₦airaland Forum

1Sharon:
This is a better response than what that idiot said.

By his logic, women that are breadwinners and pay their own bride price are free to cheat.

Why do y'all take things so personal?
I feel for your mental health.

adecz:
Aeyaahhh❗️❗️

Being born in the wrong generation
can make nonsense of a God given talent.

Imagine the crop of Nigerian musicians that
made their names and marks in the
late 90s and early 2000s. They simply
managed to keep afloat & could be hired
for concerts or private performance got
less than half a million, which even if you
extrapolate the value of Naira then, it's
still less than 2 million in today's money


Less than 10 years after them and with
the coming of multinational communication
companies and other businesses, a
musician could suddenly could from
50 to 100m, just for enforcement. Others
are getting anything from 10 to 100m for
concerts.

See ordinary female soccer today. For
qualifying for the knock out stage of
the World Cup tournament, Our girls
are now guaranteed the queenly sums
of at least N40 m Naira each❗️❗️❗️❗️😮😮
girls

Exactly! One wouldn't blame parents though.

Education was a hot thing that led to success back then. You'd see educated people of then working with NIPOST, Water Corporation, Railway services, NEPA and earning big while uneducated peeps struggled.

adecz:



Times have changed...


Gone are the days when your papa
and mama go dey tear your back with
koboko for sneaking out to play street
football, instead of facing your book to
become doctor or 'engineerer' ... 😐

Now, your papa go dey carry you upandan
looking for football club wey go accept
you.. 🙏

This really affected me.

I was exposed to sporting activities in secondary school, they reprimanded me.
They later approved me doing sports when I was almost done with uni...wey person don fat and body don stiff finish.

bukatyne:
Taking charge aka leading & controlling are two different concepts.

Nobody asked him to close his eyes however he needs to lead BY EXAMPLE and dialogue/effectively communicate with his wife/family when required.

With my knowledge of human relations, your suggested solution alone doesn't always work.

What if I lead by example and my wife refuses to follow?
What if I communicate with her about my displeasure regarding the revealing dresses she wears, and she tells me I don't have the right to complain over a dress she bought with her money?

At this stage, the man is no longer seen as the head, she proved that he has no authority. Strict measures have to be applied.

1Sharon:
Just look at the countries that don't worship "God" like Japan. They're far advanced compared to Nigeria.

I guess shintoism is serving them well. Maybe Nigeria needs a paradigm shift.

It's madness to do the same thing over and over and expect different outcomes.

Saudi Arabia is the most religious country to me. Look at Qatar, UAE, Oman, Morocco, Tunisia and the likes. How about Israel, Italy, Ukraine and the likes.
Are they not religious and advanced?

How do we explain selling our own people as slaves to the whites? Is that one religion related?
How about corruption, nepotism, tribalism, thuggery, cultism and other bad vices? Is it religion related?

Africa(excluding North Africa) is a backward continent, religion or not.

Undisputed147:
May God never put me to that kind of situation. If u try am ask woman for money na b say u nor know ur sef as man. It is better say na u as a man do all d spending and funds her so that she no go fit dey misbehave give you. Make no guy man try am o it is better say u hustle hard to make money and avoid being broke and learn to dey save as a man too so that u no go broke go ask woman for money

Spending on a woman doesn't stop her from misbehaving.
There are other men out there with money trying to get her attention.


Na babe wey bill you pass dey disrespect you pass.

bukatyne:
Online: men don't ask women for money.

Offline: men are requesting for 50/50 split of bills, pushing the bulk of their bills on their overburdened wives, sitting at home while the wife runs around to pay the bills amongst other shenanigans.

Toor.

Which family is that one happening? Less than 1 percent of Nigerian men do that.

You people compose all manner of things just to discredit men. Despite how hardworking men are just to provide for their family.

Why do you think men nowadays don't want to marry? It's because they realized that a woman contributes nothing other than kids, cooking and occasional cleaning to the home.
An average Nigerian woman wants to sit from morning till night watching Zee world, Telemundo and K drama.

Nnadykings:
Don't really know why some men over react to everything their spouse does just to prove that they are head of the house , that's bullshit men, yes I know a man is supposed to take charge in his house, but it doesn't mean you should control even the little freedom your wife has as a human being ,

For learning's sake, how can a man take charge of his home without being controlling?

