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Holluwhakemmy:
Till then

See your life. You are engaged and still looking at someone else's penis...

Shioor

Love800:
When you are old, who will take care of you. Your children or your wife?

No one!! The notion that your kids will take care of you when you're old is bull crap. They are all adults and away from you. Your spouse might be dead or worse. You need to learn to take care of yourself and get a helper/maid or support group. If you rely on your kids or wife, you will die sorrowfully and painfully.

Fryx:
Marriage is actually useful for passing your legacy to your offspring so that you won’t be forgotten after your demise.

If you have a legacy, focus on it, your children are your future. That’s why a reasonable man don’t just choose a woman because she knows how to fvck or she get big ynash. A man with a future chooses a woman to build it with.

So having a kid outside wedlock is no legacy abi? See reasoning oh

Veste:
I'm still regretting why I am married . 90% of Nigerian women these days are not worthy to be called wives. Stay single if you can, or better get a child out of wedlock.

Tell us your experience na

AishaDant:
SMH! Clearly the type of woman who needs a man to feel validated in life.

Can never be me!

But then no one wants you!!!

1Sharon:
Leave them. Alot of nigerian women are paying bills alongside their husbands. But these men here come online and be disingenuous. Fact is about only 4 out of 10 Nigerian men are providers

Here we go again, pulling statistics out of her ass without any proof. Damn!!!

chidiokay:
dont know why you parade your assumptions as fact, did you carry out a survey or you have a stat [b][/b],
Talking of support, my neighbour drives his pregnant wife to work everyday n return home, is that not love, is that not support, he got her the job which i know about
couples like that is also why divorce rate is low ..

if modern marriages is filled with conditional love, then their is nothing odd about having a "Reason" to stay in marriage

maybe it my accent, I don't think divorce sounds better than "stigma" .. divorces breaks a home and stigma breaks a person ... tbh i dont know why you have a preference

Leave that one alone. She'd rather die than admit she is wrong

Tightpussy2024:
I thought I am a man hiding behind a female moniker. NL will not kill me

Buzz off, fishlips!!!

DrFunmisticGlow:
He made vows, and broke them by fathering a bastard while deceiving his wife to help him financially to build their home and family. That's judas iscariot behavior

Lmaoooo...

Huh huh!!!

Tightpussy2024:
oga, this thread doesn't apply to you. It talks of men with properties,and you are broke. So why carry this thread on your head?you have no skin in this

I know now you have killed people via poison. May you be caught soon. Amen.

Tightpussy2024:
Don't be scared of quoting me in your redpill thread. Those boys will not be at you na. They are men boys like you,with just one penis. Why do you fear them?

Redpill thread is no battle ground. Thread is sacred to me.

Quote me anywhere else and I will drag your craw-craw black ass!!!

Which decent girl dey call herself tightpussy...nawa o!

Tightpussy2024:
Let them be deceiving themselves. Since society loves and favours widows,alot of men have died under questionable circumstances. If hunters have learnt to shoot without missing,birds should fly without perching. When you push someone to the wall and provide no room for escape,be surprised at what the person will do .

All those obituaries of ," died after a brief illness" that people blamed on his "drinking habit", "previous diabetes" and "BP issues" . We know what's up.

Thanks for the confessions. Now I know who killed those who died in your family

Tightpussy2024:
His motive for the post was not to represent the law but was male centered. I didn't see references to the constitution. No professionalism. He must have replied to a post of a woman saying the moment her husband cheats,she will leave. Could be a silent redpiller.

Rubbish as usual but then as a GenZ, what do I expect?

Tightpussy2024:
So a naija woman will divorce just for 50% property? The man doesn't know what he is saying.
In my opinion, women in naija don't benefit from marriage. If it ends,you are at the mercy of a man to even see food money for the children. If he doesn't send money, you will be accused of causing it because you poisoned your children mind against him".If the man earns 20m in a month. He will calculate the exact money needed,or send like 100k per month for the kid upkeep,if you resist(based on his earning power) you will be accused of being a gold digger trying to milk him.

