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Osobi32:
ghost don't hang around their old environment without a strong reason..... Just leave the place before she gets very aggressive. She's already making physical contact it's simply means she can harm. Be smart here

She cannot don't talk about what you don't know

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

Why all this long talk

Just say olamide is itel brand ambassador
Which one come be all this over hype- perfect match! Perfect fit ! Mobile giant!
They speak this same language bla bla bla

Absolute gibberish
Dey hype this low budget asss Moda fuckkking brands

For the first time I like a post you made

For a drug addict you are smart sometimes

DaddyOpe:
I saw your post earlier. I followed it and registered on the dating site Bit Mistress. I have logged in. I see people from different countries. Please I need your assistance.

People from which country do you think is best to contact?

How do I go about it? I am asking because I am new to this whole dating thing. Circumstances have pushed me into it.

EFCC Is going to have a party at your conviction hearing

Smh

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

This is where I found you

I shall send you a pm right away

KingSatan:
Dear Nairalanders,

This is my opinion on the subject that "No Man Should be Encouraged to marry a single mother". It is actually a response to Vyvyanvyvy 's thread on Her husband's decision not to take back their son as agreed before marriage.

Please Click this link for her post https://www.nairaland.com/5731810/husband-doesnt-want-son-come

Over the years, i have disagreed with people who conclude that single mothers marry because they are looking for a "Father Figure" in the life of their children and never because of love. Maybe i was wrong to disagree with them as this story is an eyeopener on how this set of manipulative women always resort to emotional blackmail in order to shame the man when he refuses to give in to their demand of total commitment to their love child or children. The most amazing thing is that her children have a father, but they are never going to blame him for abandoning them or quitting the relationship. They are never going to send the kids to their biological relative or even give the "New Husband" the honour of renaming the children after him. Some of these women even go as far as creating room for segregation.

Now lets get down to business by critically analysing her story.

1. This woman had 2 children (12 and Six years old) from a previous relationship. The Father of her Children is Currently in Italy and told her to move on with her life as he has done. Good Lord knows why he abandoned his own family (Since there is a 3 years gap between the 2 kids, i will assume the first was 3 years old when he left)

2. She claims not to have Her Ex husbands contact or that of his siblings. This should tell you that this woman never had a good relationship with her husband's people and the reason for that is unknown.

2. She got married to this Man 3 Years ago and the marriage has produced a girl who is 2 years old and she is pregnant for another. Good Lord knows this woman loves kids.

3. Before her marriage with the new man was consummated, she confirmed that her husband ACCEPTED THE KIDS LIKE HIS OWN. Was he pretending? I dont think so.

4. Due to financial challenges, they moved to a smaller apartment and lived together with the Girl Child while the boy was sent to live with her elder brother and his wife. All through this period, the man never maltreated the girl child or rejected her.

5. Things got better 3 years later and they moved into a bigger apartment. Life has been good to them at least.

6. Her Husband has reneged on their agreement to bring in their son into the new apartment to live with them. We don't know his reasons but maybe, she will give us a clue in the next point. Remember, the Girl child still lives in peace with him in the house, he treats her just right and they have a perfect relationship.

7. This woman confirmed that her son is now a petty thief. In a space of 3 years, He was caught stealing and beaten like an animal. Whatever he stole is none of our business.

8. She pleaded with her husband to allow the boy to come and live with them and he said NO, his reason "he doesn't want him to damage our children". "Children" includes the girl child from the previous marriage I believe.

9. This boy has been rejected by his mothers immediate relatives (Her brother and Sister) due to his strange behaviours and thieving nature.

10. She claims she foots %70 of the bills in the family. Who knows? Married men will agree that when a woman resorts to emotional blackmail, this is her usual line.

11. This woman reconfirmed that her son is more important than her marriage. Here "I will not take him anywhere why does he have to live like an orphan whyle im alive ? To be honest My son is more important than my marriage and it’s my responsibilities to protect him"

12. Have you also observed that this woman Never talked about "Loving her husband"? Another confirmation that love never existed in the beginning.


My Good Friends, from the points listed above, you will agree with me that this woman married her current husband because she wanted a father figure for her children.

Anyone noticed how she isn't talking about her daughter with the man in question?

Which man will watch a thief come into his house in broad daylight and do nothing about it?

Or you think the man has no clue about your her son's sudden change?

All i see is a man who fears for the future. It's just like asking this woman to accept her Ex-husband just because he promised that he will always love her. Time Changes and People too.

