DuchessLily:
Eyaahh... If all u posted is real, then Sorry bro, u married an Olosho


Well this is what u should do - ... fast and pray for God to change her.. ( as that is d advice given to women when her hubby is doing this kind of rubbish) and again "'stop touching her fone; yes ke! leave her fone alone, so u don't give urself high bp" (advice given to women). no be only women go dey endure this kind rubbish.

Looooool! You forgot the part where you are supposed to advice him to trim his pot belly and wear red boxers...


@op
Very sorry about this situation. I think you should confront her. You have all the evidence you need....

Despair not.
You can take the JAMB form. You can also do predegree or IJMB in addition.
I can remember back then, I didn't take JAMB form in my SS3. So my dad shipped me off to a POLY for A-Levels the January after I graduated from Secondary School.

I was there, and took Jamb form. I was preparing for my IJMB exams too when I went for JAMB exam.
Because of the knowledge gained there, I was done with my JAMB paper in a few minutes and I scored 250. I also aced my IJMB too, which was the result I used in getting into 200level in school. I ended up not using the JAMB.

The moral of this story is to explore different options. You will definitely see your mates in school. Its even your type that will do excellently well in school sef. I see you getting a first class because you will do away with all the distractions a chewing gum boy will be carried away with.
Cheers!

Jtmanager:




Calm down no be we.like ur post xo
Some of us smoke weed u know Happy new yr

Loool. Same to you....

mistarsam:

True. My name has changed too..Remember the moniker 'Bheegsam'? Your number one stalker back then . Things definitely cannot remain d same again as I don deactivate dt particular account *sad face* Miss you sha. How is work, hobby and d kids? HAPPY NEW YEAR

Oh oh.
Why did uou deactivate na? Miss you too o. Work is fine. The man is also fine. Kids ke? Never mentioned any kids o. Loool.
Wish you a prosperous new year.

misterh:
Life happens to us all! Thanks for the good times though.

Abiii!

You are not fed up yet. Because if you are, no one would have to teach you how to get rid of a leech!

Choi! See her burnt elbow. She had a nice complexion before na. Why tamper with it? Na wa oo!!

I like this man. Very humble, very innovative....

Mttccchhheewwwww!!

Why is it that the males on this thread are so derogatory about this? Saying she's not pretty, she doesn't know what labour is?

You guys just seem like embittered sadists, determined to keep her in 'her place'. Like how dare she attempt to look pretty in the delivery room, huh?

Please let her be o. She can handle it, thats why.
Common stomach ache, you guys will be complaining and whining everywhere...

anumide:


the lesson wasn't hard enough jor. I was expecting to read that they broke your head with bottle.

Nah.
We are gentle folks in my family. Non of that razzness around us....

For termination, you get paid a little change. Because termination comes from downsizing and so on.
For dismissal, no. You might even have to return money because dismissal comes from fraud or going against company policy that resulted in loss of money.

nigeriancuban:
lol,either ways na soup you don enter unless you ve got another job alternative.

It's not soup for one who has planned ahead.
Except you've been using ALL your salary for TGIF.

Never had an F.

I do my savings in an account with no debit card and no e-banking.

I use another account for my day to day/monthly transactions. I have a card for that, and I have mobile alerts. But I also have the facility to disable the card on my mobile app if stolen, as long as I have internet on it.
And if not, I can call customer care!!

Not after working your butt off to make the cash then someone comes along and walks away with it cheaply. It doesn't mean you can't be robbed but we GATS minimise damage.

Oyind17:

I dey my own jejely na him dey worry me to visit him. Truth is I can't type everything here but its not normal to me

Hmmn.
A marriage counselor I had interaction with, told me that they advise in laws not to visit the couple for a year, at least. Especially from the man's side.

That this will give the husband and wife time to settle in, without uneccessary issues.
In fact, he specifically told me that the wife might be sick or might be feeling like being spoilt by hubby and enjoin him to cook and affirmed it sometimes happens in his own house. He said an in law, if around, would definitely pick offence.

I am not asking you to stay away from visitations. But when you are around a couple, it's just not black and white.

@op I'd be mad too....

Oyind17:

I only asked a question cos I felt bad. light hid marriage on fire ke! who have extra time for another man's marriage?

Well, just maintain your lane

thelish:


Na their type dey turn marriages to Fuji house of commotion. If her own husband do all these for her, she will be d most happiest o. Women leave other privileged women alone. Jealousyyy.

Looool@jealousyyy

babygirlfl:
Funny thing is that the op will get married herself and wish she had a husband that is that helpful. When you get married, provided you don't have a detective in-law like you, you can decide to make sure your husband never gives a hand and nobody will ask you.

This is the reason why inlaws are sometimes not welcome. Instead of coming and helping out and make the family miss you when you go, you decided to make yourself an unpaid detective investigating a loving couple with the hope of passing unsolitated information to you mum. Please mind your business.

On a side note, a woman does not need to be sick or pregnant for her husband to help out in the home and they are many reasons a woman can ask the husband to get something even though other people are there. It could be because he is the only other person that knows where it is or the only person to be able to reach it or simply because the do things that way and don't think too much about such little things.

True this!!

yvelchstores:
Pray for his marriage. Try not to instigate a problem. As long as there is peace in d home, trust me your brother will live a long and enjoyable life. You don't knw if she had cramps or if her health is going tru sometin, maybe a miscarriage, u don't knw cos u are an outsider. Allow them as ling as there is peace in the home.

