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Bright isn't very bright. Saying this in reference to today's head of house challenger and other tasks/games they have had before.

At 36, the bride cannot arrange for transportation or organise her family to arrange transportation for her own wedding? Hmm.
And the family too cannot bring out transportation for themselves to their own daughter's wedding. Haha.
It's not everything the groom would do na.

Are you aware that if anything bad happens to any kid or even adult you give edibles to, you will be held responsible. And are you aware that the mentality of the people in your environment won't let them reason with you. They may even kpai or seriously maim you before help comes. Or if it doesn't get to this, your name could be soiled for something you truly had no hand in.

Probably if you keep this in mind, you will stop risking your reputation and life in that environment.

In this life, where possible its better to give money and non-edibles than edibles. In your case, stop all for now or reduce all drastically. They will respect you more. Seems ironic.

ScotHarvath:
If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the Tsound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Let your current wife see that other version of you first. See, most women like good men but they only respect and truly love a man they perceive as strong and firm. Mature women who have seen and experienced life will know the worth of a good man but most ladies don't till they learn to.

You need to become more firm with her. Don't tolerate nonsensical behaviour from her. Ignore her till thy kingdom come if she starts misbehaving. You can also choose not to mince words with her. Lay it all out with a very firm hard tone and face. Let her realise herself and choose a better path. Then let her know you won't continue to take mistreatment and foul words from her. Or there will be consequences. Not necessarily divorce. But don't tell her you can't do away with her if push comes to shove.
If she really values you and her marriage, she will seek for ways to make amends. If she doesn't, its her loss.

Even if she changes, love her very well but never become a door mat or an effeminate man again. Continue to be that strong firm disciplined man she knows she can't misbehave with. That man she knows loves her to the moon and back but won't take rubbish attitudes from her. This is the ideal man many women want and respect.

Store it in the freezer in such a way that moisture cannot get in. The intense cold temperature won't let any weevil survive, grow or multiply. With this method, my beans can remain fresh through the year.

AyodejiSugar , hope your boy is alright now. I pray for quick and full recovery on him. He will indeed be the coolness of your eyes.

tammyf , SoCalm and bimberry1307 ... For most skin issues on babies I recommend Sudocrem (made in UK/Ireland). You will notice improvement within days. Check baby stores or good supermarkets/pharmacies to be sure you're buying original. I don't know if there are fakes though.

HEISGOD , have you tried pap mixed with formula, very soft swallow and pepperless and boneless but sweet okro/draw soup, mashed soft rice, potatoes, yam tc.
Find out the foods baby likes and give him more of that.

Beekind , start working with a fertility doctor even before marriage. She can start taking medications now following doctor's prescription. She can be put on pregnacare conception 6-3 months before wedding. Fertility hospitals are there to use as soon as you feel you need to. Add this with prayers and faith and she could conceive immediately after wedding. Don't go and marry a woman who has no character because you are looking for kids. If you don't have peace, you may still leave the marriage.

Like another poster said, some young women marry and wait for years for kids. While some older women marry and take in sooner than expected. Though age is a factor but you can't take the God factor and having knowledge (and sometimes resources) out of the fertility equation. Anything is possible. And nothing is guaranteed. Wish you a fruitful marriage in every area.

A woman that doesn't need to bear kids anymore. Because she already has or because she can't have. So a mature woman in age and character fits this description.

What he needs marriage for now ideally should be for companionship.

Jewessgratitud3:
Hmm... You seem to understand my personality.

The thing is, they come anytime I talk to God about it but my fear is I keep getting what I don't really want. Like no feelings for them. Like now, as I was typing , one just called me. He's everything but the attraction is not there. I'm scared I don't want to enter and now regret. No feelings for him.

Sis, feelings can grow. Especially if your partner ticks most of your boxes ,he treats you right and God blesses your household with good finances. Happiness and love will flow.

Some started with feelings but hardship, sickness and the troubles of life made the love and feelings to fly out the window. Pls, consider one of the good men around you. Your children and a good loving Husband will bring on any feelings you want.

cenaman:
my son at 2yrs can speak fluently, he stops wearing diapers at 1yr and will tell you when ever he wants to pee or poo

Thats your cup of tea. Other kids don't have to live by your son's standards. Every child is unique. There are other areas in which others are better than him.

NaijaGoBetter2:
RIP

After working for 72hours non-stop he still when to church, so the working house is more than 72hrs because no one go to church to relax................... God is good all the time.

As a medical doctor I believe you should know what is best for you and condition of your health...

Just what I thought. He would have rested that day naa. Haba. RIP to the innocent doc.

flexyrule:
If you're active on Twitter and IG... You might not really need this nairaland.

The news here are always stale!

The comment section is always filled with unnecessary banters abd tribalistic comments...