What if the husband is the one trying to bring in his love child who steals? Will the woman allow that without a second thought?

If you are a parent, you will attest to the fact that one negative influence can destroy your perfect child.


I believe if her current husband is given an opportunity to tell his own side of the story, ears will tingle.

Advice 1

If she values her marriage, she should engage her husband in a heart to heart and try to convince him. From what i observed, the man isn't convinced enough. And believe me, it is very hard for a man or woman to accept a child with a history of crime. If she engages him and he is adamant, she can enrol the boy in a boarding school. I believe when the man sees the boy in his house for the second time, and he is coming from school and behaving well. The man will happily accept him.

The man still loves that boy.


Advice number 2

This woman yearns to be single again. But the truth is, singlehood cannot help her at this stage of her life because her children need a father figure which was why she got married in the first place. But if she thinks she can sustain singlehood, i will advise she dissolves the union and become a single parent.





To the young man out there who is about to make this mistake of a lifetime, please read this thread and reconsider.


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SATAN

You my friend are on point

KingSatan:
Few minutes after the news hit front-page that Leo aka Micah was killed by armed military men, i read through the comments section for people's opinion. While some commiserated with the family of the deceased, others with deep insight, questioned the source of his wealth from looks to his assets.

No doubt we live in a morally decayed society where beneficiaries of stolen funds are pushing so hard for everyone to accept the fact that "Illicit Gotten wealth" is legal. But I believe we still have a few people out there, parents, guardians etc who wish that the so called "Yahoo Trend" is fought to the very end within the arms of the law.

"The Truth"

Leo was a Yahoo Boy and an Azaman "As they are fondly called".


And for the world to loose such young soul, then parents of this age have failed!

Parents! Encourage your children to live within their means. Fast wealth is not the way to go.

We must salvage the little that is left or we loose our youths to crime.

There is Dignity in labour.

If we want a better world, we must fix our youths. We must engage them.

I leave the rest to law enforcement.

Leo is gone but those who kidnaped and killed him extrajudicially are still alive. May they be apprehended and punished as our constitution demands.

May God grant rest to the dead.

What bedevils me is how someone such as yourself has eluded me on this forum for so long..

We seem to share similar appetite for truth , unbridled thirst for knowledge and a flexible world view..

We must be friends henceforth.

It was your write up on the other thread that led me to you

Redmi 10X smartphone by the Xiaomi sub-brand is set to launch on May 26 in China. Now, ahead of the launch, the company has revealed that the phone will support 5G on both SIM card slots. Connectivity aside, the Redmi 10X will feature an AMOLED display. Redmi via its Weibo account has also revealed that the Redmi 10X will support 30x zoom and optical image stabilisation (OIS).

Earlier this week, Redmi General Manager Lu Weibing had confirmed that the Redmi 10X will be powered by the newly unveiled MediaTek Dimensity 820 SoC that supports dual 5G connectivity. The Xiaomi sub-brand via its Weibo account has suggested that the company will now leverage this technology to offer 5G connectivity on both SIM card slot in the phone.

In separate posts, it's been also announced that the Redmi 10X will feature an AMOLED display and support 30x zoom as well as OIS. Redmi has further teased that the smartphone will be highly customisable with text, patterns, and even images.

Redmi recently had confirmed that the phone will carry a quad rear camera setup that is speculated to include a 48-megapixel main camera. Redmi 10X is also up for pre-bookings on a Chinese e-retailer that is highlighting that the phone will come with a 4G variant. On the e-retail website, it is noted that the phone will be offered in Blue, Gold, Purple, and White colour options.

Other key details including camera specifications, battery capacity and pricing are yet to be announced. It is also tipped that Redmi 10X 4G will come with up to 6GB of RAM, while the Redmi 10X 5G is tipped to pack up to 8GB RAM.


Meanwhile, a report had suggested that the Redmi 10X also has a sibling, namely Redmi 10X Pro. The phone will be reportedly offered in 8GB + 128GB and 8GB + 256GB options and both the variants will come in Dark Blue, Gold, Silver / White, and Violet colour options. The report claims that the Pro variant of Redmi 10X will support 5G.

Cc dragnet

What is wrong with the Nigerian police force ?

Please can someone just tell me what is wrong with them ?

