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CosmicJames:
Thoughts are things. And powerful things at that. It is our thoughts that manifest to become our reality.

When you say things the way they are in a negative way, it affect your inner man negatively and ultimately weakings your drive to succeed.

I will give you one example:

An empty bottle is filled with water half way.
The half filled bottle is now given to to boys in the same environment under the same condition.
Then something interesting happened.

Boy A make a remark that the bottle is half full.
While Boy B make a remark that the bottle is half empty.

Observe carefully the thought patterns of these two boys and you will discover why some people succeed in life while others fail.

While I understand your point....I think you are missing the point. The reality is the reality...nothing positive or negative about it. How you respond to it is another different matter. If you don't have money, will you go to the market and buy foodstuff because you are trying to condition your mind positively? You can work harder, listen to motivational speeches while you are hustling but the reality is that you are broke and until that reality changes, there is nothing else to be said about it.

There is a difference about conditioning your mind to see the good in every situation and actually acknowledging the situation. A lot of people try to deny their realities by quoting motivational stuff but never realize the first step to change is actually agreeing you have a problem and then work to fix it.

"He who does not know...and he knows he does not know but pretends to know...will never know" Luminouz 2024

Philosopher1979:
I believe it may be some aliens trying to promote some strange new world order. Perhaps the biblical anti christ.
Also, let us watch out in the next 3 to 15 years they will start promoting beastiality.
The western world has been hijacked by some strange people with strange agenda. There are some beastiality advocates in government and academia. It is absurd, foolish and purely lunatic.
I even think they are bent on female oppression of men. Like some dominat matriarchal society that enslaves men or an attempt to finally put an end to gender.
It may be why the red pill movement is hated by some people on the western world

I agree absolutely, especially with the gender stuff...I think a gender neutral society is the goddamn goal..
But to whose benefit?

Philosopher1979:
I don't get it. Destroying men will destroy society. Pharaohs when he wanted to destroy Israel said all male children should be thrown tintobthe nile. What is anyone going to gain from destroying the male gender. Its satanic

I strongly believe that some aliens are behind all this woke shiit...taking over silently and making men weak so they can easily assume control. The matrix and some real life stuffs made me say this. Nothing else seem to make any sense. It's so incredibly worse in western countries. And as a black man...you almost have no status at all.

emmaodet:


30k for babalawo to get back a gf that ran back to her ex.
Chaii.
Sometimes, I don't blame men.
Alot of men are sex starved and relationship starved that they will do anything just to have a woman at home or to call a gf/wife even if it will involve regular insults and cursing from their women.
The fear of being alone is real and the only way to solve this issue is to increase your social life.
It helps a lot.
Most simps are introverts because they hardly go out to mingle.
Always indoors, many say being broke is the major factor of being indoor or increasing their introvert life.
There is a level of exposure you have, it reduces your tendency of simping alot.
For starters without money, playing active roles will go along way in solving women issues.
So many men play passive roles thereby being invincible to ladies and society at large.
You all can remember your class rep. Or class captain name in secondary schools either by name or just the face, best students, sug president and some key role members, choir master in school, student pastor etc
These are all active roles that requires no money to do and it markets you without you even altering a single word.
We all know our pastors but can't remember who attended church as members last week because being a member is a passive roles and being the head is an active role.
Just a simple observation -
Do you know by default, a new girl who came to visit her sister for holiday will get known by virtually all the boys within a week in that street?
This is one hedge women have over men. They have this natural follow come sensor that markets them automatically whether they like it or not, knowingly or unknowingly.
They just see men asking them out for no reason, trying to take them for lunch, money, phones for no reason.
It is the same thing that happens to you when you start engaging in active roles, you easily get known and marketed.
Ladies will get to know your name without you even knowing them, they will know about you and some will even initiate Convo with you.
Hello Jide, please can you cover for me in the next class because I won't be around.
Jide is the class leader who doesn't even know Jessica is part of the class of 100 student butdue to your active role, she has initiated Convo with you and from their regular talking happens and from there you build on it.
So many examples

Nice one boss

Faber:
Many years ago, when I was the chairman of Simps in my area, one girl then played a fast one on me and went to sleep with her ex. A homie then, took me to a native doctor who promised to help me bring back my girl. That her ex used charm on her. I was asked to bring 30k for the juju, this was around 2014.

So I went with my guy to buy fowl and other things for the work the native doctor will do on the girl. Omo as I reach the village market square, I told my guy let's branch to a nearby restaurant and chop first. Lo and behold this beautiful Akwa Ibom girl, the babe fine die. Almost 40k was with me that afternoon... Na so I ordered for food and the babe kept smiling at me. She served us food and jokingly said something to her madam in Efik Language. The madam laughed, so after our brief lunch, I wanted to pay, the girl still repeated the statement. Omo, her madam said okay na, maybe na person husband o. I asked them why they were laughing, her madam opened up to me that her girl said I fine like a woman, that I even fine pass woman, that she likes me o.

Long story cut short, I never returned to that native doctor place that day. Me and my guy went to a nearby betting shop, I gave him 2k to play virtual soccer, while I relaxed watching some replay of the previous weekend matches. That was the day, I stopped simping. The cow, I wanted to give native 30k in the name of snatching her back from her ex, is still roaming the streets of Nigeria, unmarried, broke, and without destination.

