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ds700:
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SHORTLY AFTERWARDS SHE SENT A VERY ROMANTIC TEXT MSG (me come fall mugu as usual)

THANK YOU EVERYBODY, AM HAPPY ONCE AGAIN. gudnite!

LMAO Lagbaja has finish this love thing in his Song. say this Love thing na SICKNESS

@Poster, Please don't be under any pressure to give in to s3x at this time. The pain would have been much more if he has had his way and he just neglect you like that.
He might be going thru some difficult moment now and might not have the confidenece of sharing it with you.
Did you shout on him when he wanted it? 'Cause he might feel rejected as well and might nt want to hurt you with his words. Has he been agry b4 while you are with him for the past 8 months. How does he manage his anger? Will he just keep quiet or talk about it.

Just relax. If it is meant to be. It will be.

marryiing somebody who really cared for you is a blessing. You might have suitors bot not a lover as you have found in this young man. Age is just a number.
Discuss it with him if he does not mind.

Met her during my service year. Distance separated us. Now looking for a new one (I don't just understand all these LDN babes)

omotee4u:
your points are well taken and they have given me strength like never before. To make my story interesting, hear this: he was not forcing his sister. They started as adults when she said she was afraid to sleep alone in her room one night and had to go to his. I confronted her with it and she said I should just keep praying 4 dem. Evrybody in their family (immediate and extended) knows about it and has not been on speaking terms with d guy cos they think he should have behaved better. Am not making excuses 4 him o, am just letting u know how much of an I've been.

Everybody give a standing ovation for this omugo omotee. Now you are taking his side that it's not his fault, so your prayers were not answered. When the same God told you to flee from all youthful lust. Your boyfriend was busy doing (may be still doing)her sister. Are you that bad in bed that you cannot satisfy him. His he that ugly that he can't get it somewhere else.
So you want to put yourself in a situation that no family would be able to come to your house. putting ur life and that of unborn children at risk.

it's like u have made up your mind to go ahead but some future evil can easily be averted if we use our head.

If you are tooo scared to be lonely and u need emotional attachment, there are plenty guys that can give u reprieve.

Yes, he might be ur first love, he might be d one u lost ur virginity to but sincerely this man does not worth the whole care are giving to him.

the beauty of life is to love and to beloved.

I guess this poster is caged. He can sleep with your sister, He can sleep with your daughter, he can even try to sleep with your mother. Can you live with that.

U might even been asking him that can he do it and he will say no. From your post, you would have been s3xually active with him yet he still sleep with his sister that is now keeping malice with you 'cause she enjoyed his brothers pr1ck.
Get out of that relationship. there are better man out there who are not beast.

My 1 cedi

I can feel ur pain especially when you got to know that you are a second fiddle to the woman you have been loving for 20 years. Sooo sadddddd. There might still be more lies, she might have confessed all but TRUST has gone.

It's sooo sad what some of our women can do!. LIFE, AIYE lobirin ooo

^^^ Very resourseful response

Put every choice to a test of time. Time will tell.

Will the relationship last the test of time if you run away with him (personally I don't think so).

Will he come back if he travelled alone now, or can I go and meet him if he travelled now. (Looks more like it).

He might want to run away from family pressure of forcing him to marry somebody he is not in love with.

Take a deep breadth, take him away from your mind and think deep.

What will you be living on where u guys run to?

, May the force be with you

unclesamtech:
Check your Bible,

Where in the Bible?

example of modern day Chic is planinumk, lol

Femmmy, Holiday ke, Me dey work oooooooooo

^^^ U got my point here.
The scriputre made it clear for a man to provide for his household.

Why should he become a deacon at all cost at the expense of his kids all because he came to the church. He can still be a good fther to his kids without being a deacon.

Hi All,
Where did the marriage vow comes from? The for better for worse, to love and cherish ***** till death do us apart.

Where did it originate from?