Summary

LGA chairman vandalized someone's shop because he felt he can

Local pastor goes to rant on Facebook seeking justice and gets this. The LGA chairman is made to repair the shop and pay a fine

This upsets the LGA chairman who goes to the village council of elders.to seek a revenge there by this young pastor is sentenced to public flogging which is done and recorded then shared on social media (don't ask me I dont know why they did this and exposed themselves)

Now video goes viral gets public sympathy and all the perpetuators are arrested hence this story

The end

It's a simple.thing really

Babatunde40:
I ave never entered an Airbus. But I have entered boeing and those smaller propeller engines planes. If you have entered an Airbus, let me know how it's like

Airbuses are cramped and age badly

777s are.the way to go , it was inevitable

@OP

Depression so a state of mind , it's the accepting my life is hard so I give up mentality.

Bro you have to fight for happiness. It's a struggle but trust me the change is around the corner

I can't stress it enough how easy the peace you seek can be achieved by just changing how you see iife

Oh my

Mama is gone

I remember spending days and nights at her house in bode thomas , with the lads

Their mum was fun always

Night playing PlayStation soccer

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somehelpington:
Good day all. I'll try to be brief and detailed.

I had to open a new account to stay anonymous because most of my friends come here to read news.

Pardon my english please. It all started in April of 2018. My friend told me that there was this trader nearby who needed our help to move her container shop. I think we were 6 in number or so that went to do the job. After which we were paid 400 naira each, some got 300.

While moving the container to the spot she directed us, the guy beside me left the container without informing me or should I say his hands slipped off. (Only God knows). The container gave me a deep sharp cut on my left arm.

There and then, I was rushed to a nearby chemist store to dress the wound, at the expense of the owner of the container, but I refused to take tetanus injection. For more than 6 months, the wound was taking forever to heal.

Around October 2018, My mum took me to one hospital near our house. It was when the doctor told us that the wound has already been infected, that was why it refused to heal or close up, and that the alternative was to cut off the infected surface and then stitch it up. After all and all, my mum paid 2 to 4k, (I've forgotten the exact amount). I was booked for operation on Friday morning.

I got to the hospital around 10 in the morning. The doctor gave me some injections on my left arm. She told me to lie down on the bed and close my eyes. Before then, I think I saw one of the nurses giving her the surgical blade (very sharp). There and then, she proceeded to cut of the infected surface, which I think lasted roughly 1 hour. After that, she began to stitch it up. I could feel what was going on but I don't think it hurt me either, maybe it was because of the injection. When she was done, she used plaster to cover it up and told me to be coming for injections for one week.

After one week, I went back to the hospital, where one of the nurses had to remove the plaster and surgical thread after bombarding my buttocks with injections for 7 days. After some days, I noticed the surface began to inflate on a daily basis. We went back the hospital and the doctor told my mum to buy what the Igbos call Abuba Eke (snake skin) to rub on the surface. After using it for some days, I noticed it wasn't working, which means it was not the original Abuba Eke.

Fast forward to March of 2019, we went to another hospital, where we met one doctor like that, I can't remember what they called him but I think he's in charge of skin related issues. (That was not before paying 2k for card). Even after explaining our predecament to him, he still insisted we should get the card.

After that, he directed us to Orchard Pharmacy, to go get one injection like that. It's sold for 2k and the bottle is very small. He said it would be the best treatment, that after giving me the injection for like 2 or 3 times, it would flatten the scar, because it was a keloid scar and that if I should decide to operate on it, which he would advise us not to, that it might still come back after sometimes in a bigger form. All this made me scared.

Well, we came back with the bottle injection which he gave me 3 times right beside the scar, it was very painful but I am a man. After sometimes, I noticed the scar got inflated and was like about to get burst. When we got home, It was now flatter than it was. Due to money issues, we didn't go back to the hospital. (Chai, I must make am)

Now, I am very confused at this point. I don't know if I should go to the village to collect the Abuba Eke (snake skin) my grandma bought to be using on the scar or we should go back to the hospital (in search of the man, that's if he's still there) to collect the remaining injections.

I know my case is not the worst and I still have hope because I believe, My current situation is not my final destination.

Please I need your help and contributions.

NB: Please don't come here to tell me to go and make money first, as if money equals peace of mind.

I'd be grateful if it gets to the front page.