Ma G!!!!👍👍👍

DuBLINGreenb:
lol 🤣 I think we are due for an Update.

Yes you are right. She broke up with me over a very long WhatsApp text talking about how she never wanted us to break up and she intended to come back to me and what not but after going back she’s had a third and fourth person perspective and our relationship is toxic because I do things to make her jealous and she gets very very jealous which she used to swear she was never ever jealous before she met me but with me she gets so jealous she started doing things she didn’t think she would do things if she saw in the movie she’d say this b!tch is crazy so I made her a crazy b!tch

Well long story short we are toxic and everyone wants us to break up, I also kind of reluctantly agreed because I know with 0 support any little issue we have we have no one to turn to anybody we turn to says break up even if it’s just a normal couple issue like deciding what to eat for dinner, assuming “I wanted goat curry and she wanted Jollof” and she told her friends or anyone the next thing they’ll say is you guys should break up, but when her sister was being beat up physically assaulted by an Indian man they’d console her sister and tell the sister to forgive the Indian man and stay to work things out🤣, and she stayed for a while till it became too much she was going to d!3, one day in their presence the man beat her up they had to separate them and he insulted the mom I can’t remember all the details now but it was serious that day, that was when finally they said Ok, she can leave the man (They weren’t even married yet) but with us the slightest inconvenience they want us to break up,

I personally don’t care what people think or say because for most of my life I wanted to please people, I tried but they were never ever pleased it was never enough if I get 3rd place in school they’d ask what about the 2 people ahead of you, if my nails were clean they’d ask what about your hair if that was done they’d ask what about your socks if you did all you had to do they’d say “And so what? You want a medal for doing what you’re supposed to do? 🤣” so for me people have never really cared about me, my opinions or my interests other than my mom and dad of course so I don’t care much about other peoples opinions but she does, she loves to please people especially her family. Her dad number one, her sisters, her mum, her uncles and aunts etc.

When she was talking about leaving I told her, distance makes the heart grow fonder, nostalgia can fool you into thinking something that was average of even bad was good. And everything I told her has now happened.

the first few days she arrived she told me everyone is Nice to her, they love her here, why did she ever leave. I didn’t want to spoil the moment by reminding her all the things she told me went down especially between her and her mom.
(Long story short her mom had 2 girls and wanted a boy some horoscope or family or poorly done gender test or whatever told her she’d have a boy to continue her husbands legacy but that child turned out to be a girl. And her husbands brothers all had boys she was the only one without a boy so Maybe she held a small grudge against that baby for not being a boy, she bought boy clothes, picked a male name, and even gave the kid male haircuts as a child. She and this child would have lots of disagreements and fights.)

So I told her chill, relax savour the moment you’re still an adult visitor in their eyes who came from abroad to visit bearing expensive gifts of course they’ll treat you with respect and adoration they haven’t seen you in more than 4years now wait 2 weeks and see how things go, you’ll become the normal child that left many years ago.

We started communicating less and less and stopped communicating entirely at a point, for a while things were rosy between her and her family… until the mom decided to arrange marry her to her friends son (which if you remember the mom promised we won’t arrange marry you till at-least 3 years or till you finish the program you said you want to do)
But at the back the mom had been planning with her friend promising her the girl is coming and is ready to marry etc.

But the guy she was to be arranged married to didn’t like the fact that she had friends and she visits the mall and she didn’t like the guy the way he was so opinionated/authoritarian and his views on women and their roles in the family and society etc. So they both tried to frustrate meetings and marriage plans But she told me she stopped communicating because of the whole arrange marriage thing going on, and since she wasn’t communicating I was giving back the same energy.

As if that was not enough the mom went through her phone one evening and found pictures of her at a friends place with weed aka mary Jane aka loud aka canna (it’s legal in Canada) but that picture was in India in India it’s not exactly legal at least not that I know off, but it’s easily available and accessible.

The mother also saw pictures and videos of her with me (no weed/mary J) (well they knew about me already) but the pictures were a little steamy, also she found some stuff about her ex who is a Muslim Bangladeshi (if you don’t know Indians and Pakistanis and some parts of Bangladesh don’t get along well, also Hindus and Muslims don’t get along well long story short allegations of forced conversions, marriage jihad, disrespect and discrimination both ways, cows being held in high regard by Hindus and not so much by Muslims to taunt Hindus etc etc) the mom freaked out and long story short she (the girl not the mom) sustained some scares and bruises from the mom.

It’s been under 2-3 months and everything had already gone downhill fast.
The whole family was watching a movie one evening and the mom slept off so she woke her mom up to go sleep inside, the mom decked her and shouted at her not to do that again, the rest of the family didn’t agree with the mom saying her actions were rash the mom became livid😡 saying that they were supporting the girl over her in her own home.

The mom is dramatic from all I’ve heard not just from the girl but her sisters and other people that night the mom even threatened su!c!de complete with a rope to the fan they had to rush her take it away they stayed with her all through the night, so things became extremely tense, so tense that she left the house that night with a few clothes and some essential things and no one called her or even noticed till 24 hours later.

