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DrFunmisticGlow:
Chanel no 5.

But nowadays I just add a few drops of perfume oil into my body oil and lotion. It seems to do the trick

Oh thank you.

I don't use body lotion and the likes. I'll just stick to the perfume.

DrFunmisticGlow:
SMART COLLECTION

Please what's the type of smart collection you use?
I use 256/257 can't remember correctly, and it's not strong enough for me.

Graxie:
Satan is a bastard, look at how people's children are celebrating killings on this thread, parents needs to have a rethink, is it worth it? Should you birth children that you won't be able to give account of? Where do we draw the line? I mean, talking about killing human as though you are killing chicken. You will still find women getting married to people like this, what of your kids? Isn't obvious that same thing will happen?

What do parents want to do again? If you train a child, it is left for the child to make use of the training.
Most of these people are fully grown men. They've decided the path they want to follow, parents shouldn't be blamed for that.

As for cultism, no new thing to be said that hasn't been said here already.
For them to be on this thread and still be celebrating killings, it shows they are a lost cause.
Don't bother about those irredeemable cultists. It's only if God comes down to redeem them himself.

bigdammyj:
Noted.

You'll get your answer when you marry.

My vote is for Tinubu.

See what your Tinubu is doing to us.
Vote wisely, you said NO!

SPAMBOX7:
But this particular account she's created has set lots of records.
She deserves an award from NLmods, that's if they are not paying her already.

And I believe If she was in a better country she would have been awarded.

Have her posts brought money to NL?
Why should they pay her for typing like everyone of us?

Except they decide to pay us all.

IconicR:
It's remaining four or five you didn't add which means you are not up to date with my deactivated monikas
I'll leave you to find out

I ain't jobless like you.

IconicR:
See my fans all gathered here having fun.
Don't worry I'm about deactivating again kikikikiki
Something serious is coming up.
Yeye people

You'll deactivate and come back again like you did with Rozz, Zzor, Roscol, Iyaebe and a host of accounts you created out of joblessness.

Persephone1:
Exactly what nano second man would say.

Let me leave you before someone start misinterpreting our dialogue for interest.

Lowkey, you wish you could have him. Shakara won't let y'all admit.

Obaaderemi2:
The book,Sir.

Oh thanks

Obaaderemi2:
Our forefathers were not weak. Those were men. You don't see them doing smesme with their wives and children. When they were at home you knew a man was around.

The way they hold their newspapers and their serious faces and voices. These days you see men watching nonsensical stuff on TV and phones with their women, thinking they're bonding, you see them fetching water, sweeping the floor and washing plates.

I never saw my dad with a broom except when he sat on the veranda swapping mosquitoes. Men have become weak, even their children are beginning to disrespect them cheaply.

Most of these weak men should go and download copies of the Arabian Nights and see how to handle women, especially in stories like The Ox and The Donkey.

How can a woman be living in your house and calling other men in your presence, you no deal am better slap before kicking her out like a dog?

Are you referring to the Book Arabian nights?
Because I saw a movie with same title too.

Kobojunkiee:
Look around you at the numerous who struggle with those same basic skills even as adults. Some of you don't bother reasoning things out at all..

I've given you reasons they can't get such exposure at that little age in Nigeria. You decided to cut it out of my post, so?🤷

You prefer cutting out my assertions to agreeing with it.

GodWrites:
He used photoshop to shut you up, not me.

You're a hater and you're bitter!

Your likes don't like seeing people grow and succeed.

So it's impossible to write an ebook and sell?
Your friends should be wary of you!

Kobojunkiee:
Your kids aren't usually taught social intelligence skills in school. Those are typically developed from having numerous regular interactions in less managed settings. Also, your kids are rarely exposed to emotional intelligence skills in school so you should also look into getting that for them too. You can't buy those for market

They'll get it when they're a little grown.

GodWrites:
Lol. Useless book. Go and ask iLegend hawfar his own books are faring. Last I heard he is struggling to even feed his dog

The guy don shut you up with evidence.

Kobojunkiee:
Look around.. isn't that the same exact thing the kids see adults doing in that same Nigeria? Bring the same kids to a developed nation and you will find them less likely to do the sand. Kids learn from their environment and so it is sensible in order to build social intelligence all while training them about the right and wrong ways to do things..

