LadySarah:


let me apologize on her behalf. Her actions were foolish .Its not enough to loose trust of her. I'm not making excuses for her even though I sense it's been long she met her folks and it was a kind of reunion for her but not informing you wasn't ideal. Infcat things could turn worse and you'd never believe your family went far let alone village.
I know it made you look stupid but forgive her. It won't happen again.

Gbahara Biko.

confirmedniggae:
When it comes to money in relationship ,it is like most women don't joke with their money or is my girlfriend stingy or just an ingrate ?

This is the conversation between the two of us and I think it is definitely over between us !

Or am I taking this too far ?

NoHoper:
34 and I have never really been happy for a prolonged period of time. Transient happy times here and there, though.

I'm under immense pressure from family members and even distant relatives to basically be responsible for their upkeep. Pretty much everyone around me expects that I place them on some sort of monthly salary. Yes like every month I should send stipends to like 7 people from my paltry 200k salary. Dad lost his job in the mid 90s and has since never bothered to get another. His unemployment status didn't stop him from bringing into the world three more souls. Mum's got some health issues so hadn't been working. She was very hardworking before the health problems started, to be fair to her.

So now I'm basically responsible for my parents' and siblings' upkeep and have been at it since I graduated 10 years ago. Haven't done anything with my life, I don't have any savings, not married. Just stagnant. I'm not saying is wrong to help others but I just feel like the pressure on me is a little too much and it's not fair. I deserve to be happy but I don't see that happening. I fear I'll labor all my life just to make my family happy while I live in perpetual sadness and pressure.

No Hope.

Souqwaqif:
Dear All,

Greetings from here. Just needing a piece of positive counsel here. It has been subtle and recurrent but I decided to share this particular one.

My wife travelled for a burial with my kids without my knowledge. I travelled far away for work and call home everyday. Just recently I called very early in the morning to tell my wife I will be coming home by weekend,she somewhat sounded surprised and said instead of me coming on Friday I should come on Sunday.

I didn't say anything,I pretended not to be angry with that. Yet I immediately did a cash transfer for feeding and balance for the kids school fees that same morning we were discussing.

Later in the evening,I expected her to call and update me on the fees payment,but I didn't receive any call,I then had to call but her lines were all switched off,at this point I was worried especially when I couldn't talk to the kids.

I then called a neighbor to help me check if they are at home only to confirm they travelled for burial which the neighbor got to know from a phone conversation between my wife and her sister.

At this point, I called my wife's brother only to confirm that they were having a burial in their village, which I am not aware of,even as an inlaw.

Right now am very upset and I don't want to act in anger,please how can I react to this conspiracy between her and her family carrying my car with my kids to a distant village for burial without my knowledge.

Thanks for mature inputs only:

Cc:
Mynd 44
Obinoscopy
Lalasticlala.
and other mods.

unzend:


Exactly.

Mee too

Pacecar:


It is in your place to proffer an advice without being forceful. It is in my place to choose what to do. Don't take it too seriously. You are very judgemental and pushy. That's not what I want from you. You are even biased... You are just hitting on me. Why can't think about from her point of action. What if she is just having fun with me. But instead you keep making it feel it's my fault she enjoying sex with me. Be diplomatic. It's not as it seems all the time.

Chinkos99:
It going down on 15th of November ( tomorrow)
Sorry I didn't inform you guys earlier

Shortyy:

Companionship where you're treated like trash? Oh please.

Shortyy:
I blame women.

