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Jewessgratitud3:
I just thought to share and again it's no bodys business what I share about myself here. I chose to do it and don't care if it sits well with anyone or not. My life, my share .

I'm sharing this just to let some ladies know that being a widower doesn't break a man and will not stop him from being an unrepentant cheat if he wants to. I used to think a widower will be more responsible and loyal to one woman considering the fact that he's now a second hand value bachelor and the death of his former wife will make him get closer and more committed to his spouse, home and family at large but I was wrong cos after my experience with one, I realized men will always be cheat men.

This happened in 2013 after staying away from relationships for a long time. So I joined Badoo ( it was the rave then, though I joined in 2012). A young man ( in his 40s then) chatted me up and I checked his profile. There he stated that he was looking for a lady for serious relationship and added he was a Christian. He was also looking very handsome and tall. We chatted and exchanged numbers.

When we got talking he told me he was a widower. It was hard to believe because he looked very young. He now told me he married very early. He went ahead and told me he has 6 children 👀👀👀. I didn't believe until he showed me their pics. 4 girls and two boys. He said the wife kept having children because she wanted a male child and died after giving birth to the last child, a male. She got home from the hospital after childbirth and started bleeding immediately and was rushed back to the hospital but never made it back. Meanwhile he was not in the country when this happened.

This made me have compassion and developed feelings for him. After a few months of inviting me over, I finally agreed to visit after he assured me the elder sister is staying with him to look after the baby ( he was already a year then but was not walking). He never liked the boy because he was always saying the boy caused his wifes death and each time the baby boy sees him, he'll be screaming due to the way he looks at the baby and I'll be telling him to stop, teasing him that it's him the boy resembles. So when I visited for the first time, I was shocked at what I saw. He actually owns the house he was living in in Sango. He built it when the going was good but after the wife's death, he came back and stayed for a whole year without a job. He just got the job he was doing as a hotel manager when I met him and his take home was not good at all. So to maintain the big house was a challenge. He could barely feed his kids. Even the two older ones were not with him. They were living with his brother just to ease him of the burden. when the sister saw me, she got angry and told him that he has not finished taking care of his children he's bringing in another lady. He told me to ignore the sister and face him. If I go there, I'll cook and serve everybody because he was always complaining of not having money but sometimes he'll give me part of the money I used.

Initially the children didn't like me and he said I should be buying them snacks. So then if I close from work, I'll go and meet him at his office and we'll go home together. I bought snacks and the children reluctantly collected the snacks. He went to work on that Saturday and I gathered the children and started telling them stories. They began to come close. When he got back he drove all of us to a football viewing center and bought me pepper soup. I thought I had found the right man. I was even saying I don't need to birth any children since he already has six. We'll just stay with his own children ( lol . small girl sense). He would tell me no, that he wants me to give him a beautiful daughter like me.

Six months into the relationship, I noticed something in his room while he was away at work. I saw a foreign prison card in his jacket I now began to connect the dots. I remembered him saying he was away when the wife died and while she was pregnant, he had problem abroad. So she developed BP. He even told me he wasn't around when his house was built that the wife supervised the whole thing before he now had a problem but be never told me what the problem was. I then discovered with the prison card, he was prolly in jail all that time. I didn't ask him anything.

Later he started telling me there's this single mother that has been begging him to marry her and she buys him stuff. I was like marry her now afterall two of una na second hand value. He'll laugh and say God forbid. That he wants chassis. The lady buys him and his children stuff. At a point I told him to stop collecting the gift or risk our relationship. He promised to stop.

One day he was sleeping and i was just going through his phone ( I never used to do that) and saw "my love". My head sparked. I woke him up with a heavy slap and showed him, he started saying its you I love. I said no! Tell me who this Is.. then I began to cry because I just knew it was over. He started begging and called his Aunty into the room. The aunty said the person is a family. I said call her. He now called the number and an elderly woman picked and he started telling her that I'm crying my eyes out here because I saw a message he sent to her. The woman spoke with me but I wasn't convinced. Throughout that night, he played "please forgive me' Brian Adams. hmm.. feeling nostalgic now. I calmed down and we continued.


After some months my chairman sacked me because I refused to go out with him and told him I'm in a relationship. After I lost my job I reduced my visits because bus fare from mainland to Sango was quite expensive and he too could not sponsor my visits regularly due to so much financial responsibilities and since I had been the one doing it when I was working. It became a once in a while thing.

Then one day, he told me to come to his office let's go home that he has missed me. I asked him, do you have money he said we'll manage. This man did not tell me we were going by train ( chai things we do for love) from his office we set out to oshodi. This man put head for train lane. I said waaaat t... I almost went back but it was already getting dark. I entered train for the first time. See me shaking. He had to hold me before one man now stood up for me to sit. Because it's been a while I've been to the house, when we got home, the aunty said you'll not stay in one place. Today you carry this, tomorrow you carry another one. I told him what the sister said and he told me not to mind her. In my mind i was like... see this second wen I dey manage too wan dey play ... I kept asking until he now confessed that the Aunt was referring to the other single mother that the lady has been forcing herself on him but it's me he wants. There and then I zeroed my mind.

After that visit, as we were going that morning, we quarreled on the way because the vehicle we borded got spoilt plus I wasn't happy after hearing what the sister said. So I was just edgy that morning and blasted the driver and some of the passengers. He got angry and left after trying to get me off the bus and I refused, saying I should run after him cos he's running late for work. I was just looking at him. I didn't get down. I waited for him to go far, I now got down and took another route to my house.