Where is the proof that they see adults doing so? I won't take assumptions here!

In developed nations, you won't see two lanes in a road that can barely contain 2 side by side cars. Thanks to people who build house recklessly, display and sell goods on the road making the road smaller and unsafe in Nigeria.
How many T-junctions have functioning traffic lights in Nigeria?
How many motorists respect Zebra crossing? How many motorists in developed nations follow one-way(face incoming vehicles)?

The above is why developed nations are safer for kids than Nigeria.

Kobojunkiee:
Learn to read abeg! if insecurity stops you from raising a child with healthy social intelligence why not also let it stop you from having a child altogether?

Who is talking about insecurity?

When with kids in Nigeria, you still have to tell them to leave the road for incoming vehicles.
Imagine when you're not with them.

I see children recklessly crossing the roads, walking on the road for motorists.

Osobi32:
There's no excuse, a 7yr old boy is old enough to run errands. Na so them dey spoil children then come back to cry.

He isn't talking about being old enough. He is talking about their safety.

Even when with your kids on the road, you still have to tell them to leave the road for an incoming vehicle. Now imagine you aren't there.

Also, they can easily be lured away by strangers and be kidnapped.

Kobojunkie:
If you have access to Netflix, I suggest you binge-watch the two seasons of the show called Old Enough, a Japanese show that features children much younger than your kids being sent out on errands.

If you are scared for their safety, then I would suggest you instead follow them from a couple of steps away to guard the kids from afar when they are out on such errands. I don't think you should stop them.

Is Japan not safer than Nigeria?

You sef!

Samantha124:
At the bolded, if she saw nothing risky, she'd have been taking the children, but she values her children's health by leaving them behind... Children can also be easily traumatized from seeing sick people.

Those other minor issues can be easily resolved and don't require a third intervention... All marriages have ups and downs.

I noticed you're ignoring some issues I raised just to be biased towards the wife.

You never blamed his wife for referring their kids to him to poo while she is idle.
You never blamed her for being disrespectful to him.
You never blamed her for being ungrateful and unappreciative to her husband.
You never blamed her for refusing to take corrections.
You never blamed her for always refusing to assist her husband when he asks.
You never blamed her for refusing to cook his favourite meals when he asks.

But you blame the man because his wife is using kids to disturb his work for his daily bread. You even accused him of not wanting to be involved in his kids lives.

The hardworking and responsible man is the bad guy while the idle woman who does nothing other than visit ever sick relatives is the good lady.
Speaks volume about the kind of wife you will be.

Shalom!

Matix222:
Oh so what does your current boyfriend calls you?

Is he the one that disflowered your juicy pvssy?
I know you must be juicy 😂

Why acting like you've never seen a woman before?

Quit watching porn. It's making you sexualizing and objectifying women.

Samantha124:
1. You don't see it as a risk because you're ignorant.

2. What if she wasn't lying? Don't start making false accusations without proof.

3. I'm not giving excuses for anyone, the op doesn't want to be involved in his own children's lives and he's trying to do anything to paint his wife as a bad person just because he wants to go and watch football at the viewing center alone... What if he's the one that's having a secret lover and he's just trying to start trouble where the isn't?

1. In that case, op and his wife are also ignorant because they also don't see it as a risk. So why is the wife not wanting to take the kids along since she sees nothing risky in it?

Now, the OP didn't complain of children issues alone. But you're only particular about his flaws as regards the children. Why did you not talk about his wife's flaws too:

My wife lacks respect for me as a husband. Sometimes, the way she talks to me is as if I'm her boy or her mate. This woman called my wife is also very ungrateful. She never appreciate anything. I can't correct her when she's wrong without her getting angry. Most times when i send her to buy something, her mood changes or she starts complaining. I can't tell her to cook what my appetite yearns for without her complaining, especially swallow.

pansophist:
Nope. No battery and assault, that's not a solution. It's like trying to melt a butter with a hammer.

The question here is, why wife such women up? There are women that will never respect a man, which is understandable, but why wife such a woman?

If you as a man bears the burden of performance, why carry such burden for a devilish woman? Does he hates himself?