Can he keep his mouth shut, close his eyes to many things and still lead and be in charge?

UyaiIncomparabl:
You're irresponsible.

Being spiritually stronger or whatever won't stop fate from happening to you though. Just so you know. Before you start looking for a woman that can bind and cast demons for you, get that into your thick skull.

I'm irresponsible because I said anybody can be spiritually stronger?

Do you lack comprehension skills or it's behavioral etiquettes you lack?

Since spirituality won't stop fate from happening to us, are you suggesting we should all stop being spiritual? We should stop praying, stop reading the bible/quran, stop worshipping God?

MyExpression:
Y'all don't get it.

I'm not talking vout her per se.

I'm talking bout being in a public space, and see a lady scrolling thru nairaland...as we see most ladies do on Instagram, tiktok...and Facebook.

I rarely see them running twitter in public too.

I just wanna see such person in public...coz it's not easy for a bimbo to be on nairaland....this isn't an image/video site.
Here we write...we write witty and lengthy posts.

Gurls dey get the mental space to read thru the sturvs we post here.....?

That's what I meant....since una want make I explain myself.

Or is it a simp move to wanna run into such personality someday

Nothing special.

There are over a million ladies active on NL. So 🤷

Jovialjune1:
Later y'all will say we are the emotional gender when the thought of your woman cheating can give most of you heart attack, as the logical gender you are suppose to brush it off like it's nothing and move on.

I guess if a man loses his child or/and his wife, he should brush it off like it's nothing. If a man loses 95% of his worth to scammers, he should brush it off like it's nothing.... because we're the logical and not emotional gender abi?

Many of you women, if you're sad, you cry. If you're happy, you cry. If you're hated, you cry. If you're loved, you cry. If you're unmarried at an advanced age, you cry. When you marry, you cry.

Do a 30 minutes google search on why men are not emotional like women.

1Sharon:
Lol, and what about people that were spiritually strong but ended up dying anyway?

Everybody is going to die at their time.

UyaiIncomparabl:
When will you people learn to take responsibility for yourselves? What's wrong with you being the spiritually stronger one?

Anybody can be spiritually stronger.

bukatyne:
Which part of the Bible supports this sir?

Are men goats that they are stubborn and adamant?

Do you realize Biblically that a husband should cleanse his wife with love and aid in her spiritual growth?

Jumping up and down in prayers is not a sign of

You don't know everybody don't have same behavior?

You're referencing the bible, do you follow every single thing the bible says? How many people follow the bible in toto?

Marriage is a package. Anything you see there, work around it.

Jennyclay:
These nonsense men should continue to kill themselves till they go extinct.

If all men go extinct, fish brain gender will die of depression because y'all can't do without validation and attention from us.

pocohantas:
Your dad should have learned to pray for himself if his life is important to him or at least, stop going for late night journeys. Only a Nigerian man would put his own life at risk and expect his wife to pray for him to stay alive. While she gets older than him. Goodluck to your parents. My own father didn't go out late at night or have police cases, so my mum didn't have to do vigils praying. Maybe that is why she doesn't look old.

The prayer you pray for yourself in some situations might not be enough. My parents actively pray for their children doesn't mean we don't pray for ourselves.

Besides, you never know how the person you're getting married to will turn out to be. We have men that will actively drag with armed robbers, you as the wife just have to be praying for him not to get himself killed.

My mum too doesn't look old so, I don't know what you're on about!

logicalhumour:
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pocohantas:
I get his point in a way. The man should be the spiritual head. I would never understand men looking for women that can fast and pray against side chicks while he the man is sleeping and snoring. Pregnancy, it is the woman praying. Financial issues, woman. Disobedient chidren, woman.

The reason he is banning her upandan is because they are not on the same spiritual level and it happens all the time when religious women end up with men like him.

Anyway, everybody with their spec. They sure do find these women. I also have to give it to women, they know how to put themselves in precarious situations and fix damaged men.

There's nothing wrong with a woman being on a higher spiritual level than her husband. Infact, it is desirable that way.

