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It happens that marriage
May not seem what one dreamt about. Self restraint ought to be a first aid when at the heat of the moment

Nothing is transparent and straightforward in Nigeria. My worry is that parents whose children are in unity schools have been asked to pick up their kids from the dormitory tomorrow and uptill now, no official statement from FG.

edoairways:
This is where church indoctrinate people. They have so brainwash them to think their is better than others. A child may grow in a home where his parent attend the same church yet he becomes wayward. Another may grow attending different church yet he is better of.

that's because environment and innate qualities build a person. But it is not good we create the environment for waywardness

1MinuteWithTina:
I totally get you.
My husband is one of the pastors in his church but I attend another. I do not 'feel' his church at all and I'm only happy when we shared the grace at the end so I left.
It also created brouhaha at the beginning but I told him I'd rather stay at home. He eventually let me be and I now attend another church.
You need to pray about it.

This is why some men prefer to having baby mama than this sort of union where there's no unity. Children eventually grow up biased against father or mother. God help us

It appears the baby mama relationship is trendy and safer especially these days when men are finding it difficult with finding the virtous woman. No commitments except for child support. Ultimately there will be no need to bring the man down since it's a win-win situation

The best treatment you give to a troublesome wife is not to engage in extra-marital affairs but to remain focused and determined. See how this woman's matter is crumbling him finally

A smart lawyer would have withdrawn the suit when Buhari appointed a new IGP.

I think Umuahia shouldn't be allowed to degenerate to the Owerri situation. Government ought to be given some more time to work on the security of lives and property which is Paramount. De Latinos I know will surely survive

It's a problem you are expecting much from your wife's income. Just stick to a budget(feeding allowance), she will adjust bcoz of her child. It's her responsibility to talk to her siblings. You must Chanel 2/3 of your income to profitable investment. Focus on your immediate family while not making enemies of your in-laws

JEWELofHELL:
A Yoruba protest?



https://dailytrust.com/june-12-calm-in-southeast-as-southwest-boils

I think this report is tribalistic and biased. National issues ought not be ascribed ethnic colouration

It's good to discourage cohabitation. My headache is from those girls whose parents/guardians put in a lot to train but turn around to bring home shame. A guy will be doing well if he manages the emotions of his fiancee by encouraging her to be a little patient till after the wedding. This is why I applaud Alex Ekubo's reply to Fancy Acholonu on this issue

Kwanza:
https://dailypost.ng/2021/06/04/black-friday-in-awka-as-lorry-kills-8-hawkers-irate-youths-burn-lorry-load-of-cows/?amp&utm_term=Autofeed&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Twitter&__twitter_impression=true

. The sensation some of these news carry is tribalistic. Mob usually club to death and burn the vehicle of any driver that kills a padestrian if rescue efforts are delayed. Inasmuch I don't subscribe to self-help, cows ought not be compared with human lifes. Thankfully, the driver of the lorry is safe

Sanity54321:
Hi All,

i have been in marriage for some years now with one child. My wife learnt fashion designing and excelled well at it except that one of her major professional drawbacks is the ability to be accountable and drawing the appropriate lines between business and emotions. Further to that is a major influence of her parents in her life.

I have invested so much in her and her business as a whole. i built the business and still didnt stop investing when need be. so it happened that when i got her a new location for the business as requested, i bought advanced sewing machines and all that she put to my ears that she needs to excel. Then i sat her down asking what the modalties are for her to take in apprentice. so she told me student will have to take up a form for 5k, apprenticeship for 60k and so on. These are things i know but i needed be sure that she is well informed.

Apparently, there have been a back and forth between her and the parents of one lady who was brought to her for apprenticeship. So, there came a day my dad came to my house and there was a need for him to see my wife before leaving which caused me to show up at her shop unexpectedly. This will be second time i have been to d shop since she opened the shop like 6 months ago. i saw legs wandering here and there in the shop and found out she had an apprentice. I then said to her, you even got an aprentice and didnt say a word to me. she replied that the apprentice had only just joined her a day ago. i said to her... didnt you come yesterday? told me sorry.