This makes plenty sense.
And Oyind17, take note of the operative sentence here: "You are an outsider".
Because I'm sure you are getting set to light their peaceful home on fire.

I myself learnt the hard way years ago when I saw my uncle and his wife arguing during a visit. I felt so hurt at the way she insulted him while he was majorly quiet. It was a Saturday, and I was waiting for a suitable occasion to download what I'd seen to my mum (just like you). Though my mum is a peaceful angel sha. She would never interfere. So the downloading would have just been a gist.

But the next day, I heard my uncle proudly talking of how his wife knew him better than anyone in the world and was his best friend. I was like :O

That was how I learnt that when it comes to a couple, you can never tell because you arent with them 24/7. Just mind your own business!

MathsChic:

First, you are not the police. Neither is anyone on Nairaland.
Second, shouldn't care more that you haven't heard from the other party and are only drawing your conclusions from one side of the story?
You clearly don't get it. I have no other words for you.

Just as you are not a judge of the law. And clearly not in the position to tell me or anyone what to care about.

Aaaaand I don't wish to 'get' whatever it is you're trying to justify.
Bye!!

MathsChic:

Madam. there is no need to get all excited and angry. If you want to think like "most people" you are most welcome to do that.
Yes, as you have rightly observed the marriage is not working and it would be best to advise the man from that perspective, not immediately crucify a woman whose side of the story you have not heard. I bet you have no idea how this would have played out if it was a woman saying the same thing about her husband, have you?. Many of the testosterone-driven posts here would most probably have taken sides with a man whose story they haven't heard.

When a person calls 911, to lodge a complaint of being followed or being threatened, why does the police respond first to the immediate danger? Why not wait and hear from the other party? Nothing wrong in thinking like most people when it comes to the preservation and wellbeing of a human. I don't care what naira land men would have said assuming it was woman at the receiving end, neither can that cloud my reasoning in this matter.
What is wrong is wrong. And if it was a woman or a child who came to say what this op has said, my conscience behooves me to seek their wellbeing and safety first, before any other thing.

PresVA:
Typical traditional man who believes the more a woman suffers, the more wifely she's. .

Ladies, run away from men that reason this way cos you go work tire and he won't mind, believing that's what makes a woman...

Don't mind him.
Let him go and ask from samocholi who married hurriedly because the chick woke up at 4am to sweep the compound.
When people have such mentalities, they get what it is they are looking for.

Greekgoddess:
We did not break up

He is late

Oh oh!! So sorry about that.

MathsChic:


Isn't that the point of hearing the other side of the tale first? If you were a judge, sitting on a case such as this, you'd just go ahead and tell the defendant that you think at least 20% of what the plaintiff is saying is true enough, without hearing her out? Again, be wise. No one is saying all what he has stated up there isn't alarming. Of course it is. But that his side of the story. However, common sense (yes, common sense!) demands that you hear from the "defendant" first become hurrying to your 20% conclusion.

Madam. Go and look for the woman and ask her for own side of the story na.
That is how you people sit on the fence till a life is lost and then you go tut-tutting in your 'sagely wisdom'.
That is if common sense doesn't tell you that the indignation being shown by most people here is based on the presumption that what OP says or even some of it is true.
Even if its not and he woke up to tell such grave lies against his wife, they still don't have any business together. Such a union is a recipe for disaster.

MathsChic:

I can't believe you'd draw conclusions from just one side of the story. Be wise.

It's called reading between the lines. Someone who registered with Nairaland in 2007 without being so active cannot just wakeup in 2015 to spin tales.

Let's even assume he blew things out of proportion. Will he lie about his wife purportedly going to collect igbese from a debtor and ending up collecting married dik and a liberal topping of sperm like a common ho.
Or running out of the house in pant like a mad woman.
Or eating chicken while giving husband watery oha without meat.
Or the jazz he found in her possession?

Abeggi. What is bad is bad. Even if he lied about a lot, there must be an atom of truth being said. And just 20 percent of what is stated here is enough to abandon ship for....

Maybe he needs his privacy. Must you work in Lag?

You seem controlling....

Greekgoddess:
Mine was a wonderful experience, tho he waited for 2yrs, i was scared at first cos i have heard stories of how painful it is

But he was gentle, loving, caring, after dat day his love for me increased

Why did you guys break up?

EggovinMma:
Samocholi,
To be sincere with you, it's best you leave that marriage. I think with thus whole story, the time is already too ripe . Haba! So you mean she slept with a married man that poured sperm inside her ? That your wife is really nasty, sorry to say.How can a woman chase her husband with a pant over 5k for something as frivolous and useless as make up? ! Jesus Christ!

That is the part that grossed me out the most. As in, a married woman opened her legs wide for a married man to pour sperm in it?? Very gross, very nasty and dirty.

thiscounts:


...and to add...the first time you brought her home to your parent that she surprise them with early morning sweeping of the house..guess what she got them first under spell before she got you.Sweeping the home gave her access to some corners and areas of the house which ordinarily she wouldn't have had access to plant and hide her charms.

No wonder they couldn't free you from her grip.You are living with a demon from the pit of hell.She will take you in except you escape now!

Hmmn!