Pacecar:
I don't know where to start. But I want to be very brief. I hate long articles.
So there is this girl I met in my lodge and we had a great convo the first day we met. I just moved in. I felt the vibe and I thought we would just be talk buddies. Truth is, I don't usually envisage romance with a female. It just happens. Fast forward from all the convo we had the day we met and afterwards. She came to my room one night at around 11pm just before midnight and told me she was hungry. She was lucky I had a left over bread I didn't finish. She did ate hastly; she was indeed hungry. After eating she laid on my foam and slept off. I slept off too. Deep into the night, I woke up and I was Hot. She was just there sleeping beautifully. I tried to touch her but she refused me lightly. She wasn't seriously defensive. I laid back, intending to subdue my feelings. I couldn't; I did try again and she became responsive. My left hand caressed down her ass and I discovered she wasn't wearing any panties. She was wearing a short gown that only terminated on her very beautiful fair laps without pants. We had sex that night. It was good. We didn't say anything about it the next morning. We acted so cool. I thought it wasn't going to happen again. I wasn't making a move on her again; I thought. To my surprise, she initiated the next sexual spree. To cut the story short, she has been coming almost everyday for sex. Some I initiated, others she did. I must confess, she is alright in bed. But her boldness grew as we had it. I believe I am hitting it right too. She is a good girl; very caring and fun to be with. My fear is, she might have fallen in love with me and I aint ready for an affair now. If I was ready, I would give it a try but I ain't financially ready at the moment. I don't want to hurt her feelings and I don't want to stop hitting. What should I do if she makes the first move towards clarifying what we doing together. For now, I am just fine like this!

GeoAfrikana:
Many people see NYSC as an opportunity to save money for the challenges ahead. I believe this isn't the best mindset to carry into NYSC.

I advise you to see NYSC as a great opportunity to learn, gather experience and make connections if you truly have a plan for your life.

You can 'work' yourself into a public school for your primary assignment (PPA), work for two or three days a week and use your free time to learn skills like graphic design, programming, data science, fashion designing, project management etc.

You also get to meet bright minds from other schools. They may be poor today but only God knows what tomorrow holds. Besides that, you get to share ideas that can open your mind to opportunities and trigger your innovation and creativity. So, NYSC is a great avenue for healthy and useful socialization.

Finally, the allawee is enough to live a reasonable life (at least for your one year service). You can offer to work for free in a private company. In the real sense it isn't free because you're gathering experience and building a portfolio. For example, you may offer to work in a private university in exchange for no monthly stipends. At least after your NYSC, you can boast in your CV that you have lecturing experience.

Finally, if you love yourself and have plans for your future, please avoid private secondary schools. Don't be enticed with their 5,000-10,000 monthly stipend.

Firstly, that 10k will not improve your welfare reasonably. Also, there's little or no useful experience to acquire in a private secondary school. Finally, they'll consume every calorie in your body and second of your time. You won't have time for any personal development.

I wish I had someone to tell me this during my service year. I hope this will help someone.

In conclusion.
Please don't see NYSC as a money-making scheme. The 400k per year can't take you anywhere. However, it can help you think worry less about hunger and focus on self-development for a year.
...and year is enough to learn whatever you want to learn.

I hope this helps someone.

gideonite98:
And na nairaland girl you want to marry?
Don't dare bro
Don't you dare
Look for a girl around and build something with her
Na dummits plenty for here
You can see some of them above.
No go marry someone that will come and post any little problem you guys have here on nairaland.
Them morons will start giving her bad advice.

Zzor:
what do you have to offer?or do you think any lady will just jump on you? market yourself and let buyers come in and price you

amdman:


Abeg No vex.

2009 Lexus RX 350

101k miles

No faults reported

N3.6m

Whiteball:
It's a bit lenghty so bear with me.I'm in my late 30's very very eligible for marriage but still single.Alot of friends in my circle are married but up close and personal stories coming out of their camp and experience av had in d past isn't encouraging ,so i just wanna have a baby mama(These lady's arnt loyal).

Pressure from Family n friends to settle but am not giving in. so this particular friend of mine(now a true definition of born again- i wont mention name) changed my mindset and promised to help me get a 'good wife material' through his fiancee.

I yielded and i reluctantly gave him d permission . I'v never met his fiancee one on one bc she stays in a different city and each time she comes visiting her guy am always busy but we speak on phone.She gave my number to her friend (my hookup) we got talking but i told her point blank that am a christian but not a born again like ur friend fiance -i club i drink socially but i dont smoke,to my surprise she told me same here! (hmmm red flag bc i was expecting otherwise since her friend was a born again). I told her no problem.