Where was she gonna go? at the time no family wanted her to stay with them. When they got calls saying she’s not hear what they’ll say is “I hope she isn’t coming here I don’t have plans for her or space for her” So she went to an old time friends place for awhile then moved to a shared hostel.

remember this was someone everyone back home promised heaven and earth if you leave him and come back home you will add many years to my life - her dad, we will add you to the Will, we will forgive you, we will treat you better - her mom, we won’t force you to do anything you don’t want to do - her mom, etc etc etc.

Long story short one day she calls me high/drunk and just kept crying and telling me she misses me and she wants me back and reminiscing on all our inside jokes and pet peeves and pet names all that but I didn’t know what to make of any of these because I’m thinking she’s just high/drunk and stressed, she calls me a second time the following day same time same type of talk and days later she calls and asks what’s going on and all that and she’s very sober this time after the call she ends with the same “I love you” she used in the other 2 calls and I’m like “hold on you can’t just slide that in there I thought you were only saying those things because you were drunk/high and she says no. I meant everything I said I was high but I wasn’t wasted, I knew what I was saying. Things got so bad she started drinking to cope back in Canada we bought a bottle of Champagne and other drinks the bottle and the drinks lasted us more than 1 year only visitors drank the drinks. I have also never had alcohol since she left, she was also on the same part to not having any at all even while around smokers and drinkers she had quit drinking entirely but now apparently at-least for those two days we spoke whenever she missed me she’d cry and drink herself to sleep

So as things are now she’s looking for a job, she’s starting some educational program and she’s trying to get back with me and convince me to come stay with her in India she claims housing and food won’t be as expensive as in Canada but my concern is Opportunities, life satisfaction and standard of living more than anything

‘Money coming in is more important than money going out’ if 100k is coming in and 80k is going out no problem, but if 0k is coming in and 2k is going out Big problem” she claims it’s be easier for me to get a job because I am more learned, more educated than she is, I’ve got more certificates than she does. And Indian employers love certificates. But I know they have 6 day work week instead of 5 and the working conditions I don’t think will be the same as

Don't ever go to India for any reason. Let her come to YOU

Also replying to Lionezsa is a waste of time. She will never agree with you, a Nigerian man

Perfectskills01:
Cold approach is for newbies to build confidence, nothing more . If you expect to get girls that meets your expectations, then cold approach will ruin you . So I approve your cold approach ideology because you intend to focus on building confidence.

One of the best way to get girls genuinely interested in you is through social circles. What do I mean here. I mean that when you see a girl you find sexually attractive and you want her , don't cold approach her . Instead, use social circle to get to her . It is not the confidence you lack to cold approach her , you only obey the simple rule of the game .

Don't cold approach her if you are serious to get her

Once you see her , gather some information about her . Know her house , know where she works , know her friends, know the people she is close to etc . This information will go a long way to easily get her attracted to you without the chance of her manipulating you .

How to use social circle to get a girl

Those people close to her have much influence on her and decide what she does most of the time . Getting close to her social circle will make things easy to get close to her and strike conversation freely without her being on guard and defensive .

Cold approach will likely ruin your game because she will be on guard against strangers , she will hide many things for you and a stranger is a easy target . On cold approach, you are a complete stranger even if you have seen each other many times .

Most ruined relationships and dating for men are mostly started on cold approach. A rich guy with ride will easily get a girl , but these girls won't be genuinely interested in them because they cold approached these girls . Most of the girls that don't give us issues are often gotten through social circles, maybe your place of work , a friend of her introduced you, her sister linked her , your friend introduced you , you got her through your neighbor or from the church . This is social circle, it's much free from ladies manipulation and ungenuine of women's interest .

So a wise man with good game don't cold approach girls he seriously wants to get , instead he finds out the people close to her or events that can link them to talk like an old friends

It's not about the confidence you lack to cold approach is about obeying the simple rules of the game . Cold approach is fraught with too much manipulation and ungenuine love .


However, cold approach is useful for newbies to build confidence. Is like a baby step in the game . The game is deep beyond cold approach.

I know this may work for you but I disagree. I see it as a waste of time and energy to be gathering info about her work, house, friends and all that...how many girls will you do that for? I believe in taking the bull by the horns...just approach her and talk...if she likes you,fine, if not, you haven't lost anything.

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmmmmmmm

It is well.
May God not embarass us or shame us.
Good luck to those looking foy yeye Love

Amen o boss

TinkTwice:


Trump should come humiliate himself once more..

Majority of Africans in America and African Americans are against trump, cos of his racism and tough travel policies for africans.

Most women wants kamala cos they want to break history..

Me and my household, we support kamala for president

OK bye

Mtchewww...you lots don't know shiit!!!

Smartb0y:
100%

Indeed majority of the male gender take women literally.
You'll see a woman lie point blank about something ridiculous,yet the male gender out of sentiment will try to rationalize what doesn't make any sense hence end up even more confused.
And of course women will always support women no matter what.
They're way more organized than men.

The sisterhood is an organized crime.