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You have no problems if this is your problem

I covered up my scars with tattoos

Move on ... Grow up

michlins:
Is this guy a magician or what

I am asking myself the very same thing

The world will not know the losses it has suffered until this pandemic has passed

So many creators , programmers ,voice actors and actresses, artists and animators have passed away

The anime and gaming world has lost another icon to the dreaded Coronavirus

Kumiko Okae (1956–2020), Japanese voice actress in “Pokémon: Lucario and the Mystery of Mew”

Details of death: Died at a Tokyo hospital of complications of COVID-19 at the age of 63.


Notable roles
Okae frequently appeared on Japanese TV for decades, including hosting the morning show “Hanamaru Market” for almost 20 years. She was internationally known for voiceover roles, including Naoko in Studio Ghibli’s “The Cat Returns” (2002) and Elina in “The Dog of Flanders” (1997), as well as Ryouko in the manga series “Attack No. 1” (2005).

Other deaths rumored

Hideo kijima metal gear franchise creator

Hokaga 242 famous mobile app modder and hacker

CC:. r231, Freiburger

Kekereekun123:
Jide is mad. But this Anita salary get as he be. She has to be a top manager to earn such . I have seen a madam earning 3m net a month in an oil company. And she had 17 years experience o. Means anita is not even evening newspaper but suya newspaper. Jide is still mad anyways.

Has to be a fake story

Guy you be idiot

Goat
Cow
Fufu

Apple

In short I hate you

You made me.laugh and pee

Suya paper na new one

Hahjascho:
It's good you summarised it well.

Now, does person who becomes so successful financially through favorable opportunies, chances and luck fits in to the definition of success you gave?...in addition to the previous comment you made.

Success encompasses many things not the way society has made us to believe.

Yes they do, you can't be selective when the whole is considered

For example was Picasso a lunatic ? Yes but was he a successful artistic genius? Yes

It's simply what it is

Hahjascho:
Anyway, in the of journey of success, favour and luck have their own place (s).

But what's your own definition of success?

It's a wholelistic perspective

It's a combination of all, societal value , career, financial, family , religious , philanthropy, a legacy and social standing

When all these boxes are thicked then truly I consider one successful

More of the Nigerian army propaganda busted

What a shame indeed

star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

I can relate bro

Firstly you need to understand the habit

It's a very strong addiction. It takes understanding and counselling mixed with physical therapy

It's not a short term cure

The best counsellors are those who recovered from the addiction themselves, trust me no pastor or imam can help him

Let.me.talk to him remotely if he can use a smart phone

Secondly separate him from your mum for her safety

If I talk to him and I am satisfied I will take up your case and mind you it's not a cheap or short process it can take you from sic months to 14 months but after that if he can stay the course you will see real progress

seanwilliam:
never downplay the role of "grace and luck"...

But aside those two, you Cant make it without what the op posted... it's still the traditional way baba- hardwork and smart work..





True true no particular pattern to success

My bro no pattern at all

At times my guys life just makes me think that this life , we don't even understand the secret yet

techmo:
Bsc holder always fill they have arrived. well I graduated when you prolly were in ss1 and am talking Msc

Bsc?

I rest my.case

Go away

Be a good lad, graduate well and land a good job then see how embarrassed you will feel when you look back at all the time you wasted here

Grow up kid

techmo:
Yoruba Amaka

Almagamation of Southern and Northern Nigeria, Yoruba signed the documents

Independence Yoruba fought for and signed for it

National flag Yoruba designed it

National anthem Yoruba partly composed it

National Pledge was written by a Yoruba

Naira was named by Awolowo a Yoruba

Do not derail this thread !

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techmo:
got my eyes on you again.. this time you vacation would last along time so prepare your alternate username and we shall burst that too

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Again like I said you should read your books and graduate well.then you will see how little time to have for here.

And when you do find the time , you make it count be reporting narcissistic tribalistic bigots like I do , off course when you have the energy for that



Go and read your books , read hard graduate well and see what life offers

Everytime this man is in the news I just smile

He is really trying

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techmo:
you know I could just quote the mod and tag rule 2 and set you up again for asking if I was mental, just like the rule 20 and telling mods how you go about harassing peoples mention

but since you just got back from the correctional facility and you seem reformed and less biased i'll let you enjoy the fresh air of being released

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Like I said , when you finally graduate school you will discover there is more to life than this.

Don't bug me again

Read your books , bug those

techmo:
now you have decided to play neutral and not lean towards a section

lol your last ban must have made you have some sober reflection

Are you mental ?

Ban?

Smh .. grow up

My life doesn't revolve on nairaland, I actually have a job that can sometimes take me away for months on end , no time for nairaland

When you graduate you will understand