Unmoderated ads and Celestine Nwankwo and his bandwagon of online beggars.

We like it like that

NaijaRealtor , if you can keep her ,do so since you have already taken her in. But bring in a paid bigger girl or lady that is at least 18years of age to be a nanny and do the housework. She could be live-in or live-out.
Your little niece can be assisting sometimes if the need arises. They would also 'monitor' each other. Lol.

Relatives, ideally, should not be used to do chores or maid work. It should be their choice to help out. Most of them come with the mindset to relax in their relatives homes. Get a real maid and allow them enjoy your home.

Whitesnow01:
I want Venita in Finals with her boo, I’m tempted to vote for her 🌚🌚

Lol. Then her plan for shipping with Adekunle is working. If I were an Adekunle fan, I wouldn't vote for her. She's just using the guy to buy time in the house knowing he may be a strong contender.
How come She didn't give morale support to her boo on eviction day or before that day. He just stood there all alone. Quarrel or no quarrel, that was the time he needed her the most.
Also, I don't like people who jubilate at the misfortune of others. She does it to Doyin repeatedly and its immature.

beekind , you have to be careful with your conditions so you don't end up a single man at 50/60 desperately looking for a lady who will be willing to marry him. It happens. I know someone who this happened to because of this same seeking for fertility/ children matter. Nothing is guaranteed. Your best bet is to keep seeking for a girl of good character and marry her. Leave all these conditions of fertility test or getting pregnant with two kids aside. Sometimes, even virgins may have delay in child bearing.

If you re finding it hard to find a girl of good character, ask your family or friends to recommend a virtuous lady they know and can vouch for. There are still good girls out there. Search well. Stop with the conditions. True love is not so conditional. What if she births two kids for you, you marry her and She becomes a thorn in the flesh to you and your family as payback? Marry her if you want to and if she's good before She births more kids which isn't even guaranteed.

Doyin is big on friendships, has a good heart and is very bright but its a pity she lacks emotional intelligence. She doesn't think before talking. She's bold so she isn't afraid to say whats on her mind to anybody anytime. She literally slices people who are not her friends yet to pieces with her words. Then She begins to wonder why everyone hates her. Its not everything one sees or thinks that one should say. Even Doyin herself can't take half of what She says to others but I still admire other traits about her. She's not bad. She just talks too carelessly sometimes.

colossus91:
So I currently work as a system admin in a new generation bank where I earn almost 500k while also having a side hustle that pays me 400dollrs monthly, I’m thinking of relocating as my sis and her husband have been on my case to migrate, I am in my early 30 no serious relationship just figuring if japa is the way cos my remote job actually pays me better if I’m here than leaving just need advice on this.

Except you have a very comfortable job offer(s) there that can match or surpass your current earnings, you better stay here in Nigeria and just be visiting abroad for vacations.There are are estates and places here that are like or even better than some areas abroad. Make yourself very comfortable here and have the best of both worlds anytime you wish.

yolada:
Na lie, nobody bought car for her. Na toto work. Make them no dey use all this fans buy this and that to dey cover up ashawo work.

Check the mama's age and listen to yourself again. Slowly this time.

Preggymum:
Good morning mamas. I have Wellman conception to give out. Anyone that needs it and can't afford it should send me a mail. Pls, just for those that needs it and can't afford it. Location, ojodu berger. Thank you.

Well done. God bless you.
If no one comes to take it, your husband can still take it as its just one pack. It doesn't harm even after the result has been achieved.
I think its like women who take the ones for female. After getting pregnant they can still safely finish up their pre-conception tablets within the first trimester. It will still give much needed vitamins and strength.
Let him finish it. Nothing there.

Quintopia:
You are a fcking dunce. So he should have sacrificed his happiness because of money and power and ‘royalty’. The way you people reason shows why Nigeria is in this state. Your morals are in the gutter and your ONLY god is money.

Why should you take the advice of a woman who advises you to leave your royal heritage and damn your birth family? Thats who you are. Its not only about money and power. Its about where you came from.

If Meghan had issues with racism in the royal household, She would have tried to handle it with wisdom. A wise woman sometimes stoops to conquer. In most oyibo countries, even in that America where she came from and ran back to, there's racism even if its not up to Britain's own.
Most blacks experience this not only in Royal households. Even in Nigeria here, we battle with tribalism and segregation.
So tell me, as a new Wife, should she not be trying to integrate into the family and help create more unity/love till She is fully accepted?
Instead, She is doing the opposite . Its She and unfortunately Harry too, that will cry and lose more eventually. Its not everything that is fight fight or gragra.

ORAFA:
Why are they running?

I tire oh. Would paparrazi drag them out of their cars if they meet them? I think Harry and Meghan just want to be dramatic with this one jor.

Princess Diana, His mother, was running probably because She was with her black boyfriend after her split from her husband.
These ones are legally married so why are they running? Drama prince and wife.