Back to the matter anyways.
A man's dream should be his career,his breakthrough. Focusing all that energy on a woman is just him killing and inhibiting his potential for rapid and max growth.

According to that movie 3 idiot,
pursue excellence, success will follow.

Excellence being a man's goal, success being the after effect which includes women.
Your neighbor priotized his woman instead of the one thing that grants a man value - growth

Making a woman your goal is a recipe for disaster.

Man's greatest flaw is the sentiment he has for a woman.

💯

Smartb0y:
You both got a point lumi.

On the baseline,it depends on why she's with you in the first place.
Quite alright,we understand women want a provider, someone that'll do all the hardwork while they get the glory.
However, even cases when the man doesn't lose his wealth but ends up losing the woman is due to a very common factor.
"That which got her attracted to him is no more there" , there's no mystery, nothing left to discover about the guy.
When advertisy comes, it's a test of a man's strength and seeing a man be a man in the face of adversity turns her hot.
She would be very curious hence on the long stay the course while he's trying to pick himself back up.

A woman doesn't want and most definitely doesn't need another woman in a relationship with her.
She wants to feel like a woman,she wants a man she can throw all her baggages at and he won't shake.

On this forms the baseline as regards attraction on a natural scale.

Attraction born out of power/money is almost always superficial.
It never last,why because nothing beats natural.
Nature is a bitch,you can't cheat her, instead learn to fuvk her well so you can have your way(referring to nature )

All in all,if the man uses money to keep the relationship going or attract her,it won't last.
If it was born out of something natural, there's a possibility it might stand the test of time.

As usual, choose your poison wisely.

You talk sense baba... Leave rizzputin and his epistles to the faithful. I am a man and my pills are bitter and based on real life events. and while it's attractive to be self confident , channel that shiit to getting results. Women may like how bold you are but keep coming home empty handed day after day and we will see just how attractive you still look to her. They want results and they live in the present. That's my angle. All your energy should be into getting things done. This phase may get easier if you are lucky to have a woman who understands you and is a bit tolerant. No woman will keep smiling and admiring your confidence after solely paying all the bills...for a month, a
year..5 years?? Women are not built to carry that load and while some may give you some lee-rope...don't kid yourself they will love it continue to do so.

I have a male neighbor who is now dead. He was a provider while back and the family was happy. He got a smaller paying job and all hell broke loose. I could still hear his wife shouting one night around 11pm 'You are
not bringing money home, and you wan Bleep? Which mumu nonsense oloriburuku Bleep be that? If you touch me, I go show you pepper. He came to me the next day and narrated his ordeal at the hands of his wife. But guess what? I told him to leave for a bit and go hustle so he can provide better ..but he said he loved his kids too much to leave them for so long. A month later, I was called into his room by his wife to help carry him to the hospital because he fainted...his BP was 220/110. He died after. Know what the wife said 'At least, he can now go and rest' about her own husband, a 42 year old man.

I can go on and on. The problem is many men believe women think like them and behave like them and so rationalize shiit and become surprised when their women behave anyhow. I am not. I know that gender and I always never let myself be caught lacking. They don't behave like men or reason like us.

They are cats!!!

Rizzputin:
Congrats. Your comment just made it into my list of most ignorant, shallow comments on this thread.

And this is part of the reason why red pill tends to be detrimental to men. It makes you put women into one sided boxes.

Btw, this is not a case of where we can have different opinions. What you said is completely stùpid. And shows you have little experience with how women think.

Now let me break down for you...

First, only gold diggers see men as provider or non provider. Unless you're a clown, why would you pick a gold digger as a wife?
There are many things men bring to a relationship that women appreciate men for. You sound clueless when you say women see men as provider or not. Those are for gold diggers


Second, women CARE about how you respond to adversity or challenges. Because safety is important to her and how you respond is a show of your strength. So it is important to women


Third, by confidence... I mean you continue how you were behaving before you were unable to provide.

You make the decisions like you used to. If you really have game, she'll even send part of her salary money to your account. In fact, you'll dictate how her money is spent.

I've seen this happen on different occasions. A woman spending and taking care of her man for two years till he bounced back. All that matters is how you conduct and lead that relationship



Fourth ... "if you're lucky" is the cry of a man without skill... luck plays some role but nothing compared or significant to how you conduct yourself

The problem with most men is they place their self worth on providing. Once they're unable to... they become a shadow of themselves. They start acting in ways that even shocks the woman

A once confident, vibrant man is now a shadow of himself because he doesn't have money: That is the reason why she starts thinking of leaving

Even if she's the one footing the bills.... You can't sit there and do nothing or act depressed. That's how you invite see finish

If you actually have game, she will even give you money to start things up

And lastly, everything depends on the frame. If you start and base a relationship on money or providing then that is your problem and your fault

There are way more effective ways to frame a relationship besides money.

Stop placing your self worth on money alone. Later you guys complain why women bill you when you're implying that is money what makes you

As the saying goes "who use money buy love no dey pay finish"

K

Rizzputin:
You guys still don't get it. Women DO NOT leave you because things are going bad for you. It goes against her biological wiring to leave a man simply because things are going bad for him.