^^^ I have read through all her post and can tell you that She has not shown me that Polygamy is a SIN.

the only thein i know is that You cannot hold any position in the church if you have more than 1 wife.

^^^ please can you show us where the scripture said Polygammy is a SIN.

like i posted earlier, I am not for poltgamy but that does not mean that somebody with many wives will go to hell.

I have seen some family goes into ruin 'cause of this.
A man had 2 wives before he became born again. The church told him to send the second wife parking.
This 2nd woman had 4 kids and she had to battle it out all alone. (The kids suffered because of a man being born again)

Please do not put emotion into this.

Christ gave himself up for you, the way He gave himself up for me. I am his church as you are his church. A man can give himself selflessly to his brides and cater for them.

A man who loves like Christ loves his bride would PREFER TO DIE THAN BREAK HIS WIFE'S HEART by bringing another woman into the family! He would not RISK BRINGING SOMEONE WHO COULD POTENTIALLY TURN HER HUSBAND'S HER AGAINST HER INTO THE FAMILY! He would not RISK INFECTING HER WITH AN STD by having another sexual partner!

These are emotional word. The question is Is Polygamy a SIN, I will say No it is not.

Would you let your wife sleep with someone else? Please, answer truthfully! Please check Deut for scriptural stand on this. A woman is not allowed to marry 2 husbands

Joining yourself to another other than your wife is 'adultery and treachery' against her! That is the 'cold hard truth' that selfish and uncontented men (hard- hearted men) have always (and will always) refuse to accept!
Marrying a second wife legally is not Adultery, Sleeping with another woman without being married to her is Adultery and treachery.


I believe in God's counsel.

@buzugee,
I have seen that you have been picking on my post. waoh, If at your level and size you cannot get the meaning of my post, then there is a big issue with you. Check my fans, walahi Aya e a ja!
This is more unless a chat forum, not a thesis class. By the way, the best response to somebody like you is to keep quiet.

buzugee:
your husband is an azz. you mentioned that you have kids, so therefore i am assuming you have been married for a while now and he has put up with your lack of domestic skills for a long time so why is he belly-aching now ? unless of course you used to be a very domestic person when he met you and then all of a sudden you flipped the script on him and decided you no longer want to be domestic, in which case he has a right to be angry. if i buy an apple, i will hope it stays an apple and not turn into an orange.

secondly, your husband is an azz to be complaining about you making that nice juicy chunk of money for the family which negates your time to do domestic work, unless of course you earn all that money and do not contribute it to the household and use it for yourself and the kids, in which case he has a right to be angry at you.

bottomline, if you decide you no longer are into housework, you better be contributing a huge chunk of your salary into the household, and if you do and he still complains about your lack of housework ? he is an azz. if you do not contribute a huge chunk and decide you are not into housework ? you are an azz.

It is quite derogatory to be calling somebody's husband an azz. Show some repect I beg.
If the man has been putting up with this no cooking for 5 years expecting that the wife will change and she did not . what do you expect, he should not voice out his opinion again?

@tiana1
send my ur lyc. or leba. or any other one let me holla u.

@Poster, 6.00am to 10pm is too long a time to work if you ae outside 9ija.

1. reduce the time
2. Prepare the food that will last a week in the freezer (soup off diffrent kind).
3. Get Ground rice, Gari, Elubo , and poundoo yam. Your husby can still be ok with preparing his poundo yam and warm the soup. (pls don't take it too far by asking him to prepare yours as well).

Treat him wit care and spoil him with love over the weekend and let him know you are there for him. Life cannot continue this way, you have to reach a compromise between a good family and the good cash.

Sincerely some of our ladies can be HUMAN DEVIL. Not all sha

Congratulationss

Distance Separated us.

She was God sent, with a gentle heart, loves God, obedient and listen well. unfortunately, the more we try to get closer, the farther the distance is separating us.
We met in Enugu during the NYSC, it took her months before I could convince her. after NYSc she left for PH and I left for lagos. She came to lagos only for us to miss each other at MR BIGGS (she went to another one while i went to the other one). She left PH for Delta. I moved out of the country .We tried to keep the relationship but distance could not just allow us to.

