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solution will come out of that place sharp sharp

relax and give her time

She opened the thread for emotional check (if there is anything like dat). People do a lot of things to nuture relationship. I have seen people travelling from America to 9ija to be with a guy. I have seen a guy leaving a fantastic paying job in uk and relocated to 9ija 'cause of a woman.

2 Situations and human beings are never the same. That it works for a does not mean it will work for B especially when there is no formula to back it up.
If her account is not in RED , i bet you she would not have shown up here to clarify.

jay bee:
^^^^

Why did she open this thread to find out if it's normal for a man to be lending money from a woman?
Fact is she wasn't comfortable with the idea so no point trying to paint a picture of partners helping each other or what not.

She could have given him what she could afford instead of borrowing him all she had at the time then get red eyed cos her bank balance is minus

I have not seen anything abnormal in it. If she can afford it, why not. If she could not afford it, then don't bring it up.

pls move on. Relationship should be based on trust

If truly jennykadry is happily married the way she paint it here, I presume your husby in in for a a real trouble. The man is just coping with you as a wife. Why must you start calling people names because of their choice. I can as well call you OPONU for calling your husband when u saw a snake rather than running away. infact you are a slowpoke.

Read the 2nd post of the OP . The guy in question is not the one asking her to bring food, He did not ask her to borrow him the money to extend his visa. The BF is ready to go back to 9ija if worse comes to the worst. The lady saw the plight of the guy and chose to help. Helping others got no boundary. People have gone all the way to help others achieve their dreams.

@Chaircover, there are 3 essential things a fruitful relationship. Take a partner as a friend, 2. as a brother/sister, then as a lover. In this case she chose to be a friend or a sister.

If she has not lend him the money, the BF might have sought himself out. I can say categorically that be4 this girl, this guy has been surviving and he will with or without her.

A lot of the posters above do not really know what it's like to work with an agency in uk especially as a student. sometimes u dont get enuff hours, sometimes you get more than enuff, sometimes u don't even get at all. If love is not really based on money then it should not be a detterring factor. Let love flows.

My 1 quid.

^^I am with dayokanu on this. They want men to help them but not otherwise

listentome:
Yes, the money has to be in his account untouched till the visa is out which makes it very awkward for me to ask when i will be getting the money back except i just keep mute and wait till whenever the visa comes out for me to ask him

So please be patient with him, you are not doing too much sometimes friends are God's way of helping us. In this case that is what you are doing. A good man will remember this act for good. even if he messed up Posterity will have a way of paying u back better.

It can be hurting especially but u will laff last.

spikedcylinder:
Relationships are a two way thing nao! How comes women get to complain the most when the man is down but when the woman is sitting her lazy backside at home, buying Brazilian wigs and getting fat, no one hears the men complain.
From what you have said (about him working not to stay idle), I can guess that the man is not a silly man. He wants to work, he wants to earn a living and he wants to take care of himself and you but he simply cannot at the moment. He's not even the parasitic kind of man that will depend on his wife for everything. You are lucky, as far as I am concerned.
Please support your man at this critical moment especially if you believe as I do that he is not lazy. When he gets back on his feet, he will resume his 'duties' - whatever that means to y'all.

9ice 1 from spike

Whenever there is a downturn on the man side women are just here to cry but if it the other way round, we will hear nothing, that is when they will tell u whatever belongs to him is mine story. Now he is not having much, u guys decided to relocate to abuja. May be the Light will shine upon him in ABJ. I know it might not be his fault that he is still unemployed.

all this ranting from this women always leave me a question to ask, WHERE IS TRUE LOVE.

I was not going to post a reply b4 but for your second post i will.

First of all, I think u got urself a good guy especially in this kind of environment. Also, you are feeling that way because your account is in RED.
It's not as if he asked you to bail him out, your saw his situation and decide to Help. U are his angel at that point in time. A GOOD MAN WILL FOREVER APPRECIATE A WOMAN THAT WAS THERE FOR him when he is IN HIS LOW STATE.

U said despite all odd, he bought something nice for you at xmas. This shows he has a good heart.

It takes time be4 visa do come out, he still need to keep the money in his account until the visa is out. As u said he would have pack his bag and move back to 9ija but for your love he stayed behind. if he had moved back ohme, I am not too sure you can still have him considering the tigress and wolves (desperate ladies) we have in 9ija that are ready to do anything to have such a cool dude to themselves.

In my perspective, U have tried. Just pray more for him and be there for him so at he could get a decent job on time so that he will get married to u soonest.

.-- and they lived happily together therafter

it IS A SCAM, RUNNNN

Men are not machines o

Merry Christmas to you all

Why do u want to get rid of a good girl without sex for a bad one out there that is ready to cloud ur judgement with sex

Married Women is a no go area. Single girls or single mother fine

Blazar, can you please stop attacking mutter personalty. Being a single mother is not a crime. That you are married and still remained so does not mean u a re a super hero as well. Do u know what tomorrow holds for u?