Women leave you because of HOW YOU react AFTER things go bad for you. This is why I find pointless to test women (unless you're running low on time)

Life will test you in general. Women know this. And they're looking at HOW you act or respond when life tests you

If you lose your job or source of income and start acting like your world has finished... or start behaving like your self worth and confidence lies on that money... then you shouldn't be surprised why a woman will leave you.

Women value inner strength in a man. An unshakeable confidence that is largely unmoved by what life throws at them. When you complain, whine or act defeated due to life challenges... all she sees is a weak man. So she starts wondering if she made right choice.

And yes, all you did in the past won't matter as much as what you're doing now. Because Right now is the reality she understands.


Also... while trying to find a crack in armour... don't do something counter productive. Just focus on leadership and maintaining frame 80% of the time. And you'll be fine

All the fucking confidence in the world won't work if you can't provide like the guy who quoted talked of. Especially when she now foots your bills. If you are lucky, she doesn't react and hopes you bounce back. If you are not, well, you'd learn that some women don't care about your struggles, or how you react to adversity. They see provider and non provider and that's it

Timothykesh13:
Hello
I have been following this thread from the beginning and i have learned immensely from this forum so far so good.. Am greatful
But there is something troubling me recently, there is a girl am into in my uni here, we've met chatted and talked one or one.
Recently our conversation has been so chemical and am intending on asking her out via WhatsApp because i can't get access to her physically for the Time being

Although i don't really fancy out asking girls online as it makes me feel cowardly, but at the same Time i don't wanna snooze and loose this girl to another guy who has more game
Pls gent's what do you advice
Should i go ahead and shoot my shot on-line??

Chemical conversation 😳😳😳

dreamxhaser:
That my girlfriend I told y’all about? Well she stopped talking to me for some days now.

What happened was I’ve not been giving her full attention or treating her like I used to for more than 2 month now. My plan was to flip the coin, give her drama and make her think about me (even if it’s about negative stuffs).

So I will sweet talk her and act like I am obsess with her for a day or two. Then I’ll treat her like shit afterwards. Just giving her mixed signals

At first she stopped talking to me, and expected me to apologize like I used to. But I just freestyle her matter. Until she gave up and chat me up herself after a week.

She started complaining that I don’t call her again. Bla bla bla

She even said I’ve changed and it was unlike me (of course I’ve changed b***ch).

Even the last time we met, I could see the anger on her face.

So after a short argument we had some days back. She sent me a snap on Snapchat. In the snap was a guy and a ladies hand in his car. They took a picture of it and she tagged him captioning “Love Scare”

Funny enough, I already knew about the guy but lock up. She started dating the guy when I started giving her mixed signals. I expected her to end things with me (which I wouldn’t have cared cause I now have multiple options) but she still continued. So in my mind, I thought maybe she was waiting for her birthday (which was close).

Well regarding the snap of her and the guy, I was pained. Not because she sent me that stuff, but because I opened it. I wanted to lock up, but Omo make e no be like the thing pain me. So I just brought the issue up with style during conversation and even encourage her to keep the love sweet between them. I didn’t show any sign that I was offended.

She said I was pissing her off , then came back 15 minutes later to tell me how he was her friend’s boyfriend. Bla bla bla (Lol she must have thought of a lie to give).



Anyways her birthday came and passed. I didn’t post her. Just sent her a message In her DM. Then delayed her birthday gift to see her reaction. Omo she was so pissed she couldn’t hide it. She just Dey chock me talk indirectly tgat day. Hehehe😂 and she stopped talking to me when she got home.

Her instagram is now filled with stories of how she hates men. Bla bla bla

Omo life moves on oooh. Me I just continue to post my hangouts with my guys and other girls. Life is too short to worry about one girl.

Funny enough I am sure she is waiting and she will give up and still chat me up again. If she does which she will……..

The birthday was part of my plan to put her on her place so she would know she has no value like before.

After learning about being the price. The way I Dey carry myself for women eh. It just works mehn, like magic.

Now!

*Sighs*

1Sharon:
Too many black men are downlow

Saying rubbish as usual without facts to back it up

Fishlips

EreluRoz:
I knew he won't find peace ever since he did that rubbish.
There are people you don't touch kos you'll definitely hear from God or if they dare open their mouth against you it'll surely follow you. That's why I hardly curse anyone kos it'll follow the person like magnet

Shatap dia...bighead!!!

Karlifate:
Dear [gentle] men,

There is no unconditional love for a man; we are loved for our ability to protect and provide.

This is why you must build yourself first:

• Make more money.
• Find brothers in life.
• Build a strong physique.



In summary: Put yourself first. 💯

💯

99thEnemy:
A guy wakes up in the morning, then he gets a text:

“Good morning handsome, I would love to get breakfast with you, all breakfast on me at this spot right down the street from you”.

Then another message: “Hey there stud, I am going to the gym at 12pm, I would love to go with you. Maybe you could teach me a thing or two, I'll teach you a couple things”.

Then he get another one: “Hey, having a penthouse party tonight, 9pm, it's gonna be great. You can network with others. Higher status guys that we are inviting. It's gonna be great. And I have some of my girlfriends there as well. All bad peaches”.

