Opentokwowledge:
I don't read. Got suggestions for me?

I don't know what kind of stuff fascinates you.

XhosaNostra:


Exactly! It also kinda objectifies the lady in question, making her nothing more than a walking, talking vagina. No dankie, siyabulela.

Morning, me love

If you notice , the kind of guys who promote the " marry a virgin and you will be happy forever " delusion, are always pastors ( and their obedient subordinates), chiefs/kings ( and their loyal subordinates) . Both these people are manily oppressors with a superiority complex. They don't like free thinkers , they want to do the thinking and the decision making for their followers . Try to deviate from their teachings , you will be isolated , stigmatized and insulted. These are the same people who will have more than one virgin wife...chiefs/ kings ( meaning he got what he wanted and he still wants more). The same pastors will marry a virgin but will be caught pants down in a brothel .

Btw , do you remember the municipality in KZN who wanted to give out bursaries only to virgins ?. Now that was crazy.

Opentokwowledge:
Memoirs largely. If you're to start writing, what type would you do?

I hear you. I love crime fictions , maybe I would do that . But I would have to expand my vocabulary to make it more interesting and learn how to concentrate on a subject , that's too much work . So I will stick to reading the works of Alex Klava one of my favorite writers on this genre .

What do you mostly read ?.

XhosaNostra:
It doesn't make sense. If he wants to walk away, he'll walk away whether you have sex with him before or after marriage. The "mystery" will be lost eventually, either way. I kinda don't like the mentality of using sex as a bargaining chip or a dangling carrot infront of a donkey. Because once he gets what he wants, what guarantees that he will stay? If the only reason that is making him stick around is because he is "mystified", then I'd rather demystify things for him so he can kindly bugger off.

LOL, you said it all.

He added that denying a man sex would only make him more willing to get married so as to have access to the sex.

That right there is demeaning and makes marriage seem like it's mostly about sex. So this guy will quickly marry you so he can have access to your vagina, and then what? Lol. If he was going to get bored with a lady who's not a virgin, after removing your hymen he will be bored with you. If he was only fixated with your virginity , then the marriage is fckd after its gone. There are so many things that make couples forge a strong bond than their reproductive organs. There are so many men who are married to people they had sex with before marriage and are still happy with them , some are not . Just like some men married virgins and are content , there are also those who married virgins and are bored and cheating on them even with corner girls .

Good morning, btw .

LordKO:
@OP

Your number 5 caught my attention. Obviously you, just like many other people, have an erroneous understanding about the literal meaning of the saying "behind every successful man, there's a woman." Believe you me that it doesn't automatically has to do with a man on mission to accumulate/cause of accumulating riches.

Meanwhile, other points you mentioned reeked of attitudes of a servile person. Unfortunately the last thing to expect from a servile person in the long run - after emancipation from poverty/actualization of independence - is loyalty. A servile person is hypocrisy personified. Your number 2 for example; you ought to know that fixation doesn't mean caring.

However, financial poverty isn't the worst form of poverty out there. Small-mindedness - ethically and mentally poor people - is.

An ethically and mentally sound man (person) who's financially poor today, may become financially emancipated within a twinkle of an eye. This fact is the very reason why I do pick offense wherever I see small-minded people postulate that every floating wealth or sudden wealth has an evil beneath it.

A responsible lady who's not fortunate to have an already established man is better off sticking with a man with prospects (temporary financially poor but ethically and mentally sane and sound) than putting up with a stark poverty-stricken man who's equally mentally and ethically poor. That being said, there's no advantage a poor man - irrespective of the type of poverty - has over a contemporary sane and sound man with sustainable riches. So a responsible lucky lady is better off with the latter.

On the other hand, for all I care and understand, behind every successful man with sustainable riches is a man that has an understanding of something valuable (legal or illegal), one who's equally industrious and honest (honest at least towards his associates). Honesty will always remain the best policy in business. Honesty, though, doesn't mean absence of diplomacy, just as diplomacy doesn't mean lies.

One of the best posts I've read in months .People tend to equate servitude to loyalty , and fixation to love . Kudos !.

Opentokwowledge:
What do you mean by mentally lazy? You don't necessarily have to delve into fiction...

Not in the conventional/professional sense of it... I dont do it as a means of sustainance , I just feel it's one of the things we stay alive for, but because I'm generally unsatisfied by the writings, none has left the confines of my bookshelf

Ok , I get you. What kind of stuff do you write about that?

SweetPuffPuff:
the stupidity on this thread is great. Your ancestors fight to be free and indepent and instead of u to do something to make forward movement u sit here ang ask that some lord over u because a supposed racial superiority.
U couldnt even site African nations outside nigeria who are doing well Narobi,kenya Harare Zimbabwe and others who are on the up.
U dont seem to understand that when white rulers came into non white countries they came to make things better for themselves not U!