Then i proceeded to to ask her if she did got the rightful things from the apprentice, only for her to respond to me that the parents came and was begging her all through that the nation is hard. i had to say to her, as nigeria hard.. e no reach you or cos i have been putting money here, you think i dont have my own issues too. Las las, she responded to me by saying "Owo maa tan,eiyan loo maa kuu" meaning money go finish, na human being go remain. this got me mind as i didnt expect this from someone i invested so much in. I felt i was busy wasting my time and resource on someone who doesnt understand the value of my efforts. I jus said to her, did your landlord gave me this shop for free? were these machines gotten for free? did your boss not take money from me even for your freedom? i jus left her there before i misbehaved.

She got home later that night and was offering me noodles for dinner which i declined. later she saw me with bread and was trying to talk to me abt food. I told her that i will appreciate if i our eyes don't cross anymore that night. Next thing she did was take some clothes and that of my child. then left my house, called her father that she was coming home. the father as usual supported her and told her to go to my father's house instead. Then her proceeded to call me instead yelling at me asking me wah happend..i said nothing hapnd and e responded saying, anything better not happen. before i know it he has called my father and friends to warn me. Apparently, the dota told d father that i told her that i shldnt let me meet her at home. i called d father and voiced him to pls stay away from my family. its enof that yu jump in defence of yur dota always buit dont include my parents there anymore. the daughter went to sleep at her friend's house which i dont even know who d friend is according to d fada. I had the intention of mking sure she doesnt return here but pleadings here and there. she came home and still acted like niothing happend, no greetings or pleadings whatsoeveer.

I will leave this story at this stage as i had only come here to vent a bit before i mke rash decisions.

Thank you all as i await reasonable comments

. Issues as this is a daily occurrence. You will do better if you see the moneys spent on your wife as bread cast on the waters. Don't expect return on investment, but if God is by your side, you will surely reap at last.

adenigga:
Source: https://punchng.com/To-stop-abductions-sponsor-factional-bandits-Gumi-tells-FG

Wild animals are dangerous to romance with. I guess he wants to be the government contractor to tame terrorists. I think somebody should also be contracted to engage agitators. What we need is solution to this insecurity

JEWELofHELL:
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https://community.vanguardngr.com/m/discussion?id=4565467%3ATopic%3A3084583

. This moniker ought to be placed on watchlist by the mods

SangoOlukosoOba:
Lies!

Kemi always paid to twist stories!

She has track records of twisting stories.

IPOB / ESN killed Gulak, and it was under the instruction of Mazi Kanu

. You have to be guided before you destroy yourself. "Those who live by propaganda will die by propaganda". It's a wise qoute

[quote author=SangoOlukosoOba post=102204503]. I observe you are trying to spread hate against the Ibos on every thread but you have already been disappointed

[quote author=SangoOlukosoOba post=10220
Are you aware that police has denied knowledge of his movements. Is it IPOB that now has intelligence on his movements more than government security agents. The political calculations following the events that led to emergence of Hope as governor against the interests of insiders point irresistibly to the fact that this is a political assassination sponsored by insiders

SangoOlukosoOba:
UGM/IPOB starting what they cannot finish

Killing a Northerner in the East

you ought to know its possible you are carrying fake news and making inciting statement

Tinubuadvocate:
Okay another one is looming again because I heard ESN gunned down a prominent fulani man this morning in owerri.

. I read that IPOB has denied responsibility saying that it is an unprofessionally handled insider's job meant to setup Northerners against Ibos again

Tinubuadvocate:
Okay another one is looming again because I heard ESN gunned down a prominent fulani man this morning in owerri.

Have you also heard that IPOB has denied responsibility. I also read from the media that that it was an unprofessionally handled insider's job meant to setup the North against the ibos

stephanie11:
POLITICSNIGERIA.COM


https://politicsnigeria.com/how-1967-civil-war-began-with-fake-news-from-foreign-media-ex-governor-osoba/

That is why fake news and propaganda is dangerous and carriers of such ought to be seriously sanctioned

ygowon:
How many weeds those guys take? But I doubt if the weed go affect them because they know who they are protecting and who their targets are.

By the way, the unknown gunmen have been known but the name fits them. In case you don't know, unknown gunmen is being sponsored by biafran revolutionary forces.

