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illicit:
I don't want to go to heaven, nor hell....

nobody is going to heaven!

Realestbae:
I don't understand why is everybody sounding like is a big deal, maybe because a man is the victim here. Somebody like me that my husband refused to tell his monthly earnings, he does thing for his family without my knowledge, this is a man that refused to give me 300k for business but sent his mother 200k to fix her car, pay part of her house rent even when she is richer than my husband and clearly can afford her needs, a man that doesn't care about our fertility state though through my mom's help am seeking medical attention, a man that I don't know anything about his finance and expenditure. I thank God that am not doing anything for now cause it enabled me to know the kind of man he is.By the time I start earning he will know that karma is a bitch as in I will show him pepper

that's why God still never allow you dey do anything.
am sure your husband knows what u are capable of.

Offpoint1:
Just quit bro now else you will keep procrastinating till infinity.....

You can play 2 sure odds with 500k and rollover the next day and you'll have more than enough to start.

lol, you be tuen!

Francisayo:
I've been teaching in a private school for two years, but the money is just too small and never enough this made me think of a business to start...

I got a loan of #500k to start a block industry on a small scale, even though I'm still in fact finding and research stage about the business but I hope to start very soon.

I'm currently not in my town as where I teach is in another state but I planned to set up d block industry in my town.

I planned to resign next week after vacation, I want to tell d owner I won't be resuming with them next term...

Guys do u think this is a good idea.

Thanks

it is. pick a location that is developing for the business.

best of luck.

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

you be man!

Happiboispot:
I know you don't understand English go check dictionary and get back to me. may then I can answer your question

see this full

Happiboispot:
miss place priority

*misplaced

what should be the priority oga?

othermen:
Again.

its yearly now, besides they make over a billion naira for those 3months. who no like money?

get this software 'disk drill' install and run it, you will see option for recovering files from recycle bin

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright...
People no longer mind thier business in this gadmnnn world

I remember my grandfather will always say to me son....
Am 145 years old and still very much alive and healthy...do you know why son?
Because am always minding my business

fućking liar!

Zzor:
What's his source of money,don't tell me acting please.I don't trust him

na Yahoo yahoo

prinsam30:
infact I go prefer that sleep pass this boring setup by clueless Ole

good, pls hurry to it.

tunapawizzy:
if he was waiting to be unmarked before receiving a pass, then he is not ready to be a serious player

u pass to who is free not who is marked!

prinsam30:
very nonsensical boring game

go and sleep then.

Whitecoal711:
Pride
First blame was our leader ,now the mass
B boy we made you
Pride come with fall
You can't eat it finish if we cook give you
Show appreciation to the people

how did u make him? na you dey write songs for am?

Beckysexy:
He's a good artist no doubt but he is not mature.

why say so?

your only mistake was resigning without securing another job first.

keep striving!

Allow the money to chill joo! when nepa takes light the account will defrost then you can take your money

on a serious note, why did he give you a frozen account to transact with?
get a bank statement from your bank showing you transferred money to him, get lawyer n police involved if possible. he must give you the wool or your money back. which kain rubbish be that?

where are the cows?
is their names Evans?
-Tinubu

the wont use this shit, northerners will majorly score below the cut off but will use quota system to scale tru.

naija na scam!

Sijo01:
Who told you I didn't read it.

Olodo kill you there.

so now u wan kill me?

Sijo01:
In oder words you rigged him in

go and read the post before commenting on what you dont know. olodo!

true

copy copy Op.
no be say he complete am sef. shoir!

most ladies won't try that not because of fear but they wont have the mouth to ask for urgent 2k and the likes.

Thugnificent:
What about Dangote

learn how to read and assimilate

Skmoda360:
That's how he has been right from when he was a kid...he had an accident that affected his chin and a corrective surgery was performed on him.

he had the accident as an adult not when he was a kid.

4tomandchi:
From "Jesus work" to the richest black man.

Truly Jesus work.

Jesus came for your salvation not for you to get rich

chatinent:
Science keeps discovering creation but doesn't accept it.

how?