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eepeepook:
Am I being set up? This is a first instance. I’m used to other males passing their female friends or exes my way. This is the first time a female friend has done so.

Not strange, some girls consider themselves as matchmakers. Some even give their sisters not just friends.

This was the biggest mistake Emefiele made. Of course there was a section of the APC who kept flirting with GEJ as an alternative to Tinubu but they couldn't advance their scheme because of the mutual secret within APC.

So, the Naira Policy knocked all Emefiele's average management of the naira exchange regime into the gutters when he tried to implement the new note policy. People died because of lack of cash. Nigerians bought money because of this policy, and at the end of the day we still ended up with the most blatant rigging episode since the return of the 4th republic.

Personally, if I was in his shoes, I would have left Nigeria proceeding on terminal leave ahead of schedule in April 2023. Because his arrest was only a matter of time.

Do you see why Nigeria is in a deep mess?

Look at all the naysayers saying power UNN first, power one LG first....

How did China and Japan develop?

We are our own problem, and unless someone can forcefully unite everyone in this country, we will continue to be a laughing stock.

Why?

Because research is the foundation for development. That is why we need funding for education.

Research is meant to be implemented. Pilot projects ought to be commissioned, feasibility studies conducted and project commissioning on a sustainable scale, until all LGs are covered, but no, all you dimwits can utter is negative jeers.

Nigeria will never work with this attitude. When Education does not benefit society, the result is what we have now: a failed state.

Pakute:
After Supreme court judgement, Obi yansh go open, una go collect receipt tire. This is just the begining. Atiku and Obi messed with the wrong guy. Shebi Atiku fit go US court to ask for certificate, that same US, he go finally enter there to answer his case he been run away from since 2008 when Jagaban go remove hin cover give FBI.. Dem dey strike like Giroud but when Jagaban go strike, e go be like Ronaldo Delima.

How much you want bet am say na your yansh go open no be Atiku own?

No.

Don't do it. It is not worth it.

Don't allow a woman to suggest something as stupid as this with possible negative implications. What do you stand to gain? Do you know the future? Why will you choose to put yourself in harm's way?

Don't be stupid.

Like the advice above this post, you have to put yourself first. I don't want to mention tribal things but with what you have seen, leave before your life is endangered.

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

Marry a new wife. I don't know how you married this one despite all the red flags because this woman might be the weapon fashioned against you.

How can a person advising other people refuse to practise the same, Isn't that the definition of a hypocrite? What about her father? I only read the mention of her mother etc...

Sukkyy2010:
I don't know the phenomenon you compiled this your hypothesis or theory from wherever you the source it's not valid and the basic fact is any above 40yrs woman V would have lose its tightness.

I hope you know this is false. People who have given birth to children still have good organs. Not everyone becomes slack, skin type and nurture contributes to the experience.

Tell her to ride you at all times. As long as she can sustain your erection and you are not tired, let her do the riding.

This backyard is actually not little.

You guys were not fair to him. YOUR father had plenty people coming to the wedding.

YOUR father demanded he must pay everything once.

Your father said they would provide this and that.... So he married your family and not you isn't it?

The problem is not the finances, it is the lack of understanding. No pity for the new marriage rather a very big focus on the wedding.

Do you know how stressful it is to be into or sell insurance in Nigeria?

You just made the guy realise he has added suffering to his life. "igbeya-wo"

EdiskyHarry:
Uyo is the worst place to stay in Nigeria.
A place where unemployment is on its peak, but cost of living very high.
Go to Abuja my dear.
The biggest mistake I made in my life was relocating from Abuja to uyo after my nysc.
It's still hurting me up till today.

It's a matter of luck because Abuja only has a few jobs to offer except you are into sales and marketing. Menial jobs and teaching jobs are the easiest to come by and it depends on so many factors to make a decent living for a young guy in Abuja.

Lagos is slightly better because it has more opportunities.

princejite:
[b][/b]wow please am also interested too in relocating from PH to Abuja, as a young man, what is the percentage of making it over there, am reasoning to resign my work here in PHC and start up a new life over there, please u can also suggest place that is cool and calm. to start up life . Thanks

Abuja isn't that easy for young guys except you have connections here already that can help you settle down.

It's a good idea moving to Abuja.

Gwarimpa is one of the best places for young people in this town.

Get active on Twitter too. There is an Abuja Twitter Community and there are regular events where you can meet people, unwind, have fun and market your wares.

Make sure you have a business or side-hustle.

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