U beta focuse on how u can better yerself and yer personal circumstances and vote 2019 and stop this stupid bashing of a race of people that are not to measured by Nigeria's development issues

Perfect!

tiger28:
They cant treat us in today's civilization as worse as our leaders have raped us.Check Nigeria shortly after independence, the British left us with a structure this is the same thing happening in South Africa today. Now that the blacks took over in SA ,we see crime wave skyrocket, corruption like no tomorrow even xenophobia against your own blacks, reduction in infrastructural development etc

Mikolowiska here is your counter argument.


Stop talking about things you know nothing about.

1. Crime has always been a major issue in urban areas, but it was concealed by the apartheid government. Remember nothing was published back then but only propaganda. Crime stats today are published every quarter and don't forget that we are also bombarded by criminals from all over, and mostly around the continent . Those groups were not allowed to enter the nation before. Look at America under your white Gods? It's filled with both domestic and foreign criminals, look at their stats and compare them to the time when they used be very strict with immigration.

2. CORRUPTION? You have got to be kidding me here. The ANC government are learners when it comes to that. Like I said you are talking out of frustration not facts. Do You know that the black government inherited a bankrupt economy due to white corruption and looting? Read a book or something before commenting. Again do you know that the biggest corruption scandals in South Africa in recent years have been committed by your white demi Gods? I'm not saying black people are saints but they are learners ,trust me.

3. XENOPHOBIA ? , what is the connection of that with black leadership ? Lol. Were there no xenophobic unrests in the UK in recent years? I thought the UK was under them Gods . XENOPHOBIA everywhere is fuelled by the influx of under skilled people who would be willing to get paid a quarter of the National minimum wage, meaning they will be preferred for menial jobs than the citizen by exploiters. Under white rule , foreigners weren't allowed into South Africa, they were found in mines only. That's where I would say the black leadership made a mistake, allowing so many illegal immigrants with no critical skills to stay in the country . We have our own problems, they should focus on that and stop being mama Africa.

4. Reduction in infrastructural development? Really ? . I think you read too much white propaganda or watch too much CNN. I hope you are not like most Nigerians on this site who believe development = skyscrapers and shiny buildings lol. South Africa has built so much infrastructure in the last 18 years, not even the architect of apartheid would recognise the country he tried to destroy lol. The power plants that have been built , the stadiums, the roads in less privileged communities, the new schools , the houses for the poor , the new trains , the airports, the harbors? , the new industrial cites ? , the new Universities? . Are the things I mentioned not basic things that should be patriotised by any sane government?. A country's development is measured by its human development index. Do you know where we are in less than 23 years of black leadership? . We are catching up with the best in the continent, the likes of Mauritius and Botswana (a fully black country mind you lol). In just 23 years of governance , we achieved what your Gods failed dismally to achieve. +/-90 % of the SA population has 24hrs of electricity ( I understand why you curse the black race , your own nation has achieved the opposite in 60 years). More than 80% of our population has access to water and sanitation ( you would not like this because 90% of your people are said to be drinking water contaminated with feaces and over 70% still squatt under palm trees to relieve themselves after 60 years). Our literacy rate now rivals that of countries like Zimbabwe and Guinea. I could go on but I'm sure you get the point . You are mentally enslaved. You think white people would get into Nigeria and perform miracles lol. White people would get there and build themselves nice infrastructure that you would never touch. You guys see beautiful pictures of lagos in the 50s and you think that was how you all lived . No baby , those were for your Gods and the few black elite who were put in place to keep you under control . The majority of you were as you are , I'm sure you are even better off now. Atleast you can access education lol.

Ask any South African , white leadership or black leadership? They will LTFAO @ your stupid question coz they know both. Maybe whites lead better in majority white countries?

Damn , you guys and white worship lol. How I wish you could have the white leaders you want and see what will become of your self hating selves.

THE END !!.

XhosaNostra:


LMFAO. Wow. I wonder where all of that is hidden.

Hahahaha .

Opentokwowledge:
What's stopping you?

I'm mentally lazy . Are you a writer? .

LOL, why not pray her way ?

XhosaNostra:


Lol, what have you heard about them?

Lol, that they are every girl's dream . They can miraculously reach places the average guy can't .

Opentokwowledge:
Touché! You write?

Nope.

XhosaNostra:
I can't marry one, it's my choice. I'm attracted to tall men. But if a sibling wants to marry one, that's their choice too. What concerns me with their love life?

There's actually a 50/50 chance for them to give birth to a "normal" baby.

Lol, it must be interesting dating a dwarf though. All that attitude and I hear they are blessed . I wish one of my relatives could get one, so she can confirm all the rumours I've heard about them .

Opentokwowledge:
Lmao. They say elephants remember everything though and for their kinds, slow and steady does it... Which one are you?

Lol.

A female lion, very easy to spot . She admires the tiger from far but can never let him in , he is a born ruler not a leader, so they can never live in the same forest . She on the other hand is leader who wants a fellow hunter not a caregiver . She is protective of her pride and would turn the jungle into a war zone if her pride is threatened .

XhosaNostra:


Lol, it wasn't on OPW but here on NL

Smh. You can say that again.

Lol, oh I see.

Opentokwowledge:
Lol. It is not for me to say. I wouldn't mind tiger though

Lol, as long as you ain't an elephant. They move slowly and are too obvious and boring .

