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The first husband. He is still alive and the Law of Christian marriage says till death do us aprt

^^^GBAM. Thank you for that

@Poster,
You can actually see that there are so many feminist here even on NL which is a fraction of Nig.
I got the ffg points to make.

1. To be productive as a woman is not the same thing as being equal to a man.
U can be productive as a woman, earn good salary and be ok but this is not a substitute for you to be the captain of your home. a man is the one marrying a woman. he paid the dowry, He is the head of the family, learn how to sit at the passenger sit for once and be driven to reach the ultimate family goal as a supporting striker.


2. Why do women want to be equal to a man?,
are u not proud to be a woman and stay in the place of woman, why do u want to be contentious with man.
90% of men don't want to be woman but almost all women want to be man.
There is a place of woman and there is a place of a woman like there is a place of mother and the place of wife. Learn and respect your place.

3. If you know you can't be submissive to any man. then stay on your own,
dont make the life of any man miserable because of your haughty spirit.
- don't get married
- don't use Love Machine, banana or cucumber (it looks like a man's thing)
- remain Miss for the rest of ur life
- dont recieve any sperm donated from a MAN (its coming from a man anyway)

but no, u want to be married to, change ur name, carry beautiful pregnancy, have kids, be satisfied on bed and still be equally the head of the house.
-  u girls can't be eating your cake and still have it.

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Don Holyeye don talk, Why didn't u continue the most popular trend,

Ever since creation, There is a place of Man and a woman. Sarah called Abraham lord, Abigail called David Lord. Babie Girl, 90% of nairalander babes cannot say Sir to thier husband regardless of calling them Lodrd. relationships are drifting, Love care trust and respect are fading away fast.
Dignity and virture has been eroded away like a desert encroachment in the north.

if all ladies in Nigeria are like most of the girls in Nairaland. it's better one goes to Ghana or Gambia to go and marry.

This nigerian girls are just in power tussle? what TF? in no time, no sane man will marry all these contentious lady.

peaceful home is non negitable.

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@harakiri,
God bless you for that post. I was about posting this scenario you posted above. It happened to my neighbour (a banker) with the wife is a jobless complete hosewife causing trouble everywhere.

The woman held the man on the way to work saying he will not go , lol

Did David Mark go to University at all?

Such a silly statement. Spending another 2 years after 5+ years ins school for thast peanut pay.
1 year is ok. I had a nice time in Enugu though for that 1 year. God bless IMT and UNEC students and Polo park inclusive.

She has taken a step to address the issue and to let the man know she is not a doll.

one out of 2 things might happen
1. The man might be cheating and try to defend himself anyway anyhow. He won't be able to say the truth about it. This is UK, he knows if he confessed he might be heading into the trouble of Divorce and expensive Child support.
We all urinate in the office and boxers dont get wet daily now. Has he not been urinating be4 Feb. Why all of a sudden boxers are just getting wet.
Semens will not just drop if not being aroused now.
If this man is cheating or mastur.bating. His conscience will be judging him.

2. The man might truly not be having affair, then the woman has to find every means of working herself back to the man's heart.

The quality of love in this marriage seems depreciating, I will advise the woman to get something doing, NO MAN WILL LOVE TO HAVE LIABILITY HAS A WIFE. No matter how much he loves you, please add value to the family, you too bring something to the table.

@funkybaby, How are you, it's been a while. If you have advise for the lady on how to confront a cheating husband pls send it to her pls copy me also at likemind7@gmail.com so that I can learn as well.

May God forgive this poster ooo. What were u thinking when u were asking her out? Did u not know she is 2 years older than u. Don't yu realise this when you disvirgined her at 26.

How many of these pretty girls bought clothes for you when you are stacke naked without enuff cloth.
How many of them sent you money when u are broke.

Regarding marriage, If she has been waiting since, she can as well wait for you to get settled. Pray Hard, u dont need 4 years before God settle u down.

If your fear is that you wont be able to touch all those pretty young cicks after marriage, then , u need prayers

What you got in her is inner beauty and it is better to marry the person that loves u.