Yet another: “Hey, what's up handsome. Just sending you some money because you are so damn good looking”.

Let's say that happens to him for 1 day. he probably would think he is the guy.

Then it happens for 2 days. He is going think damn he is like Thor. He would feel like he is almost on God mode.

Now this happens for 7 days. Then he thinks he is damn invincible.

He literally would think he is God's gift to women If he got this type of attention and got this type of love every single day. For nothing more than the fact that he exists and has a ‘PENIS’.

He would become a piece of shit person, would just sit there and be a low IQ slowpoke. Not read, not better himself , not bother being intelligent at anything.

All the above is an analogy that depicts the life of a modern day girl/woman that gets lots of attention and thinks she is super attractive.

This is GOLD!!!

I call it the 419 effect!!

Here Goes:

The correct evaluation is a Girl that you think is a 4 but in reality is a 1, but she thinks she is a 9 due to constant validation/attention from men. So there are three perspectives. Yours, hers and reality(based on the quality of girls in her area). A village girl that is 9 can become a 2 when she comes to Banana Island Lagos or Asokoro,Abuja. But their perspectives always shift no matter the reality because men help to overinflate an already bloated ego. So the 419 paradigm is the scam of the ages.

Faber:
@the bolded, points to the selfish and hypergamous nature of women. She is only in the so called abusive relationship because of what she gains and not out of love for the guy. What stops her from making her own money. Na rope them use tire her for the guy house. If the guy stops being good in bed and his money dries up, she's leaving him the next minute.
Also no guy will just wake up and start beating up his lady just like that. The so called ladies in the abusive relationship are being treated that way because the guys are so fed up with putting up with their bullsh*t and then decided to be beating them up.

A practical example that happened to one of my friends last month
This close friend of mine in Benin City, is just every woman's dream guy. Many of his exes are still stalking him. He is a champion in bed... Man can go eight straight rounds without getting tired and is capable of bleeping from Monday to Sunday. He is also doing well for himself, he is around 27yrs or so. He's got a good apartment, a small Corolla sport and making his own money. Very handsome, he is even more good looking than many ladies.

A lady he bleeped for just two months, they are just Bleep mates; have been harassing my friend, telling him, she cannot leave him, that she is ready to die. She confessed to my friend and even to her own friends that my guy is a stallion, that she never meet a guy who f**ks so well like my friend. Two weeks ago this lady who is almost forty, came to my friend's house unannounced because she was suspecting that my friend is also bleeping other ladies. She planned to spoil things for him and have him all for herself. My friend was not around, and this lady was drunk, obviously coming back from a party somewhere. My friend was hanging out late in the evening with his gang. She was waiting patiently till almost 10:00pm, just sitting on the floor in the compound. And it was drizzling that evening.

When my friend got to his home that evening, he was shocked to meet an August visitor , who came unannounced, he was mad with her and demanded the lady to stand up and leave his house to her own home, my friend scolded her for coming to his place without calling him... She wanted to manipulate my guy, she started crying : " open door for me, this rain is beating me, my body is wet , am getting cold bla bla bla..."
My friend told her point black, you're not spending the night in my place. Go and sleep where you got yourself drunk or leave to your own place. This lady held my guy tight and started shouting... almost waking neighbors around. My friend stood his ground... The lady is not letting him go...either you open door for me or you kill me today, na so you dey beat me everyday. My friend have never laid his hands on her before, am very sure of that. My friend managed to break free from this stupid lady. He quickly called me and told me he wants to beat this lady make she confirm whom she is messing with. I told him not to do that. I asked him to just leave his house and find elsewhere to sleep and he said okay and ended the call. He told the lady, let me go and look for better cane. Na cane I want take flog you comot from my house now

The Lady replied : Go bring the cane, I dey wait

My friend left the scene and went and passed the night in a near by hotel. The lady waited for him and he was not forthcoming, and she left to her own house

On getting to his house the following morning; my friend was dumbfounded by what his eyes saw. This lady have destroyed the glass on the windows of his house, with big stones. My friend called me and informed me about the latest development. I begged him to chill. I advised him not to call her and ask her about his windows. He told me, he will kill the lady if he sees her with his two eyes anywhere that day. I managed to calm him down and told him not to call her again or pick her calls. After one week of not calling the lady, the lady started calling him to apologize. Already he has reported the case to the police. I told him not to pick her calls, or reply her texts, she will use her two legs and come to you. Then you will hand her over to the police...

Women are not what you see and believe them to be, thousands of stories of rape, abusive relationships etc are mostly lies. Only 2% of the reported cases are true.

My friend sent pictures of about four windows she destroyed to me, on Whatsapp. Here is one of them 👇👇👇

You are a G!!!
You highlight your points and use real-life scenarios to back them up. Respect!!!

MrBrownJay1:
if i ask you:" what time is it?" and your answer (to that question) is:"i had eggs for breakfast"...then you have said absolutely NOTHING.

in a political debate, you have to answer questions that are asked, thats the reason why these debates are there in the 1st place (so that you tell the viewers/voters your views on various important subjects).

even simple question as to how he was gonna deport 11m undocumented immigrants,... NO ANSWER but gibberish nonsense

Kip kwayet...small boy

Meaning:
Strictly speaking, my body is shaking hypothetically.