I didn't call for a week and refused to pick his calls because whats the point killing myself over a widower with six children who has refused to stick with one woman. When I eventually picked, it was my guy ( now ex) who told me to pick in the bus that day we were going to camp and he was chyking me. Oga kept calling and as usual I ignored him but the sound was disturbing our conversation so my gy told me to pick and hear him out. I picked and he was crying and put all his children on the phone to beg me. He said they are missing me and one of them is sick. I said ok, I'll call you later. That was it. I blocked him. Went to Badoo and blocked him there in fact I deleted my Badoo account. Deleted his number and ended the whole thing..

Men will always be men

Modified

When I said all men are the same what I'm simply implying is, whether they are poor, rich, widower or handicapped they will still cheat or have that tendency to cheat. Take it or get lost!

A man's vulnerability doesn't stop him from exhibiting those bad habits (cheating and deception). They'll will always do that thing that make us call them meennnn... If you know what I mean and if you don't Gerrit, forget abourit. .

"going through his phone" wetin u go find for him fone? Tank jez u see am.

immortalcrown:
2 tankers?

When your enemy becomes a bit merciful. What life would be if man was God Almighty.

in Fela voice "wen trouble sleep, yanga go wake am, na wetin him dey fine? Palava him dey fine, palava him get oooo

kgr8mike:
OBJ for me is the father of the nation. If he remained as president till now, Nigerian would have been better than what we have today. All these others are mere experiments that didn't work and it's not working. I love u OBJ! GOD bless you as you age graciously. Amen.

I used to call him baba naija.

galileo180:
Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

wooooow! God just safe a brotherman.

Angelfrost:
Open defecation is directly linked to extreme poverty.

So, no surprises here... Over 50 Million Nigerians are extremely poor, illiterate, dirty, and totally unable to afford modern housing which precludes them from accessing indoor bathroom facilities.

over 100 millions.

Why dis fG like to disgrace demsef like dis. Do they fvcking care about d masses?

"Nothing to fix" with dents on the body.

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram It's just getting started..


Them never see anything yet.


We still have 7years. # BIG 7


I just de happy say WEED still CHEAP..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

abeg remain d killer for me.

garfield1:
Why

I fear anybody wey no fear Tinubu.

garfield1:
Apc would snatch back the state in 2027

2027 too far.

Benwallt:
Emefiele is finished

patapata. I pity am.

iammo:
Soon no more security guard like before, he must explain to people who got affected man to man

aswear.

Kukutente23:
What are the charges?

The zombie above read the headline and wrote nice one. When the man is given bail at next hearing he'll go dumb. Oh they're actually two above.
Zombies lack sense

dis dude na from Gaza.

iammo:



He was demolishing building about



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I pity him. Dem go so mess am up.

Spirit04:
just subscribe showmax or Netflix and buy airtel 20gb for 3k you can watch whatever you want instead of watching what dstv decides to show you

tell dem bro. I ve dumped my dstv but home and office.

For dis hardship? If I remove any make I waka naked.

I fear any man wey dey fight woman especially for public.

dre11:
https://thenationonlineng.net/breaking-nlc-gives-six-conditions-to-call-off-strike/

d man collect better mixing.

guobe:
Nobody should side an unfaithful man if the allegation is true.
If he was a poor man or an average man they would have bashed him but because he is a celebrity without any investigation alot of people will take to his side.

na only poor man dey faithful my guy.

SoftP:
We appreciate our most prestigious Mamma-put; made from the most homely food ingredients in the world….
Hot pepper leaf rice; Amala & ewedu
@ least here; we are rated first in the world

one plate for u my guy.

pride4legacy:
This is the only way they can get us to remain quiet because we are all on survival mode.

aswear down.

Bliss62:





After money, please make more money, make extra money, infact keep making money

E get why



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louder²

Malroux:
He is still far better than you that sleeps and wake up on nairaland everyday.

loud am.

youngrichnigga:
Here's the cause; the tarmac looks like a muddy road that's caked in dry season, no more asphalt on the tarmac.....9ja we hail thee

u see am.

officialwdhtv:
Abuja Airport shut down as aircraft overshoots runway



https://www.instagram.com/reel/CzjX88Ip0Tg/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

make dem open boot comot jack na.

netpro:
Personally, I have come to keep my Christianity simple, like Jesus taught.

1. Regard, honour and worship the Lord your God. The maker of everything in the Universe.

2. Accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and saviour. I believe in Repentance, his death and resurrection.

3. Love your neighbour as you would yourself. If you no love your neighbour na God wey you never see, you wan love.

Outside these 3 things, my hands no dey.

live ur life bro

valentineuwakwe:
Source: https://dailypost.ng/2023/11/06/presidential-election-why-i-didnt-step-down-work-with-atiku-peter-obi/

my nigga don touch sleeping Obidients.

Oboi. I dey all d game scatter.

900warriorz:
Just like Titanic, it will sink y'all should you spend our money on it

lol. Amen ooo. I pray also say u go dey cruise on dat very doomsday.

Racoon:
Chai! Nigeria judiciary of anything goes. Mbah forged his NYSC certificate and the court knows that but judicial abracadabra have happened again

u can still go to court of appeal.

Shebi US don decieve am finish. Make carry him cross.