You claim women value reduce once they are married and given birth,and no one will be able to marry them afterwards,while you can easily move on and land a chick.yet the idea of paying for a woman whose life is truncated and sexual market value plummeted as a result of her union with with you,is called trying to milk you.

One day,just like Korean women,naija women will say no to marriage until a system that protects them is installed

That day will never come. Marriage is the jewel in your crown of life achievement.

So you are comparing yourself to a Korean woman? Dey joke.

DrFunmisticGlow:
But the man bleeped up so he deserves it.

Lmaooo.....

Yeah right🙄

tete7000:
You are hopelessly lost in your delusion...so sad! All these lies you tell yourself can't bring you happiness in your old age.

Insults won't get you anywhere with me

PinkNature:
When was the last time you used your two eyes to see toto?

K

CosmicJames:
When talking about karma, it's important to know that there is a good karma and a bad karma. T

Now to your question, karma is applicable to politicians. You think they go scot-free for all the evill they do? No. They will not and cannot go scot-free. They have their pains and regrets.

Most of them are so bitter because in their quest for money and power, they got themselves involved in some unthinkable acts that later took away their peace of mind.

You may think that they are going Scot free because you are not in their shoes.

Not all politicians are bad though.

It's important to note that nature doesn't care whether you are a politician or not. But it does reward everyone accordingly.

You are so wrong about karma. She doesn't give a fuq about you or anyone. It's amoral. Good people have lived and died under oppression while bad people thrived. If there is anything called karma, people will never do evil. The only way is to be strong and take what you desire. The world doesn't give you shiit, no matter what you think you deserve. Unless you take it. That's the way of humans before now and will forever be.

heartofcity12:
You get it bruh 👍.. They’re all crying that men are no longer chasing them again nowadays, same women that say No is No, yet stl want to be chased when it suites.. they should keep being delusional, what’s coming for them soon isn’t gon be funny at all..

Na better winch dey do them na.

A girl told me last year that I'm too bossy and it won't work with us....I didn't even reply. Fast forward about 8 months later, she saw me and said 'you are looking so much finer and so buffed up'. I shrugged and said nothing. She then said 'you gave up too easily. You should have chased me, proven that you deserve me. That's how real men behave'

She must have seen the look of disgust on my face because her countenance changed and she said...'why are you.....'

The rest was lost to me as I walked away from her. The delulu most women live in should provide enough energy to power a spaceship to Andromeda Galaxy. There is no other creature on earth who has such inflated sense of self, coupled with entitlement and zero accountability.

I keep saying it ..if you understand women like I do, you can never love them. You just look at them as mischievous adult babies and this clears up so many things for men wey sabi

Zonefree:
Funny how another innocent man will still kneel, propose and pay bride price to this same girl that cohabitated with a man for over 3 years.

If your wife is not a virgin, you have no moral justification to smile and dance on your wedding day.

It's the bride price and bridal list that hurts me the most. Haba na...paying millions on top someone that has been rammed, whammed, jammed, spermed and slammed? By 100 different men?

It's tufiakwa

Olachase:
Omo God really save you, otherwise only god knows how many years you would have spent in jail

That was how my ex-girl frustrated my life during our dating year, she destroyed most of my property, T.V, laptop, phone and others stuff, I am the gentle type but seeing her destroying things I bought with my hard earned salary I lost my temper, I almost heat her head with hammer

But one spirit quickly approaches me and told me if i killed someone daughter I might rust in jail

I let her satisfy herself the next morning I told her to carry her bag and go, everything she destroyed I have replaced them back, she was acting up because she found another guy 😔😔

I forgot to apply rule 5 which said, (SHOW NO LOVE, LOVE WILL GET YOU KILLED) 💔💔

Shût up jor. So a brain resetting slap would make her die or what? You are a coward...so rest

tete7000:
So you think you can have sane children outside wedlock with a woman you don't consider good enough to bring home to be your wife? Some of you have warped mentality, you sound so confused. You talk and contradict yourselves in the statements you make. May God have pity on this lost generation.