All those small pretty girls will just marry you 'cause of ur money and u might end up being miserable.

Go for Gold, Go for the inner beauty, use ur money that u will start earning to Behind her up to ur taste. outer beauty is nothing, its all powder and lipstick that will fade away.

How i wish i can have a good girl like the one u described here.

A pastors business is to preach the gospel. 'PETER Did you love me? , Feed my sheep.

@Poster,
Can you summon up the courage and face him. Show him the panties tonite, demand an explanation. Cry if you can, you know Ladies thing, not really a confrontation but you gotta speak out. Let your pain out by talking to him not by crying ur eyes out or complaining to wrong set of people.

U can Wake him up by 2.00am, show him and cry unto his neck, ask him what u have done wrong, don't take u have done nothing for an answer. Ask him to forgive you and let him tell u where u need ammendment.

U don't seem to be the wrong one here though, but u know in life That one is a vegetarian does not spare one from being attacked by a wolf.

Pray Harder as well. Prayer works

@Temilade,
Pls U gotta stop fantasizing abt ur ex. it might be dangerous, U might end up mentioning ur ex name when ur husby is making love to u.
Talk to ur husbby, make the move, fit up, stop nagging, drive him emotionally don't dry him up ooo

it will get better.

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@Poster,
From ur second post, I guess your husband is mastur.bating. He might have loose interest in touching you and derive pleasure from watching indecency.

He might have started doing that (watching indecency and masturbat.ting) be4 u guys got married. (He got married late)

You can get him a book on how to break off a bad habit.

If you are a Christian, You have a lot of interceeding to dooooo that this habit should be taken off him.

My heart goes to you, I have a feeling of the pain you are going through. God can help and He will help you.

He might not like to go for counselling. Keep him busy, engage him with friutful discussion, flatter him, ask him how he want u to respond to his moves, make him to be looking forward to the next time he touches you. If you have the strenght, Give it to good early in the morning so that he won't be moved to watch indeceny on his phone.


My 1 butut.

Congrats, Please share d goodnews with the man now

A lot of people goes thru heartcache in Maariage , your friend is lucky he got someone to talk to, Most times MEN die in silence. Nobody want to hear them out, everybody is telling him Go and make it work, They even make him look like a looser if it is not working, the way they were all on him to get married to the girl because she is pregnant.
Such a world we live in when Women turns the house into something else for a man to live in.
Now she is pregnat and the next thing u will hear is that she is aggressive because she is pregnant.
after child birth , you will hear she is behaving like that 'cause she is nursing a baby. after that , it will be she is meisbehaving bacause of the naughtiness of the child and looooooo and behold, the Man has lost his freedom and happiness.

The same way he can't handle the pressure of not getting marred, I am sure ur friend can't handle that of divorce. So he should please liv with it or pray to God.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm> May God save us and this women knows how to run even a strong mind down with words, emotions and tears. The guy can see himself walking into his death. Cheiiii WOMEN

Who are his friends? If you guys ae christian, I will urge you to start daily devotion.
Do you nag at him? If yes Please try to stop. Does he mastur.bate? You might need to discourage that. He might just start that.

It seems he just found something outside, Face it squarely with prayers. It can be hurting especially if you know you are commited and he seems his not.

Curiously, you might check his phone. A man will not agree straight into ur eyes that he is cheating on you especially if u have gone a long way with him. I can feel your pain madam. May God come down and dissociate ur husbby from those who want to take his heart away.

If it happens again, Show him the pant and ask him to explain. he might lie though, let him realise that u have noticed that since FEB. He might as well take caution.

I have read several post on Nairaland, I have also witness a lot of UNHAPPY couples around, I have always asked rhetorically, which one is better DIVORCE and be happy and free or stay and groom kids in an unhappy environment?
(a lot of times the kids knows that there is no love between Daddy and Mummy, sometimes Husband and wife will engage in serious fight and assault in front of the kids)
Also which one will be better for the KIDS? To grow up with separated parents or grow up in an aggresssive home.

Honest Opinion please

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