Cases like this is typical in situations where a man begs a woman to marry him. She is a trophy to him, and she used him to bear the marriage tag.

Her strategy is to have a man at home that gives her the security, surname, and to fulfil societal demands, while she go back to the corrupt lifestyle she is used to.

The man is weak. I blame him, not her. Same way I won't blame a crocodile for biting you, instead I'll ask, what are you doing with a croc?

The bible said, light and darkness does. not walk together. There will always be light, and there will always be darkness.

Let darkness walk with darkness, and light walk with light. Never wife up a wicked woman. Let her rot in her wickedness alone.

So I blame him. If he doesn't have a child, I'll just say he should divorce her. But since three kids are in the picture, then it becomes complicated.

Well, you could be right. That could be the case but, we aren't sure.
The wife might gradually develop such attitude after marriage or she might have had it all along but just decided to show it after marriage.
Either way, he might not see it coming.

pansophist:
I was trying to be polite, hence I didn't want to respond directly to the post, because there is no way I wont yab the OP

But fork it, this is what I think.

Sorry, I have diverged from the main topic and went straight into the philosophical theory that underpins his and his wife's relational dynamic, but you should be able to see the point I am trying to make.

I understand!

I feel same way towards op too. But then, he might have exhausted all preventive and corrective measures he could think of towards his wife.
Some women are evil and will never bend to their men's authority. This is why many men in Nigeria resort to battery and assault. Surprisingly, it works, but is not advisable.

Samantha124:
1. But it's still risky taking children to adult wards... If you value your children's health, you wouldn't do it because if the children get sick, the husband will still blame the mother.

2. Just because something is hereditary, it doesn't mean all family members will inherit that same condition.

3. I tried giving those solutions, but your people came for me guns blazing with all sorts of insults.

Where I'm from hustling might get you in jail, so he has to be specific when he says he's hustling.

When it comes to the football viewing, what if he doesn't belong to that category of people? If he wants his wife to compromise visiting her sick relatives, which is an emergency, why can't he just compromise going to view a football match at a viewing center if he can't view it at home... Are you telling me that he should value football more than his children?

Being parents require teamwork... So he should also learn to help his children to poo because they made those children together, it's not only the responsibility of the mother.

If you're a man and you're not ready to babysit and be involved in your children's lives, then don't impregnate any woman.

1. The risk is not an excuse because the wife didn't give that as a reason for not wanting to take the kids along. Mind you, we in Nigeria don't see see taking kids to hospitals as a risk, likewise op's wife.

2. Understood. Now, what if she was lying about her relatives being sick all along? What if she was going to meet a secret lover?

3. Why won't you take insults? Imagine calling major fuckkups of the wife MINOR issues yet, you couldn't proffer solution to the "minor" issues. You are only giving excuses for the wife.

We're talking about legit hustle here and not the illegal stuffs.

How is visiting a sick relative in the hospital an emergency? She's not the doctor so, she can even make a phone call instead. Why then is she expecting her husband to leave his business that brings him money just because she wants to visit a sick relative?
Which is more important between visit and working to provide for the family?

He clearly compromises. He takes the kids along to the viewing center. He leaves his business just to tend to the kids. Whenever the mother directs the children to him to poo, he attends to them. Now tell me, what compromise has the wife made on her own part?

He is already taking responsibility of the kids, he is only complaining that his wife isn't taking responsibility on her own part and is disrespectful. So, what's your point??

pansophist:
If men are weak, the home suffers. Men have to be strong for one very important reason, and it's because he bears the burden of performance. And if a woman fails, he suffers as well.

You are tolerating so much evil from this woman, and when the consequences comes, you'll be the one to suffer it. Women have a unique advantage than men, which is that their mistakes are men problems.

For example, If you marry a woman that is unfaithful, then you'll father another man's child. If you marry a hookup chick, then you'll be a laughing stock and she will disrespect and disgrace you.

As a man, you're in the driver seat. Women's power compare to a man is like a passenger to a driver. No matter what the passenger say, the driver decides if he will move, stop or reverse.

The cards that a manipulative woman can ever play is dependent on the game the man is playing. If it's only egg and water a man have, then a woman can only make boiled eggs.