This week my guy's babe visited town ,i was very busy still but was able to meet them at d park when she was travelling back. she was already inside d bus when i drove in.
she came down from d bus to greet me since passengers were still boarding ,she's beautiful i must confess with nice curves but was wearing all those long born again gown and holding a bible .I told my guy despite leaving 'd world' for us he still got good eyes,we laughed and joked she told me her friend(my hookup) is prettier i said wow cant wait to meet her.

Something strange happened,i noticed an old time friend in d bus which this babe was boarding we shared pleasantries and exchanged number he asked if my babe was travelling with them i told him she's my guy's fiancee not my babe he complimented her beauty also.

A minute later she said she doesn't wanna travel with this bus which they have already paid for again, she will rather wait for d next bus that her spirit isn't in line with d bus ..
I was confused and asked her to explain she said she doesn't want to go wit this one bc she's having a strange feeling concerning d bus but i should allow my friend inside d bus already to travel with them its fine -It didn't make sense to me,if u think this bus will have an accident i should at least alert my friend to come down too she said i shouldn't worry.

My guy waited for her fiancee to catch d next bus while i left for work.

The next day was weekend and i decided to go visit another friend(lets call him guy B) of mine so we could hangout . It's a big compound with plenty room n parlour self contain.when we were about leaving the compound together i saw an eye catching figure come out from another apartment wearing bump short,transparent shirt that was revealing all her breast going to dry clothes on d ropes...Behold it was my friend's fiancee!!!.

I was shocked bc yesterday nite i called my friend to confirm if his fiancee finally got a bus and had arrived her destination he told me yes and thanked me for showing up and for my concern. Someone that was suppose to b in another part of Nigeria was in another part of d city ? . Immediately she turned and saw me,she was shocked n her clothes fell off her hands. I didn't say a word i just walked straight with my guy B to my car .

She ran towards me and drew me privately and said i should keep it privately she will explain on phone .my guyB confirmed to me that she came in last nite and that's her boyfriend apartment i refused to tell him anything tho.

The reason why she left that initial bus begin to make sense to me now.

I need advise please ,ordinarily i will look the other way but the guy in question is my very good guy and a born again christian engaged to her,weeding is two months away. The lady also according to him is supposedly a born again but this dressing stated otherwise... tho i didn't catch dem 'doing' oh.

pythondance2020:



Lol, so you think just providing and loving a woman is enough to keep her. Just to give you some insight, I sacrificed so many things to please this person which drained me in the process. At the end of I felt like a squeeze orange.
If you really want someone that would truly love you scrap that idea.
I have actually witnessed true love before without spending a dime but even true love sometimes has its unique problems because it can lead to obsession.

Toceenay:
I don't even know where to start from... But I'll put it straight and simple.
This is actually not the first time I'm dealing with my boss Amdman, so I've known him for sure. My feedback is not just because I'm excited and always pleased with his work, but to let prospective buyers know that this place is the REAL DEAL.


Congratulations

Venerable612:


I like this strategy... but you probably will get hurt more if she falls out of love with you.


Wondering if it makes any sense to be the one to deflower a lady you are in love with while you are still both in love. How effective can that be in making her committed? Not withstanding that this goes against all moral and religious inclinations.

Dyt:
What is Before, In Between and After?

Yeah we all know marriage is an institution between 2 persons with the aim to have offspring and companionship, but is this all we see and make of it?
I am a person that believes in relationship/marriage and tries to go far in making it work well except when it starts to affect my mental health (i cant go mad all in the name of i want it to work)

Some say marriage is easy while some say its a hard work, we all have different opinions..
I for one been married before, it didnt work not because i couldnt try but (my choice anyway)

I am considering going into another and all the things that we do that counts now may not in few years, I mean the sexiness, the kamasutra and all, well ofcourse i am not just gonna be offering just sex, we both got more to keep us going for a 100years to come (my favourite part is the friendship and companionship)...

I am scared sometimes waking up to him every other day and same way it excites me

How has it been with those married for 5years and counting? the joy, feeling, the tears, the arguments, the sex, I mean all of it....

Luak:
Let your son's father indicate genuine interest in wanting to take responsibility for his child's well-being before you start exposing your child to what you'll regret later. Best wishes