I think what caused the first mess up was the fact that early stage into our relationship she really did appear like "The One". So I already poured all my hope and trust into her and the relationship that when it ended. I was so drained.

It was like what you just narrated. In fact, many pastors and prophets did tell me that she is indeed my ticket to wealth, but like you pointed out. I was still damn broke when she was with me.
Though she was extremely supportive and kind.
But the lady herself lacks self esteem, how could you end up being a side chic to a guy all because he was handsome? Boss, that sh!t is mental. That's exactly what I can't wrap my head around.
I get people who advised me not to be vengeful, but honestly, not being able to avenge myself is what is hurting me right now.
I'm looking for a way to get even at all costs.

Please boss, what would you recommend?

No need to avenge yourself on her. That's not the redpill way. The best revenge is to ignore her and move on. Ignore her calls and chats. Never go back to a woman like that.

If you try to get even, it may cost you more than you know. You feel anger which is normal but don't let it consume you. Why? Because there are a million other beautiful girls out there. Why waste time and emotions on one who sold herself so cheaply. Let it go, work on yourself and try to travel to other African, Caribbean or western countries and you will see how blessed you are to be a Nigerian man. Girls more loyal and beautiful are waiting.

Once again, don't let anger and revenge consume you. It's not worth it

doggedfighter:
Israel taking marriage advice from Davido ?


He thinks that Israel tagging along with him is what will make the ex- wife pained ?

Israel has been quiet of late not attacking and talking about his wife which I think means he's gradually moving on but seeing that nonsense up there by Davido shows they both lack sense and still pained.


That young woman dodged a bullet.

I am glad she's living her best life while those two cry.



Davido and Israel are just two big fools !

Go and sit your fat ass down

Meaning:
I'm still awaiting you boss.

I'm sorry. Got busy and forgot for a minute.


Now,....

I was in a relationship with a girl some years back. She was my usual tall, big ass, dark skinned girl. She came from a very poor family. I didn't realize how poor till I visited her house. Since she is pretty, men will drool over her and promise lots of nonsense. She lapped that attention up. I told her never to collect money from men or meet them up for any reason if she is serious about keeping me. But that wasn't the case. But I have been told by so many people how good she is to my destiny and all that, I was overlooking these minor faults of hers. Many pastors would say our stars are aligned and all that shiiit.

Then something happened. One dude was more mad that the others. Would cry on the phone, send her messages, promise undying love and all that. In my years of living, I never meant a dude who was so needy and emotionally manipulative like that dude. He preferred to be side dude, would beg her for a visit, would send her urgent 2k. If she doesn't answer his calls, he would whine and cry like a child removed from mummy's tits. But because she gave him attention, slowly he wormed his way into her psyche and convinced her to visit him.

She was supposed to visit me that day but said she was too tired but shorty went to another dude's house and got oral sexed and roughhoused by this dude. No sex happened because I saw all their WhatsApp chats(I cloned her phone when I was suspicious) but the fact that she was undressed and caressed by another dude made me loose interest immediately. This dude roughhoused her that he actually bit part of her clitoris and wounded her. The fûcked up part is she never stopped talking to him after that episode, which made me realize that I let her get off with too much because some pastors said she was my sun and stars. I behaved
like nothing happened and invited her to my house.

When she came, I took her phone and scrolled down to the chats and showed them to her. She always talked about this guy as a pest but if you are not a bug, why fear pesticide? She started crying and weeping and all that shiit. I just looked disgusted and sent her away. Guess what,she was still talking to this dude after she promised never to talk to him anymore. Then, I went to two of these pastors and told them what's up. Guess what the two told me? She will change!! She is still my sun and stars. We are so perfect for each other. I looked at them in disbelief. My so-called sun and stars got her fûcking clit bit off and undressed and the only thing that didn't make the other dude sleep with her was that he was a mumu..and yet you lots are still advocating for me to marry a woman who lied to my face, disrespected and disobeyed me? That was when I threw away that religious mumbo-jumbo and put on my redpill cap.

Then, with the redpill, I know that this girl ain't loyal because she is attracted to small urgent 2k(while pretending to me that money doesn't really freak her) and still giving other guys attention and willing to meet them for drinks or some shiit. That this girl is not my sun and stars, no other girl is ..there are millions of women and if I go to Iran, I could find my moon and mercury there too...or Afghanistan or blôody Turkmenistan. No woman is your absolute sun and stars because such concept doesn't exist. I wasn't richer when I was with her, or built a house or bought a car, so where exactly is the so-called good fortune she was supposed to bring me? There was none. I decided there and then to keep hitting the pūssy but even that became an issue because since my heart wasn't with her anymore, I intentionally only satisfy myself and sent her away after, the sex got poorer and poorer because I already got someone else and one day, I just stopped talking to her or replying her messages. I don't forgive disrespect from any woman but I was weak in this girl's case and I allowed her to get away with many little things that became big things later.