You made me know that TRUE LOVE exist. I pray to find love again. You told me. 'I WANT US TO BUILD OUR LIVE TOGETHER' even when I had virtually nothing then. You have made indellible mark on my heart and you have set a minimum standard that a woman should have in my heart. I cherished you a lot.

As you will be getiing married this month. May God of heaven be with you and bless your home and give you joy and peace. I pray the man will be able to take care of you more that I do. Though you are far but you are yet near to my heart.  To have is to hold. I can no longer hold you as you belong to somebody else now.

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how do you know?
[quote][/quote]Check her previous posts

^^^ Motive and the act are different. If a mman chose to marry a second wife and not divorce the first one except for adultery, The only thing i know is that such a man is not fit to hold any pastoral or bishop post in the church. I do not take it as a SIN.

I learnt the poster has a lesbian feelings, So she is just here to gather courage to move on to her illicit and dirty world. She is just here to seek approval and justification to her feelings.

^^^ Sorry for late response, I had a busy weekend. I am not for polygamy but I am not convinced It's a SIN.
Motive.
Motives can be different from each other. It may be because of childnessness. Another is the fact that a single wife do complain a lot that she works too much to keep the house, I guess it would be better to give her an helping hand.(I have seen this happen in my sojourn to some West african countries). It may be because of sexual satisfaction where the woman cannot respond to the demeand of the man, instead of the man messing around, He chose to marry another wife to complement. Distance attimes might cause a man to have a wife in Nigeria and married another one in Chicago (instead of messing around), What of the situation in which the woman is sick (bedridden /terminal sickness) and could not do her duty as a wife to the man and the man got to get another woman to take care of the first one, the children, the home him and ___many more like that.

When you become one with your wife, and then go on to join another person, you cannot become 'one' with the new person because you have already been 'merged into one' with your 'wife'. Jesus said 'not all can accept this saying' when he explained adultery and divorce. If you still don't get it; If your partner is unfaithful to you (adultery), you can leave them on that basis; Marrying the 'other woman' does not rule it out as adultery against your 'wife'. You are committing adultery against your spouse if you have another 'besides him/her'.

Adultery is s3xual unfaithfullness to your wife/husby right? Yes
Polygamy and divorce are not the same thing. Polygamy is having the second wife, You are not leaving the first one. Divorce is leaving the first!
If there is unfaithfulness then there is a ground for divorce. Unfaithfulness is when the man has started having s3x outside with another woman he is not married to. Instead of being unfaithful, Let him marry the other woman and then he can be having s3x with her.

The relationship between a man and 'his wife' is supposed to be like that of Christ and 'his bride' - the Church. The Lord Jesus is faithful to us. Men are commanded to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Jesus has just one bride; a man should have just one wife! God hates unfaithfulness. Unfaithfulness breaks the heart of your spouse - whether male or female!

Christ loves me the same way He loves you. I am His church and you are His Church. we are all His Bride. He is not unfaithful to his promise to me.
The same way a man can have more than 1 wife and he is faithful to them instead of having affair around.


Personally, I am not for polygamy, A lot of women/men don't want anybody after them. They want the wife/husby exclusively to themselves.

(I will have to delete some of these posts later)

^^ How?

@seyibrown.
I hardly post on topics like this but The poster is talking about polygamy not divorce.

I have never read it in Scripture that God did not approve polygamy or that it is a SIN unlike Divorce.

''Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh' The man can take another woman as a wife and still become 1 flesh with the other woman. One flesh (s3xual intercourse without barrier like condoms)

If a man want to marry a second wife, then he shuold abstain from sex from the 2nd woman until he get married to her else that will be adultery.
then another thing that I can see from scripture is that A man should not take another man's wife.

The day I brought up this topic in a church settings, come and see all eyes on me as if I am a , ?