It's your generation that is lost old man. It is really simple. Men don't benefit from marriage, only women do. So if I choose to make her give me babies and I take care of them, na war or sin?

So all the women that are married by men these days are good? High BP go soon finish you if you no use your brain

EreluRoz:
Nonsense, has she flogged her randy boyfriend? The lady should fight her back and beat the hell out of her. It's stupidity fighting over a randy useless boyfriend.

At least she has one....unlike you that spends all day on NL and you are still single

Holluwhakemmy:
Who will marry a SIMP like you self

I'm glad you know it's simps you desire for marriage. You have validated my arguments

jorion:
Thank you for not falling for the EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL. You are a real man

They have been attacking me and yelling 'responsibilities' and all that shiit and I wonder why Nigerian women are so ticked off because we no want marry them. Isn't that enough proof that marriage doesn't favour men? See as every woman on this thread no remember they had good men as fathers and all that shiit and try hard to convince men to commit. The question is....is a man that commits and never takes care of his kids the good father or the one who refused to marry but still takes care of his kids?

That question shows you that anytime a Nigerian woman is not benefiting from a construct, she brandishes 'responsible' and commitment as weapons to shame men. Men are seeing this rubbish and are not ready to commit anymore. The most annoying one is bride price and bridal list.

How in hell will I pay millions for a woman whose body count is as tall as the empire state building? I could just sire a kid or two off her and take care of them myself.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I also don't agree with you. You are allowing a hurt human being to raise a hurt human being to justify your conscience and evade full responsibility for your actions. It is not as if divorce laws in Nigeria favor women. If you were abroad, I can understand if a regular man shies away from marriage, but as a nigerian man, you have no fvcking excuse.

I have the excuse in the whole mudafucking world. Marriage doesn't favour men, whether Nigeria or in hell. Have a baby mama and take care of whatever kids she gives you. Peace of mind assured.

EreluRoz:
Luminouz rest in Jesus name. You can never justify and normalize irresponsiblity. Everything is wrong with having a child outside wedlock, babydaddy and babymama is the highest form of irresponsiblity of this present generation. keep coining suitable names for it. Babydaddy ko babydaddy ni

You can rest in Amadioha's name. Irresponsibility is coined by you lots when you wanna get married and are looking for who to use as your retirement plans. Men benefit nothing from marriage. Men are waking up from that shiit. You will remember my post when shiit hits the fan

Holluwhakemmy:
You will wail tired continue

Ma'am...e don do. Na new day be this... Find someone to marry you but it ain't gonna be me. Simple

DrFunmisticGlow:
Its bare minimum effort. It's scraps. Simple!!

It's emotional neglect. Not putting your eggs in one basket is not applicable in marriage. Family/marriage is not like your investment portfolio where it is better to diversify your assets. Marriage and family is like a garden where you give your best in your plot/ acres of land to yield your fruit. You can't go and garden some of your seeds in one acre of bush in the east, a plot of forest in the south, a hectare of savanna in the north. Your resources will be spread thin and the yield won't be high. (Please note that I am talking of substinence and not commercial farming which is diiferent)

Men think that marriage benefits the women, they fail to consider that women invest emotional labor and take root and nuture her children in her bosom. She doesn't have children scattered with their different husband's and even If she does, they stay with her so that she can take root in their lives and nature's them how she can.

Baby mamas and wives are like trees and baby daddies are like tumbleweeds in this scenario. Children will look after and see a parental figure in whosoever establishes ROOTS and stay in their life for the good times and bad be it a mom a dad or a grandparent.

I don't agree with you. It's that simple. Most men are realizing that too.

DrFunmisticGlow:
It is not a matter of choosing the man. It's not a bug, it's a feature. If a lot of women are choosing bad men, doesn't that mean the entire batch is rotten, a few bad ones ruin the bunch eventually. Also remember that it is the man's orgasm that results in a pregnancy, not a woman so yes he should take responsibility. If abortion were more legal in this country, we would have less bastards.

