty i am it wont happen again. And ur punishment for hitting me that way is SIX rounds of drilling on the bed at my call, no appeal. Love u. [/b]and lets see what happens

Take it easy on yourself, Sometimes in life we dont get what we desire. U are theone who gave urself to the other man, forgive yourself and move on.

at age 17? Chei, that boyfriend is wicked o

ifyalways:
Look,im not saying he might be anything or anyone.Its the OP's headache to decode who her man is or is not.
What i have been on abt since my first post is this:
If one person's job is to give while the other just sits and receive . . .its NOT healthy.sooner or later,there wud be complications.
btwn,i had to re-read the OP's write up and :
where did he get the bulk money to repay the babe?He has money somewhere or[i] another kind babe[/i] gave/lent him that

I agree with the above but the guy is only borrowing . , . not just receiving, he did not just sit down, he got a job just kinda unstable

for the second part. the poster did not let us know where the BF got the money from.

chaircover:
@Likeme sorry but I disagree. Even if the gf offered him the money, it was selfish of him to accept it knowing that his girlfriend will be disadvantaged and her account will be in the red.

He also did NOT return the money on the agreed date further putting her into more financial hardship.

. . . . . And if you tell me that how was he to know the real state of her account; then they probably dont know each other as well as they like to potray

Anyhow IMO, a man accepting rent and food money from his girlfriend does leave a very bad taste in my mouth. Shelter and food are fundamentals and if we were talking about a gift then that is different.

Of course if they were married, then that is a total different ball game.

The lady did not state here that the guy knows her account is in RED. She knows d guy's state of account but the guy might not know her state of account.

How many girls out here can claim they have not cooked for their BF be4. How many? If a girl bring a food (He is not asking her to do so or living on the girl), the guy will eat it now. If he refuse to eat the food now and the OP complains here, we'll all be like he does not love you.

The girl can thread softly but I do not think she has done too much.

ifyalways:
Me
Nothing concern me with the duration of the relationship.Mine is that in every relationship;dating,marriage,mother-child . . .its Unhealthy if one person is doing ALL the giving.Indeed!
Basically,all those who made it as students were leeches to their GF's or prolly had rich parents?
Wait a mo' . . are u trying to make excuses for the guy now?LOL
He wud survive without this girl . . .FACT.Please he shld do so already and NOT take advantage of the girls large heart.

Nobody says He is a leech. He is not the one demanding for the money. It's not everybody that is born with a silver spoon. There are down times in life.

if you read through her post, she said she had to scold d guy be4 the guy could accept the money from her. That shows a level of integrity in him. he might not be one of those guys. The guy would have sort himself out anyhow.

I am not making any excuse for the guy. I don't know him. I don't even have a girlfriend so the OP cannot be referring to me. All I said is if she truly did it with the heart of love, then there is no problem and Its not as if the guy is lazy or not putting enuff in the relationship. It is a situation where d lady is doing better than the guy for now.

If a girl need something she is trying to get means of having it and the BF offered to help to the extent that he insisted when she(gf) refused to take the offer from him. She can take it and it's not a matter of being taken for granted. common what are we together for if we cannot sincerely help each other out.

Love is not all about se.x its all about sincerely sharing life together and may be ladies should get to know that Guys hardly forget the girl that was there for him at his downtime. These are the acts that speaks volume for the girls when they mess up sometimes. Guys will look inward and see her kind heart rather than the ugly act.

My 1 cent now