Men choose the game, women choose the card.

You're a man, the leader, and the enforcer of morality. Don't let a woman use you. It will be bad for the both of you since women have a unique skill to be unaccountable for their actions, even if they destroy you both.

I dislike weak men, they destroy society and incubate corrupt women.

Succinctly said!
But I was expecting you to outline what he could have done.

placeofallure:
May God not let me have your type as a relative let alone a brother. Arindin gb'omi ẹkọ! Rubbish!

For all those women who treat their partners badly, just because they lack the balls to pay you back in your own coin, you will get your comeuppance! If you don't get it, your sons will get it!

Okay. You've insulted him, you've charged at women like his wife.
Now, what is the solution to his predicaments?
How can he pay her back in her own coins? People want to know.

Some men don't know how to treat their misbehaving wives other than beating.

Samantha124:
1. So far those hospitals that I know about don't permit children to come and visit adult wards and even with children's wards, they're given a limited amount of time to visit... And we're not talking about sick parents here, so don't try to twist the whole thing.

2. It could be a hereditary thing because each family is different... Just like other families have long life expectancy while others have short life expectancy.

3. Because the children are always supposed to come first for both parents, those other minor issues can be easily resolved... To me it sounds like the op wants to leave his wife all because he doesn't want to be involved in the children's lives.. He just wants to be a father from a distance.

Why can't he watch that football match at home whenever he's left with the children?

And why is he also finding it difficult to help his own child to use the toilet?

1. In Nigeria where op is from, no hospital that I know of prohibits children from visiting. So, the wife has no excuse not to take those children to the hospital.
I mentioned parents because uncles, cousins, parents, are all family members and relatives.

2. If it's hereditary, why are his wife and kids not always getting hospitalized too?
Don't you think she could be lying all those times? Or you feel every single human tells the truth?

3. You call all those issues I quoted MINOR ? If they can be easily resolved, why not provide a resolution for them rather than guilt tripping him about his children and defending his wife blindly?

If he doesn't want to be involved in his children's lives, what does responsible mean here:

I'm responsible for everything in the house. I'm not complaining about the too much responsibilities.

He claimed consistently leaving the kids with him doesn't allow him to hustle. For a responsible man, what do you think his hustling is for?

Also, football viewing center is made for people in a particular category that can't watch it at home. What if op belongs to that category.

Lastly, why will a child meet an idle parent to help him/her poo and that parent will send that child to the other parent? Why can't the first parent help the child poo?

JaneYave:
soldiers , when you see them must be on a mission or have a pass, their actions are watched wherever they are. No isolation exist in the lifestyle of military, if they commit wrongs and go scout free, it means [b]authorities are covering them. [/b]That's just the truth!

1. People hire soldiers to follow vehicles with smuggled items to escape custom officials.
2. People, especially yahoo boys, hire soldiers to recover money owed.
3. People hire soldiers to come and beat and intimidate others.
4. Soldiers are not easily granted pass so, they go ahead without the pass.

The emboldened is the only valid thing you said. All other things are just what they want you to believe.

Samantha124:
If you're going to tell your wife to go visiting hospital wards with your children, then you are going to be a bad father.

Fix yourself first because with your level of reasoning, you don't deserve a good woman in your life, you'll mistreat her like she's your slave and put your children's lives at risk.

You sound like you value your ego more than anything, even if it means your children will suffer for it.

1. So children don't visit their sick parents in hospitals?

2. Have you asked why it is everytime her family members are always sick?

3. Also, why focus on only the children aspect? Why didn't you talk about this:

My wife lacks respect for me as a husband. Sometimes, the way she talks to me is as if I'm her boy or her mate. This woman called my wife is also very ungrateful. She never appreciate anything. I can't correct her when she's wrong without her getting angry. Most times when i send her to buy something, her mood changes or she starts complaining. I can't tell her to cook what my appetite yearns for without her complaining, especially swallow.

Zooposki:
Probably replied to the wrong person then. Ndo, no vex come cry. Take hanky, dry ya tears.

You're very uncouth.

You misquoted me, I still explained to clarify things. Yet, you're saying your father is crying.