You're a perfectionist and a gentleman at heart. That is why you feel so guilty. Forgive yourself knowing that nobody is perfect. You were not perfect in the relationship. Neither was she. Relationships are not meant to be broken and mended over and over again. The cracks will wear it down and result in more instability. I am sure you have learnt this. Moving forward, refrain from breaking up your subsequent relationships unnecessarily. And teach the other party to do same. My Husband taught me this while we were dating because I used to believe in break-up and make up.

Try to think less about it by getting other things to occupy your thoughts. Books, films, comedy (highly recommended for times like this), skills, jobs. Even a new girl if you find one of good character and one you can relax/flow with. Forget those rebound tales you read. Life sometimes doesn't follow what conventional books say. The best healing for broken relationships most times comes from loving and being loved again.

Lastly, time heals most wounds. With the
above aids, within a short time ,you won't feel pain or lonely anymore. Without the aids, the time could be longer but you will still heal. Take care.

Will they learn? I doubt. Tomorrow, another person will still participate in another worthless dangerous challenge so he or she can post and gain likes/followers. Harming and embarrassing themselves for people who don't really care. Mtchew.

BrighterThanDay:
Thank you Kobojunkie. I'm so stressed, I used to be a very industrious lady, one with many ideas to make money and fun to be with, I can just feel this marriage sucking the life out of me. I really want to end this. This emotional torment is too much for anyone.

Take things easy. This will pass. Always remember that most trials have expiry dates.
Try to get occupied with other things and think less about this particular situation so it doesn't lead to deep depression which sometimes makes us do things we regret.

Just give yourself sometime, things will iron out themselves. For the Inlaws, try to be at peace with them as much as its within your power. But laslas no be by force. Don't force peace. But don't encourage war or isolation.

All will be well.

An innocent 8 year old girl is being sexually molested in her own home with her parents and brother fully aware and the molester has not been kicked out. No concrete measures is being taken to stop this molester or to protect this girl and her sisters who are minors.

Father, mother, aunty , Uncle are looking and waiting perhaps for their family to be completely destroyed first before they wake up from their wickedness.

Elder brother, pls do all you can to get that molester out of your home before you head off to NYSC. And make sure you put measures in place to prevent him from ever returning to that house till your sisters are mature and independent enough to protect themselves. Those young girls are counting on you Bro. Don't disappoint them pls. Let God use you to save them.

You can report to elders within your family who you feel are more enlightened and wise enough to help stop this disaster. And you may employ other legal means too or disgrace him and chase him out with your mother if you feel your Dad may support you guys now or later. Just do anything legal to protect your sisters.

Vivi01:
Congratulations to all the latest mothers in the house... pls I have a question o.I went for my baby 6weeks immunisation today and I just got home now and curiosity made me check the card where they do tick the vaccines given and I noticed they didn't tick the Rota1 part and these guys in the hospital didn't tell me anything ( I use airforce hospital Abuja).pls is it that Rota virus vaccine is taken during 10weeks and not 6weeks or the hospital didn't have and didn't tell us or its not important pls help me.

Rota is very expensive. In my Hospital then, mothers were required to officially request for it one week in advance. That was 2020. Can't remember the exact cost. Whether 9k or 19k. If you don't mention it, the nurses won't mention it either. Its not compulsory but if one has the funds, its good to take it.

So she chose multilevel marketing AKA GNLD, above University education with all expenses taken care of.
SMH. Ignorance is bad.

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FlowerGirl040:
It's really impossible,I know what I am saying. If I want to go out to work then as I leave ,I leave my marriage and kids behind. That's him. That can't happen for now,bec I don't have shishi. I should have had something doing by now though but I never knew he was deceiving me with empty promise. Even when his uncle spoke to him about it. Every single person in his family knows he does whatever he wants to do without caring whatever anyone said.

Sis, may God guide and keep you. Because when a man does things like preventing a woman from getting outside interaction through job, trade or skill acquisition; when he doesn't allow her have any money etc... It all boils down to control and 'absolute power'. And its a dangerous setting for those men that are wicked.

You need to regain some control over yourself and children born and unborn. That will make him not to feel he can do and behave anyhow and nothing will happen. He needs to have some respect and care for you pls. What if in not letting you go to hospital, you had died then?
I was chilled when I read about the innocent baby kept at home not crying or moving well for a whole month! Pls things need to change for the better if it has not started changing. So that this would cease to be a time bomb. You are gloriously made in the image of God and deserve far better treatment. Do all you can to get that treatment.
Well done for speaking up. Now begin to put plans into place to ensure you're treated well. God guide and give you wisdom on how to go about this.

Yipee!!!! I am so happy for Senegal. I was rooting for them. They played well. They deserved their first win abeg.