Here is a video of one of the naked unknown gunmen showcasing his joy.

https://mobile.twitter.com/Ugobest98593518/status/1398544734176649219

what is the name of the street and on which day? It's unprofessional to publicise what is not verifiable. It's propaganda

Ghabz:
Dear Nairalander,
Am a young guy planning on settling down this year. My fiance just got government job in her state (January 2021) while am still in my state hustling with my POS job.
Though distance to each other is just less than an hour & am in search of accommodation in my state. She is of the opinion that traveling during pregnancy will be difficult... She suggested resigning so that we can be together.
Pls i need your honest advice. Thanks

it will not be easy for you but you have to let her stay permanently in her home state. Join her and grow your kids. A time will come when you can conveniently travel for business and stay for months without your family bearing the brunt

Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

this happens most often with immature girls and it results in cheating with her coming back to cry and say she was naive. It's hardwork for you because you have to train her the way children are trained to become responsible adults, if not, you will not like the outcome of her friendship with the guy

AmadiAba:
Police Paraded My Uncle Who Works in Oil Firm as Unknown Gunman - Lady Cries Out | #IgbereTV

"My beloved uncle is innocent. He came back yesterday from Bonny ISLAND with his family because of his father inlaw burial that will hold on Friday 28th May 2021. He is responsible and works in an Oil Company. He came to owerri early hours of today to buy some things and was arrested and paraded as unknown gunman." - Queen Elias

https://igberetvnews.com/1391167/police-paraded-uncle-works-oil-firm-unknown-gunman-lady-cries-photos/

You ought to have named the company he works for so that the company will identify him. Quite simple

film3four:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CPTHQCUN5f3/?utm_medium=copy_link


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IYd-jjZNxk

I'm sceptical about this. Some of such news has turned out to be false in the past. History points that in times like this, propaganda thrives. We ought to be discreet about what we read, watch or listen to as not to be misled

Doraty1:
https://ait.live/katsina-govt-deducts-3-of-workers-salaries-to-rebuild-burnt-central-market/

this is becoming a trend. Government deducting salaries of people who also pay taxes to fund infrastructure. What happened to the taxes being deducted?

Forthispost:
Hello Nairalanders. I need your honest feedback on this issue.


There is this ex of mine I dated for approximately 4 years. During the course of our relationship, I Was totally in my best power not to be the toxic one and never cheated on her but she eventually left with no viable reason. There were times she messed up and I forgave her even while we dated.
Close to the time of her graduation from a reputable state university in Nigeria, she started messing up and eventually broke up the relationship.
I was pained though but I had to forgive her and move on.

After the break up (which is about 3 years away now) we still talk (greetings on phone) once in a blue moon.

Now the issue at hand is, a male boss of mine requested that I recommend a female staff that matches a particular vacant role in our organisation .
Note: This is an internal recruitment and who ever I recommend stand a 95% chance of getting employed ( the other 5% if for village people). The role is an entry role with pay centered around 80k-100k monthly. She currently earns 22k where she works now at at our last conversation. Though she use to be a cool person before her village people entered the relationship. Over three years of not being close as before gives me no clue of the type of person she might have become now. Maybe a scorned woman or a more sensible person. I'm doing far better than when she left me and it's super glaring to her.

The reason why I need advice is this: I work at the same organisation in question and I have no plan to leave soon. I'm trying to avoid a case where she will be the one to facilitate any issue for me at the said work place. Just avoiding anything that will result in regrets.

Update: I forgot to add, she's one of the person I know who suits the role. I don't have sister who matches the role.

I created this new account for just this thread hence the moniker "for this post"

Kindly advice biko. Bashing is allowed.

If you are confident she will accept the job, and that you can attest for her conduct and character, recommend her. Once she starts working, relate with her as if you have never been romantically involved. You future is still evolving, the decisions you make now may make or mar your tomorrow. Be guided and be prayerful also. Best wishes

Shukushaka:
https://gazettengr.com/el-rufai-lied-oxygen-wasnt-removed-from-our-baby-parents/?utm_source=ReviveOldPost&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=ReviveOldPost

my instinct told me that the news of removal of oxygen was propaganda

hybrid11:
Igbo uber driver
I find this topic disgusting

You noticed? This is becoming worrisome. That ilamina of account ought to have been suspended. It's fueling unnecessary ethnic tensions on nairaland