This is a forum, u can disagree with her post but stop all this name calling. I wonder how ur wife copes with all these attitude

Pls just let her go

tEsLim:
1. She doesn't laugh at anything I say. And always keep straight face that is emotionless 95% of the time I've known her.
2. Doesn't say JACK! I taught she was reserved back then and that htings will get better. HELL NO! she dont talk tooooo quiete and got 1billion things on her mind she will never say
3. Forgetful and doesn't pick phone most time. And sends very annoying repetitive text messages due to her insecurities. "You are out there again abi? With another woman abi?"
4. Too suspicious
5. Used to scratch her legs while sleeping (fixed this it was medical)
6. Complains of no attention knowing fully well she's the one that doesnt talk or want to have conversations. She can reply a 5hrs talk with YES or NO and thats it
7. Never logical. Emotion and sentiment first.
8. Jealous of her kids. If they play with me too much she complains of giving them more attention than her
9. Very boring person too cold in nature, routined and not dynamic. Very predictable. She the same yesterday, today, tomorrow and ,
10. Only woman I know that want s.ex and no pre-intimacy. And will complain of rush job cos i gotta logout from the boring bed chore

I don laff tireeee. You have to find something that your wife is interested in, something like bag, fashion then kickstart a gist on this be4 going on something else

Why all these Pull Him down thing in Nigeria. Give accolades and honor to to the guy that did his research not because you are in government or power then claiming  a glory that is not yours.
If this act is allowed to go like this , you wont see inventions in Nigeria again.
But the guy suppose to have patented his discovery as well before giving out his formula to any institute.

@Poster,
Don't feel bad 'cause she is not picking ur calls. U ARE A LOT BETTER OFF WITHOUT HER. It's even very insulting for her to draw the sword of words on Shade. saying it is because she is not Shade. what has got to do with malpractice. Beware of ladies like that.

Your car is Japanese.
Your pizza is Italian.
Your beer is German.
Your wine is Spanish.
Your democracy is Greek.
Your coffee is Brazilian. Your tea
is Chinese. Your watch is Swiss.
Your fashion is French.
Your shirt is Indian.
Your shoes are Thai.
Your radio is Korean. Your vodka is , Russian.
Then you complain that your neighbor is an immigrant?
PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER!!

What is the relationship between INEC and patent on a device(finished product).All INEC want is a finished product. A DDC. if the company is having issue with the infringement of his patent. He should got to patient court and sue the manufactures using his patent not the end user that has interest in a product.

It's like requesting for a cola drink that can quench thirst and Cocacola is sueing end user for ordering Zobo. A replica of cocacola.

Chaircover!
may u increase in wisdom

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i am ready to give d poster d no. but i wont post it on internet forum. I'm sorry i cannot it the poster can send me a mail then i will respond.

Justwise,
Do u know about data protection act, men This is uk not 9ija. I cant just put people's number on public forum.

Well, I got contact of 2 good 9ija guys but could not type the number here as per data protection.

If u can find a way of giving me ur phone no or mail add then I will send the no to u

@nene1,
Which side of Gambia are you?

Ahhhh, poor you. The girl will be going back to the guy that disvirgined her. If she is so Hot why can't she wait for you. Don't blame yourself for other people's wrong. She might have continue having it with the guy on a daily basis while u are here whinning.

Take the pain of change and move on with your life. But na wah for you oo, how come you are not strong enough to penetrate her when she wanted it.

sisimmi:
@ujujuan:
I rather I stay on my own for a very long time than date any other man. At least, for now.  I already have plenty friends who are men but the moment I succumb to have anyone of them climb me, that is the end.  I know that much about who I am.  I've been many months without sex already!  I really have no appetite for it at all.  My problem is the possible consequence of my actions. If he write to my employers about the NYSC matter, I'll be out of job. And, I'm just 4 months old in my office!  He can also wait around and molest me in the office here, since he doesn't know where I live.  Or worse case, kill me!  I know if he feels frustrated enough, he can kill!

@Poster,
From your post, you have started enjoying the company and started thinking about other men, having crushes for them but you know one thing.

What will you do if that new guy you allow in your life if full of deceit and lies, if he just showing all the care in the world to get under ur panties. Do you know how many girls the new guy has slept with or will still have s3x with?

Will you go back and beg your man then.

Well, it might turn to be the best man and option for you as well. Nobody except God knows tomorrow/future.

You might have missed those escapades while you were in the school or growing up, now that you got the money and the time, u want to have a feel of what it is but you cant do it without having your freedom. So you have to find a way or remembering the issue you have once forgave so as to "free him " and then you'll have your way without being tagged a cheat or feel guilty conscience.

, or may be you just want revenge

What will you do if you suddenly loose this job that is giving you the financial edge over him. Will you run back to him.

I'm not a prophet of doom neither do I know this guy in question. It's will be better for the guy to be alone that you being with him and still be bitter or unable to forgive him.
You don't need the approval of NL to move on with  your life, sincerely we are just anonymous people.

Yes, Things will get better for him, His light will shine again, He will rise again. he will move on. From his mail, this guy wont hurt you even if you decide to leave.

"WE 'RE FREE TO CHOOSE BUT WE 'RE NOT FREE TO CHOOSE THE CONSEQUENCES OF OUR CHOICE"

Make your choice and face the consequences (good or bad) thereafter.

9ice one from Uju and Chaircover

brownjay,
Are u for real? or just one of those nl post.
we can talk more . i can help ur friend