Do you know that abortion (espially unsafe ones)is one of the five main courses of maternal mortality. It means that men's ejaculations are killing women. https://www.oatext.com/maternal-mortality-in-nigeria-a-consideration-of-infection-control-factor.php#:~:text=Several%20articles%20identified%20major%20causes,obstructed%20labour%20(Figure%202).

Marriages also reduce a woman's life expectancy especially when she marries a man way older or way younger

https://www.demogr.mpg.de/en/news_events_6123/news_press_releases_4630/press/marriage_and_life_expectancy_1813

Men generally don't listen to women. You and luminouz dismissing my argument as nonsense proves that point. They only listen when it is other more powerful men. So I don't expect both of you to see reason or for us to come to an amicable conclusion in issues like this. This isn't my first rodeo.

But what I want tobleave here is that men should caution each other. Good men that don't call out the bad behavior of other men are not really good men. Being a baby daddy is BAD. sleeping irresponsibly with women and leaving them to fend for themselves when pregnant is BAD. Even if it means doing a DNA test, not failing take full responsibility and paying the chicken change you call child support is BAD. What davido, wizkid and flavor are doing is BAD. please tell your fellow brothers, because your sister, cousin, wife and mother may be next.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

If being baby daddy and being in your child's life and catering for him/her is bad, I don't know what you will call men who run away after giving girls belle and never care or cater for the child.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Men gain nothing from marriage? Then why are single men crying up and down on the nairaland romance section opening redpill threads?

Marriage forces men to take responsibility and increases their life expectancy. Are you single? Don't you know the benefits that come with someone who taking care of you and being a companion? That's what a wife does. Having a wife is cheaper, better and more fulfilling than outsourcing her responsibilities.

Coming home to someone who is happy to see you, who has put in work to make sure your home is tidy, your dinner is ready, your kids are in top shape, healthy, happy and have done their assignments. Do you know how that feels when all that load is off your shoulders, that you have an adult with a vested interest in you with you, beside you?

The amount of mental load that goes into running a family is done by the woman. If you think marriage is that bad. Ask divorced men why they are so quick to remarry? and ask divorce women why they wait longer to remarry or not at all.

Many men don't do well alone, even God said it in the bible.

I have added to my post....read it well

Men may come online about being single but we both know who goes to churches, mosque and all the marriage seminars in the country. The reality is that women gains from being married. We gain nothing from it. Your scenario of coming home to eat good and a clean home is laughable. How many homes have that these days, when the foundation is based on money and favors and not love or sacrifice? If homes are that perfect, why are there divorcees everywhere or women with kids not longer with their husbands. I'm a realist and I have seen things so the utopia you pained is few and far between.

Any man who wants to marry us free to do so and should know the consequences of his actions but saying men become responsible when they marry is nothing but insulting because you are actually calling us slaves or donkeys who are responsible because we bear the loads of marriage and upkeep. If that's the only value of a man in marriage, then it can go to hell. We are tired of being commodities to satisfy retirement plans and all that shiit. I have watched many men slave all their lives with nothing to their names, catering for their families only to die alone and wrecked + wretched while the wife travels around the world meddling in the affairs of the kids, leaving their husbands to die alone.


Did you just fucking say marriage increases a man's life expectancy? 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Goodness gracious!!! Are you living on Mars or something? Marriage is the number one cause of a man's death. Infact, the life expectancy of any man reduces once he marries and starts donkeying everyone's financial troubles.



You are not a man, so don't assume to know shiit about what we feel

jorion:
You're talking nonsense. As long as he is taking responsibility for them, there's nothing wrong

Exactly my point but just noticed how all the women on this thread yell 'responsible' and illegitimate like their lives depend on it...because marriage benefits them. There is no substantial benefit it adds to a man's life. NOT FUCKING ONE. Marriage only benefits a woman and of all men decide to quit marriage today, who do you think will get affected most? WOMEN!!! Because a man can get everything and more as a bachelor compared to a married man. I know it you know it, these women on the thread know it and if all men quit, their lives would be empty and for most women, their retirement plans (children and men) will be fûcked up.