XhosaNostra:


LMFAOOO. Don't even talk about those two. It's amazing how two men with the smallest lips in the universe, can be such loudmouths.

Lol, those two gays irritate me . They should just hiss and makeup .

XhosaNostra:


Hayi bo! Really? Why would anyone take out a loan to impress people? That sounds stùpid. Sakhumbula those ones that had a loaf of bread as a wedding cake? Kikikiki. Sorry but I'd rather have that, than drown myself in debt just so people can say "It was perfect". Perfect on whose expense!

Yho ! People do it sana , the need to impress is serious with some couples. Lol, no I didn't watch leyo. That's so cute though lol. And when you are drowning in debt , they will be the first to criticize and ridicule you for your stupidity. All you will be left with , is beautiful pictures with former friends in almost all of them .

Opentokwowledge:
Poetic much

Lol, I love animals . Which one are you?

BanevsJoker:

Job interview for Chioma Jesus' back up singers.

Lol.

XhosaNostra:


Hahaha. Come on, Marlon is still better looking than Kim He just has elastic facial features imo. He's not bad though. His comedic style is similar to that of your pal Chris Rock. Very noisy & irritating after a few minutes.

Take in all this gorgeous in one pic, minus Kim

What exactly is your problem with Kim? quit bullying the poor girl, she has been punished enough by the Gods . Marlon with the phuza face? . This is a serious insult to Kim lol. Trump must hear this .

XhosaNostra:


Itsho into! You can use the money you saved by skipping out on a Cinderella wedding, to go on a ritzy honeymoon somewhere fancy

Lol @ the Cinderella wedding. Add to that ; some of these lavish weddings are funded by loans lol. Yebo! Just you and Bae debt and stress free. PEACE OF MIND.

XhosaNostra:


LMFAO @ "less beautiful". That's so PC Less beautiful my azz, she's ugly.

Lol, don't be tough on the girl. It must have been really difficult for her growing up around hot people but atleast there was Marlon to compete with . I don't find that one attractive nor funny .

XhosaNostra:


No, it's not a correction lol. Some people say baptism or baptismal. I just used the term I use the most.

LMAO @ people you dislike. Yeah, elopement sounds less stressful, no mjojo

Sure lol.

Exactly!. Sign , go and have fun with your witnesses after that . Case closed , no wahala .

XhosaNostra:


You're right.
Shawn is a cutie no doubt. Plus they all have good bone structure. Handsome brothers & one ugly sister. Kikikiki. Do you still remember their sister Kim? She did skits with the on In living color.

True about the bone structure. Lol, stop it . Kim ain't ugly , she's just less beautiful . Her village people must have really wanted to punish her parents with elanqindi

XhosaNostra:


LMAO @ church baptismal. I agree with you on simplicity though. They way I'm so shy, I wouldn't even mind eloping. The meet & greet would drain the living life out of me.

Thanks for this correction . LOL, we are alike . That attention iyadika and like you said draining. By the end of it all you will be left with twitching cheeks , thanks to all the smiles you had to fake even with people you dislike . I've always fantasized about eloping even as a young girl lol.

Where is the sin in you and your husband deciding on exploring more options to expand your family? As long as you both agree and are comfortable with it, specifically you the person that will undergo the process. Who cares about other people's opinions.

But you should also look at the options tabled by your husband, sleeping with the ;friend , brother or maybe cousin . You have his permission and encouragement after all .

XhosaNostra:


Lo, Keenen Ivory Wayans

He ain't bad but I always find him a little bit too serious like strict dad lol. Shawn though .

XhosaNostra:
I would, minus the headgear. The dress is simple but nice, I'd go all out on the hair & make-up because it's my day, I should be "fairest of them all"

Lol, the bridesmaids look like they are going for a job interview. She looks OK though, but I would rather do a simple traditional one, is it by force to have a white wedding? This looks more like a church baptismal ceremony .

XhosaNostra:


LMAO. Leave Eddie alone abeg Most of the ones you mentioned, plus In living color, Moesha, One on One, Family matters etc.

Everybody hates Chris, not everybody likes Chris Never liked it. His voice grates my nerves lol.

Oh I liked those as well , didn't like Steve though too much clowning on his part. I should add my wife and kids , I have a thing for the Wayans bros, young and old lol. But Damon and and Shawn any day . Lol, leave my noisy rock alone, maybe he was too noisy in the bedroom hence the wife ran .

XhosaNostra:


You seem like a fan lol. Awww Eddie madoda, really? Why so heartless? I don't find Chris Rock funny Most comedians are annoying though, that's why I'd rather watch a sitcom than movies featuring the so-called funny guys. King of queens still one of my all time favourites. Are you a fan of sitcoms?

Lol, I like those kind of movies. Eddie tries too hard, and I don't like that grin . I like stand up comedy and Chris is one of my favorites . Oh I loved King of queens, friends , how I met your mother, two and a half man and others. Plus everybody likes chris . I like sitcoms but I don't watch any these days , don't know why. Which ones do you watch?