My conclusion: There is no absolute sun and stars woman in your destiny, if she is not making you visibly rich or comfortable. Your girl was disrespectful and left you for urgent fine boy. Never forgive or forget that. My experience taught me that once you forgive a woman for cheating or disrespect, they never change. They just pretend to and do much worse because they think forgiveness makes a man weak. Don't take that girl back. She has been ran through and now sees you as the second option. Never be that for any woman.

Meaning:
I don't want to bore you with much worse.

I dated a girl for 5years. We started dating back then when we were in the university. She was very kind and very understanding.
But she broke up with me and went ahead to date her colleague because he was more handsome (I'm not really that sweet to look at)

She treated me like a piece of shit, like a used rag, not considering the fact that we were together for 5years.
Now she broke up with him again and she's been begging me consistently for two years now wanting a relationship.
I've blocked her on all platforms but she always uses new numbers to get with me which they all go into the "blocked zone".

Back when we were dating. I was told by someone that I shouldn't leave the girl no matter what. Now this year, revelation has come out from two different people that I must take that girl back. That she holds a key to my financial breakthroughs. Not like I believe that bullshit anyways but It's kind of bothering me.

1. I feel like she lacks loyalty, how could I taie back someone who doesn't understand what loyalty is.

2. I have a deep and an intense hatred for her. How can I take back someone I have a deep hatred for?

3. She no longer meets my spec. I have a better taste now.

4. My ego is bruised because, she chose her colleague who had a GF over me who all I had was her.

5. I feel like her colleague is the person she really likes. She might be back because she isn't getting what she wants from him.

Guys please advice me, How do I date who I hate and please teach me how to avenge myself?
She hurt me so much when she left that I was bleeped up mentally up to the extent that I lost a huge sum of money and a source of income, I've been struggling since then. I even fell sick after that.

An eye for an eye. I want to avenge myself please. Please teach me all the possible wicked things I can do even if I must took her back.
cc: Martinez39s
Skepticus
Luminouz
CaveAdullam
MrBrownJay1
Faber
Heartofcity12
Pukkalolo
JESHAL007
Rizzputin
Nonexistent1
@ everyone. Please save a brother.

Boss...this is a long my own experiences. I have a story to tell you. I am coming soon...


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Inobeyourmate:
Lol, mumu say he chase Almiron inside, see, we Messi fans just too get peace of mind, nah una mumu Penaldo fans dey alwys celebrate rubbish, like most YouTube followers and 900 goal, when we Messi fans don win and still keep winning every available trophy 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ain't you ashamed to be so invested in someone who doesn't know you exist?
Shame no dey catch you ni?

VinnyBaba:
You mean Almiron? 🤔

Yes ...

mushroomFarm:

A goat that prefers to score and his team lose the match than for them to win without him registering a goal.
He is a goat no doubt but zero of a team player more focused on personal stats.
This is why we love Messi. Team player, highest goal s and assists stat in the world today, a world cup winner, most d'ors most golden boots and the list goes on.

For people who do not know, or they just love to join the bad wagons by always shouting 'rigged' balon d'or is by votes from experts, top journalists, national teams and football captains. The voting results are always released.
So how can you open your dirty mouth and say it is rigged when people like Pep, Ferguson, Klopp, Mbappe, Neymar, Top managers from EPL, top journalists etc voted for Messi?

Oh you think you know better than these experts? No wonder you have become wretched with your betnaija odds. Zero football knowledge. The same hate that made Ronaldo to never vote for Messi not even for third position. Lolzzz imagine o but Messi voted for him once or twice.
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Abi no be the same baba that dropped his country's captain band when he lost? Putting blames on others...the same guy that broke a kids's phone all because he couldn't handle his emotions?
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And you want us to believe this guy didn't cry the night Messi conquered the world

Choose your goat wisely
In Russia if you say Ronaldo is your goat, na knock you go chop my whole hostel shook with noise of joy the night we won the world cup. Even my boss cooked a pot of horse and bear meat, I ate till my tommy and teeth wouldn't allow me anymore...everyone just dey celebrate like say na we carry the cup

So you are Almiron?

I will fix you soon

VinnyBaba:
Where is Almiron plz?

We Messi Fans need him to tackle this achievement.

And where is Obembet?

Its like Tinibu HUNGER don finish her badly o.

I chased that werey inside na...he is under a new moniker now and I will find him and fix him too

Wealthyonos:
I can see that you have anger issues. I can't even count the number of girls I have dated. For you to say I don't have knowledge of women, I just nor get your time. Keep your ideologies to yourself. I don't think inline with societal perception. Any small thing, una go shout simp.

K

Wealthyonos:
Life is bigger than your imagination. I can relate with your own kind of perception, but life is not always like that. You think once you beg a girl, she becomes very powerful and the man weak? Women love to be chased. With the way you think, anytime a girl tells you it's over, you will just move on. You go soon date the whole world, you never see anything. For me to beg her, you should have known she is not the kind of girls u think she is. Nor worry, this story big pass you.

Jesus!!! A simp is trying to convince me that the sun is blue?

I'd rather be a pope than believe your words!!! You have no knowledge of women at all. And worse off? You don't even wanna learn. So I'd let you burn.

Mark my words!!! You will come back here and say that I was right!!!