A prayer warrior is one of the desirable qualities of a good wife. Men are stubborn and adamant. They know how to put themselves in dangerous situations. We need a spiritually stronger wife!

lexy2014:
how is that my business?

Troll spotted.
No wonder you're broke.

Bye.

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lexy2014:
how is that my business?

You think everyone is poor and uses cheap phones like you.

fiercehillz:
Samsung galaxy S10 plus or just add about 25k and go for note 10 plus

Shey you'll tell him Samsung screen isn't cheap.

lexy2014:
The guy just feels like opening thread

Dude rest!
Not everyone is poor. I have friends using iPhone of 900k.
I use a google pixel and it's not cheap either.

Smartphil:
English language is not a sign of intelligence.

King Charles of England no dey speak my Language

Is your language the official language of England?
Is English the official language of your country?

I'm not condemning your poor use of English though.

FRANCISTOWN:
This is not kids going to play with other kids. I said he paid Undertaker to come play with his kids.

Mother and father play with their kids. As old as I am, I play with kids. Undertaker was paid same way we pay artistes to come and perform at events.

Were you not the one who first accused me of relating women to dogs?

I didn't use it in same context you used it.

When you go for surrogacy or IVR? Won't you pay? Somebody else is carrying the baby by implication of a legal contract, but you pay her and the baby becomes yours. Does that make the baby a slave?

When you adopt some random kids, some you have to pay for the adoption. When the child becomes yours, does that make the kid your slave?

In your examples, you are paying for the services of the surrogate mother and the adoption center. You are not buying the baby.
If you buy a baby, you'll be charged with human trafficking... that's modern day slavery I'm talking about.

So buying and owning women is human trafficking and modern day slavery!

You can't use an inanimate property as a measuring stick for animate property. It doesn't correlate.

Notice "his property" is in quotes. I am only using your own words to refer to a woman since you claim a woman is her man's property.

So answer: If a man is domestically violent towards "his property" his wife, can "his property" his wife tell him to stop beating her?

IconicR:
That's not trolling but telling you the truth

You claim you don't read most mentions but I see you replying mentions countless times. So shouldn't we bother mentioning you?

FRANCISTOWN:
Please do not misconstrue my intentions.

One Arabian rich dude bought Undertaker, the popular world wrestling champion as a pet for his children to play with.
Would that make Undertaker his slave?

Which pet? Does your kids going to the neighbors' house to play with their kids make your kids pets?

If you used your money to buy a pet, you own the pet but there are also animal rights and laws about how you can treat an animal.

You are talking about lower animals, I am talking about human beings. Your analogy doesn't work here.

I didn't say women are slaves.
I only said men and women don't have the same rights and authority in a marriage.

You indirectly called them slaves the moment you said you buy and own them. Only slaves are the humans traded and owned like properties.


Quick question: If a man is domestically violent towards "his property", can "his property" tell him to stop beating her?

FRANCISTOWN:
Where in my post did I call women slaves or dogs?
BTW, not all women deserves to be respected

Women are meant to be owned like properties. The way you own a house and a car is the way men own women.

Slaves are the only human properties that can be owned. Likening a woman to a property means she's a slave.

A man pays for a woman's bride price. In other words, you are buying her.

A slave is the person you buy. If you claim women are bought, it means they are slaves.

There are so many I can't quote all.

It's one thing to have a point, it's another thing to present it well.

You can pass your point about men polygamy without degrading women and being misogynistic. Every woman deserves to be respected. They are not slaves nor dogs.

Sensiblerealist:
Lol. Who wan chop watery and poorly cooked beans.
I always had an issue with that stuff then anyways. I was an enemy of those SUG guys cuz of their over handedness, especially if they want to witch-hunt you

To be honest, it helped check excesses.
I'm sure theft will be on the rise going forward.

Zhahovic:
After winning election, do you continue campaigning?

Wrong analogy.

Campaigning after election can be likened to wooing after acceptance.
Losing interest after acceptance can be likened to resigning from post after emerging winner.

Sensiblerealist:
HABA!! You noor complete am nah.
Na SMS; SCIENTIFIC MAXIMUM SHISHI.
At Awo Cafe or SUB

Well, those who did that last have been remanded in prison now. Including Awo hall chairman.

Safe to say there's nothing like SMS inside OAU again.